Tantric Sex Ceremonies
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Pre-ceremonial Preparation

You will want to make sure to select music you want to have playing. You may even wish to join in with the music for a brief time, by clapping, singing, chanting, or drumming.

You will also want your sacred space to smell nice. Aromatherapy experts find that certain odors are soothing to the nerves and soul. It assists with arousing emotions, especially erotic ones, helps you to focus on what you are there for and gives you energy. Choose aromas you really like. They need not always be the same ones. You may put a drop in the candles before you light them, or put some scented oils on your cold light bulbs before you turn the lights on. (Don't attempt to put oil on hot bulbs or they will break). You may also take a water sprayer and put a few drops of scent in the water and spray the fabrics in the room.

The following ritual is going to assist you in making your sacred space feel really special to you. You may do this alone or with your partner. Even if you do it by yourself, you will bring yourself pleasure in the process. This is going to be a ceremony you do consciously as a sacred rite.

Opening Ceremony

Begin by standing on the parameter of your sacred space, facing the center. As the Shamans do, face towards your right hand and walk around the space counterclockwise three times. This movement decreases negative forces which might be present in the space from the environment. While walking around your sacred space, sing or chant, "Allow all negative emotions such as worry, fear, anger, greed, and impatience to leave this space." You may use other words of your choosing if they are more appropriate. You may want to use a drum or tambourine to emphasize your statement each time you make it.

When you have completed the circling counterclockwise, turn back to the center, and breathe deeply several times. Turn towards your left hand and make three circles clockwise. Circling clockwise will bring in the positive energies into the space and blessing it. While walking in the clockwise direction, sing or chant, "May the LOVE from the Universe in my heart now fill this room and protect us."

When this ritual is complete, again stand on the parameter and breathe deeply several times. If you have your partner with you, take him/her by the hand and step into the sacred space together. For these special moments, make a commitment yourselves to enjoying your experience in spiritual sex and the LOVE it will bring to you and your partner.

Inside of your sacred space will be the place you have chosen for your spiritual sex ceremonies. Whether it is the bed, or just a mattress or quilt on the floor, cover this place with a clean beautiful sheet and surround it with plants, flowers, and candles.

You will need no less than 4 special candles, one for each of the four directions - north, south, east, and west.

Light the candle to the north and with a little bow of your head, state, "I call forth the positive energies of the North, the great winds of change and transformations. May they bring us intelligence and discrimination."

Light the candle to the south and with a little bow of your head, state, "I call forth the energies of the South, the healing waters of the deep. May they cleanse our hearts and let our emotions flow with innocence and trust."

Light the candle to the west and with a little bow of your head, state, "I call forth the energies of the West, the transforming powers of the earth that makes things grow. May they bring us renewal, health, and creative inspiration."

Light the candle to the east and with a little bow of your head, state, " call forth the energies of the East, the cleansing fires of illumination. May they help our spirit to shine forth in wisdom and insight."

These statements acknowledge the connection between you and the Universal forces, water, earth, air, and fire - of which your body is a reflection. It brings to your lovemaking the qualities you wish to be enhanced.

While one of you sits in the center of the space, have the other take whatever fragrance you have chosen for that moment and spray some into the air, saying, "I purify this space, I purify my heart." Allow some of the fragrance to fall upon the partner. Have the other partner repeat the ritual. If you have a crystal bowl or glass, using a wooden stick make a special sound, then state "I dedicate this space to love." Or you might use little bells instead to make a special sound. These sounds will help to allow negative thoughts of the day to be carried away on the sound and help you to be centered and focused on the moment of love. End the ritual with the Heart Ceremony with each other.

The Heart Ceremony

LOVING YOURSELF

Tantra - High Spiritual Sex is not just for a wild fling with a sexual partner, nor even a technique to improve your sexual prowess. High Spiritual Sex depends on your ability to awaken and raise the feelings of LOVE deep within you.

To do this, first you are going to learn how to love yourself, to develop self-appreciation and acceptance of who you are and to feel the pleasure and delight of being you. You are going to need time to do this, by yourself. Set aside at least an hour. Yes! You may have to sacrifice other things to do this.

Loving yourself is more important than anything else you might do with your life. Take the time to love yourself. Turn off your telephone. This is going to be your time. You can either lie down or sit in a comfortable chair. You will need to find a piece of music you can play on your stereo which will make you feel relaxed. Turn on the music and sit in your chair and relax. Feel yourself melt into the music.

Begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Breathe as deeply as you can without making an effort that you have to think about. Let the cleansing power of the breath lead you into appreciation of your body, soul, and mind. While you are breathing, use your mind to imagine that you are meeting your lover and at the same time imagine that you are your beloved.

