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Hi Lisa,

There is a new book out in the U.K. called The Naked Woman by Desmond Morris that claims that he has discovered four g-spots in women and calls the other three the U-spot, C-spot and A-spot. Is this true?

Andy

Hi Andy,

Thanks for your question! I am happy to reply as I think this needs to be addressed. No, it is not true that a woman has four g-spots. The simplest way to explain why this is a myth is to explain what makes it a "g-spot." What makes up the g-spot are the Skenes (Paraurethral) glands. These glands are similar to what make up a prostate in a man.

When we are conceived we all start as female with an X chromosome. When a Y chromosome is added that creates a male and when an X is added it creates a female. Males and females essentially have similar body parts even though they evolve differently. A man's prostate develops from what once was the Skenes glands (g-spot) in a female. That is why female ejaculation is very similar to prostate fluid in a male.

Now, you wouldn't go around saying a man has four prostates would you? No, so why then does author of The Naked Woman, Desmond Morris (Zoologist) claim there are 4 g-spots? Well, there are a few reasons in my opinion.

1) Morris may be talking about what most sexually uneducated people think the g-spot is... simply a more sensitive, nerve rich area that causes pleasure. But even then, we would be talking about the clitoris, g-spot, vaginal opening and the cervix and we would call those various erogenous zones, not g-spots.

Other than those erogenous zones, the vaginal walls do not have much to offer other than a more muted level of pleasure. Seriously, it would go against the whole biological design for women to have many parts of their vaginal walls be high in nerve endings as 7-10lb babies come ripping through. I imagine that would bring a whole new world of pain! Bottom line, Morris is not talking about anything new here and having cutesy names for erogenous zones and calling them "g-spots" is to get attention.

2) Why would Desmond Morris, who is well known for writing scientifically unproven and often personally fabricated concepts write about there being four g-spots and naming the other three the U-spot, C-spot and A-spot? Because he wants to sell books and get attention. Outside of that, this guy has little to offer in regard to accurate assessments of women's sexual pleasure vaginally.

3) Morris seems to be amused by his own assumptions and feels little need to base it on any factual clinical research. Morris spends half a chapter telling us that women do their hair differently to reflect different self-images - short hair means an assertive, competent look, long, tangled hair indicates sexy abandon. Just based on this ridiculous take on things one can discern the guy is in need of some serious clinical training. So, apparently a woman who has short hair may not simply be doing it because it makes grooming easier for her lifestyle, or a woman with long, tangled hair is simply someone who suffers from poor hygiene skills? Give me a break!

In researching Morris' work, I found other books that make the same off-beat presumptions based on nothing but his own fantasy world. For example, Morris wrote a book called Catwatching, which is a book about his observations about cats. Being that he a zoologist you would think he would be better with animals, but it appears he is not. Morris writes that cats think we are their mother or sibling.

Tell me, how is it "known" that cats regard us as their surrogate parents or siblings? Did a cat tell him that? All the behaviors described as signaling that attitude toward us are behaviors cats display toward other cats as well as toward inanimate objects. Is a cat kneading a blanket convinced that the blanket is her mother, or do it simply because it provides pleasure and comfort responses? Morris might as well tell us that human's like hugs because they resemble the way our mothers cuddled us in infancy not because physical touch in general feels good! Honestly, I think cats let alone other animals are quite clear we are not cats let alone their mother!

Bottom line here, is that Morris is not to be taken seriously when it comes to much and with regard to the four g-spots... Morris should perhaps consider a new subject to write about because he is really off base with his latest book as well as many others!