Holistic Wisdom Corporation

Our Name Change Announcement
&
Responses From Our Subscribers

What we wrote to our newsletter subscribers-

Hi,

This is an advisory to our loyal newsletter subscribers to let you know that we have legally changed our last name.

Many of you are very familiar with our company Holistic Wisdom and know us as
John & Lisa Longhofer.

We are now John & Lisa Lawless.

If you are interested in why we have changed our names, feel free to read on-

When we first founded Holistic Wisdom, Inc. in June of 2000, John and I did so with the simple intention of providing holistic health services over the Internet. Just over a year ago we decided to focus on sexual health issues as we sincerely felt that there was a lack of helpful clinical information being provided while still providing quality erotic pictures and video to compliment the instruction and education of it.

It seemed that while many clinicians speak of sexuality as being something that is healthy, normal and nothing to be ashamed about; most of them were unwilling to "walk their talk" and provide resources that allow people to actually see the beauty of it through pictures and video showing instructional demonstrations.

As John and I are both very genuine when it comes to maintaining our integrity, as we see it as one of the main reasons we are here in this life... to evolve into a higher self; we took our decision to get involved in a career that integrates sexual health issues very seriously. We both came to the conclusion that not only was it right for us, but felt it to be an important contribution that we could make to the world through teaching others to embrace their sexuality as beautiful.

With that said, we were very saddened recently when some of our family members (upon hearing of our video "The Art Of Female Ejaculation," were not only in disagreement with our career choice, but have asked that we no longer use our surname Longhofer in fear that it may embarrass them to be associated with us.

We know that there are many families that have such disagreements, such as the person who chooses a spouse that the family dislikes, or even a religious affiliation. Many people are disowned or judged from their families for making choices that are right for themselves but are something in which the rest of the family disagrees.

The many family members who have been supportive of us have continued to do so, whether they have been thrilled about what we do or not. Personally, I feel it is best to do everything one can to maintain close family relationships as I value the special connection of family that only they can provide. John and I were compassionate toward our family member's reaction to our career choices and asked if we could still respect one another's differences and simply "agree to disagree."

It seems that these family members feel that we are a disgrace for doing what we do and find it immoral and unethical. They have distanced themselves from us and are insistent about wanting us to change our name. I must say John and I have been so saddened by their choice to behave in the way that they have. We were not expecting them to agree with us, but at least hoped they would not insult us or decrease communication with us the way that they have.

Hence, we have chosen to change our surnames, not only to show respect to the family members who do not approve of our career choices but also because we wish to honor ourselves by taking a surname that holds positive meaning for us and represents the optimistic and loving people we strive to be.

We chose the name "Lawless" to represent our letting go of boundaries that do not serve our highest good. We believe that teaching sexual health is not only ethical, moral, but very much needed in our confused and repressed world.

John and I have no shame in teaching others about sexual health issues and we are constantly reminded of the positive effects that our work has had in people's lives through the hundreds of eMails we receive every week telling us so.

As I said before, we certainly are empathetic to some of our family members view points as we embrace the differences that make us all unique. We hope that someday they will be able to return the respect that we afford them and come from a place of tolerance and compassion.

On that note, I want to reiterate that we are legally changing our names to Lawless and other than that all company business will continue without change. Thank you for your support, it is through visitors to our site like yourself that keep our spirits high in knowing that we are not alone in what we believe and that we provide some good to make the world a better place to be.

With Warmest Regards,

Lisa

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.

Here is just a small sample of what the thousands of subscribers we have wrote to us�

I say "sample" because we have been having eMails pouring in and they still have not stopped!

Names have been omitted to protect confidentiality and permission from each sender was granted to us.

eMail messages are shown in varying colors to separate each eMail sent to us.

Dear Lisa and John,

It seems that you cannot please everyone, so sad to see families divide over a beautiful subject like sex and sexual behavior. Obviously your family doesn't realize how many male and female's out there who are dysfunctional when it comes to sex.

It looks like some of your family members are a little narrow minded and have no aptitude for change or from the many benefits your site and "wisdom" it provides. You are probably better off without their input, and no matter how hurtful it seems, you at least have each other, and a web site that is an excellent source of information.

Please keep up all the good work that you do. It is always nice to hear from you and what's going on.

I support you in your goals. It's unfortunate that your chosen profession puts you at odds with some family members. Your mature decision reflects well on you, but the strain that others' attitudes caused is very apparent.

