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To Choose The Best Vibrator For You
are the most popular sex toy around. The pulsating hum placed
against a sensitive body part such as a nipple, clitoris, penis,
or even that delicate anus can be riveting!
you know women can achieve orgasms up to ten times faster by
using a vibrator on her most sensitive body part… the clit.
It's true! In addition, a woman who uses a vibrator before having
sex is more likely to have multiple orgasms from penetration.
The vibration from the vibrator increases blood flow and engorges
the vaginal walls and g-spot allowing for more intense pleasure
and the likelihood of breathtaking orgasms!
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist & Sexuality Expert
CEO & Founder of
Holistic Wisdom, Inc. & NAASAS
Copyright © Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
Men also benefit from vibrators as they enhance blood flow to
the penis and can make erections more firm. They also help with
erectile dysfunction and disabilities as they provide stimulation
on a level that manual stimulation cannot reproduce.
are also great for people who experience lack of sex drive.
This is because vibrators stimulate blood flow and increase
feelings of pleasure in the sex organs in a manner that sends
messages to the brain saying "hey this feels awesome… I want
variety and capabilities of today's vibrators is astonishing.
Low cost and high powered vibrators are easily obtained from
the privacy of your own home and are a must have for the solo
masturbation session to the passionate exchange of couples.
there are so many to choose from and finding the right one can
feel overwhelming. That is why you will find an easy to follow
guide below to help you take the guess work out of it and get
you on your way to the fun stuff!
Sex Toy Warning
most important thing to make sure of is that your vibrator is
toxin and phthalate free (a toxin found in many sex toys). Rest
assured, we only sell nontoxic sex toys to make any order you
place with us easy, discreet and safe.
sex toy stores still sell products with phthalates and even
lead in them. We are dedicated to selling only nontoxic sex
toys because we value your health and well-being. In fact, we
started our business in June of 2000 and have been working ever
since to empower people when it comes to sex. We are the sexual
pioneers that started the movement for healthier sex toys and
are the founders of the National Association for the Advancement
of Science & Art in Sexuality - NAASAS.org, which helps the
entire industry to serve you better because you deserve it!
are a lot of vibrators that are made
as a novelty and break easily so it is important to choose wisely,
selecting from a reputable store with high quality products like
ours. Another important thing when buying a vibrator online is knowing
the SIZE. Please refer to our measurements outlined by each of the
products so that you do not get something that is too big or small.
Sometimes it is hard to gage what is the best size. I remember ordering
my first dildo online and then getting one that was supposed to
be "realistic" and ended up thinking that King Kong himself would
be envious when I saw how big it actually was!
I suggest using a simple test of finger width or vegetable testing
before deciding on a width or length. Using your fingers or a vegetable
like a carrot or cucumber may help you decide what width and length
should certainly wash anything you insert in any orifice of your
body prior and then take some time to determine what will bring
you the most pleasure. You can also have a partner assist in either
exercise for a fun sexual adventure!
remember the difference between circumference and diameter when
assessing how large your sex toy is going to be.
Vs. Total Length
sex toys have various dimensions listed so that you can fully understand
how large or small a sex toy actually is and ensure that you are
getting what you desire. Therefore, make sure to note where it says
the dimensions of the insertable versus the total length of a product.
powerful do you want your vibrator to be? Power can make
all the difference in the world. It affects the intensity
of stimulation and can mean the difference between reaching
orgasm and not. Some vibrators are more powerful than others.
There are two factors that will affect the power of a vibrator;
how many volts it uses and the motor and components. The
volts can be determined by how many batteries are required
or if it is electric or rechargeable, you can assume that
it is 120 volt (for a plug made for US outlets). Some products
are made to be more durable than others. Typically, the
better quality materials a product is made from the better
the components and motor will be. We provide ratings on
each product page to let you know how powerful and quiet
a sex toy is so that you know before you purchase it.
some companies charge a lot of money for products regardless
of quality, you can easily determine what are the higher
quality products on our website. You can choose a high quality
product by the price and through our sex
toy materials guide that outlines why the materials
of the products we offer are better than others. The old
adage of you get what you pay for is true on our web sites.
the power of vibrators, it is important to recognize that battery
operated vibrators are less powerful than electric vibrators that
plug in. Also, rotating vibrators are sensitive to too much pressure
on them that can keep them from working properly.
