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Fear
of sex toys certainly applies to both men and women and
I thought it would be a positive thing to explore many of
the most common fears that people feel about them. Fear
often leads to myths and misconceptions and sex toys are
no exception. Below are just a few of them-
Sex
Toys Are Only For Perverts Or Sluts
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This
myth is simply in no way true. Normal, healthy people use sex
toys all the time. If it helps break any misconceptions we have
sex toy orders from every type of person imaginable. From accountants,
doctors, celebrities, professional athletes, to house wives and
college students. Using a sex toy doesn't make you "weird," it
helps provide pleasure, creativity and adventure to your sex life.
Your
Partner Will Feel Inadequate If You Buy A Sex Toy
The
bottom line is that toys only enhance variety and pleasure if
you and your lover already have a good sexual connection. Even
if you separate out physical sensation with emotional and mental
sexual turn ons... the physical sensation of another person and
you getting off with each other is hotter than anything else.
For
example, my vibrator stimulates my clitoris faster than my husband
ever could, but the feeling of his finger rubbing it gets me off
for a few reasons. Not only does his finger rub me the right way,
it is warm and I get off knowing he is touching me. Most women
and men do!
Using
Sex Toys Can Be Dangerous
Sex
toys are not dangerous if used properly. They can have very positive
effect on your sexual health. For example, menopausal women can
use dildos to maintain vaginal tone, staving off incontinence
and other sexual health issues. Many doctors and therapists recommend
sex toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm. And finally,
a healthy relationship with your body is beneficial to your overall
health. Using sex toys heightens your awareness of your body and
its functions, making you more alert to abnormalities such as
bumps, lumps or abrasions.
If
You Have A Partner You Don't Need A Sex Toy
Using
a sex toy with your lover can actually strengthen your relationship.
You need to have a certain amount of closeness to share this intimate
new experience together. Using a sex toy can be a good affirmation
of that closeness. If your lover doesn't think you need a sex
toy to brighten up your sex life, assure him or her that you don't
need a sex toy either, you'd just like to try one as a way to
have creativity and a positive sexual adventure that you can share
together.
Sex
Toys Are For Masturbation Only
While
sex toys are great for masturbation, many couples enjoy using
sex toys together, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation.
It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your relationship,
in fact it is quite the opposite. Again, the kind of couples who
are comfortable trying new things together are open-minded, intimate,
comfortable and trusting. Using a sex toy together is a good way
to reaffirm the strength of your relationship.
Buying
Sex Toys Is Embarrassing
We
certainly agree that most people do find it embarrassing. That
is why we ensure that our company will not send your order in
anything but discreet packaging. We will not contact you in regard
to anything but your order, and we will never sell your information.
You don't have to worry about racy catalogs coming to your house
or any other such potential embarrassment. We really care about
your feelings and do all we can to protect them.
Introducing Toys To Your Relationship
Start
Slowly
I
don't recommend buying a huge strap on with an anal attachment
for double penetration as a first purchase. It is key to start
a hesitant or cautious partner with something small and not intimidating.
Try a nice simple vibrator to get you started. Once your honey
is used to the vibe, you can move up to more adventurous toys.
Be aware that a traumatic first time experience may be your last
so take it easy at first.
Communicate
With You Partner
Make
sure that you partner is on board when it comes to the idea of
using one, and even after an agreement be sensitive to the fact
that this is a new experience. As with any new experience there
is often a level of anxiety which means that performance anxiety
can also come into play. If this should happen, use lubrication,
and integrate the toy after you begin to fool around. Also make
sure you have enough time to relax and enjoy your time together
this is not a good time to be rushed.
Be
Flexible
The
toy you or your partner have selected might turn out to be totally
wrong for your sexual personalities. That's okay, just put it
aside, try something different, be patient. Your partner may agree
to play with the toy, and then change his or her mind midway through
the experience. That's his or her prerogative. Be patient and
try again another time, maybe even with a different toy. It might
take awhile, but it will be worth the wait.
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Fear
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