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Anal Sex          Anal Love For Men & Women          With A Look At The Best Anal Sex Toys Anal sexual activity can be pleasurable, fun and very stimulating solo or for partners. Some of the biggest concerns seem to be about pleasure, pain, hygiene, and STDs. These are all important when examining anal sexual stimulation from penetration, to outer stimulation (also known as rimming).

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Below are some helpful tips that should provide you with the information you need as well as products to aid you in achieving your anal play goals with anal sex toy recommendations as well as anal sex videos as well.

Anal Sex Hygiene

Having unprotected anal sex is a good way to contract the HIV/AIDS virus. Before any type of anal sex activity, it is important that you protect yourself and your partner. Make sure to discuss with your partner(s) the best way to ensure your health.

Bowel Movements

It's a good idea to have a bowel movement at least an hour before anal sex (if possible). This decreases bacterial contamination as well as messes that may not be desirable.

Cleaning Your Anus

Try to clean your anus thoroughly with hot, soapy water before any anal activities. A great alternative are baby wipes, in fact, a strippers technique, many people use them instead of toilet paper for clean up after any bowel movement.

 

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Anal Enemas An anal enema is a surge of distilled, clean water into the anus which cleanses the area. Please Note- enemas do NOT eliminate ALL bacteria and germs from the anus ). They are easy to do, very inexpensive ($1.30 U.S.), and found at your local grocery store. There are of course some people who find anal enemas sexually stimulating in addition to the mere cleansing aspect. It is a good idea to allow at least an hour before anal sex for the anal enema to have full effect. You may want to note that it is not healthy to perform frequent anal enemas as this can put stress on the anus.

Bacteria

The entire anal region has a variety of bacteria inside and just outside it. You will want to be careful to avoid getting that bacteria into other orifices of your body to prevent infection. When you choose to give someone a "Rim Job" or lick their anus you may risk getting sick from bacteria present. You may want to use a finger or toy with lubricant for a similar effect without the risk.

Oral Anal Sex

Also known as "Analingus," it is the act of licking or inserting the tongue into the anus to provide pleasure. Both men and women enjoy analingus and you can use some of the same techniques on each. Positioning where the receiver's butt cheeks are naturally spread such as kneeling on all fours (doggie style) with their legs spread apart, or on their back with their legs up in the air (again, legs spread apart) makes the anus easier to access.

It's not a good idea to perform oral sex or kiss after analingus, as bacteria from the anus can wreak havoc on other parts of the body. Make sure to clean your mouth thoroughly afterward by brushing your teeth and tongue and using Listerine.

When It Hurts- Don't

Anal sex should done in a manner that allows both partners to enjoy it. Start slowly, use a lot of lubricant and do not use desensitizers with Benzocaine like Anal Eze so that you do not feel pain. It is important to listen to your body and using them is not only ignoring the warning signals that your body is sending, but there are health risks with the main ingredient in the desensitizers- benzocaine.

Desensitizers can contain numbing drugs that can include lidocaine, tetracaine, benzocaine and prilocaine. The FDA said consumers should be cautious about using them without medical supervision. Leaving the creams on the skin for long periods of time or on large portions of their bodies can increase the risk, officials have said. Small children and people with heart or severe liver disease are also at higher risk.

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Overuse of skin-numbing creams can cause irregular heartbeats and even death.

Creams and lotions often used in conjunction with cosmetic procedures.

Used in large amounts can cause a lethal dose of chemicals to enter bloodstream.

Numbing creams and lotions, available both by prescription and over the counter, are approved to soothe burning or itching skin as well as pain and to decrease sensation.

 

Using Condoms For Anal Sex Due to the risk of STD's, including HIV/AIDS, condoms have become an essential part of careful anal sex. It is also good for monogamous couples because the bacteria from the anus can get inside the urethra of the man's penis (pee hole) and cause a ( UTI ) Urinary Tract Infection. When using condoms make sure to use water based lubricants with latex condoms - an oil based lube will destroy the condom.

