Sexua1 Mindfulness
        The Spiritual Path To The Best Sex You'll Ever Have

There are infinite ways to have fantastic sex that is mindful and spiritual. This article will take you through some basic principals of what inhibits spiritual sex, how to overcome those obstacles, and finally how to have spiritual sex. I have also included a couple of "spiritual ceremonies" based on Tantric practices. I hope that you enjoy these techniques and that they fill your mind, body and spirit with sexual ecstasy! Factors That Contribute To Sexual Blocks

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Biological

Hormonal factors, health/major illnesses, street drugs, medications, and age and aging

Emotional

Religious, cultural, and family messages about sex.  Self and body image concerns, inhibitions regarding sexual fantasies, sexual trauma history, masked sexual orientation issues, lack of information, unrealistic expectations and fears of intimacy and closeness, and lack of differentiation from family of origin or from partner.

Relationship

Stored anger, resentment and chronic conflict, need for power and control, not attracted to partner, disagreements about conditions and reasons for sex, inability to negotiate differences as a fundamental relationship problem.

Unrealistic Expectations

Initial infatuation stage vs. deeper, more calm stage of attachment (not all-consumed with sex). Real love is built on communication and intimacy.  Sex becomes a part of the whole relationship, not the center of it.

Lifestyle / Culture

Life in the fast lane, role overload, fatigue, unrealistic expectations for sex, body image and relationships from media influence.

General Ways To Improve Sex

Dealing With Fears

The sexual union we wish to produce is to honor each other and build a bridge between body and soul. This is possible through a structured process usable by anyone who wants to find a gentle and conscious way to express their love with another person or even with themselves. Though regular sex is enjoyable, it is rarely so good that it satisfies our inner needs.

Tantra - spiritual sex is a sacred communion with a partner or with oneself which enhances our connection with the life force itself and our deepest creative impulses. People, even today, who think they are giving their all to their partner are withholding and repressing enormous parts of themselves due to fear and the end result is feeling like they are being used. Their lovemaking doesn't fulfill the need for people to feel a deep communion with the other person and becomes just a tense encounter with another body in which both people repress their real needs. The lovemaking is reduced to a performance where we compete with the other person to see who can get off faster or better.

When using spiritual sex techniques, the energies coming through your body with your partner may make fears surface. This can be a good thing, though you might not think so at this moment, because unless you deal with them you cannot heal. When these demons of fear arise in you, you can confront them, accept them, make friends with them, make them your allies, and you will ultimately transcend them. The more open and vulnerable you can be with your partner, the more your trust in each other will grow.

You hold your sexual destiny within yourself. This does not happen overnight. In trust and openness it means you need to let go of defenses. For this to happen you need to feel protected and secure. To do this you need a place where you feel comfortable and special.

Tips For Overcoming Sexual Blocks

General Principles On Spirituality & Mindful Sex

You will want to earn how to prepare and enjoy the atmosphere you want to experience your lovemaking in. For most of you, you are going to be pleasing your partner as well, so keep his/her likes and desires in mind while you are doing this, though once you are together inside your sacred space, he/she isn't going to notice much but your body and how delightful he/she feels being with you. You are setting the stage for the delights, enjoyment, and LOVE to come.

While I have experienced amazing sex magic in making love I think the benefit of sex magic as a personal healing tool for the individual and the couple can be over looked. The energy and openness (at least on a very basic level) can lead to shift blocks and unresolved problems. Whether they be of a physical nature spiritual mental or sexual. I do not mean to say that to heal anyone with these problems you have to have sex with them. However, it may help.

If that is both your honest intention, but to all parties concerned that is what it must be. I more refer to the use of magic within a loving relationship, however that may be with your other partner(s). The magic of sexual union of all kinds has been used for untold reasons for thousands of years. It's power comes from what is divine. This type of union is very powerful and can be amazing fun. Visions may be seen enjoy then interpret later. Opening yourself to another if a wonderful sharing experience. There is no such thing as just sex. All life is magical. And so all life is three fold. Think about it.

Tantric Sex Ceremonies

Buddhist Mindfulness

Kama Sutra / Tantra DVDs