Vaginal Sex            Tips & Tools Great vaginal sex consists of many different aspects; all of which combine to make this beautiful act really pleasurable. Whether you are using a penis or dildo there are some basic tips and tools that I will review so that you can better enjoy teasing and stimulating the beautiful "goddess flower."

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Clitoris Appetizer

Many women will agree with me when I say that you cannot go wrong when you play with the clitoris first. That sweet, pink, little pleasure button offers so much stimulation and encourages natural lubricants to be excreted when stimulated. One of my personal favorites is using a vibrator to stimulate my clitoris until I have an orgasm and then have vaginal intercourse.

Not only does it send lots of blood to the vaginal area for added stimulation, fills the skenes glands with female ejaculate that is ready to be expelled, but also creates swelling of the vaginal walls making a more pleasureful snug sensation for my hubby, but also the "pressure" of whether or not I have had an orgasm is no longer and issue! A really nice way to begin!

Here are my favorite items that I love to use for this purpose-

	Waterdancer Small, Quiet, Powerful & Waterproof! More Information			Butterfly Pearl Hypoallergenic, clitoral - gspot stimulation & Lights up! More Information
	ID Pleasure Arousal Gel More Information			Liquid V Arousal Gel For Her More Information
	Waterproof Throws Brand New For Protecting Your Sheets More Information			Tickle Bell Clitoral Heaven More Information
	Layaspot Waterproof & Available In Many Colors! More Information			Double Cock Ring Use with a penis or dildo! More Information
	Pearl Thunder Bigger, Stronger & It Lights Up! More Information			Rabbit Habit Cordless More Information
	Hitachi Magic Wand With Cool Attachments More Information			Mini Dream Small, Powerful! More Information
	ForPlay Lubes The Best Tasting Out There & We've Looked! More Information			Vibratex Honey Bear Small & Powerful! More Information
	Liberator Shapes Great For Sexual Enhancing Sexual Positions! More Information			Bedazzle Smooth, Cordless Anal Pleasure! More Information

Position, Not Size Is Most Important

Sexual intercourse is often a place where women find it more challenging to have an orgasm. Positioning may be a very important factor in allowing a woman to climax. As many of you know women have a beautifully "nerve-rich" spot that is created by the Skenes glands under the vaginal wall often referred to as the G-spot.

Often people think that it is rubbing the G-spot that is most pleasureful, when actually it is pressure up into the G-spot that is the most stimulating. Thus, the angle of the the finger, penis, or toy is important so that it is not just simply grazing the G-spot but pushing against it. For more on producing female ejaculation from G-spot, clitoral and other sexual play, make sure to read more about it in my Female Ejaculation Article.

For those men out there who are concerned about the size of your penis, you will delight to know that a woman's ability to have a g-spot orgasm is not as directly linked to the size of your penis as it is to the way that it is putting pressure against it. Thus, the angle of sexual intercourse is very important! That is why we carry Liberator Shapes™ for those of you who want assistance in getting the best positions for G-spot, anal and other orgasms.

Check Them Out-

Liberator Shapes Sexual Position Pillows	Waterproof Throws 5 x 6 Feet	Furniture Geared For Sexual Play

Because all women and men are shaped slightly differently (some women's G-spots are higher or more angled than others, while some men's penises are more curved or longer than others) you will have the fun of finding out what the best position is for you only through experimentation. Getting a book that reviews various positions is included when you purchase our Liberator Shapes™, but you can also get such information through videos or books like the ones we have listed below-

Kama Sutra's Sexual Positions Book	Ultimate Sex Book
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Lubricants

Let's face it... lubricants make everything feel so good! Whether you are using a sex toy or grinding up against your lover you can always have more fun when you use it.

Lubricants make sex toys and sex play not only feel better, but also more safe. Think about what happens when you're having sex: the body creates natural lubrication so you and your partner don't hurt each other with too much friction. While your body can make a lot of it (especially with female ejaculation) the kind of "slickness" that lubricants provide can be very hot! The same logic applies to using toys, either with a partner or during solo play. Really, I don't think there's such thing as too much lubrication.