If you have
a rotating vibrator like many of the dual
action vibrators you may notice that if you clench or grip the
rotating shaft too hard it may stop working. These types of toys
are intended for rotating inside when someone is relaxed and while
they can withstand some pressure, they are not intended to be used
under a great deal of pressure. If you clench your Kegel muscles
around them, you may notice that they slow or stop. If you prefer
a rotating sex toy that can withstand a lot of pressure, then you
will need to invest in something like a sex
machine such as the Sybian, However, most people find these
sex toys suit their needs perfectly and understand their limitations.
Normal pressure on them does not impair their intended functioning
and they do provide wonderful stimulation.
our vibrators by power level through our Vibrator
Power Rating Guide.
Your Vibrator Is Powered
Do you prefer
something that requires batteries, is rechargeable or plugs in?
There are pros and cons to each-
Battery Pros & Cons
A sex toy that requires batteries affords the user to operate without
cords and provides a larger variety of sex toys to choose from as
most require batteries. These can be costly if not using rechargeable
batteries by having to keep replacing them. These can be bad for
recycling purposes if you use non-recyclable batteries and therefore
bad for the environment. We recommend getting rechargeable batteries
to counter the cons if you get a battery operated sex toy.
Pros & Cons
Rechargeable sex toys do not require batteries and are therefore,
better for the environment and less expensive to maintain.
Depending on the quality of the toy, they may not hold the
charge for long. These may also require long charging periods
and may not work unless fully charged; making it important
to plan on having it charged before your next use. Some
rechargeable may not allow you to use it while it is charging.
In Pros & Cons
Electric sex toys are often some of the most powerful vibrators
and offer a deep vibration that others cannot compare to.
You do not have to worry about costly batteries, the effect
of batteries on the environment or planning to make sure
your toy is charged. These can limit how far you can move
around (we recommend getting an extension cord). The cord
may get tangled or get in the way during wild sexual adventures.
These also cannot ever get wet as they may create the risk
of electrical shock. We recommend wiping down with a moist
wash cloth when it is unplugged that has been sprayed with
sex toy cleaner.
Out The Best Vibration Level
This is a question
that is completely subjective, however, we will provide factors
in choosing a vibrator that many often do not consider. You should
explore these factors before your purchase a vibrator so that you
will better be able to select the perfect sex toy for you or your
There are variations
to vibrators that go beyond just how powerful a motor is capable
of functioning. Just because something has a higher or lower level
of power does not mean it stops there when it comes to one's preference.
the pitch and noise level of a vibrator. The reason this can be
a factor is because often manufacturers will do everything they
can to make a vibrator quiet as that is how most customers prefer
it. However, in doing so they must often add sound barriers that
keep the vibrator from having the internal components vibrate. This
will impact the level of sensation that one can feel on the surface
of the vibrator and may reduce the power.
By pitch of
vibration, we mean the difference between something that is low
pitched where the vibrator gives of a base vibration. This is a
deeper type of vibration and often comes in the form of a larger
vibrator. It does not necessarily mean that it is less powerful
than one that is high pitched, rather it is much like putting you
hand on the hood of a muscle car that has a low bass vibration in
it's engine versus your hand on the hood of a fast smaller car.
They both can pack a punch, and can go very fast, they just have
a different feel to them and we refer to this as pitch.
have many different levels of power and this is dependent upon the
size of the vibrator and the level of power that it receives. This
is then impacted by the material that surrounds the motor as well
as it's location. A powerful motor in a silicone vibrator may get
muffled because the silicone does not conduct vibration as easily
as Elastomer or plastic. Therefore, looking at not only the power
of a motor can be just as important as what materials are used to
make the product.
of the Motor-
It is important
to also consider that if a vibrator's power is located in the base,
you may not feel it in the tip of the product nearly as much. However,
if it is conducting through something like Elastomer and vinyl this
may not be as much of an issue as opposed to silicone or rubber.
Taking into account all factors or construction is important.
