Ask Lisa      Relationship & Sex Advice   With hundreds of eMails coming in every day and while I answer many, it is not possible for me to reply to all of them. However, I wanted to provide a section where we take some of our readers questions and post them on our web site so that we can provide answers that everyone can benefit from having the information available on our web site.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

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Hi Lisa,

I know that boys and sometimes men have "wet dreams." Do women have something similar?

- Kate

Hi Kate,

Yes, women have a lot in common with men sexually and wet dreams are no exception. In 1953, Alfred Kinsey, Ph.D. (well known sexuality researcher) found that nearly 40 percent of the 5,628 women he interviewed experienced at least one nocturnal orgasm (orgasms during sleep), or "wet dream," by the time they were forty-five years old.

Kinsey found that women who have orgasms during sleep usually have them several times a year. He defined a female nocturnal orgasm as sexual arousal during sleep that awakens one to perceive the experience of orgasm. He also observed that girls and women who don't have orgasms in their sleep, or who don't know whether or not they've had them, are perfectly normal.

Another study published in the Journal of Sex Research in 1986 found that 85 percent of the women who had experienced nocturnal orgasms had done so by the age of twenty-one... some even before they turned thirteen.

It may be easier for men to identify their wet dreams because of the wet spot from their ejaculate more readily found. Vaginal fluids on the other hand can be a sign of sexual arousal without orgasm and thus it is harder to determine.

I hope that answers your question, thanks for asking it as I feel that more focus on women's sexuality should be addressed.

Best,

Lisa