Pinning down what constitutes a traditional dildo these days is a difficult task because the sex toy industry has gotten pretty creative. People themselves have also gotten creative in making homemade dildos. There are even kits now that allow people to make their own dildos by molding the penis of a man and creating a true to life replica made out of rubber, chocolate, soap and even a candle.
The most important thing you will want to ensure is that your dildo is safe to use. Believe it or not there are still many sex toy stores that sell toxic sex toys and we are not just talking about the most commonly talked about toxins- phthalates. The problem is that many people are trying to make a fast buck off of consumers. For example, Pyrex glass dildos have become quite popular. However, most of them are made in China and lead paint is often used to make them colorful. Another mistake many sex toy stores make is telling consumers that something is 100% medical grade silicone when it is really a silicone blend which can melt if you mix it with a silicone lubricant. Nothing like having a sex toy melt and leach chemicals into your body.
That is why we only sell nontoxic sex toys so that when you buy from us you can feel safe knowing that what you are going to receive is not just fun to use but safe as well. We have been doing this for a long time, in fact we are the sexual pioneers that started the movement for safer sex toys way back when we started in June of 2000. We are also the founders of the National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality - NAASAS.org, which helps the entire field of sexuality serve you better because you deserve to be empowered.
We have provided a guide to help customers better understand that the size of your dildo is very important in ensuring that you are getting something that is comfortable for you and/or your lover. A common mistake is assuming that bigger is always better. If the dildo is too long it can hit the cervix of your female lover and cause pain and if it is too wide it can cause uncomfortable vaginal stretching and even tearing which can be painful. Make sure that you are very clear about what would be comfortable for you and/or your lover by determining the size you desire before you purchase a dildo. See our dildo size guide for more information.
Diameter Vs. Circumference
Make sure to understand the difference between circumference and diameter when assessing how large your dildo is going to be.
Types of Dildos
Curved G-spot and Prostate Dildos-
Another reason is bacteria transfer. You will want to avoid using dildos that cannot be sterilized completely (bleached, boiled, dishwashed, etc.). You do not want bacteria growing on the dildo and getting out of control and then put it in later anally or especially vaginally only to get an infection. One thing you can do if you know you cannot completely sterilize your dildo is put a condom over it so that you can just take it off when you are done. This especially applies to dildos that are very porous like Cyberskin.
In addition, a reason that most anal dildos are not porous is because you do not want them to absorb the lubricant you are using. Because the rectum will need ample lubricant for using a dildo, the last thing you want is the dildo acting like a sponge. Therefore, 100% medical grade silicone and other non-porous materials are a very good idea.
Finally, the most sensitive part of anal play is the anus (opening) and the prostate (equivalent to the female gspot in men). Having bumps as seen on anal beads can bring a great deal of stimulation. A common trick is to use anal beads and pull them out at the moment of climax for added sensation.
Electrostimulation Vibrating Dildos-
Things to Avoid
Dildos can be made with cheap materials, so make sure that you get one that is non-toxic and phthalate free. Your rectum and/or vagina is able to absorb things and harmful chemicals should be the last thing on your mind when you are trying to pleasure yourself. We sell only phthalate free products so you can rest easy when it comes to any concerns there. If you want to know more about toxins in sex toys, we have plenty of articles on our Sex Toy Education page.
Using Lubricants with Dildos
Lubrication is encouraged when using a dildo to prevent discomfort. Even if a woman is lubricated naturally, putting a dry dildo inside her (especially with thrusting) can cause irritation and pain and it is why we highly recommend using a safe, waterbased lubricant for all of your sex toys as they make even clitoral sex toys feel better. There are no negative chemical interactions that occur to sex toys when using one that is waterbased and paraben free. To learn more about lubricant selection you can read our Lubricant Guide.
Please let us know if you have any questions as we are always happy to help!
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