Is Professional Exotic Dancing Right For You?
most important issue to address, is if it is right for you. This
is certainly a choice that one should come to on their own terms.
You will also want to consider that your family and friends may
find out about your choice and also contemplate how this may impact
your ability to get a job in the future. Also, if you have or plan
on having kids you need to take into consideration that while you
may be able to explain to them what you do as a good choice for
you, the other parents, teachers and kids may not and your child
may have to face the stigma of their parent being an exotic dancer.
being an exotic dancer can feel empowering to many, it also leaves
some feeling jaded. Whenever you work in a position that is based
primarily on appearances, it is impossible not to feel overwhelmed
at times by the superficial focus. You should determine if you are
the type of person that can handle that or if it may leave you feeling
empty or even resentful.
for the most part you will find that most customers are respectful.
However, you may encounter those that are looking for you to fill
an unhealthy desire. You should ask yourself if you are going to
be capable of dealing with some of the darker sides of someone's
are just a few of the things you need to think about before jumping
into professional strip teasing as it is important to make a well
thought out decision about what may be a potentially controversial
Exotic Dancer Terms & Types of Performances
are a variety of terms when exploring the world of exotic dance.
One thing to note is that exotic dancers tend not to refer to themselves
as strippers; rather they prefer terms such as exotic dancer, erotic
dancer, burlesque dancer, belly dancer and so on. However, most
of the clubs that they perform in are referred to as striptease
and strip clubs. Types of striptease dancing include burlesque,
lap dancing, table dancing, pole dancing, fan dancing and belly
dancing. There are also fantasy themes: such as schoolgirl, police
officer, nun, maid, business women, and even more wild performances
that include flame throwing, water shows and body paints.
Professional Exotic Dancer Schools & Education
are professional programs that offer classes and private tutoring
for erotic dancers covering a variety of topics such as-
Of Stage Name & Image
/ Nails / Wardrobe
Unexpected Physical & Emotional Challenges
is often surprising to those who try professional Exotic Dancing
as to how hard it can be on multiple levels. Not only do you need
to be in good physical shape and appear attractive, but you will
be dealing with bruises, blisters and other side effects of doing
things like wearing extremely uncomfortable shoes and working a
also requires thick skin emotionally as many dancers can be very
competitive and sometimes downright insulting not to mention the
club owners and those that will be hiring you. Additionally, customers
will be viewing you only in a physical way and this can sometimes
feel uncomfortable to inexperienced performers. Beyond all the glamor,
you may also experience rejection as well as insulting remarks from
customers and keeping your self-esteem in tact will be important.
the other hand, many women who excel at Exotic Dancing say that
it is one of the most empowering feelings they have experienced.
It is important to remember that this is not something that defines
who you are, rather it is an aspect of what you do and you should
always remember to keep this all in perspective.
will be judged when you are a professional exotic dancer and you
will need to be prepared for evaluation of your facial appeal, breast
size and shape, vaginal appearance (if dancing nude), body (tone,
body fat, skin tone), hygiene (pubic and anal) and your dancing
and acting ability.
Auditions & Choosing A Club
you are at the club, you should not spend time socializing with
the other dancers. Rather focus on customers so that you can
make money. After all, that is why you are there. Be respectful,
courteous and always treat it as a job. It will help you to
make money and keep any negative experiences in perspective.
you are turned down by a customer, do not take it personally.
Move on to the next customer and stay polite and thoughtful
as you leave. This behavior may even make the customer think
twice about having sent you away and they may ask you back later.
not feed into negative gossip of other employees. It is beneath
you to do and it will not serve or benefit you. Ignore workplace
drama, stay professional.
go on the stage in rotation, so it is important to make sure
when they call your name you are ready to perform.
boyfriends and husbands that say they are okay with you stripping
are fine for the first few weeks. However, jealousy can start
to set in as you are away from home during the night. Also,
his friends may start to make comments getting him upset. It
depends on the stability of your relationship and how well both
of you can handle this as to whether you should continue. You
should note that there is a good reason why most erotic dancers
Working Effectively With Customers
a male customer is with a woman, respect that they may not want
you to approach them for a lap dance. If you do ask, it may
be best to ask the female if that is something she would be
okay with as a sign of respect and leave if she says no.
if you don't make much money stay positive as customers who
see when you're bored and will not want to have anything to
do with you. They come there to forget their problems and your
job is to help them forget.
men are coming to strip clubs just for company, so be a good
listener and if they are willing to pay you for your time, you
can stay and and help make them feel better just by showing
your club allows double dances - two girls at a time, use it
to your advantage as sometimes customers who don't want regular
dances will go for double dances.
the hard sell with customers and start off by asking them how
they are and make light conversation. Don't just walk up to
them and ask if they want a lap dance or be pushy. Make your
customers feel appreciated. Learn their name and use it to personalize
it is clear your customer does not want a lap dance, nicely
move on by letting them know that you enjoyed speaking with
them, but politely let them know that you have to go and earn
some money. Let them know if they change their mind you would
be happy to come back.
discuss your relationship status with customers. You can just
say that you are their fantasy for the night and
leave it at that. Most erotic dancers have noted that men prefer
women who say they are single as it plays into their fantasies
but do not feel pressured to lie.
appear confident, even if you are new or do not know many tricks;
the key is being sensual. Move slowly, maintain eye contact,
be flirtatious and interact with the customers.
