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It The Size Of His Penis?
seems a large majority of men are concerned that their penis
is inadequate in one way or another. Even though I have
tried to reassure men through our site that most of their
concerns are in vain, there is always the phone call or
eMail to us about wanting to know more.
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
heart goes out to you guys, we women struggle with our body image
too, and I know just how confused, insecure and frustrated it
can make us feel. One of the biggest concerns heterosexual men
have, is that they are worried they are not bringing their female
partner to orgasm and that it is the size of their penis that
is the cause.
many of you know, the male penis has a variety of shapes, lengths,
angles, and sizes. Just like woman's vagina. The key to achieving
orgasm for a woman during sex is based on a few things, so let's
need to have psychological as well as physical triggers that will
allow them to reach orgasm. If there are psychological
blocks preventing orgasm, those should be explored further
through communication and possibly therapy.
If there are physical obstacles, then looking at what to focus
on when it comes to a woman's genitals is a good place to start-
Importance Of The Clitoris
many people forget the obvious, which is that men and women all
start out female in the womb. Thus, we actually have the same
parts in different places. The clitoris develops into a penis,
and the g-spot (Skenes Glands) turn into a prostate in a male.
This means that men ignoring the importance of clitoral stimulation
would be like a woman thinking that the key to making a man orgasm
is through prostate stimulation. The head of the penis is key
for male stimulation, just as the clitoris is key for a woman.
Forget this and you will be ignoring the most sensitive part of
a woman's sexuality.
Angle Of The Gspot
I would like to point out that only 30% of women climax from g-spot
orgasms alone. The main causes of this low percentage is that
the g-spot is not as sensitive as a woman's clitoris and a male's
penis and female's vagina may not match up at the right angle
to have enough pressure applied to her g-spot.
One gentlemen asked me if it was because of penis size. My reply
surprised him... no, it is most often the angle. Surprisingly,
it is not as much about the width or length of a penis that makes
for a great g-spot orgasm, it is how much pressure is placed on
the g-spot. This can be affected by how her vagina fits to his
penis (how she is shaped inside and how he is shaped/curved).
It can also be affected though position and knowledge about stimulating
the g-spot. So, the real issue is that her vagina angle and your
penis angle may not be compatible
Why Do Some Women Like Penis & Toy
often talk about wanting width because with a really wide penis
or sex toy you are going to get more pressure on her g-spot. Women
are not as focused on length because a longer penis or sex toy
can easily hit the cervix, which can really hurt.
not as obvious is the downside when looking at width. Many women
dislike being stretched out to accommodate a wide penis as it
can hurt by tearing the vaginal opening, especially for women
who have not had children vaginally.
these cases, couples are most often having to go back to the focus
of angle. Regardless of whether a woman likes width, a man's penis
is often able to provide adequate pressure against a woman's g-spot
if the angle is right, so we return to the fact that size does
not have to be the end all concern here.
that most g-spot stimulators
are the size of a finger or two and are highly effective. In fact,
most women experience g-spot orgasms from finger and sex toy stimulation
because the angle and pressure is easier to control!
On What Can Be Done To Increase Gspot Pressure Through Angle?