 

When First Using An Anal Sex Toy For first time users of anal sex toys, it is important to remember that using any kind of flexible jelly type toys may be hard to insert as you may be tensing and inadvertently keeping your sphincter muscle tight and closed, not allowing the toy to enter. You may also want to avoid using a toy that is overly hard as you need to get used to what this feels like and because of inexperience you may cause damage. Therefore using something like a Silicone Dildo is a good toy to start with as it is soft, yet firm enough for entry. It also has a great handle for easy maneuvering.   Preparation For Anal Sex To prepare for anal sex, the first thing the receiver needs to do is relax. Pain will most certainly occur is the receiver is tense and clenching their sphincter muscles. A hot bath or massage are great beforehand and as things progress you will want to play with the anal rim first and then slowly penetrate with ample lubricant. To prevent psychological inhibitors, make sure to discuss limits, expectations and techniques of your anal experience before you begin so that the receiver is confident that they are not going to be painfully surprised by something.   Preventing Anal Trauma The anal canal is a very sensitive area, especially the deeper you go. Sharp objects, friction and certain materials may cause cuts, pain and or allergic reaction to the entire region. Be very careful about staying within your limits and test for allergies such as to latex, etc.   Fingering the Anus Before fingering the anus, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and you have the proper lubrication. Rimming Probably the easiest anal sex technique and a great way to introduce someone to anal sex. Start on the outside and slowly work your way in.

Use one finger to gently circle the outer rim of the anus. Lubrication heightens pleasure and makes entry later easier. Ringing the Bell Take one finger and push on the anus without penetrating it, as though you were ringing a doorbell. Hold each push down for a second or two before releasing. You can vary the speed and pressure to make more interesting. Thrusting This is when lubrication is essential. Start slowly inserting a little bit at a time into the anus while moving in and out. Once far enough in you can build speed and pressure.

Multiple Fingers

Once a beginner is comfortable, you can begin to add more intensity if you desire. Adding fingers as well as pushing against the walls while inside will add intensity. Some people even go as far as anal fisting. This is only for those that are well educated in fisting and take precautions as it is a highly risky activity for infection, permanent damage and trauma.

Anal Love For Men

While performing oral sex on a man it is often found to be highly erotic to stimulate the perineum (the area between the base of the balls and the anus).

Work your way down to the anus and begin circling the outer rim of the anus. If all goes well, slowly insert your finger up to your first knuckle. Keep a close eye on your partner to make sure he's enjoying it. Proceed slowly.

Depending on the man, you may only be able to get one knuckle deep before he's uncomfortable, or you may find that he enjoys an entire finger (or two - or three).

During orgasm in a man, the perineum and the anus become highly charged orgasmic centers of pleasure.

Each man is different, but if you locate his (sweet spot- prostate) you can give him intense orgasms.

Another technique is to use anal beads and pull them out at the moment of climax.

Prostate Massage

Traditionally, doctors would massage their patients' prostates regularly to cure or prevent disease. Now, however, most doctors only check the prostate, and if they find a problem prefer to cut it out or prescribe medication.

 

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You can do it yourself or have your partner do it for you. Try this practice and discover its health benefits. When you do it yourself, you can be very gentle and make the treatment pleasurable as well as efficacious. The prostate is analogous to the G spot in women which is shown to the right. The prostate can be massaged by inserting a finger (toy, dildo etc.) a minimum of three inches into your anus and stroking toward the front of your body through the walls of your rectum.

The technique of prostate massage actually involves two (three) organs of the male reproductive system: the prostate gland, the seminal vesicles, and the ampulla, which is the reservoir which actually holds the male sperm just prior to ejaculation.

The prostate gland when engorged can be felt by pressing a finger into the middle of the perineum (in back of the scrotum). It is a rounded lump about the size of a large marble. It can also be accessed via the rectum, where it can again be felt as a rounded lump toward the front of the body and just about an index finger's length inside the rectum.