Best wishes for your continued work in this field. Perhaps time will allow the other persons in the family to develop a more adult outlook.

It's their problem, let them change their names.

Lisa & John:

More power to you. Congratulations. My wife and I -for different reason- have also been disowned. We are 53 years old now.) Our family is beyond our blood ( I know you know). Keep up the good work.

PS: no need to answer, this is just a show of support. One love.

Hello, I just want to tell you I am very glad of your choice...the article of which you are speaking meant allot to me...I just so happen to be one of the ladies that can have such a beautiful experience...and am glad that it was discussed so nicely. And I am sorry you have gone thru what you have with family and friends...I am glad you have decided to continue with what you believe. Thank you...

Dear John & Lisa,

I just received your email regarding you name change. I am sorry that some of your family has been negative towards you both. Let me say that I feel that you both are wonderful people who are providing important information regarding sexual health. Sex is a wonderful act that should be enjoyed; not be ashamed of. Please keep up the good work on this site!

Dear Lisa and John, It is sad to hear your news, but I am in support of your decision. I hope the best for you and John. Good luck Lisa and John Lawless!

I also think that it is completely ethical to teach what you do. I think that, especially with female ejaculation, many people have been wronged by the views given to them by society. I'm glad that someone is trying to help.

I think it is cruel what your family members have put you both through, but CONGRATULATIONS! You have not sunk to the small minded level and that's great to see. Keep up the good work!

Dear Lisa,

From someone whom you do not know, but can understand your choice. As difficult as it may seem, there comes a time within everyone's sphere where they must break away from the tribe. Standing up for you higher purpose is greater then caving to the pressures from those you love. You are on your path and your purpose. May you journey with love and light.

Lisa...

Keep up the good work that you do...if only these family members and other people could experience the wonderful things that the body can generate they would know why you do what you do. I know 100's of women and men that could use a good newsletter and visit to your site. Sexuality is beautiful...erotica is beautiful. and a place to go to learn about these things is REALLY needed and I appreciate your work.

Thank you Lisa...this is just great and honestly too bad about the family. I actually found your site looking for depictions of the female genitalia as I am venturing out to do some (classy) pen and ink erotic art with much trepidation about my family seeing my switch from an insurance agent to erotic artist!! (At age 56 yet).

This is the kind of art you could easily hang in your home...so thanks for the photos on your site, which I have earmarked for further study. You guys just go and have the ball in life you were destined to do!

Just keep going. You are doing NOTHING wrong. I fear that the relatives are repressed like most of the planet, and this is some healing work (sex and pleasure) that I have been contemplating doing as well as the art. so we are on the same wave length, and hey, your hubby is total eye candy, as you know!!!!!

Hi Lawlesses,

A terrific choice of name - maybe you should add "anarchist" as ur middle name. Let go those idiots- if they are dumb enough to disown you for such silly reason, they don't deserve any respect or consideration. Consider your readers as your family!

Dear Lisa and John,

I came across your web site a month ago and felt truly pleased that someone had the guts to express - and explain - the joy of female orgasm. To me you are actually pioneers in this field, and I sincerely hope you find the energy and support to keep up the good work.

Personally the experience of wet orgasms has been the most joyful impressions; I have had of the opposite sex. Actually it almost makes me religious - the pure liquid that comes from nowhere and seems to be able to keep coming fills me with bliss like the experience of eternity. It gives a man a lesson of the female wonder as the representative of unbeatable creation.

Whatever - I just want to express a reader's support and the hope that you will not give up!

John And Lisa

I commend you for your courage to respect the wishes of your family members that do not agree with your career choice. I truly hope they will now at least embrace you as they have before. As you mentioned family is important and respect is equally as important. Keep up the good work.

Please continue your invaluable work and take pride in knowing of the many people you help to reach their full human selves.

Dear Lisa and John,

I was sorry to hear that your information service has caused you internal conflicts within your family. I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for publishing your articles, the last of which prompted me to discuss what I thought was an embarrassing issue with my renal consultant.

I had a kidney transplant about 4 yours ago and since the drugs that I take to keep me alive and healthy, have caused a decline in my erections. Your openness and frankness about such situations inspired me to ask for help, which I have got, and now me and my partner are at it like rabbits again. I am glad you have found the courage to carry on despite what must be a very hurtful scenario. The very best to you both, and once again thanks.

