Honoring Pain Improves Our Intuitive Ability
        By Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., Holistic Wisdom C.E.O.

Children have an innate ability to intuit things that are going on around them. They sense when things are going well, and when things are not. One of the strongest abilities of a child is to speak their truth. Too often adults, due to their own insecurities, and repression, try to convince children that they need to repress their feelings, their thoughts, their intuition.

A child asks their father if he is sad about getting a divorce from their mother. The father replies "We don't talk about that." The child can sense his sadness. Is it wrong to sense it? Had the child done something "bad" by wanting to share their intuition about his feelings with him? Of course not... but it an example of the many times that children are told that familiar phrase "We don't talk about that."

This is a phrase many families have. We have been taught and we teach our children to avoid feeling, and talking about emotional pain. Why not talk about the truth, about what is real? Isn't that what allows us to grow, to evolve, to feel love? While respecting the importance on personal boundaries, and appropriate timing, I also believe that we need to stop repressing that which is painful and talk about it. If we can not acknowledge our pain, our regrets, our mistakes... how can we begin to heal?

Why are we so afraid to be vulnerable about whom we really are? We are all human beings who are beautiful and full of potential, while we struggle in our own crap! Yes, we all do. We all screw up, fail others, ourselves, make mistakes, and we continue to do these things all the time. We do it, our parents do it, our friends do it, our co-workers do it, who doesn't? That is the great part of life!

How can I say that? I say it with a smile on my facing knowing that it is those horrible experiences that we inflict on others and have inflicted on us, that provide us with the opportunity to evolve. How can we know happiness if we never know pain. How can we understand someone else's pain if we haven't even gotten in touch with our own? How can we deeply love someone and be loved without exposing our wounds, dirty deeds as they divulge theirs? We can't!

We have not come into this life to experience nothing but joy, peace, and harmony. We came into this life to experience all of who we are, and all of the emotions of the spectrum. We have come into this life to experience, love, hate, compassion, jealousy, giving, greed... Seeing a pattern here? We have to integrate, accept, and love all of who we are. If we don't we are fragmented little parts... all of our pieces feeling alone, isolated and afraid. Afraid to admit what is painful within us, what is real.

Now, some of you may wonder what repressing our thoughts and feelings have to do with being Intuition? Well, what doesn't it have to do with it? When we learn not to express ourselves in a way that honors the truth, we lose our sense of self. We lose the ability to trust ourselves, our thoughts, our feelings, and yes, our intuition.

One of the biggest obstacles I find my students have when they are learning to enhance their own intuition is trusting themselves. The more we can heal... the more we can trust ourselves, the more we can experience the divine intuition that we have within each of us. The universe is calling to us to be whole, to be healed, to trust and to hear that which is our soul's guidance... our intuition.

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