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Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Hi Lisa,

Why do I sometimes cry after having an orgasm?

- Kerry

Hi Kate,

The sexual response cycle works like this:

1) A woman feels a slight interest in having a sexual experience and feels a
    "vague stirring" phase.

2) She may become aroused and feel actual desire for sexual expression.

3) She will experience excitement, during which many physiological changes
     occur, followed by heightened arousal at the plateau phase.

4) Then comes her orgasm, at which point she releases all the pent-up energy
     and blood engorgement that has accumulated.

5) She finds a resolution and sense of fulfillment.

All along these phases are indicators, such as change in color, increased breathing, swelling of genital tissue and hardness and wetness of the male and female sex organs. Throughout this process of arousal through to the "pop" of orgasm, energy is amassing and must be discharged. That energy may take the form of whatever the body is capable of releasing so that it may show up as crying.

Know that this is a perfectly wonderful means for letting out both feelings and energy. Crying, for you, may be your body's way of telling you it has completed a dance, or an intense journey, through sex. Be sure that you have thoroughly checked inside to make sure that these tears are of joy, not sadness or something else that may stem from a past wound around relationships, sex or your body image. Then go forth in delight that you can enjoy so much emotional juice. It's terrific that you can feel, express and know that you are truly alive.

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