This has got to be a very difficult thing for you to do and I applaud your bravery and eternal optimism. Your family has hurt themselves deeply by dissociating from you because of your healthy beliefs. That value system is puritanical and punishing, traits hardly representative of a healthy mind.

What is ironic and equally sad is the idea that after several decades they have decided, in effect, to take back a gift that represented your first exposure to an act of selfless love. They gave you their name when you were born without strings, without expectations. Now that your are adults, they seem to feel selfless love is no longer valid and thus retract the gift for the most selfish of reasons.

It never ceases to amaze me the human desire to debase the most fundamental concepts that are the things that make us human to begin with. Good for you. Congratulations on your new name. You are a model for those of us wanting to unshackle the chains that keep us from flying free.

Hi Folks!

Allow me to join the thousands of subscribers who are going to send a response to you about your career decision. Personally, I think it is not only brave but admirable in what you are doing. Selfishly speaking, your overall objective is to use your business as an income source as well as a teaching tool.

So I ask you...does this site and the services you provide pay the rent? Do you eat a hot meal every night before retiring for the evening as a result of this service? Do you drive a fairly decent car that's not on the side of the road more so than it is on the road? I can use many other lifestyle necessities that only money can make possible that I'd like to believe you get from your business.

If any of my questions result in a yes answer from you, then to hell with the family. It goes without saying that the people who have the strongest opinion about you are the ones who do not pay your bills. I have a suggestion for you. Show these people how much they are missing out on letting their fake image override their love for you.

Contact a reporter in your area and ask them to do a story on you. If a newspaper company agrees, why don't you buy a hundred copies of that paper and send the article to everyone in your family with your former name. Then send them a copy of the checks you are receiving to prove how wealthy you have become from all the exposure you will receive. I too, am ostracized by my family, but it is all because I am poor and they do not want anything to do with me.

As soon as I can afford it, I do plan to purchase your product and now I am even more inspired because of what is happening to you. I am one of your clients that desperately needs a sexual boost in my life for I have not interacted sexually in over a year. I need to feel good within myself and confident about myself and I'd like to believe your program will help me. I hope you will respond to this message personally and allow me to communicate with you one to one.

God Bless you both for what you are doing and keep your chins up during this moment of turmoil in what is considered to a successful lifestyle for you both.

Is there going to be any change or anything different about the site? The site is a good site and I feel that the format is a good one. Keep up the good work.

I'm not sure if this is the right place to tell you, but I wanted to reply to the newsletter you sent out regarding your name change. It seems to me what you did was a completely selfless act, done purely for the benefit of others. I'm so glad you felt the need to continue was strong enough to take what is quite a big decision. I'll support you always.

Well I wish you guys the best; sorry you have been through all that! I have updated your records with the new information. I wish you the best!

Hello Lisa this is ___ I have talked to you on the phone a couple of times. When I opened you letter I did not expect to read what I did. I am so sorry that your family has not been supportive; to me that is what makes a family.

I believe that your family is supposed to be there through thick and thin good and bad. I would just let things be with your parents and focused on making your new found fame grow. I believe that you have a good product and so do the other thousands of customers you have and will have.

People just need to have their minds opened a little to see that your product is worth investigating. Any Hoo I wish you the best of luck with you parents and hope things work out in the long run.

Hi Lisa,

Yikes! It really is a shame that some people can't see past it! My Mom always wished I had chosen another "better" profession, too! But I'm lucky, in that she never stopped talking to me over it.

I get your news letter every month I would just like to say if you believe what you do is good. Then why settle for less... it is like getting on a bus and sitting in the front as a black person years ago.

Hi Lisa & John,

Best wishes for the future with your new names, and in letting go some of the past. Sometimes I have to remember that the only difference between myself and others is time. I don't know what soul journey I or anyone else is on, or indeed what experience or learning that I have chosen in this lifetime. Hey we need to be different. How else can we gauge where we are on this journey in relation to everyone else.

It is sad that folks appear a little narrow minded in their vision, but as we all know that is a fact of life. There is a lovely saying (I heard it from a Buddhist chap on the Isle of Man where I live called ___) That goes like this:

Let go a little...
A little peace Let go a lot...
A lot of peace Let go completely...

Complete Peace Best wishes, for having the courage for "walking your talk" And love and compassion for all. ___ and I, one of many will look forward to your next issue.

