Viagra- Only Works For 2/3rds of Men
         When Men's Sexual Issues Are Oversimplified

Men are more than their penises! Okay, now that I have that off my chest... let me say that men are wonderfully sensual with emotional needs in the bedroom. Just as women deal with stereotypes so do men. I am often frustrated that men are summed up by their genitals when addressing their sexual issues. Because we have such a focus in this society on pigeon holing men as simpletons with nothing more than an erect penis that want to have sex; many men themselves actually buy into the myth that they are not complex, sexually, emotional beings.

Men's sexual experiences are very much affected by their emotions; however many do not even realize it due to the heavy social conditioning of men learning to minimize their emotions in and out of the bedroom.

Pfizer™ recently abandoned their efforts to use Viagra on women because it only provided pelvic engorgement (the equivalent to an erection in men) and it was not "enough" for many women to merely have the physical engorgement to feel sexually aroused. With mental and emotional blockages still present, women did not feel that Viagra was successful.

So let me repeat that... women, although having the same result that men have with Viagra; meaning they had the equivalent of an erect penis, did not consider themselves sexually aroused! It really goes to show that seduction is more about the mind than the body and that the overly simplified treatment of men's sexual dysfunction with a pill neglects this issue for men.

Viagra gets a lot less refill orders and reports that only 2/3 of men who use it achieve what they consider success... an erection. Because many men are preoccupied with the performance issue they often associate the erection with success... when in reality many men are still not sexually aroused mentally and emotionally even when Viagra is successful.

Like women, men are objectified in our culture to perform sexually through a rock hard erection, they are not however usually appreciated for their sadness, insecurities, anger and stress when it comes to sex. Let me tell all who will listen right now that the secret to true sexual satisfaction for a man is not as simple as an erection and ejaculation!

Foreplay starts in daily activities, not just for women but for men as well. Men need to be emotionally nurtured, flirted with and appreciated too!

Our society needs to stop thinking that we can treat our emotional, mental and spiritual issues with a pill. We are not born onto this earth to simply take the easy road of numbing out on television while we pop our Prozac and Viagra to make our lives better. We must seek out the quality of life that we desire through our behavior and experiences. Honest communication is a great place to start, the second step is looking for what really matters to you and doing what it takes to authentically, not synthetically, achieve it.