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The Art  Of  Fingering
         Techniques On Pleasuring The Vagina

Many inexperience lovers out there take the term "finger fucking" too literally and believe that jamming their fingers into the soft folds of a woman's vagina is the way to go. Can we say "Ouch!"

The ultimate tip of this article is to suggest that you have a woman masturbate to show you what she likes first. We will say this many times... communication in any sexual experience is the key, and a visual display to show personal preference is not only arousing, but helpful!

Lisa Lawless
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Let's start with preparation-

Clean Hands
You will want to wash hands well to make sure that you do not introduce harmful bacteria into the vagina or introduce it into the urethra.

Avoiding A Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)
Unfortunately, there can be some negative side affects to making contact with the urethra. The urethra is sensitive and is easily irritated. It is fairly easy to expose the urethral to bacteria that is harmful when introduced and thus often results in a UTI. The activity that can cause a UTI can be sexual or non sexual.

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A woman who wipes her genitals after urinating from the back (dragging harmful bacteria from the anal region to the urethra) can introduce the makings of a UTI. Any sexual activity that makes contact with the urethra whether it is from fingers, a sex toy, the mouth, the penis, etc. can result in painful urination and infection. To help prevent infections and reduce the chances of irritation, a woman should drink lots of water and urinate just before and right after urethral stimulation.
Taking precautions such as washing whatever is going to come into contact with the urethra beforehand may assist in preventing such an infection. If an infection occurs it is easily treated with antibiotics. If left untreated the infection can become more serious and spread into the kidneys.

If you ask most women who have had a UTI, they will tell you that it is pretty painful and something that you would go to a medical facility at 3am if you had to so that you could get some relief!

Shorten Finger Nails
Trim fingernails, so as to not cause pain or tears.

Lubricant
Have the necessary tools, and toys such as lubricant, STD protection (if needed). Using lubricant is always welcome, as no matter how excited and wet a woman gets, that moisture is easily taken away and rubbed onto the fingers and hand leaving her feeling a bit tender.

Atmosphere
Creating a relaxing atmosphere can also include doing some sensual foreplay. Get into the mood doing such activities as: massage, using sweet or spiced body lotions or oils, soft kissing, a bubble bath, and many other creative ventures.

Finger tips that tease and play with the clitoris in the beginning of a fingerings session will create a nice introduction to getting a woman ready for penetration clitoral stimulation will provide a nice opening, so let's start by discussing the clitoral orgasm.

The Clitoral Orgasm

This orgasm occurs at the peak of clitoral stimulation. It begins with an intense sexual excitement within the clit and then as the orgasm peaks it surges waves of pleasure throughout the body. Only several years ago did Masters & Johnson break the myth that this was the only kind of orgasm that women could have, when they showed proof of the g-spot orgasm.

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body and sexual arousal is always felt in the clitoris no matter where the orgasm takes place. It is usually that the sexual arousal first originates in the clit, and is considered an orgasmic starting point.

What Is The Clitoris And Where Is It?

It is located below the mons veneris on the anterior portion of the vulva. The inner vaginal lips, also called the labia minora when closed, tend to hide the clit, but it is interesting to note that those inner vaginal lips are attached to the underside of the clitoris and thus play an important role in the network of nerves, which transmit sexual stimulation.

The clitoral hood is formed by the connection of the inner vaginal lips. This small hood covers the clitoris in much the same manner as a foreskin covers a penis. When you pull the hood back you can see that the clit is USUALLY about the size of a pencil eraser, however the size does vary from woman to woman, much the same way penis size varies from man to man.

The clitoris is abundantly supplied with nerves. The part of the clitoris that you see is actually much like the head of a man's penis, and as a man has a shaft to his penis, a woman has a shaft to her clitoris. The shaft is located above the hood, and is more easily felt when a woman is aroused as it become more rigid as it fills with blood.

What Does It Feel Like?

Clitoral orgasms can be very intense, but may not be as "deep" as others. These orgasms are no doubt very, very pleasureful and helpful in achieving female ejaculation. Stimulating the clitoris can be a very good place to start when trying to achieve female ejaculation, after providing stimulation to the g-spot.