Women are not
created equal. It is true, that some women have less nerve endings
in their clitoris than others, but this factor is not the only thing
one must consider when choosing a vibrator based on physical factors.
How accessible the clitoris is, size and hood covering can also
impact how well the clitoris is stimulated. Finally, some women
prefer different sides of their clitoris stimulated, while others
prefer direct contact with or without the hood covering it. It truly
comes down to personal preference and comes from time experimenting.
women to take time to explore their bodies through masturbation
using their fingers to determine what level of stimulation is preferred
as this will help determine what type of vibrator will work best.
Us With Questions-
We also encourage
those who are buying a vibrator for the first time or have questions
as to what type would be best based on sexual goals to call or email
us before you make your purchase as we are happy to make recommendations
based on your desires.
most common mistake that consumers make when using a sex toy is
putting the batteries in wrong. Before you contact your sex toy
store telling them that it does not work, make sure to check to
see if you have them in correctly. Often times batteries go in
different direction and rely on the cap / lid being closed properly
other tip to consider is to take out your batteries when the vibrator
is not in use. The reason for this is that batteries can corrode
inside and ruin the mechanical components inside your vibrator.
keep oils, water and lubricants out of your vibrator and keep
are one of the sex toys that women absolutely love and for good
reason. They are highly effective at stimulating the clitoris, nipples
and gspot. They increase blood flow to those areas which not only
increases arousal but also circulation and sex drive. Using a vibrator
is actually a healthy thing to do. Using them on your back has long
show health benefits and the rest of the body is no exception.
next step is to determine which one is the right one for you. Do
you want it to be a low, moderate or strong vibration? Do you want
it to be handheld or hands free? What about remote controlled? With
so many vibrators on the market today, it is certainly difficult
to know which ones to get. We of course are happy to assist you
if you want to email or call us, but take some time to read this
article to first give you some food for thought. There may be things
that you have never even considered when it comes to your sexual
we will cover some of the main types of vibrators in order to give
you a picture of what your basic options are-
& Prostate Vibrators
vibrators have become increasingly popular with both men and
women because they allow a couple to get more creative in
the bedroom. They can be used for gspot and anal / prostate
stimulation which makes them able to be used by both sexes
and in a variety of ways. The prostate is essentially the
same thing as the gspot in a female and why it produces so
you decide to use a gspot for both anal and vaginal stimulation,
make sure to wash well so as not to transfer unwanted bacteria.
Using a condom over them for anal play can make clean up easier.
You can also get a gspot dildo that is made with a nonporous
material such as 100% medical grade silicone so that bacteria
will not harbor in the sex toy. Materials such as Cyberskin
are very porous and even when cleaned can still hold on to
finger stimulation can be just as effective, the gspot vibrators
reduce finger and hand strain and are easier to thrust in and out
for an longer period. To identify what they look like you will find
that they typically have a slight curve in their shape with a pronounced
tip. Something to remember is that pressure into the gspot and prostate
can be more sexually pleasurable than just rubbing against it. This
is one of the most common types of sex toys and quite effective
at providing sexual pleasure for all.
are the most popular of all sexual vibrators. The reason for
this is because a woman's clitoris is very similar to the
tip of a man's penis and is the most sensitive part of her
body. For you men out there, you know that if you did not
stimulate the head of your penis during sexual play, it would
not be nearly as pleasurable.
stimulation provides amazing stimulation, increases blood
flow, circulation and helps to increase sex drive over the
long run. Some women find that they enjoy clitoral stimulation
while they are having sexual intercourse and use them during
their love making to increase their sexual pleasure. They
can also be used with dildos and are often available on dual
action, vibrating dildos. Women also often find that using
vibrators on a frequent basis helps them to not only achieve
powerful orgasms but to relax and feel fantastic in general.
most common types of vibrators are- bullets, dual action vibrators
(like the bunny vibrators which can also rotate), triple action
vibrators (stimulating the clitoris, gspot and anus), electric
(which are very powerful and can be used all over the body),
strap-on compatible vibrators, discreet
vibrators (that do not look like a vibrator such as a
pen, sponge, duck, etc.), waterproof vibrators (which are
used in the shower, bath, etc.) One tip on waterproof vibrators
- Always be sure to check if they are waterproof
or water resistant before submerging).
