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Lisa
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Lisa,
After
nearly a year, I finally got my girlfriend to ejaculate. As soon
as she did, she was so happy and noted that was the best feeling
ever. Well two hours later we were having sex again and she wasn't
her usual self, by this I mean she was a little preoccupied. So
I asked her nicely to express to me her feelings and she said
that now that she has ejaculated she felt that she had to in order
to orgasm, and that she was afraid that I didn't want that. I
reassured her that her learning to ejaculate was my idea so how
could I be "turned off" by it. But no matter what I said I could
not get it through to her that having an orgasm and ejaculating
were subtly different things and one does not necessarily replace
or void the other... Any help you can offer me hear.. I feel like
I have opened a can of worms...
Thanks
-Jeremiah of VA
Hi
Jeremiah,
Thank
you for your inquiry. Some women feel elated and embarrassed or
even ashamed of their sexuality all at once. You are right when
you say you have opened a can of worms, but that is a good thing.
She has had something come up for her that is trying to get her
attention emotionally. Something perhaps about her sexuality that
she had been repressing and now has the opportunity to deal with,
face and grow from... thus allowing her to progress into her sexuality
even more.
You
should tell her of your observations and tell her that when she
is ready to talk about it that you are there. That you really
want to know how you can help her to work through any uncomfortable
feelings she has, because you desire her to be happy and to feel
free with you sexually.
Best,
Lisa
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