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I
was driving with my three young children one warm summer evening
when a Woman in the convertible ahead of us stood up and waved.
She was stark naked! As I was reeling from the shock, I heard
my 5-year-old shout from the back seat, "Mom! That lady isn't
wearing a seat belt!
Creating
the mood with candles, music, a comfortable area to relax
and let go is of course the best way to begin. After
preparing a space to be warm and pleasing, you can start
with a sensual and relaxing general massage before shifting
the focus to your partner's sex centers. The idea is to
bring your partner to high levels of arousal, and keep him
or her there for a while.
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic
Wisdom Founder
Props
Pieces of
(possibly fake) fur or feathers can be used for additional sensual
tantalization, and an eye pillow or blindfold can be helpful in
blocking out any unwanted light for your partner.
Music
Putting
a CD of your favorite music
on repeat play is a good idea. Some
people
are more comfortable with a pillow or
rolled bath towel underneath their knees and/or head (when
lying face up) or their ankles
(when lying face down), and some women will be more comfortable
with a pillow
underneath their hips; if this is your first massage with
your partner you might want to experiment a little or ask
him or her.
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Information
Lubrication
One
similarity between men and women is that some sort of lubricant
needs to be used when massaging their genitals: this will
make the experience more pleasurable and prevent sore spots
from developing.
One
difference between men and women is that one may use oil-based,
water-based, or silicone-based lubricants on men, while
one should use only water-based lubricants on women to avoid
encouraging vaginal infections.
Also
remember that condoms are weakened by oil so it is important to
ensure a waterbased lubricant when using condoms. Please be sure
any water-based lube you may be using DOESN'T contain Nonoxynol-9.
In this context Nonoxynol-9 is unlikely to do anything but irritate.
For
genital massage on men, or for massage elsewhere on a man or woman's
body, you can purchase special massage
oils at massage or else just use a light vegetable oil (such
as Safflower, Sunflower, or grapeseed) from the supermarket.
Lubricants
and oils should be reapplied as necessary, so it's good to keep
them handy.
During
both the relaxation and genital phases of your erotic massage
it's important for the person on the bed or table to always feel
comfortable making requests and comments. He or she should feel
free to mention anything that is getting in the way of his or
her comfort and pleasure.
Start
by quieting and focusing your mind while resting your hands on
the receiving partner's upper and lower back. Then, perform a
relaxing massage on the back, legs, and feet.
Basic
principles of relaxing massage include keeping your hands in contact
with your partner, taking your time, being rhythmic yet sensitive,
and proceeding from long gliding strokes to deeper ones.
Techniques
When
giving a massage be sure to use good body mechanics: use your
body weight rather than arm strength for deep strokes, during
gliding strokes keep your knees slightly bent and fluid. After
relaxing your partner's back, legs, and feet, have him or her
turn over. Massage the chest, arms, and hands. Then glide down
to the legs. It can feel good to brush the genitals when going
down to the legs. After finishing the fronts of the legs and feet,
glide back up and slowly brush over the genitals, teasing them.
This
teasing process can be drawn out by brushing the inner thighs
near the genitals, very lightly touching the pubic region, etc.
At this point erotic energy is often building, making it a natural
time to start shifting the focus to more explicitly sexual activities.
Especially
if this is your first massage with this partner, it's a good idea
to look into your partner's eyes while cradling his or her genitals,
and somehow ask his or her permission to go further.
The
rest of the massage will focus on the genitals, with periodic
sweeps up and down the body to spread, balance, and integrate
the sensations. One of the skills that comes with practice is
being able to read the energy and arousal levels of your partner,
and smoothly and gradually ramp up from relaxing massage to more
arousing and sexual massage.
Pleasuring
Your Partner's Sex Centers
Keep
your lubricants, oils, and gloves (if needed or desired) within
easy reach, and cover the massage table with a blanket and
place a clean sheet over this blanket. You can let the sides
of the blanket and sheet drape over
the sides of the table so that they may be brought up to cover
the receiving partner (keeping him or her warm) after the
massage is finished.