Dear friends,

I found your last mail interesting - like your choice for a new name; I can appreciate your reasons, I also much appreciate your taking the time to express the philosophy which seems to guide your work.

I'd had a clue, though, from your Namaste. Most folks wouldn't have bothered. At any rate I admit I've grown increasingly fonder of you people for your Tantric awareness. We don't get a lot of that here in the barbaric West. Sex is dirty and sold back to us as we are bombarded with meaningless over-stimulation. Gratification, but no satisfaction. Same with food, substances, cars, stuff. From the deprived to the depraved is a short step. Capitalism and psychology are a union spawned in hell. Spiritual experiences aren't allowed but we always have Religion. Plenty to go around.

Anyway, let me catch my breath and wipe off the foam ... thanks ... love, peace and soul ... and of course, keep it UP.

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Lawless,

Thank you for your candid emails and information. I attend a women's group which just discussed our Sexuality, (step 4) & how it relates or differs from our Mom's sexuality. We discussed our society and our relative's conditioning and what happens when we don't respond to their closed thinking & don't get (our relatives) approval.

Poor, poor mom who couldn't even tell me about my periods, let alone where babies com from? Poor, poor women who refuse to learn and take full accountability of themselves. I'm sorry to say that my family has been very, very hard on me. Please continue in your education...there are many of us who want to learn, and grow & improve. We appreciate your efforts.

There is MUCH light in world....there is no darkness about our beautiful temples, our transporters we call our bodies. Thank you for your newsletter. Peace & Light.

Hi Lisa,

Thanks for your fast and fulfilling answer. The integration of love and sexual performance that you stand for, most certainly is disturbing to people, who never obtained the experience. So maybe you just need to implement more traditional terms of feeling in order to make many more understand?

Anyway - don't worry about the family, they know not better. Anyway this intermezzo has inspired me to bring forward an idea: In Denmark there are a few sexually oriented magazines, that might be interested in a story about your holistic views of sex. As I am making my living as a freelance journalist, I would like to try to write an article about the subject of female wet orgasms combined with a portrait of you and John. Of course this should be handled properly, meaning that you feed me with the material, you find the most important, whereafter I write the article and translate it for your approval before offering it to these magazines. It probably won't pay off very well, but I am more enthusiastic to see this "truth" published for the benefit of all lovers.

Give me a feedback whenever you like. (Still believing in peace of mind and heart)

Lisa,

I'm not surprised by the reaction of your family to your "Art of Female Ejaculation." A very similar thing happen to me approximately 20 years ago when I discovered female ejaculation.

I thought this was the lost treasure that everyone would want to know about and would change the world. I was studying and writing about Men's issues at the time and thought this was the true and natural sexual equality of men and women. My partner at the time was at least as enthusiastic as me and thought she had found the Holly Grail. I was soon to find out that the last thing people wanted to hear about was open and frank discussion of female sexuality.

As a teacher in inner-city secondary education, I was placed on a task force to try and find some solutions to the then alarming rate of teen pregnancy. In reviewing most of the curriculums of Sex Ed programs across the country, I was amazed to see what obviously was an intentional avoidance of the female component of sexuality.

The more I pointed out this flaw and its consequence to young and many times miss informed minds, the more agitated and uncomfortable professionals and educators became. While they were totally comfortable in or outside the curriculum with discussing male sexuality in sometimes graphically uncomfortable ways, they considered speaking of female sexuality with openness and candor an invasion of privacy and disrespectful of women. A huge and destructive double standard. Their discomfort was so great that not only was I ask to leave the task force, but if I carried on any more discussion with instructors or health officials about the discrimination in the curriculum, my job would be in jeopardy.

Over the next few years, I studied the relationship of Sexuality and Religion in our society very intensely. I came to understand pretty clearly that to discuss and explore female sexuality out side of pure reproduction is to turn the fundamental religious doctrine inside out.

Every paradigm of womanly virtue and purity was at stake. Even legal and non religious people in this society are driven to protect this doctrine at all costs. And that is that basically Men are sexual and Women are non sexual but reproductive. To go against this centuries old teaching is paramount to fighting the Holly Wars.

God bless you, this is probably what you are feeling. But you are doing a needed and courage's work. There are few that understand the impact that this work has on individual freedom and the strength of relationships between men and women. Keep up the good work and your contribution will be felt.