Vibrators (AKA: Vibrating
Rings, Cock Rings & Masturbation Sleeves)
rings and masturbation sleeves can be just for a male's pleasure
or for his partner as well. Often they provide a squeezing sensation
which encircles a man's penis and further stimulates through a vibrator.
Some men prefer the vibration at the base of their penis, while
others enjoy the intensity of vibration at the tip / head of their
There are masturbation sleeves that vibrate, but for those that
do not, men find that simply putting a vibrating bullet in them
provides fantastic stimulation.
Vibrating rings are very popular among couples as they can make
a man feel bigger, last longer and enhance stimulation (by his penis
stimulating her gspot while the clitoral vibrator stimulates her
clitoris). In addition, some triple action vibrating rings have
the added benefit of doing all of that along with anus / anal simulation.
sex toys have become increasing popular as the taboo about
them is wearing off. There have been studies that show that
prostate massage in men reduces the risk of prostate cancer
and is one of the reasons why men are now using them more
often than before. The other, is that men have become more
educated about their anatomy and are now aware that their
prostate is essentially the equivalent of the female gspot.
Thus, the pleasure that they receive from stimulating their
prostate and penis at the same time is much like a woman who
stimulates her clitoris and gspot at the same time. These
dual stimulations can make for amazing orgasms.
have also begun to appreciate the pleasure they receive from
anal stimulation. While some prefer small vibrating dildos,
others enjoy the stretch of larger ones. The best way to identify
an anal vibrator is to note that they have a handle or ring
at the end so that they are easier to thrust in and out. They
are also harder to lose inside the anal canal.
sex toys are often best when they are made from a nonporous
material such as 100% medical grade silicone, Pyrex glass,
stainless steel and phthalate free plastic. Avoid Cyberskin
and other porous materials as they harbor bacteria and are
very difficult to clean. As mentioned before in this article,
it can be an added benefit to simply put a condom over your
anal vibrator for easy clean up.
vibrators are not always about penetration as the anus (opening)
is extremely rich in nerve endings and that is why bullet
vibrators as well as vibrating rings that have anus stimulators
on them are so popular.
nipple clamps, suction and other sex toys are for both men
and women. They often have adjustable pressure and vibration
levels. They can also be used on other areas of the body such
as the clitoris, testicles and even the ear lobes.
have shown that nipple stimulation in women often affect the
intensity of clitoral stimulation and thus make it even more
pleasurable when using a vibrator on both at the same time.
sensitivity varies from person to person, so what may feel
like a mild stimulation to someone may feel intense to another.
Squeezing your nipples with your fingers to determine how
intensely you enjoy stimulation there will help you to determine
the right nipple vibrator for you.
men and women have been able to achieve orgasms from nipple
stimulation alone, however, one must take into consideration
their arousal level at the time and the sensitivity of their
nipples to begin with when trying to figure out if that is
something you or your lover is capable of during sexual play.
are portable music influenced vibrators that are designed
to be used in public or in private. There are different sizes
and some that discreetly rest inside panties to provide discreet
stimulation. Simply use with any MP3 or MP4 player or other
electronic device that has a 3.5mm headphone jack (including
laptops and cell phones). When they are switched to Ambient
mode they pick up the music in a room which means you can
use it dancing at a club!
On and Off Control
most common and simple type of control on a vibrator is a simple
on and off button or switch. These tend to be more commonly found
in lower priced vibrators where the features are limited. When choosing
a vibrator, it will be important to determine what vibration level
of intensity this type offers as it will be the only vibration that
you can receive from it. Those who are very sensitive to vibration
may want to avoid a one speed vibrator unless they know that it
is the speed that they want all the time.
that have multiple speeds are becoming more and more popular. A
person using them can start off on a low setting and graduate to
higher, more intense settings the more they become aroused. There
are vibrators on the market today that have well over 10 speeds
so the variations of them can be quite great.