The
basic principle of male genital massage is that you should slow
down, stop, or change what you are doing just before ejaculation
becomes inevitable. The best way to accomplish this is for the
man to give a signal just before this point is reached. Verbal
cues, raising a hand, pulling away slightly, or even subtle body
language cues can all work well.
This repeated "peaking" process can sometimes help men learn to
have multiple orgasms without ejaculating, and can also be practiced
during solo masturbation. Although delaying ejaculation during
the course of the massage is desirable from the perspective of
maximizing pleasure, many partners do like to finish the massage
with one.
Ejaculation
provides a considerable spark of pleasure, but can leave men too
fatigued to enjoy the rest of the evening or do a good job massaging
their partner; opposite-sex partners who like to finish male genital
massage with ejaculation should have the woman receive her massage
first.
It's also fun to encourage your partner with hot talk (possibly
weaving together a verbal fantasy based on your partner's desires).
Letting your partner know verbally and non-verbally that you're
actively enjoying his pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
As
an aside, it should be noted that a nice feature of male genital
massage is that an erection is not required for it to feel good;
some massage strokes actually feel BETTER when the penis is soft.
Suggested
Genital Massage Strokes
There
are many different massage strokes that feel good on male genitals.
Unless he indicates otherwise, it's usually safe to assume that
firm and consistent stroking will feel best.
One
approach that some people favor is selecting two favorite strokes,
and for a period of time alternating between them every once in
a while.
Sliding
Stroke With
the penis resting on the belly, cup the balls with one hand. The
heel of the palm of the other hand glides up and down the underside
of the penis all the way to the tip.
Double
Slide Stroke Bring
one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the
way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile
bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat the stroke,
creating an alternating motion.
Teaser
Stroke Take
the penis in one hand and gently, sensuously caress it for about
ten seconds, then give it one quick up-and-down stroke. Repeat
the sensuous caressing for about ten seconds (perhaps using slow
up-and-down strokes), and then give the penis two quick up-and-down
strokes. Repeat the caressing, then give three quick strokes,
etc. Continue until ejaculation approaches inevitability.
It's
up to the two of you whether to finish with an ejaculation. If
you do, then pleasuring can continue all the way through ejaculation
and until your partner asks you to stop.
At
the end of the massage (whether or not there is an ejaculation),
the sheet/blanket combination can be folded up over the person
on the table to provide a warm cocoon. This can be a time of profound
peace and contentment together.
For
Women
Female
sexual response is often significantly different from male sexual
response, in the following ways:
~
Female
arousal tends to be more closely tied to emotional states,
and feelings of warmth towards her partner.
~
Female
arousal tends to be more closely tied to emotional states,
and feelings of warmth towards her partner.
~
Many
women can come in two distinctly different ways: through G-Spot
stimulation and through clitoral stimulation.
~
Many
women can come in two distinctly different ways: through
G-Spot stimulation and through clitoral stimulation.
~
Many
women characterize the clitoral orgasms as "sharper" and
the G-Spot orgasms as "deeper".
~
Women
often vary considerably in what type of sexual stimulation
they like, and how they like it done.
~
Female
arousal usually takes longer to build, but can often last
longer and be more intense than that which men commonly
experience.
~
Women
can often have multiple orgasms, if stimulation continues
following the first (especially with G-Spot stimulation).
It's
because of latter that the basic approach to erotic massage differs
between women and men. Since women can sometimes enjoy stimulation
all the way through one orgasm and into the next, there is little
or no need for them to hold back in any way. Having orgasms in
a series can cause arousal levels to float for a long time at
a very high level.
