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Is Abortion Right or Wrong?

Hi Lisa,

Do you think abortion is right or wrong? I had an abortion and I felt that it was the right thing for me to do. I was raped and only 17 years old at the time. Yet, a friend of mine feels that I have committed a terrible sin and should ask God for forgiveness or else go to hell.

Pam

Hi Pam,

First, let me say that I am sorry to hear that such a terrible thing occurred to you and I admire your bravery for even asking this question publicly.

My Political View On Abortion-

I am Pro-choice. I believe that the government should respect a woman's right to choose. However, I do not think that having an abortion is right for every woman, and I believe that women should consider having a child or adoption in addition to the option of abortion. I also think that women who make a habit of having many abortions are irresponsible and should be counseled about their reckless behavior.

My Spiritual View On Abortion-

What I don't often hear from people is the spiritual attitudes of those who are pro-choice about abortion as you so often do from those who are pro-life. Thus, I thought to share my thoughts as a way to express my thoughts on this issue on that level.

As I am a pretty spiritually progressive person, I feel that there is nothing that is black and white in our world. We are surrounded by complex opportunities for growth in every moment. What promotes growth for one human being may not for another and thus is why I feel that it is not for me to decide if something such as abortion is right or wrong for someone else.

On a more in-depth spiritual level, I believe that we all have a soul. I believe that it is our soul's purpose to have certain life experiences in order for our soul to evolve. What one soul wishes to experience in order to evolve may not always be what we expect and could possibly include that of an abortion as the woman or the unborn fetus.

Does an unborn fetus 'deserve' an abortion?

I think one of the most common misperceptions about life that we have is that we think we get what we deserve; that somehow our lives directly reflect whether we are a good person or not. How many times do you hear "I can't believe that happened to them, they are such a good person!", or "how come they get so many breaks, they are a horrible person."

If good people got what they deserved, and those with malicious behavior got their just desserts than the world would be a very different place. I believe we are more complex beings than that. Doesn't it seem to be that we experience things based on what our soul wants for us to experience using it's own divine wisdom for us to evolve rather than whether we deserve it or not?

Think of it this way, does a good person deserve to get cancer, become paralyzed in a car accident or even have someone they love die? Do they deserve to become pregnant when they are raped? No, so why do we tend to presume that an abortion is not something that our soul wants to experience as a way to have insight, empathy and wisdom? That is of course assuming you believe an unborn fetus has a soul or is what fully makes us conscious as a human being. These are certainly controversial but factually unknown matters.

What is the divine purpose?

What if a soul comes into this life to have that experience? Why do women have miscarriages, why do our children die before their parents... certainly this does not make sense based on the belief that we get what we deserve or that somehow everything that is pleasant is what our soul needs to evolve.

That is why I believe that abortion is something we must find the answer for inside ourselves, inside our heart where we can often hear the wisdom of our soul speaking to us. What that answer is in regard to abortion is a choice I do not feel I have the right to make for someone else and thus, I do not feel that anyone in our government should either.

Also, whether it is legal or illegal, it will occur and whether or not it is right for the person who is experiencing it is truly a matter they have to address with their own soul.

Bottom line on the way I see it... if it feels right for the individual then I trust they are making the right choice for themselves and will find wisdom from their experience. That is my opinion; more importantly for you, what is yours?

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