The
Art
Of
Fingering
Techniques
On Pleasuring The Vagina
Many
inexperience lovers out there take the term "finger
fucking" too literally and believe that jamming their
fingers into the soft folds of a woman's vagina is the way
to go. Can we say "Ouch!"
The
ultimate tip of this article is to suggest that you have
a woman masturbate to show you what she likes first. We
will say this many times... communication in any sexual
experience is the key, and a visual display to show personal
preference is not only arousing, but helpful!
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com
Founder
Let's
start with preparation-
Clean
Hands
You will want to wash hands well to make sure that you do not
introduce harmful bacteria into the vagina or introduce it into
the urethra.
Avoiding
A Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)
Unfortunately, there can be some negative side affects to making
contact with the urethra. The urethra is sensitive and is easily
irritated. It is fairly easy to expose the urethral to bacteria
that is harmful when introduced and thus often results in a UTI.
The activity that can cause a UTI can be sexual or non sexual.
Adding
finger sex toys into your bedroom play can make
your lover beg for more! Use for anal and vaginal
play!
A
woman who wipes her genitals after urinating from the back
(dragging harmful bacteria from the anal region to the urethra)
can introduce the makings of a UTI. Any sexual activity
that makes contact with the urethra whether it is from fingers,
a sex toy, the mouth, the penis, etc. can result in painful
urination and infection. To help prevent infections and
reduce the chances of irritation, a woman should drink lots
of water and urinate just before and right after urethral
stimulation.
Taking precautions
such as washing whatever is going to come into contact with the
urethra beforehand may assist in preventing such an infection. If
an infection occurs it is easily treated with antibiotics. If left
untreated the infection can become more serious and spread into
the kidneys.
If
you ask most women who have had a UTI, they will tell you that
it is pretty painful and something that you would go to a medical
facility at 3am if you had to so that you could get some relief!
Shorten
Finger Nails
Trim fingernails, so as to not cause pain or tears.
Lubricant
Have the necessary tools, and toys such as lubricant, STD protection
(if needed). Using lubricant is always welcome, as no matter
how excited and wet a woman gets, that moisture is easily taken
away and rubbed onto the fingers and hand leaving her feeling
a bit tender.
Atmosphere
Creating a relaxing atmosphere can also include doing some sensual
foreplay. Get into the mood doing such activities as: massage,
using sweet or spiced body lotions or oils, soft kissing, a
bubble bath, and many other creative ventures.
Finger
tips that tease and play with the clitoris in the beginning
of a fingerings session will create a nice introduction to getting
a woman ready for penetration clitoral stimulation will provide
a nice opening, so let's start by discussing the clitoral orgasm.
The
Clitoral Orgasm
This
orgasm occurs at the peak of clitoral stimulation. It begins
with an intense sexual excitement within the clit and then as
the orgasm peaks it surges waves of pleasure throughout the
body. Only several years ago did Masters & Johnson break the
myth that this was the only kind of orgasm that women could
have, when they showed proof of the g-spot orgasm.
The
clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body and sexual
arousal is always felt in the clitoris no matter where the orgasm
takes place. It is usually that the sexual arousal first originates
in the clit, and is considered an orgasmic starting point.
What
Is The Clitoris And Where Is It?
It
is located below the mons veneris on the anterior portion of
the vulva. The inner vaginal lips, also called the labia minora
when closed, tend to hide the clit, but it is interesting to
note that those inner vaginal lips are attached to the underside
of the clitoris and thus play an important role in the network
of nerves, which transmit sexual stimulation.
The
clitoral hood is formed by the connection of the inner vaginal
lips. This small hood covers the clitoris in much the same manner
as a foreskin covers a penis. When you pull the hood back you
can see that the clit is USUALLY about the size of a pencil
eraser, however the size does vary from woman to woman, much
the same way penis size varies from man to man.
The
clitoris is abundantly supplied with nerves. The part of the
clitoris that you see is actually much like the head of a man's
penis, and as a man has a shaft to his penis, a woman has a
shaft to her clitoris. The shaft is located above the hood,
and is more easily felt when a woman is aroused as it become
more rigid as it fills with blood.
What
Does It Feel Like?
Clitoral
orgasms can be very intense, but may not be as "deep" as others.
