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Choosing
A Dildo
What
To Consider In Choosing One
The question of what exactly constitutes a dildo is pretty
common, as there are so many variations of sex toys and
accessories these days that seem close.
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Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com Founder |
Dildos go
back to ancient times, used by men and women for sexual pleasure.
Simply put, they are objects that in some way represent the male
penis and are used for penetration.
Dildos
range in size and shape, and can be realistic or unrealistic with
artistic and modern styles. They can be smooth, lovingly bumpy,
ridged, multicolored, and even made out of glass. They can have
suction cups or handles that allow for sexy positioning, as well
as various textures that are so realistic you would not know the
difference between it and a real cock if you closed your eyes.
Traditional
Dildos-
These
are basic solid penis shaped items; and no, a hairbrush handle
or cucumber is not considered a dildo. Traditional dildos can
even go so far as to have balls (or "the step children" as some
call them).
Dildos
range in size and shape, and can be realistic or unrealistic with
artistic and modern styles. They can be smooth, lovingly bumpy,
ridged, multicolored, and even made out of glass. They can have
suction cups or handles that allow for sexy positioning, as well
as various textures that are so realistic you would not know the
difference between it and a real cock if you closed your eyes.
Certainly made me blush when I felt one such wonder in an adult
toy store!
Traditional
dildos differ from other dildos as they are solid and do not vibrate,
move, dance or wiggle, they just fit well in the hand and in whatever
orifice you choose to pleasure with them.
Nontraditional
Dildos-
These
dildos incorporate technological advances that have allowed us
to create such masterpieces that rotate, vibrate, thrust, jiggle,
wiggle, squirt, and simply bring out a wilder side to anyone who
uses them.
Choosing
Your Dildo(s)-
Determining
Size
Sometimes it is hard to gage what is the best size. I remember
ordering my first dildo online and then getting one that was supposed
to be "realistic" and ended up thinking that King Kong himself
would be envious when I saw how big it actually was!
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I suggest using a simple test of finger width or vegetable testing
before deciding on a width or length. Using your fingers or a
vegetable like a carrot or cucumber may help you decide what width
and length to get.
You
should certainly wash anything you insert in any orifice of your
body prior and then take some time to determine what will bring
you the most pleasure. You can also have a partner assist in either
exercise for a fun sexual adventure!
Diameter
Vs. Circumference
Also,
remember the difference between circumference and diameter when
assessing how large your sex toy is going to be.
Length-
Dildos can range in length from 4 inches to more than a foot and
a half or more!
Width-
Dildos can also range in width from 1" to 3" or more!
Smooth-
Often
seamless, these are usually made from silicone, plastic, rubber
or jelly. You may be wondering why would anyone want a smooth
dildo when they can have a ridged or bumpy shaft. Yet, many enjoy
these dildos as they are used primarily for g-spot stimulation
and allow for an easy glide that other more heavily textured dildos
cannot mimic.
Shape
Curved G-spot and Prostate Dildos-
These dildos are a huge success with individuals and couples because
they hit the sweet spots! They are perfectly angled to stimulate
the g-spot or prostate and are highly effective toys for bringing
orgasms quickly.
Anal
Dildos-
These may be shaped to stimulate the prostate in males or simply
offer various sizes and textures that provide just the right stimulation
for its user. Although some are not comfortable with the idea
of anal stimulation, many enjoy the sensitive nerve endings being
stimulated through anal play.
Whether
one chooses a thick and bumpy model or a slim, sleek one always
look for one that will not easily be lost inside the rectum if
inserted fully. A flared base may be a good style for anal play.
In addition, don't forget the lubricant
as the anus has sensitive and soft tissue that can easily be damaged.
(Article on
lubricants.)
Double-ended
Dildos-
These dildos can be bent in a c-shape for double penetration on
one person or shared between partners vaginally and anally. If
using a double ended dildo for vagina-to-vagina, strong Kegel
muscles will make it easier to maneuver.
Celebrity
Molds-
If you have a favorite adult star that you would like to
mimic while using a dildo on your lover or experience it yourself
through solo or play with a partner than this is a great way to
do that.
There
are many adult celebs that have had exact molds made of their
genitals and dildos made from your favorite male porn star is
a nice way to "feel the love."
Dildo
Jealousy-
Many people hesitate to mention to their partner that they would
like to purchase a dildo for fear that their partner may become
jealous or insulted that they want to use one. With the issue
of penis size so out
of proportion as well as feeling "replaced" by a toy it is easy
to understand why a partner may indeed feel jealous or upset.
Yet,
the truth is that no matter how skilled we get at creating toys
that provide sexual pleasure, nothing can replace the feeling
of arousal and intimacy that a partner can. Whether you use a
toy with your partner or without, a partner can rest assured that
they can never be replaced by a piece or rubber, glass, etc...
What
To Watch Out For-
There
are a lot of vibrators that are made as a novelty and break easily
so it is important to choose wisely, selecting from a reputable
store with high quality products like ours. The most important
thing when buying a vibrator online is knowing the SIZE. Please
refer to our measurements outlined by each of the products so
that you do not get something that is too big or small.
The
brands we are most impressed with are Vibratex,
Fun Factory Phallix
& Tantus sex toy lines to name a
few. You can also check out our article on
dual action vibrators or see the ones
customers and our staff especially enjoy. While all of our
toys are great, these companies make exceptional quality toys.
Please
let us know if you have any questions
as we are always happy to help!
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The
Holistic Wisdom Corporation