3) A marriage shall be considered valid only if the wife is a virgin. If the wife is not a virgin, she shall be executed. (Deut 22:13-21)
4) Marriage of a believer and a nonbeliever shall be forbidden (Gen 24:3; Num 25:1-9; Ezra 9:12; Neh 10:30)
5) Since marriage is for life, neither the US Constitution nor any state law shall permit divorce based on - (Deut 22:19; Mark 10:9-12)
6) If a married man dies without children, his brother must marry the widow. If the brother refuses to marry the widow, or deliberately does not give her children, he shall pay a fine of one shoe and be otherwise punished in a manner to be determined by law. (Gen. 38:6-10;Deut 25:5-10)
7) In lieu of marriage (if there are no acceptable men to be found), a woman shall get her father drunk and have sex with him. (Gen 19:31-36)
Think about how many things the bible tells Christians they should do and then take a moment to question why people think that it is not only the word of God (not the word of men inspired by God) and that it should be taken literally. It seems the dark ages when certain ultraconservative Christian groups were about political greed and power are not over.
Marriage Is For Procreation
If that's the case, then why are infertile couples allowed to marry? I, for one, would love to be there when it is to explained to a menopausal mother or impotent father that since they cannot procreate, they cannot marry. Such an argument fails to persuade based on the marriages society does allow routinely.
Same-Sex Couples Should Not Raise Children
That's an interesting one, in light of who society does allow to get married and bring children into their marriage: murderers, convicted felons, and known child molesters are all allowed to freely marry and procreate, and do so every day. So if children are the priority here, why is this allowed?
The fact is that many gay couples raise children who are adopted, born through artificial fertilization or from failed attempts at heterosexual marriages. Many studies have demonstrated that the outcomes of children raised in gay and lesbian homes are just as healthy as those of straight couples. Psychologists tell us that what makes the difference is the love of the parents, not their gender. These studies show that gay and lesbian people are just as capable of loving and caring for children as much as anyone else.
Gay Relationships Are Immoral
According to whom? Is this based on the Bible? When it comes to the law, freedom of religion implies the right to freedom from religion as well. The Bible should have absolutely no standing in American law as it defies our constitutional rights.
It is also important to remember that not all world religions have a problem with homosexuality. Buddhism, for example, celebrates gay relationships. In this regard, the religious freedom of those who are Buddhist is being infringed upon. If one believes in religious freedom, then it must be acknowledged that homosexual marriage is one of those freedoms as well.
Marriages Are For Ensuring The Continuation Of The Species
Considering that right now the earth is OVER POPULATED this argument is truly one of the most ridiculous. Not to mention that this would contradict the argument that Gays should not have children.
Same-Sex Marriage Would Threaten The Institution Of Marriage
If you allow gays and lesbians to marry one another, you will no longer be encouraging them to marry people to whom they feel little attraction; which in turn will lower divorce rates. If anything, gay marriage will actually help to increase the longevity of heterosexual marriage. As a heterosexual woman who has been married for many years, I can assure you that not once has the legalization of gay marriage in any state affected my marriage. The idea that it would impact marriage negatively is absurd.
Marriage Is Traditionally A Heterosexual Institution
Slavery was also a traditional institution. Enough said.
There Is No Proof That Same-Sex Marriage Will Work
Gay marriage has been legal in Denmark since 1989 and the rest of Scandinavia soon followed. The results have been positive. When the law was being debated 72 percent of Danish clergy were opposed to it. A 1995 survey showed that 89 percent of the Danish clergy now admit that the law is good. There has been a reduction in suicide, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, promiscuity and infidelity among gays.
Same Sex Marriage Will Lead To Legalized Incest, Bestial Marriage And Other Horrible Standards
This argument is preposterous especially when those have nothing to do with two consenting adults who love one another it is just down right insulting to gays and lesbians. It is no different than trying to claim that heterosexuals may start practicing incest or having sex with animals if they don't get married.
The reality is that a form of gay marriage has been legal in Scandinavian countries for many years, and no such legalization has happened. It's a classic scare tactic making the end scenario so scary and horrible that the first step should never be taken.
Such tactics are signs you are dealing with someone that either is afraid and lives in fear of their own sexuality or someone who wants power over you through your fear... either way it is a ludicrous point. If we listened to our hearts, not our fears, we would be much better off.
Convicted murderers, child molesters, pedophiles, drug dealers, etc., are all free to marry. Where's the outrage about that? This is an anti-gay issue and not a pro marriage issue.
