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Penis
Size
Honesty
On Penis Enlargement
I know
writing this article indicating that penis size matters
may seem cold or shocking, but why avoid talking about the
reality of this? Women and men talk about it all the time
in their separate corners, and I think it's time to get
this out in the open.
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Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com Founder |
How
else do we work through our insecurities, and take measures to
improve ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically, but to
get it all out there? I feel strongly that this ultimately allows
us to create a better reality.
It
seems that as a society we have slammed men for worrying about
their penis size and their ability to become "rock hard,"
telling them not to be concerned with it.
Yet,
we have social messages that emphasize penis size all the time.
I believe that men have a right to voice their concerns… it is
a legitimate issue and I think it deserves more than some pat
answer like "it isn't the size… it's the motion of the ocean!"
I
am dedicating most of this article to penis size and erections,
and why they matter, how they affect women, and techniques and
solutions to address these concerns. I will also touch on a woman's
need to contribute in keeping her "equipment" in good
condition, as well as how all of this relates to female sexual
arousal.
What
You Can Do If You Want To Improve Yours
People
who think that men are insecure or even egocentric to think about
the size of their penis are not sensitive to this legitimate concern.
In fantasy-land we are all perfect lovers, in reality we can ALL
use improvement. My goal in all of my work is to empower people
and provide realistic suggestions.
I
like being up front with my clients and provide them with empowering
solutions to their challenges. Hence, if there are things they
can improve in their lives to feel happier, healthier and more
at peace... then that path should be explored. If your overweight...
let's look at how to work on that, if your marriage is not going
well, let's explore techniques to not only save it, but make it
something fulfilling and beautiful, and so on and so forth.
Some
of the articles that we do are more geared toward one sex or another,
while others are more focused on couples, others toward singles.
Obviously we can't address everyone in every article, but stay
tuned as we will have many to choose from so that your questions,
concerns, and interests will be covered.
Men & Penis Size
Men
are not egocentric for being concerned with their penis size.
Generally, men who are concerned about it are concerned for two
reasons-
1)
They want to be thought of as a virile lover who offers their
lover something
really pleasurable through their penis. They
want to be adored and have
their penis appreciated.
2)
They want to please their partner sexually with a thick, long,
hard member.
What
I have found in my interviews for my book The
Art Of Female Ejaculation, is that the opinions expressed
publicly are different from opinions held in private. The truth
is that penis size, parameters, shape, and angle… do matter to
both men and women. I would have to say that in general, men are
concerned about size, rigidity and staying power for good reason.
Let's face it women simply do not have fantasies about men with
small, flaccid, penis.
I
am not saying we women need something HUGE to feel sexually satisfied...
Penis
Size & Making A Woman Orgasm
It
is good to know how to give a woman not just a clitoral orgasm,
but also the deeper, more fulfilling orgasms- the vaginal/cervix
and g-spot orgasms. These are achieved by specific techniques
due to the physical layout of the vagina.
The
Vaginal/Cervical Orgasm
Because
the vaginal/cervical orgasms involves the cervix, which is located
further up inside the vagina, a long object (or penis) thrusting
into the vagina will better reach the cervix and be more successful
in aiding a woman to reach this type of orgasm.
Hence
a longer penis is going to often feel more arousing inside a woman.
However, too long for a woman will hurt. Please not that women
are different lengths inside and the placement of their cervix
also varies... therefore a woman with a cervix that is placed
a short distance inside her will not want a longer penis... it
really comes down to width when women indicated what is the most
pleasurable in general.
The
G-spot Orgasm
Like
the vaginal orgasm, this orgasm usually takes longer to build.
Because the g-spot is not stimulated by friction as much as through
pressure, using a rhythmic" pushing" against the g-spot is more
pleasurable than a light rubbing. Hence, a wider penis is
going to feel more arousing inside a woman.
Does
this all mean that a woman can not be satisfied with a man who
is not well endowed or is able to get a raging hard-on?
No,
a woman can be satisfied without her lover having a large penis
by them using some specific sexual techniques (as outlined in
my female ejaculation book). A perfect sized dildo, g-spot stimulator,
penis extension toy or method can be used effectively when her
partner is or is not well endowed.
Women
Have A Role Too
Let's
not forget that women are part of the picture and can aid in solutions
as well. Doing Kegel exercises to keep her vaginal muscles toned
can be one of her contributions as well as using other toys and
products I will discuss in upcoming articles.
Open
communication is the key, and women should discuss what will
most pleasure them in detail with their lovers as that will provide
their lover with a guide, rather than leaving them in the dark
as to what will make them sexually pleased. All women are different,
and while there are certain techniques that will pleasure a woman
more... to what extent one prefers one technique over another
will vary from woman to woman.