Use a water-based lubricant (we recommend Kama Sutra's Love Liquid shown below) and tenderly massage the clitoris while slowly rocking back and forth, thrusting the penis gently in and out.

Being comfortable, relaxed, and stimulated properly is the key for some women to becoming orgasmic. Women who would like a little extra stimulation can also try Vibrafem, a high-market lubricant containing
L-Arginine. L-Arginine is a nonessential amino acid which, through clinical testing, has been shown to enhance sexual arousal in women.

Vibrafem also contains Menthol which facilitates sexual arousal when applied to the clitoris. Vibrafem is intended to aid in stimulating the clitoris to increase the duration and intensity of your orgasm. Vibrafem may also aid women who have difficulty experiencing orgasm.

Remember that if you apply this and are having vaginal intercourse it will rub off on your partner as well, providing him with tingly sensations too!

For men who are really turned on by their partners and have difficulty keeping themselves from ejaculating earlier than they would desire, there is a great product out called "Stay Hard."

Sta-Hard® desensitizing lubricant provides greater staying power and prolongs the sexual pleasure of both partners. The lubricant is clear and odorless.

Men simply apply a small amount to head and shaft of their penis before intercourse, and wash it off afterward. Sta-Hard's active ingredient is Benzocaine, 7.5% in a water washable base. It also contains Carbomer, Polyethylene Glycol.

These ingredients make it easier for men to prevent ejaculation. I highly recommend use with a condom as common sense dictates that if it rubs off on your female partner it will decrease sensation for her as well! Plus a condom will also decrease sensitization.

Our Favorite All Around Lubricants

	Cocktail Lubricants By Doc Johnson- Cosmopolitan & More More Information			ID Lubricant Flavored & Silicone Lubricants More Information
	Astroglide Waterbased, Plain, Strawberry, Anal, Warming More Information			ForPlay Lube Best Tasting Lubricant! More Information
	Wet Lubricants Includes Warming, Flavored, Waterbased & Silicone Lubes & Massage Oils! More Information			ID Pleasure Arousal Gel More Information
	Vibrafem Stimulator Cream More Information			Erection Cream Maintain Erections! More Information
	System Jo Warming Lube More Information			Kama Sutra Massage Massage Oils Massage Creams Article On Massage More Information
	Mediterranean Moisture Waterbased, Light More Information			Liquid V Arousal Gel For Her More Information
	Edible Massage Oils Good For The Skin & Great For The Tongue More Information			Astroglide Anal Shooters Anal Lubricant More Information
	Sex Toy Cleaners Disinfect Your Sex Toys More Information			Erotic Toy Cleaner Antibacterial & Waterbased More Information

Thrusting During Vaginal Intercourse

Hard thrusting does not necessarily mean more fun. It really depends on several factors. How aroused and lubricated a woman is, the level of the mood, the position, and the fit of a mans penis and woman's vagina are all factors.

For example, the wrong time to thrust hard is when the penis is painfully pushing into a woman's cervix, or tearing her inner lips because of tightness or dryness. A great time to thrust is when she is screaming harder, harder! Hee, hee!

Many couples enjoy insertion and then a simple rocking back and forth. This can be extremely satisfying because it allows both partners to relax with one another. Other couples enjoy shallow thrusting because it provides a great deal of mutual stimulation while there are also times when you just want to rock-n-roll with some hard-core f*cking!

The important thing here is communication... males should ask how things feel as far as intensity and women should let their lover know if they want it slower, faster, harder or softer.

Whatever you prefer in the moment, remember that the most sensitive nerve endings in the vagina are near the opening, and therefore constant stimulation of that area can be gratifying. For the male, shallow penetration allows constant stimulation of the head of the penis and specifically the frenulum which are both squeezed by the vaginal muscles located near the vaginal opening.

Below is a realistic dildo that allows a man to double penetrate his partner (orally & vaginally, anally & vaginally). It is certainly a fun addition!

No matter how you decide what positions, toys, etc. to have during vaginal intercourse, the most important tip is to of course relax, and enjoy!