out your favorite songs beforehand, it will make a DJ's job
easier and you will be better prepared to demonstrate your sexy
skills. You can always give him a list with songs or a CD with
some songs you want him to play and remember to tip.
asking personal questions of your customers that may distract
them from their fantasy such as what they do for a living or
if they have kids. Try and keep things sexy, light and fun.
yourself and the customer-
sure the customer is coherent.
how payments work.
rules of touching.
propositioned for sex, politely let them know that it is
illegal and you are a law abiding citizen.
every song ask them if he would like you to continue as
you do not want the drama of a customer saying they cannot
afford the endless number of songs you have danced for them.
a discount if the customer will pay for a large amount of
time up front as you will make more money by keeping the
one customer than spending time looking for another.
may not want you to dance for them if they think you are going
to get body oil, glitter or obnoxiously strong perfume all over
their clothes so stay away from using them. Stick with a mild,
unscented waterbased lotion and if you use a scent. A soft body
spray that is high in alcohol content can be a good as it is
not going to linger like a perfume will which has a higher oil
content and will be harder for your customers to remove from
their clothes if you have contact with them. However, most customers
will tell you that they would prefer that no perfume, oil, glitter,
etc. rub off on them, especially if wearing work clothes.
carry tampons and baby wipes for keeping your anus and vaginal
area clean and well kept.
band aids, moleskin or other items that will help you deal with
sure you have unscented, clear deodorant to keep body orders
at a minimum. You will be doing some heavy physical activity
and will want to stay smelling nice.
down the bottom of your shoes with rubbing alcohol before you
go on stage to keep from slipping. Making sure that the bottoms
of your shoes are clean so you can keep from slipping and falling.
Putting no-slip rubber pads on the bottom of your shoes is a
good idea as it prevents embarrassing falls.
at least a few costumes with you and have fun with it. You can
even get something that can glow in the dark.
wear expensive jewelry as chances are you will lose it. Whipping
your hair around can send earrings flying and rings can really
hurt when using a pole.
at least two pairs of shoes. It is always better to get platform
shoes rather than just regular high heel shoes as they are more
comfortable to dance in. Also, you should buy half a size bigger
than you normally would wear to avoid blisters. As the main
purpose of heels is to flatten your stomach and lengthen your
legs, the minimum height is 3 inches to accomplish this. Look
for a shoe with a plastic one piece sole and heel. Shoes with
leather and wood heels tend to flex too much and put a lot of
stress on your knees and back. Make sure to practice walking
and dancing at home to avoid injuries.
clubs require thongs, however some topless clubs have rules
against G-strings as they tend to not provide enough coverage
to comply with local laws, so find out what the club requires
before buying many bottoms.
wear an asymmetrical costume (hem cut at an angle, one shoulder
strap or sleeve). Men unconsciously are drawn to "Bilateral
Symmetry" which means that your arms and legs are the same length.
An asymmetrical dress throws this off and you could see a drop
in tips from wearing one.
hair- the best thing to do is to wax, laser or use electrolysis.
Razors leave rashes and ingrown hairs. The best thing to do
is just leave a little hair at the top or remove it all so that
it is not sticking out of your costumes.
body makeup to cover any blemishes that you might have on your
body. If you do a lot of pole work you may have to cover the
bruising that it causes as well.
in shape. Think of it as an investment - 1 hour of exercise
a day = more tips. Low body fat is key to dancers that earn
the most and while you do not have to be fashion model thin,
you will want to be toned. Things like yoga and weight training
implants are not necessary as many exotic dancers find that
they make great tips regardless of breast size.
bleach may be a good call and something you can pick up at a
& Legal Tips
rules are different from state to state so you will have to
check with the club that you work for and may want to do some
of your own research. The general rule is that customers are
not allowed to touch you. Always call a bouncer if you feel
meet with a customer outside the club or promise drugs or private
promise anything that is against the club rules or is illegal.
Don't forget undercover officers come into the club and it would
be damaging to your career and the club for you to do that.
Leaving is when you have to be most vigilant so try and arrange
someone to walk with you to your car. Public transportation
is all right if it is a cab and you can cut costs if you share
it with other dancers.
give any personal information to anyone who knows you as a dancer,
including other dancers. There are dancers as well as bouncers
who will give your personal information to customers for money
or as a favor. There is no reason anyone needs to know anything
but your stage name. Don't tell them where you live or what
school you go to no matter how trust worthy they seem.
away from drugs, it is a waste of your money and will only impair
your better judgment.
Famous Exotic Dancers
notorious- Mata Hari, Gypsy Rose Lee and Sally Rand. New Burlesque
performers - Velvet Hammer, Hope Talmon or Cyrelle St. James Co.
and The World Famous Pontani Sisters. The pop group Pussycat Dolls
began as a New Burlesque troupe. Male strippers have become a popular
option to have at a bachelorette party and the most famous- Chippendales.
Strip Tease Products
While we do
not carry strip tease products on our site, we do recommend one
where you can get them and that is our sister site FruitsofEden.com.
Please note that Fruits of Eden is run by a separate company and
is not operated by Holistic Wisdom. Therefore, if you wish to purchase
from Holistic Wisdom please do so before leaving or bookmark it
so you can easily return. Thanks!
are some examples of things they carry that we do not that you may
find of interest-