Stay at this level of imagination, standing in the doorway of anticipation between you the lover and the beloved, breathing in and out gently. Bring into your mind a time when you felt totally loved, protected, cared for, and accepted completely. Who the person was does not matter right now, it's the feeling you are going for. Feel the trust, the gentleness, the vitality that goes with this feeling. Feel delight in your vulnerability, your innocence, and openness.

Were there other times in your life, when you felt delight in being alive, being with nature, loving a puppy or kitten or a bouquet of flowers. Think of a time when you may have felt sexually connected with another person. Let these thoughts flow and merge with the feelings. As you breathe in and out, let these feelings arise within yourself. Remember the sensations you felt, the smells, sounds, tastes, the softness of your lover's skin. Immerse yourself with these sensations. Feel them as intensely as you can. Raise your hands to place them on your own heart.

Allow your feelings to vibrate within yourself as they will. Feel the joy of those past moments. Allow these feelings to flow throughout your entire body. Bring those past loving moments into the NOW.

Think of words that describes these feelings. Tell yourself how wonderful you feel, express to yourself your feelings of love as though you were your beloved Allow these feelings to become your inner lover. Become one with them. This inner lover will always be there for you, to support you, love you, care for you, and help you to grow as you allow it.

Remember these feelings of love and appreciation. You will be accessing these feelings again and again These feelings of love carry with them a spiritual dimension, a sense that you are part of the larger creation and expression of the infinite. Gradually come back now into the reality of your presence in your chair, remain relaxed and hold onto that feeling of love, and go about the business of the day. You are now ready for a whole new dimension of experience in your life.

COMING TOGETHER WITH YOUR LOVER

When you have accessed these feelings of love, it is natural to want to share them with another person who is close to you. If you already have a close friend, lover, or life-partner, you will be able to see him/her in a new sense of divine connection to the larger existence. Because of your experience in self-love, you will be able to share these feelings with your partner.

When you come together with your lover, you will be remembering these feelings when you remind yourself and your lover of these higher expressions of love through High Sex in a ritual greeting. This greeting originated in the Eastern traditions. The word 'Namaste' means "I honor the god within you." This word between lovers signifies that you are ready to enter into a sacred moment. You will be honoring each other from the heart.

This ceremony will take you out of the normal sexual coming together at the day's end with your mind full of business and other activities, into the spiritual oneness with your heart and higher-self. When you use this greeting with another, you are choosing to honor the other person's higher-self and relate with that person on a higher level that transcends the physical reality that divides you. This ritual will become a part of every exercise or loving encounter with your partner.

THE RITUAL

Choose a private space in your home or other place where you and your lover are going to be alone. Allow five to ten minutes for this ritual. If you do not have a partner, you may do this ritual alone in front of a mirror if you wish. The proper usage of this ritual will set the stage for the energy to move in the highest way from you to your lover, indicating the feelings of high respect to your partners higher-self from your higher-self.

There are two forms of the Heart Ceremony, you may choose one or the other or alternate as you wish. The first is a verbal greeting, the second one uses the sound OM to give you a feeling of centeredness in your heart.

Heart Ceremony I

Sit on the floor or on your bed facing each other. Gaze into each other's eyes for a few minutes. As you inhale, bring the palms of your cupped hands together in front of you, and rest the thumbs against your chest. Together with your partner, close your eyes. As you exhale, gently bend forward from the waist, keeping your back straight. Bend forward until your foreheads touch lightly. Hold this contact for a few moments, feeling the connection between you.

Feel the full sense of honor and reverence that this mutual gesture conveys. Let go of all extraneous thoughts and focus your breathing and your awareness in your heart. Inhale, and sit upright, open your eyes, look into your partner's eyes and say, "(Name) I honor the Higher Self in you." Or you might say, "(Name) I salute the God/Goddess within you." Or "I honor you (Name) as an aspect of the Divine". Or, (Name) I honor you as an aspect of myself." As your partner reciprocates the greeting, feel the profound meaning of the gesture, and appreciate the devotion and reverence, embody the fullness of being, and share in the spark of divinity.

Heart Ceremony II

The alternative would be to make the sound of OM as you bend forward to touch each other's foreheads. This sound helps to focus your awareness within yourself. Let the sound resonant within deep within your body until it resonates. As you exhale, close your lips to pronounce the "Mmmm" part of the sound. Feel the meaning of the greeting and feel the effects of the sound. You might wish to do this ceremony sitting on facing chairs or standing, but follow the sequence as stated.

Gazing Into The Soul Ceremony

This is a special exercise for bonding with your partner. This exercise will make you feel closer than any other practice you can do together, including having sex. Gazing into the other person's soul is as close as two physical people can be with each other.

You will not want to do this with just anyone except your special partner. I would recommend that you do this in your special spiritual place you have created for your love making.