vibrators that have multi functions are able to offer all kinds
of different sensations from vibration levels of intensity to different
pulsing and rotating features. There are even vibrators that operate
to the beat of music when a stereo or MP3 / MP4 player is hooked
up to it. The options of sex toys when it comes to stimulation has
held vibrators are rather versatile and provide a great deal of
control. They come in a variety of shapes and with different vibrational
features. They can be discreet as well as quiet. The sizes can range
from a bullet which is about a.5 inches to a wand which can be 15
controlled vibrators can add a lot of spice to your relationship
and are ideal for use in public situations. The most important
things to consider when choosing one is how loud it is. If
you are trying to be discreet in a public situation, you will
want to know this information first and foremost. The other
options to consider is vibration strength and placement. There
are some remote controlled vibrators that stimulate clitoral,
gspot and even anal stimulation. Also, men have remote controlled
masturbation sleeves that can be controlled through their
computer! The options are really exciting when exploring these
types of sex toys.
Plug-In Wand Vibrators
are some of the more powerful vibrators on the market. However,
that is mostly true for those that plug in. There are some
that are battery operated and rechargeable that are pretty
solid but it will be important for you to look at the reviews
and ratings in order to determine this as some are surprisingly
weak in vibration despite their larger size.
of the added benefits to these wands are that they can be
used with attachments that change up both the head and allow
for gspot stimulation. The most popular of these is the Hitachi
Magic Wand with attachments as it is very powerful and
effective at not only providing orgasms but even helping to
achieve female ejaculation. The Hitachi is a loud vibrator
though, so that is one factor to consider when choosing a
wand is checking the noise level ratings.
Buzz On Noise
of the newer vibrators on the market today are pretty quiet compared
to their predecessors. However, most good sex toy stores online
will provide you with a noise level that will help you to predetermine
what you will be hearing as you stimulate yourself or your lover.
Those who have kids or roommates are often concerned about this
so make sure to check the noise rating or ask before you purchase
the product if this is important to you. We provide ratings on each
product page to let you know how powerful and quiet a sex toy is
so that you know before you purchase it.
way to cover up vibrator noise is to use music or keep them under
the covers when using them. Also, keeping the batteries from moving
around inside is also helpful. Newer and upscale vibrators typically
have already addressed this and is why they tend to be quiet. Less
expensive vibrators often put a piece of thick paper or cardboard
inside the vibrator that went around the battery to keep it from
moving against the sides and causing a lot of noise.
Of Vibrator Types
& Ben Wa Balls
Wa Balls are typically weighted balls that are used to provide
stimulation as well as exercise the Kegel muscles inside the
vagina. They can also be used to stimulate anally. They were
usually hollow with weights inside that move around, however
with today's technology, vibrating Be Wa balls have become
even more popular.
Kegel exercise helps a woman to squeeze her male partner harder
during sex and also to have better urinary control. Women
who have children often find that their Kegel muscles need
strengthening in order to control urine flow.
can be rather small to very large. They are often in the shape
of a bullet or egg and can stimulate the clitoris, nipples,
outer labia and tip of the penis. The smaller they are the
more likely they are to use watch batteries. As for power,
some of the small ones are surprisingly intense so you should
not judge it by size alone. They come in a variety of materials
and colors and can be water proof or water resistant. There
are some that are also remote controlled, music based and
even work inside panties and masturbation sleeves.
you have ever felt Cyberskin or a skin like material you know
that they feel amazingly life-life. Cyberskin can be extremely
pleasurable and is a very popular material for dildos and
Masturbation Sleeves for men. They come in a variety of
body parts- penis, vagina, anus and breasts.
thing to note is that skin type vibrators and dildos are a
porous material and are more likely to harbor bacteria and
is why we do not carry many. It is recommended that you wash
them well with a mild soap and water and spray sex toy cleaner
on them to keep them safe for use. You will also have to powder
them in order for them to feel as they did when you first
got them or else they will feel 'tacky' to the touch once
they have been washed off. It is the powder that is applied
to them through he manufacturer that makes them feel so soft.
include penis sleeves, cockrings, and penis extenders. Penis
sleeves can be used with couples as well as for masturbation.