Suggested
Genital Massage Strokes
Women
vary in their tastes concerning G-Spot and clitoral stimulation,
so you need to be attentive and listen. A common preference is
for their partners to begin with gentle rubbing over the entire
vulva, to follow this with clitoral stimulation, and to finish
with G-Spot stimulation or G-Spot AND clitoral stimulation.
Please
be aware that neither clitoral stimulation nor any sort of vaginal
penetration usually feels good unless a woman is already in a
fairly high state of arousal. When performing genital massage
on women one often has a "free hand" which may be used to glide
over the rest of her body, tease her nipples, massage her perineum,
caress her face, form "connections" with other parts of her body
(by stimulating some other part of her body at the same time as
you are pleasuring her genitals), etc. Although the genital massage
styles presented below are some of the most commonly favored among
women, there are many more.
Clitoral When
massaging her clitoris, learn what part of it feels best to her.
Going in circles around it softly and rhythmically with a lubricated
finger is a good way to proceed, at least until you get more specific
feedback or until you uncover something that obviously feels better.
Once you find something that feels great, consistency with it
is often the key to further pleasure.
Some
women find that clitoral orgasms feel better if their vaginas
are pleasantly filled: more fingers or an appropriately-sized
dildo are good ways to accomplish this, though penetration of
any kind usually doesn't feel good to someone who isn't aroused,
so it probably isn't what she would want you to start right out
with.
G-Spot The G-Spot is an area on the
forward wall of the vagina, just behind the pubic bone about two
inches in. A woman can often tell you when you've found her G-Spot,
and it often feels more "ridged" than the surrounding tissue.
Pressing into it can be intensely pleasurable, but may cause a
sensation of needing to urinate. Female
ejaculation is sometimes, not always
a result of G-Spot stimulation; female ejaculate is NOT urine,
but IS expelled through the urethra.
One
easy way to stimulate the G-Spot is with your (lubricated) first
and second fingers together (possibly starting with just your
first finger). Make rhythmic gestures inside the vagina that look
like the signal to "come here". Alternatively, one can rub the
G-Spot in a circular fashion.
Generally,
it's the pads of your fingers which are pressing into her G-Spot.
Another approach is to rotate your fingers inside her vaginal
barrel with even pressure against all areas of it. Be aware that
the shape of the vagina changes as a woman's arousal level increases.
You'll
probably notice the inner portion ballooning outwards during extreme
arousal, which means that your fingers will need to rotate a little
farther from center in order to maintain the same pressure on
the vaginal walls. G-spot stimulation usually only feels good
when the woman is aroused.
Many
sexual difficulties (especially for women, it seems) stem from
worries: worrying that her partner is getting tired of pleasuring
her, that she isn't coming fast enough, etc. Letting your receiving
partner know verbally and non-verbally that you're actively enjoying
giving her pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac for her.
Vibrators
Vibrators
generally work best on or near the clitoris, nipples, gspot
and for men on the prostate in addition to the obvious use
on the back and other body parts.
If
the vibration is too intense, switch to a lower speed or
put a cloth between the vibrator and her clitoris. It's
OK to let your partner hold the vibrator.
Cocooning It's
nice to fold the sheet/blanket combination over your partner when
you two are finished. This can be a time of profound peace and
contentment together.
Variations
& Enhancements
Conscious
Breathing
Conscious
breathing is a powerful way to enhance both relaxation massage
and erotic massage. If the receiving partner forgets to breathe,
the massaging partner can remind him or her by breathing rhythmically
and audibly. Some partners find that synchronizing the breathing
between the two of them leads to wonderful sensations. Just don't
hyperventilate...
The Spiritual
Breath Work Exercise
This
technique for completing a massage was developed by the Body Electric
School. In the minutes preceding it the massage work should be
becoming more and more energetic, building and building.
At
a certain point (counted down to verbally, so both partners know
when it's coming) massage and any other touch ceases, the person
on the table takes seven very deep breaths, and while holding
the seventh breath clenches every muscle in his or her body and
rolls his or her eyes back in his or her head (possibly assuming
a tense position with torso and legs a bit off the table, as in
a "crunch") for about 10 seconds. He or she then completely relaxes,
resumes regular breathing, and the standing person gently folds
the sheets/blanket over his or her body.
