Sex & Spirituality

In our current time and within our western society, our sexuality and spirituality are often considered separate. However, throughout other cultures and times, it has been considered a spiritual act to engage in masturbation, intercourse, or other sexual behavior. My hope is that more people can begin to better understand the beauty of experiencing spirituality with sexuality.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

It is my belief that love, integrity and spirituality can be found in all types of sexual relationships. While there are many types of sexual relationships that can be experienced in life, as long as they embody integrity, good communication and honesty it can be a healthy sexual relationship that allows for spirituality to be experienced within it.

Practicing these values can make any type of sexual relationship fulfilling, no matter what the "politically correct" doctrine of society dictates. No single type of relationship is better than another. A sexual relationship is simply a choice, and with that choice comes the opportunity to assume accountability, responsibility and to accept that in everything we do, including sex, there is an opportunity for spiritual growth and connection.

When we experience unhealthy sex, we are sure to find within us, emotional and mental wounds which our soul is urging us to heal. Our soul wants us to become more whole within ourselves, and sexual experiences provide an opportunity for us to reconnect with ourselves as well as experience the interconnectedness we have with others. Sexual experiences are actually a perfect opportunity to heal some of our inner wounds. When we seek out these spiritual, sexual experiences we can reconnect to our desires, our sense of empowerment, and the pleasure of being alive.

When we feed into our insecurities, fear, anger, and other challenging emotions then we may begin to seek sexual experiences that are not spiritually rewarding. Sometimes our inner dysfunction is so powerful that we not only numb ourselves to spiritually rewarding sexual experiences, but also to having physically, emotionally, and mentally rewarding sexual experiences.

If we allow ourselves to completely surrender our insecurities, and hang ups, we can truly see our interconnectedness, and sense spirituality within all things including something so beautiful as healthy sex. We are granted an opportunity to see a sexual partner (whether in fantasy or in reality) as a reflection of aspects within yourself. Sexuality is a quest for wholeness. Who we are sexually, mirrors who we are on many levels.

Psychologically and spiritually, whether we experience masturbation, sex with the opposite or same sexed partner we are being called to integrate the feminine and masculine aspects within us. In the feminine aspect of divinity we can see the ability to conceive, give birth, and transform. In the masculine aspect of divinity we can see the power to fertilize, impregnate, and generate.

Individuals who can speak openly and honestly about their sexual needs will find that they can be respected for their individuality and sexual choices. Couples can negotiate their differences, enabling their relationship to gain intimacy and passion. Good communication and personal agreements are facilitated, giving each partner a more clear understanding of the relationship.

When you experience sexual spirituality you have a wonderful opportunity to experience yourself in a renewed way. You are given the opportunity to heal shame, fear and repression as well as discover your natural, spiritual, sexual, healthy self. You can begin living your daily life in a more balanced, sensuous way, gaining spiritual, sexual knowledge while nurturing yourself and others with love and harmony. Your connection with yourself, your body, and others will deepen along with your sense of spirituality. You can create healthy boundaries with yourself and you lover(s). You can even reach higher levels of sexual intensity and sexual ecstasy. Enjoy!

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