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Men's
Fear Of Sex Toys
Will
She Like Them Better Than Me?
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If
you have been contemplating getting a dildo for your female
lover, but you are hesitant that she will like it more than
you... then you can rest assured that you are among many
men who worry about the same thing!
As
a woman whom has many dildos and has interviewed many women
who have them, let me assure you that there is little to
worry about. While some dildos allow women to experience
a bit larger girth or length, they are never able to replace
the sheer excitement of having a penis inside us. Think
about it, when a woman masturbates she isn't thinking about
the vibrator or dildo!
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Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com Founder |
Shoe
On The Other Foot
We
sell male masturbation sleeves called Fleshlights
and I can tell you that even though they are very real feeling
to the touch, the warmth, scent, and experience of being of a
warm, wet pussy will never come close. There is something that
only another human being can provide when it comes to sexual excitement
from visual stimulation, pheromones, scent, taste, and skin to
skin sensation... a toy will never fully be able to match the
excitement of a real life lover.
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Why
Men Worry
I
know my husband and I spoke many times about this. Believe
it or not we too had our insecurities about using sex toys.
We admitted to one another that we could not compete with
them and that we would not be as "good" as the
toy. After using them, we laughed at how we let ourselves
get caught up in our insecurities as the sex toys, while
really fun, could never compare to us.
This
fear is normal for men and women, especially because we
all have tender egos that need to feel important to our
lover, and honestly feel that we provide them with the most
sexual pleasure they have ever had.
Penis
Size Issues
I
have written a great deal about penis
size, and to sum it all up... it is not as big of
a deal as most men make it. We pass babies through our vaginas
so what in the world would make anyone think that our pleasure
was contingent on size? Trust me, while sometimes women
enjoy the extra girth or angle that some dildos provide...
we need, want and desire your penis!
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The
bottom line is that toys only enhance variety and pleasure if
you and your lover already have a good sexual connection. Even
if you separate out physical sensation with emotional and mental
sexual turn ons... the physical sensation of another person and
you getting off with each other is hotter than anything else.
My
vibrator stimulates my clitoris faster than my husband ever could,
but the feeling of his finger rubbing it gets me more aroused
for a few reasons. Not only does his finger rub me the right way,
it is warm and I get excited knowing he is touching me. Most women
do!
Women
love to feel desired just as men do. Having an erect penis inside
us lets us know we are desired, and knowing our wet pussy is getting
you off as well far exceeds what any sex toy could ever do!
Letting
Go Of Fear
The
best thing you can do in life is face your fears. You can have
a good sex life without the use of sex toys, but you can also
enhance it by using them. Your lover is most likely going to appreciate
your efforts to bring them pleasure whether it is through your
body or a sex toy. Simply being a giving lover in bed with a willingness
to be vulnerable, creative and caring is what truly makes a great
lover!
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