They come in a variety of sizes, textures and shapes.
are used for both masturbation and sexual intercourse vaginally
and anally. They can allow a man to have heightened sensitivity
as well as last longer. Those with testicle rings pull the
balls down keeping them away from the body, which make him
better able to achieve an orgasm when he is ready. Cockrings
alone can make a penis feel harder and bigger by pushing the
blood in his penis more intensely throughout his shaft.
extenders extend the width and length of a man's penis. Each
has different pros and cons to them based on material type,
vibration level and placement of them. However, the factors
that appeal to some may not appeal to others and it is something
that is best chosen with your personal preferences in mind.
Take a look at the different types on the market and make
sure to look at customer reviews, noise and vibration ratings
as well as materials used to ensure that you get the one that
vibrators can be used for clitoral, vaginal, anal and nipple
stimulation. They come in one finger and multiple finger designs.
They are desirable for their ease of use and for their versatility.
Most of the finger vibrators are not stretchy enough to also
be used as a penis ring, but in some cases they can be. If
they are stretchy enough they can also be used on a dildo.
Most finger vibrators are powered by watch batteries and can
be surprising strong for their size. They are great for all
over body massage and even using on the ear lobes and scalp
days it is difficult to say what is a traditional vibrator
as there are so many kinds. However the straight or slight
curved vibrator is what is typically meant when referred to
in this way.
types of functions, controls and materials used to make them
vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Some have
a dildo with a removable bullet vibrator inside them while
others are fully integrated into being a vibrating dildo.
They can be used with a harness as well as without.
types of functions, controls and materials used to make them
also vary greatly.
More About Strap Ons
most important thing to consider when choosing a waterproof
vibrator is to first determine if it is indeed waterproof.
To clarify, some vibrators are waterproof and fully submergible,
while others are only water resistant which means that they
are splash proof but not capable of handling being submerged
in water. The rule of thumb is when in doubt, do not submerge
vibrators come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, colors with
a variety of materials used to make them. Based on their design
they can be used on a variety of body parts including the
nipples, clitoris, gspot, prostate, penis and body in general.
They can be used in the bath tub, hot tub, pool and even the
ocean. If used in the ocean, you will want to rinse the salt
water off after use so it does not corrode the sex toy.
electrostimulation uses electrical currents to sexually stimulate
and is fast becoming a popular way to enjoy sexual pleasure.
Learn what it is all about, common myths, consumer alerts
and warnings, research and studies regarding health benefits,
tips for using estim devices as well as safety concerns and
more through our Erotic
technology also known as PulseWave light technology is a unique
combination of light energy and vibration discovered in collaboration
with leading gynecologists and laser physicists. These sex
toys actually have a pattern designed using pulsed light and
vibration to give women orgasms based on a woman's sexual
are many sex toy machines on the market. These are often expensive
and are made to order rather than being mass produced. There
are many advantages to using a sex machine as they take a
lot of the effort out of sexual simulation. There are sex
machines for both women and men. They are great for people
who have disabilities, are overweight or have sexual dysfunction
issues. They provide a level of endurance that no human can
match and can make for an exciting visual display when watched
by a lover.
thing to note is that there are many that are made by people
who have no idea what they are doing. There are only two that
we recommend and we have full information on those as well
a negative sex machine reviews available for your education
on them. Make sure to avoid people selling tools as sex toys.
An example of this are those that sell things like modified
drills and concrete vibrators as sex toys. These can cause
serious harm to you and it is essential that you keep yourself
and your special someone safe from such contraptions.
& Sex Toys / Vibrators -
the right lubricant is important when using with a sex toy.
Waterbased lubricants are always a safe bet. If your sex toy
is 100% medical grade silicone then you can use a silicone
lubricant on it, but if it is a silicone blend it may cause
the vibrator to melt (chemically break down). This is also
true with Jelly sex toys. That is why we always recommend
waterbased lubricants to eliminate any guess work. Also see
our lubricant reviews and our important article - Parabens
toy cleaners are a great thing to have as you know that they
will not harm your vibrator. They help to clean and disinfect
your products and keep them bacteria free when they are being
stored. They can also prevent the spread of STDs
and STIs as well as keep your sex toys smelling and looking