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Lawless

Don't worry! Many in this business work with assumed names, including ___"___". ____is my nom de guerre. As for the female ejaculation video.... It seems sort of avant garde and risqu�, now, even though "amrita" has been celebrated for six thousand years in other cultures, but we're all evolving quickly and I bet your in-laws et cetera will embrace you again before long.

Your web site is terrific. Keep going. I love it. My partner and I wanted to create something like it at www.eroticawe.org but you're way ahead of us. Please don't let this "little" conflict get you down. Fight the anti-ecstasy conspiracy, as ___advises!

Don't let the bastards get you down! All the best

I really felt the urge to reply to this. Whether or not it will ever reach you, I don't know. I don't judge, and I will never understand people who do. People think sex is so taboo. It isn't. It's wide, it's open, and it's out there. To find somebody that will teach about sex is so refreshing. I mean, how else are people supposed to learn about it? It's ignorance that gets teenage girls pregnant and spreads STD's. Not stupidity. If people don't know, how do they know any better?

I have ordered your e-book female ejaculation and I subscribe to your news letter. I am sorry to hear of your troubles. Your family should realize that what ever you do as a couple that is legal is great. I feel sorry for them, they are missing out. Keep up the good work.

Sorry to hear about all the trouble you have had to go through with your family I bet it isn't an easy thing to do. I think the way they feel about what you do is the reason people view sex today. We seem to think Good Girls don't do things like that. Guys see it in the movies and want it. We raise girls to be good, just say no until we say I Do. Then at some point it gets hard to turn the horney switch off. So we give in, but later in life the switch gets hard to turn on.

If we read the Song of Solomon in the Bible we find all kinds of sexual acts allowed in realms of marriage. I hope you keep up your work and someday they may see the benefits.

Aloha,

I am saddened at your predicament but gladdened by your courage. I serve in our Armed Forces and it is because of citizens with values such as you exhibit, that I will continue to serve and defend our constitution.

I like the last name you chose. I deeply agree with you. Among other things you are pretty right when saying:

"...We chose the name "Lawless" to represent our letting go of boundaries that do not serve our highest good. We believe that teaching sexual health is not only ethical, moral, but very much needed in our confused and repressed..".

Congratulations for the name and for nit letting some " members of your family" oppress you and try to push you back on doing properly your job. Thanks for keeping me informed.

Lisa,

You are a gem as well as you are beautiful. I am sure your photos do not do you justice. I can only wish to look that well all of the time. Thank you so much for the gift. I have not downloaded it yet, but I intend to do so tonight when my kids are asleep. No one has ever done anything like this for me before so this is a very special gift.

I hope that through the techniques I learn, I will understand my own sexuality and stop allowing men to make me feel like an inadequate lover. That is why I stopped having sex over a year ago. I must say, yours is the most intelligent e-mail message I have received in months. Just prior to reading your messages, I had to sift through about 15 trash mails that I just point and click delete. I even get to where sometime I hate opening my site because of that. Also, people I do call friends do mass forward of a bunch of "crap" from their friends and I have to sift through all of that too.

So please understand how excited I am to communicate with a real person who is actually talking to me and not at me. I hope you will follow my suggestion on getting some public exposure about your service. I believe it could truly get some real attention to include articles printed in magazines and media expos�'s. I, myself, wish I had known of you long before now.

As a Black woman at the age of 47 years old, I have never in my life experienced a natural orgasm without artificial stimulus and I want to know what a real one feels like before I die. I'm sure you know that women like me are not alone out there so, please, get the word out about yourselves. Tell me what you think. When I read about your relationship with your husband, I truly envy you and I hope someday a man will appreciate me far beyond any moment of sex he will get. Thank you again, and please stay in touch.

You go girl, and I totally support what you and your husband have done. Don't give your power to anyone. You have a right to do and live your life as you see fit.

I have been getting your newsletters for some time now. Let me tell you that my sex life has improved a lot. For some time my boyfriend would never get home early, but ever since I started using your tips in our sexual encounters, he has been coming home at five every evening. We are still working on how to get me to ejaculate but the process of getting there has been great. Keep up the good work.

Thank you again to ALL of our subscribers who sent us eMails listed in this page and others. We can not begin to express the gratitude for your support and enthusiasm for our work. Much love and light to you all!

John & Lisa Lawless