Sitting on comfortable cushions on the floor, or on the bed will be equally good, you can move to another spot later for lovemaking as you desire. You will want to take a shower before this exercise, together would be preferred, soaping each other and gently rinsing each other's bodies in slow motion, kissing, and caressing as desired. Dry each other off gently, with caresses on each other's bodies, keeping in mind that you are going to do this special exercise before lovemaking.

Each person will sit on the floor, bed, or cushion facing the other person. The most comfortable is for the male to sit with his legs spread with the female sitting on the floor, bed, or cushion between his legs as close as she can with her legs spread and placed over his outstretched legs. The room will be semi-dark, lit with candles if desired and perfumed gently. Your eyes will remain open. Relax and get comfortable being with each other. Gently and slowly begin to breathe simultaneously, breathing deeper and deeper as comfortable. Build this breathing into a silent humming mantra as you visualize yourselves as the Cosmic Couple.

Facing each other, visualize and imagine yourselves becoming one person. This will create an etheric tube which exists a short time then dissolves into formlessness. Keeping your eyes open, firmly press your foreheads together with gentle pressure looking into the other person's eyes.

Visualize yourselves as you become a double body. Continue to look into the other's eyes until neither one of you is aware of being a separate person. Visualize yourselves as being the double body from above and outside of yourselves. The bodies are without form, yet sensing it through your feelings. As you watch this process, stars will begin to appear within the double body. They are brightly lit, but do not pulsate. The two of you will remain motionless, looking into each other's eyes in this space until you feel the transfer closer and closer to the absolute void.

There should be a feeling of willingness to share this experience fully. Everything you do in existence belongs to existence, you will be above the world of action and reaction, you will be above the level of cause and effect. Your inner worlds will meld with each other, your mental and emotional feelings will join with one another. You will begin to feel sensations which come from the perception of being everywhere and nowhere at the same time.

You may begin to feel giggly or confused at this point, along with euphoria which comes with the expansion of consciousness and a feeling of not caring what happens, if anything. You will begin to experience a sensation of complete and instantaneous communication without the need to speak. Feelings of pure and complete love will will surround the two of you. You are becoming ONE.

You may begin to feel that you are not now, nor were ever on the earth. Space and time will cease to exist. This is the natural state of being of the soul, from which you never depart. You will begin to realize that your CO-creation in earth existence takes great effort to keep it real, and by ceasing this effort, you automatically revert to your natural state of being.

You know that you can always return to being separate identities whenever you wish, and return to this state of ONENESS whenever you wish also, and that sooner or later you will return to this state. Allow this state of ONENESS take you over, forgetting that you were ever human. Accept this remembered state of being without time or space and complete love as real because it is. Enjoy the sensations of a moving flow taking you into the collective unconscious. Don't resist thoughts or feelings, remain free flowing and accepting.

You may approach a gateway or door where you meet a guardian angel or guide. If you do, do not feel afraid as they are always with you, but remain unseen in the physical realm. Merely acknowledge his/her presence continue to flow into whatever level of consciousness you move into. You are protected by your guardian. The distinction between consciousness will gradually disappear. You may find it impossible to decide which body you came into form in the physical realm. Your physical awareness is what holds the physical form in place as it flows downward into the physical consciousness. Without the physical awareness, it ceases to exist.

A pleasant knowingness replaces the physical consciousness. It will not matter whether you are or ever were physical, whether you are two or one. Love and shimmering pleasure moves through your consciousness. Remain passive. There is nothing to do, nothing to do but to feel, experience, remember, know. Resist nothing. You may feel that you are the entire universe yourself. You are. You are everything, and everything is you. You are the Primordial Being in the state of being. Finally, there is nothing to feel, nothing to sense, you just ARE. You may see stars, you may see individual cells. You may see a mandala.

Each time will be different. Remain open to experience and being. At some point, any discomfort of waiting will be replaced with a sensation of euphoric well-being. Complete stillness descends on your being. You feel poised as if on the brink of an immense happening. You may see a point of light in the distance. Watch the light as it grows and moves. Light may form and retreat, and move in swirls and formations, changing to colors and back to white.

At some point, you will begin to feel a change in consciousness and begin to feel the separation of the ONE back into the two, and the sensation of physical being will return. Turn your awareness back to your physical form and withdraw back into your own body once more. Remain still, not moving. Do this slowly so as not to disturb the emotions, or the cells of your body. Take your time. Take as long as you need to resume your physical consciousness. You are being reborn back into the world.

Finish your exercise with a hug and a smile. Feel the love of the bonding between you, and if you feel the desire to do so, move into a position comfortable for either sleeping or lovemaking as you wish. You are now complete in each other.

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