A Reminder- Remember that after an orgasm the clit can retract, and becomes highly sensitive to any further stimulation, often to the point of being painful.

Fingering The Clitoris

A woman's lover will want to respect that the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. Rough rubbing directly on it (especially with rough skin) is not usually the ideal. Another area that if often misunderstood, is that most women want to have constant, repetitive motion to one or both sides of her clit. Many women have a favorite side, so it is always good to ask which side your baby likes, or if you are the receiver of such divine fun, to tell your lover. Communication is always key during GOOD sex.

Variation of speed and moving all around the clit is not generally preferred. Most women need a constant, repetitive, stimulation with little to no variation just as a vibrator would offer. That is one reason why women love those beautiful toys so much!

Pulling back the hood
This is going to depend on a woman's clitoral sensitivity and how aroused she is. The more aroused a woman is, the more she may want or not want her clitoris directly stimulated.

For those woman who are particularly sensitive, pulling back the hood and receiving direct clitoral stimulation is not going to be a pleasureful experience.

If a woman likes her hood pulled back, the best way to do so is by spreading her lips apart, or pulling up on the mons.

 

Range Of Motion
When women masturbate, they often rotate around their clit in a circular motion, while other women prefer a side-to-side or up and down motion. Another technique is rolling the clitoris with the thumb and pointer finger. This should be done gently.

In part one of this article, we reviewed clitoral fingering techniques as well as the clitoral orgasm. In this article we will begin by reviewing the G-spot orgasm and then discuss some very effective fingering techniques.

The G-Spot Orgasm

This orgasm may begin at the g-spot and stay focused there throughout the building and final release of the orgasm, or may expand throughout the body. This orgasm is demonstrated when the g-spot is stimulated and becomes "puffy" and swollen as the tissue surrounding the female Parurethral/Skenes glands fill with blood during sexual arousal. This results in the tissue becoming firm to the touch.

What Does It Feel Like?

Like the vaginal orgasm, this usually takes longer to build. Because the g-spot is not stimulated as much by friction as much as pressure, using a rhythmic pushing against the g-spot is more pleasureful than light rubbing.

Most women describe this type of orgasm as an intense, deeply sensual pressure that builds until it feels like the entire vaginal explodes with ecstasy and is usually followed by euphoric energy that spreads throughout entire body. This orgasm, like the vaginal orgasm can release an emotional response as it provides women with a sense of being penetrated more than just physically, but also in a more emotionally vulnerable sense.

The Double Pleasure Clamp Techniques

These Clamp techniques are quite effective pleasure techniques. The following is step-by-step instructions on how to implement it-

1) The Clamp
Stimulates the clit using the thumb, while using one or more fingers to stimulate the g-spot. A good technique when you are able to be in front of a woman. Most women prefer one to two fingers, although some women like a lot of pressure and three to four can be used as well.

2) The Two-fingered Clamp
Best used when a woman is on her knees or standing with her bottom outward. Her partner then uses this technique from behind her. The thumb stimulates the g-spot, and the fingers make a "V" around her clit.

The most effective stimulation is using rhythmic thrusting. These rhythmic movements create vibrations, which induce pleasure in the cervix and uterus as well as in the G-spot and vagina. When fingers are introduced into the vaginal opening, the initial pleasure is primarily from the feeling of distention or fullness.

Using more than one finger may increase pleasure felt in some women as it stimulates the vaginal walls which may also stimulate the G-spot as pressure increases and the vagina is filled.

This sexual stimulation is due to the highly sensitive and many nerve endings in the g-spot. While discomfort may initially be felt, these sensations may gradually fade. Fingers that curve upward place pressure on the g-spot and this can be very stimulating. While width is a positive pleasure inducer, it is not as important as where the fingers are stimulating a woman in her vagina.

Because all women are different, and some have different preferences for stimulation, you may find that while some women prefer hard thrusting, others prefer softer, strokes. As in all sexual techniques, the best is good communication. Enjoy!

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