Penis
Enlargement Techniques
The
size of your penis doesn't have a relationship with anything else
on a man's body. For example a man with big feet does NOT necessarily
have a 9 inch penis. Whether you have above or below the average
penis size, ask yourself does it really matter to you.
While
Viagra works well at allowing increased erectile rigidity (a better
hard-on), size is a different matter. There are a lot of gimmicky
programs out there that are a waste of time and money and that
is why we list only the best.
The
skin of a penis is very flexible, and can be enlarged to triple
its size in less than 30 seconds when an erection occurs. The
cells within the penis also consist of flexible tissue. They are
what fill with blood to create an erection.
An
effective penis enlargement exercise program will provide stretching
techniques that are similar to the stretching that occurs during
an erection; however they create a larger sized penis and are
long lasting. Please note that the stretching (often referred
to as "Jelqing") can cause damage if done incorrectly and have
to be done repetitively in order to last over the long term.
The
Arabic Jelq
Those
who promote jelqing claim that it's an "ancient Arab" technique,
which lends it an exotic air but the Kinsey Institute and professors
of Middle Eastern studies at several universities shed no more
light on the matter.
Those
that hold fast to the Arabic background have said that the Arabic
cultures of the Middle East and the Sudan supposedly developed
the penis-enlargement technique known as the 'jelq.' This technique
involves a milking action applied to a semi-erect penis, which
stretches and engorges the penis. Over time, the continued jelq
sessions would result in greater penis length, thickness, and
strength.
There
are many variations on the technique, but the basic routine involves
stroking the penis with a milking motion: Starting from the base,
you slide your hand up the shaft, pulling and squeezing. Then
you repeat the motion. You don't slide your hand over the head
and back down the shaft as you would if you were masturbating.
Instead, you stop when you reach the head, and start again from
the base of the penis.
Jelqing
is a bit like the way that weight gain occurs. When a person eats
a lot they extend the stomach lining. If they continue to do it
the stomach actually gets bigger and can hold more food. It is
kind of like you are shooting for penis "weight gain," except
you are stretching the cells so that more blood can fill them.
When this happens it actually makes the cells bigger thus, making
the penis larger.
Because
the cells in the penis are alive, and have a regenerative capability,
they respond to more blood being filling them by enlarging themselves,
hence, making your penis larger (whether you are soft or hard).
Smooth muscle of the penis can not be exercised like the biceps
and doesn't respond the same way. One must be careful not to cause
damage as it may weaken tissue within the penis by pulling too
hard of pushing blood up into an erect penis with force.
Penis
enlargement information is available in books, however due to
the sensitive (and sometimes embarrassing nature) of this topic,
I have found male clients to be relieved when I suggest they try
an online site that offers such information and products. The
cool thing that sites offer in addition to information is videos
with instruction.
Proper
penis enlargement exercises have statistically shown up to 20%
increase in size in as little as two weeks. Of course if you want
to add up to 30-50% in size, you are going to need to do these
exercises for a few months. The programs out there are not free,
but I can say that they are much cheaper than the prescriptions
out there. They are also safer, and have no side effects. Typically
these programs range from $30.00 - $50.00.
How
to Jelq and make wet jelqing techniques give you results-
As
with anything checking with your physician is always a good idea
before doing any type of bodily change-
Wet
lubricant is important for success with penis enlargement exercises.
A good quality wet lubricant will aid in avoiding any nasty friction
burns or skin irritations. Do NOT use soap or shampoo!!! If
you are looking for an alternative substance to use in your jelqing
other than normal wet sexual lubricant, then you can use Vaseline
Intensive care or something similar.
Step
1
Make
the "OK" sign with your fingers by touching your forefinger and
thumb tips together. Lubricate both your hands and penis shaft
with your wet lubricant. Note- you should always do the jelqing
exercise WITHOUT an erection. A semi-erection is fine, but be
careful because research has shown that if you Jelq hard with
a full erection; it can cause vascular damage and all sorts of
other unwanted side effects. If you start to get an erection then
slightly squeeze your penis head (glans) with your hand and this
will discourage it, or simply wait for it to subside.
Step
2
Squeeze
your penis shaft as close to your scrotum as possible and pull
downward with your "OK" sign hand.
Step
3
Stop
when you reach the glans (head), and repeat with the other hand.
Make each stroke last about three or four seconds
Step
4
Repeat
step 2 and 3 alternating between hands and keep going for as many
repetitions as you wish (start with only a few and work up to
more as you get more experienced).
Does
Jelqing work?
Yes,
it does work, but it is an issue of discerning if it is right
for you.
Do
we recommend Jelqing?
It
is not something we recommend men do, rather we simply provide
the information about it to you so that you may decide if it something
that you wish to look into further. Because there are such mixed
reviews about benefits vs. potential damage we advise that anyone
considering it consult their physician (a good choice might be
a urologist) and adhere to the warnings of Jelq methods in not
pulling to hard or pushing the limits of health!
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