A better way to find it from the rectum is to insert the middle finger, and slide it from just inside the rectum (on the front side) up and in until you feel it move over a lump. That will be the prostate.

During sexual arousal, sperm and ejaculatory fluid accumulate in these glands backing up behind valves in the ejaculatory ducts. When fluid pressure reaches a high enough threshold, the valves open and the urethral bulb fills, triggering the ejaculatory reflex and muscular contractions of orgasm, which empties the glands.

You can massage your prostate by simply inserting your finger or toy into the anus and reaching back and up towards the navel until you feel the prostate gland. Use natural-content personal lubricant of the type specific to this purpose to facilitate insertion of the finger, and gently rub back and forth on the prostate using as much pressure as you can without causing pain.

Tantric Teacher Speaks About Prostate Massage

By the way, surveys prove that over half of heterosexual men experiment with anal play. So if you're seriously considering it... it doesn't mean you're gay. If you'll pardon the tasteless metaphor, prostate play is an acquired taste. Most guys only enjoy it after repeated practice. That was certainly true for me. At first, I was tight, tense, and clamped rigidly shut. In fact, at times it was downright painful.

Because it focuses on pleasure as a divine imperative, Tantra was the perfect vehicle for me to welcome male G-Spot Orgasm. Under my guidance, my beloved learned to warm me up, lube me up, and enter me oh so gently. Even so, she initially contacted hot spots, ultra sensitive areas that needed to be healed with repeated exercise coupled with Tantric energy breathing. Stage by stage I got to the point where I could relax my sphincter almost at will.

Did you know there are two ring-like muscles that guard your anus, one under your control and one normally ruled by the involuntary nervous system? Developing the ability to relax and open both at will was a big step for me in welcoming G-Spot pleasure. Gradually I could feel new and unique sensations from the strokes on my prostate gland. Our Tantra training in the mid 1990s taught us to engage in penis and G-Spot massage as part of a multiple orgasm program."

Prostate Massagers Specialty toys for prostate massage are becoming more popular. The Aneros (not shown) received poor reviews from our customers and it was considered overpriced and difficult to use. It typically sells for $40.00- $50.00. We have a better alternatives shown above. We have also received poor reviews about the The Eroscillator, endorsed by Dr. Ruth shown to the left. At $100 - $160 we figure it better rock your world. It's heavy and is cord operated which limits you; the attachments are hard plastic and actually painful according to some of our web site visitors. We recommend using a slim g-spot stimulator which is less expensive, is just as effective and vibrates. What you need for fun on the back end of anal love!

Sexual intensity is enhanced by massaging the penis at the same time! Some men have passed out from the sheer pleasure so be prepared for an amazing sexual experience! You can stimulate the prostate with a finger, dildo or other anal toy through the anus. If you are using your finger or anal toys, try performing fellatio sex or a handjob at the same time. If your partner doesn't like anus area play you can perform prostate stimulation by firmly massaging the area between the anus and the scrotum from the outside. His orgasmic pleasure will become greater. Some men enjoy it, some others don't. The amount that a man will enjoy this depends on his personal physiology as well as how he feels about it in general. Some men may find it unpleasant for a number of reasons, while others will experience incredible orgasms. Relaxation and patience is the key. Anal Love For Women In a woman, the nerve centers of the vagina and the anus share several common walls and paths. When stimulated together, women can experience enhanced pleasure and extremely intense orgasms. Thus, double penetration (simultaneous insertion into the anus and vagina) can be an amazing sexual experience for a woman. Women also enjoy exclusive anal stimulation, both around the rim of the anus and through insertion and penetration.

Toys, Fingers & Penis

Using a sex toy such as a g-spot stimulator, dildo or anal beads can be exciting to a woman. While anal sex is not something all women enjoy, women can have anal orgasms and even female ejaculate while having one.

Many women enjoy rimming, and penetration, so the use of the toys, finger and penis for anal stimulation are all great ways to play.

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