These orgasms are no doubt very, very pleasureful and helpful
in achieving female ejaculation. Stimulating the clitoris can
be a very good place to start when trying to achieve female
ejaculation, after providing stimulation to the g-spot.
A
Reminder- Remember that after an orgasm the clit can retract,
and becomes highly sensitive to any further stimulation, often
to the point of being painful.
Fingering
The Clitoris
A
woman's lover will want to respect that the clitoris is the
most sensitive part of a woman's body. Rough rubbing directly
on it (especially with rough skin) is not usually the ideal.
Another area that if often misunderstood, is that most women
want to have constant, repetitive motion to one or both sides
of her clit. Many women have a favorite side, so it is always
good to ask which side your baby likes, or if you are the receiver
of such divine fun, to tell your lover. Communication is always
key during GOOD sex.
Variation
of speed and moving all around the clit is not generally preferred.
Most women need a constant, repetitive, stimulation with little
to no variation just as a vibrator would offer. That is one reason
why women love those beautiful toys so much!
Pulling
back the hood This is going to depend on a woman's clitoral sensitivity
and how aroused she is. The more aroused a woman is, the
more she may want or not want her clitoris directly stimulated.
For
those woman who are particularly sensitive, pulling back
the hood and receiving direct clitoral stimulation is
not going to be a pleasureful experience.
If
a woman likes her hood pulled back, the best way to do so is by
spreading her lips apart, or pulling up on the mons.
Range
Of Motion When women masturbate, they often rotate around their clit
in a circular motion, while other women prefer a side-to-side
or up and down motion. Another technique is rolling the clitoris
with the thumb and pointer finger. This should be done gently.
In
part one of this article, we reviewed clitoral fingering techniques
as well as the clitoral orgasm. In this article we will begin
by reviewing the G-spot orgasm and then discuss some very effective
fingering techniques.
The
G-Spot Orgasm
This
orgasm may begin at the g-spot and stay focused there throughout
the building and final release of the orgasm, or may expand
throughout the body. This orgasm is demonstrated when the g-spot
is stimulated and becomes "puffy" and swollen as the tissue
surrounding the female Parurethral/Skenes glands fill with blood
during sexual arousal. This results in the tissue becoming firm
to the touch.
What
Does It Feel Like?
Like
the vaginal orgasm, this usually takes longer to build. Because
the g-spot is not stimulated as much by friction as much as
pressure, using a rhythmic pushing against the g-spot is more
pleasureful than light rubbing.
Most
women describe this type of orgasm as an intense, deeply sensual
pressure that builds until it feels like the entire vaginal
explodes with ecstasy and is usually followed by euphoric energy
that spreads throughout entire body. This orgasm, like the vaginal
orgasm can release an emotional response as it provides women
with a sense of being penetrated more than just physically,
but also in a more emotionally vulnerable sense.
The
Double Pleasure Clamp Techniques
These
Clamp techniques are quite effective pleasure techniques.
The following is step-by-step instructions on how to implement
it-
1)
The Clamp
Stimulates the clit using the thumb, while using one or
more fingers to stimulate the g-spot. A good technique
when you are able to be in front of a woman. Most women
prefer one to two fingers, although some women like a
lot of pressure and three to four can be used as well.
2)
The Two-fingered Clamp
Best used when a woman is on her knees or standing with
her bottom outward. Her partner then uses this technique
from behind her. The thumb stimulates the g-spot, and the
fingers make a "V" around her clit.
The
most effective stimulation is using rhythmic thrusting.
These rhythmic movements create vibrations, which induce
pleasure in the cervix and uterus as well as in the G-spot
and vagina. When fingers are introduced into the vaginal
opening, the initial pleasure is primarily from the feeling
of distention or fullness.
Using
more than one finger may increase pleasure felt in some women
as it stimulates the vaginal walls which may also stimulate the
G-spot as pressure increases and the vagina is filled.
This
sexual stimulation is due to the highly sensitive and many nerve
endings in the g-spot. While discomfort may initially be felt,
these sensations may gradually fade. Fingers that curve upward
place pressure on the g-spot and this can be very stimulating.
While width is a positive pleasure inducer, it is not as important
as where the fingers are stimulating a woman in her vagina.
Because
all women are different, and some have different preferences
for stimulation, you may find that while some women prefer hard
thrusting, others prefer softer, strokes. As in all sexual techniques,
the best is good communication. Enjoy!
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