For
maximum effect the music should be quite "cosmic" at this point,
and the person performing the massage shouldn't touch the person
on the table (who has his or her eyes closed, or who has a blindfold
on) for at least five minutes or until the person on the table
requests otherwise.
This
practice can provoke profound emotional release, and often hallucinations.
Afterwards, the standing partner opens the cocooned sheets, gently
towels off any oil, helps his or her partner to sit up, and then
both partners either keep silence or say what is in their heart.
It's
fun to follow this with a hot tub or a warm bath.
It's
helpful to use a prearranged and timed music tape. Ideally,
there should be five seconds of silence immediately following
this, and possibly during it. Music should have been building
to that point, and should resume with something really beautiful
after the silence following it.
Incorporating
PC Muscle Contractions ("Kegels")
Contractions
of the PC (pubococcygeus) muscle are associated with increased
sexual pleasure for both men and women. This muscle may be identified
by noticing what muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when
you are urinating (without moving your torso or legs); it's the
same one.
The
PC muscle can be exercised by contracting and releasing it; one
approach is to rhythmically contract when inhaling and relax when
exhaling. Generally, the stronger the PC muscle is, the more intense
one's orgasms can be. The PC muscle can also be repeatedly contracted
and relaxed at various times during sex (such as during G-Spot
stimulation, or during male ejaculation) to increase pleasure.
Men
can use the PC muscle to prevent ejaculation; this is done by
holding the breath while either strongly bearing down ("pushing
out") or tightly squeezing ("holding in") using the pelvic muscles.
Prostate
Stimulation An advanced technique in male genital massage is to
stimulate the man's prostate gland at the same time one is stimulating
the penis. This can be done with a finger an inch or two inside
his anus, pressing on the dome shape found in the direction of
the penis.
When
stimulating the prostate, you should wear latex gloves, have short
fingernails (or else pack cotton balls around your fingernails
and then put gloves on), and use lots of lube.
Part
of what some beginners find novel about anal penetration is that
it makes one feel as if one has to go to the bathroom. By going
to the bathroom pretty thoroughly before beginning play, one may
have an easier time not interpreting this new sensation in the
old context.
Pressing
on the prostate gland during ejaculation, or when a man is close
to ejaculation, can feel wonderful. It is also possible for some
men to have ejaculatory orgasms through prostate stimulation alone.
Once
each partner has sufficient experience with his or her own sexual
response, they may wish to try mutual stimulation. This is best
done on a bed, rather than on a massage table. Simply lie down
facing each other, heads close together, and pleasure each other
with your hands. Again, for men slightly pulling away or giving
some other cue when ejaculation is imminent will allow play to
continue.
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site visitors to hear sex news around the world.
Disney
Says No To Mouse Orgy October
2006
Walt Disney
took action against employees at its Paris theme park who were
caught simulating a sex orgy while dressed as Disney characters
in a video that has received wide attention on the Internet.
"The behavior
shown on the video is unacceptable and inexcusable," Disney said
in a statement. "The video was taken in the backstage area not
accessible to guests."
The video
shows Minnie Mouse struggling to free herself as she is grabbed
from behind by Goofy and then a giant snowman. Later, Mickey Mouse
simulates sex with the snowman and Goofy does the same with either
Chip or Dale, the chipmunks, as laughter is heard on the tape.
The tape is described on the Internet as the "Mouse Orgy."
Actress Tara
Reid had a botched breast surgery has undergone additional surgery
to repair the damage. Reid unwittingly exposed the disastrous
results when she posed for pictures at a November 2004 party and
her dress strap fell down. "I was on Web sites as having the ugliest
boob job in the world. I was devastated. And
then there was my stomach." Reid said she had liposuction on her
stomach at the same time because she wanted "a six pack." "But
it went all wrong. My stomach became the most ripply, bulgy thing.