Granting Gays The Right To Marry Is A "Special" Right
That is like saying that allowing African Americans to sit at the front of the bus is a special right. How absurd. As Justice Kennedy observed in his opinion overturning Colorado's infamous Amendment 2 (Roemer vs. Evans), many gay and lesbian Americans are, under current law, denied civil rights protection that others either don't need or assume that everyone else along with themselves, already have.
The problem with all this "special rights" talk is that it assumes that everyone is already treated equally, therefore any rights gay people are being granted must therefore be special. That is most assuredly not the case, especially regarding marriage and all the legal protections that go along with it.
Sodomy Is Illegal
Actually it's not anymore... in November 2003 the Supreme Court voted that "The petitioners are entitled to respect for their private lives," Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote for the court's majority. "The state cannot demean their existence or control their destiny by making their private sexual conduct a crime."
So far, we've examined the reasons everyone give for opposing gay marriage. Let's examine now the real reasons people oppose and fear it-
Not Comfortable With The Idea Of It
We all have the right not to be comfortable with things. However, if you live in a country where you are comfortable with everything then you probably aren't living in a free democracy. That is part of the compromise of freedom. There are going to be things that make some people uncomfortable with what you believe and how you live. For example, I am uncomfortable with racists and fundamentalist religions but I respect that they have the right to believe what they want to. I certainly would not advocate for laws to be passed that support my beliefs and infringe on their rights.
An interesting observation regarding the gay marriage debate was made by Bill Maher (Real Time Show on HBO) who said homophobics think that - "The only thing that a man should put in another man is a bullet." He also made the point that it is not lesbians that seem to disturb most people, it is gay or bisexual men.
It Offends Everything Religion Represents
Many mainstream Christian denominations, to be sure, and definitely most branches of Islam and Orthodox Judaism, but outside those, most religions are unopposed to gay marriage, and many actually favor it. When the Mormon church arrogantly claimed to represent all religions in the Baehr vs. Lewin trial in Hawaii, the principal Buddhist sect in that state made it very clear that the Mormon church didn't represent them, and made it very clear that they support the right of gay couples to marry.
That particular Buddhist sect claims many more members in Hawaii than does the Mormon church. In a society that claims to offer religious freedom, the use of the power of the state to enforce private religious sensibilities is an affront to all who would claim the right to worship according to the dictates of their own conscience.
Regardless, religious freedom does not just mean the right to worship with your choice of religion, but also freedom FROM religion.
Marriage Is A Sacred Institution
Who says? This is based on the assumption that the state has the responsibility to 'sanctify' marriages; a fundamentally religious idea. Here we're dealing with people trying to enforce their religious doctrines onto everyone, but by doing it through weakening the separation of church and state, thus undermining the Bill of Rights.
Gay Sex Is Unnatural
Nature reveals that there are 450 of animal species that demonstrate homosexual behavior and it ranges from displays of affection to life long bonding including sex and even adopting and raising orphans. Nature demonstrates that this is indeed natural.
Sex With Two Men Is Not Masculine
Just as there are effeminate gay men there are effeminate straight men. There are also masculine lesbians and masculine straight women. The point is that we all possess masculine and feminine attributes.
You might think I am masculine for being the CEO of my company, for knowing about automobile repair and you might also find me feminine with my need for too many pillows on the bed to decorate it or for liking chick flicks. Personally, I think that the show Queer Eye For The Straight Guy shows that many straight males could use some help!
Homosexuals Might Recruit
This is based on the fact that most heterosexuals are so repressed, confused and uneducated about their own sexuality that they feel scared when presented with something out of the mainstream. Homosexuals do not recruit straight people to be gay, in fact I would say that with all the Religious Fundamentalists out there trying to brainwash homosexuals that they are suffering from a disease and can be cured that it is the opposite! Heterosexuals try and recruit homosexuals all the time, isn't that hypocritical?
Why This Is A Civil Rights Issue
Did you know that homosexuals cannot make medical decisions for their partners in an emergency. Instead, the hospitals are usually forced by state laws or to go to the families who may be estranged from them for decades, who are often hostile to them, and totally ignore their wishes for the treatment of their partners.
If their partners are arrested, they can be compelled to testify against them or provide evidence against them, which legally married couples are not forced to do. Is this fair?
In many cases, even carefully drawn wills and durable powers of attorney have proven to not be enough if a family wishes to challenge a will, overturn a custody decision, or exclude them from a funeral or deny them the right to visit a partner's grave. As survivors, they can even seize a real estate property that they may have been buying together for years, quickly sell it at a huge loss and stick them with the remaining debt on a property they no longer own. Is this fair?
These aren't just theoretical issues, either; they happen often. Almost any older gay couple can tell you horror stories of friends who have been victimized in such ways.