I couldn't wear a bikini. I lost a lot of work. I lost my confidence,"
she said. "This was a nightmare I lived through."
Peter Kimani
and Jennifer Wairimu have pleaded guilty to the charge of having
sex in a place of worship after being caught at the Abubakar mosque
in Gilgil.
A worshipper
heading for evening prayers found the couple having sex after
investigating what the prosecution described as strange noises
emanating from a dark corner of the mosque.
Kimani and
Wairimu said they were too drunk to know where they were. John
King'ori, the senior magistrate , dismissed their plea by saying
that having sex in a mosque is a most abominable thing to religion.
Birds and
the bees may be gay, according to the world’s first museum exhibition
about homosexuality among animals. With documentation of gay or
lesbian behavior among giraffes, penguins, parrots, beetles, whales
and dozens of other creatures, the Oslo Natural History Museum
concludes human homosexuality cannot be viewed as “unnatural”.
Homosexuality has been observed for more than 1,500 animal species,
and is well documented for 500 of them.
‘America’s
War on Sex’ Author to do Book Signing October
2006
Marty Klein,
Ph.D, author of “America's War on Sex: The Attack on Law, Lust,
& Liberty” examines today's political headlines, challenges what
he believes is political hypocrisy and aims to show readers how
financial connections between government and religious groups
are systematically taking away their rights.
Adult
Firms Help Support AIDS Walk L.A. October
2006
Online content
distributor AEBN and sex toy manufacturer JT's Stockroom have
joined together to sponsor members of the music group Evangenitals
who will participate in AIDS Walk LA The
event is a 10-kilometer fundraiser aimed at supporting programs
and services provided by the non-profit AIDS Project Los Angeles.
Joone’s
Island Fever 4 has been met with a strong response from
distributors, retailers and consumers alike since its Sept.
28 release date.
The
company said it shipped record numbers for the title, which
is the first production to star all of Digital Playground's
exclusive contract stars.
Joone
captured Jesse Jane, Teagan Presley, Jana Cova and Sophia
Santi, together with Kinzie Kenner, Marie Luv, Evan Stone,
Scott Nails, Tommy Gunn, Marco Banderas and Jean Val Jean,
in 16 sex scenes in the three-disc, limited edition collector's
set.
Digital
Playground and Joone, the highly acclaimed director of Pirates,
are excited to announce the release of Island Fever # 4,
the first production to star all of Digital Playground's
exclusive contract superstars. Joone recalls his favorite,
"We shot an all girl orgy on the beach that is insane. All
of our stars, Jesse, Teagan, Jana and Sophia are ravenous
for one another. Each of them wants to be the best lover,
give the best orgasm and have the best orgasm. It was the
ultimate fantasy. I've never seen anything like it."
The title
includes 10 boy/girl scenes, five girl/girl pairings and a four-girl
orgy. It also includes a dozen solo sequences. The feature clocks
in at over three hours and the DVD extras run over two hours.
IVD buyer Scott Neumyer remarked, "With the combination of Digital
Playground's stellar talent, early preorders, and the phenomenal
success of previous volumes in the series, IVD has ordered heavily
on Island Fever 4.
We just want
to make sure we have plenty to go around to keep all of our customers
fully stocked and happy." The company also reported that the Island
Fever 4 trailer has been downloaded over 450,000 times since its
release on Sept. 1. Company president Samantha Lewis said, “I
always expect the Island Fever series to do well but the staggering
numbers surprised us all. Huge, record orders are the best testament
to our visibility and consumer demand.” Digital Playground’s Island
Fever series has received numerous awards from various organizations
since its debut. In 2001, the original Island Fever received the
AVN award for Best Renting Tape, among other honors, paving the
way for one of adult's most heralded lines.
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