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The Dean of Women at an exclusive girls' school was lecturing her students on sexual morality. "We live today in very difficult times for young people. In moments of temptation," she said, "ask yourself just one question: Is an hour of pleasure worth a lifetime of shame?" A young woman rose in the back of the room and said, "Excuse me, but how do you make it last an hour?"

Vaginal Fitness
The Benefits To Keeping It Fit & Healthy Through Kegel Exercise

Just as men benefit from taking care of their equipment and can do exercises to enhance their penis size and control, women benefit as well when they address their sexual health through vaginal exercise.

The Kegel exercise is named after Dr. Arnold Kegel who studied the pubococcygeal muscles (or muscles of the pelvic floor). These muscles form a hammock that spans the area between the anus and the pubic bone.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Kegel exercises help tone and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. These muscles are important for proper tone of the bladder, urethra, vagina, uterus and rectum.

Kegel exercises should be done by all women, but especially after the delivery of an infant, as a treatment for urinary incontinence and pelvic relaxation that often comes with the aging process, and for improving sexual relations by improving pelvic floor control.

Good vaginal muscle tone and control are important for several reasons:

SUPPORT OF THE BLADDER: Certain circumstances, especially childbirth and hysterectomy, can lead to a dropping down of the bladder. This can result in loss of control and leakage of urine due to sneezing, coughing, laughing, running or straining.

PROPER PLACEMENT OF THE CONTRACEPTIVE DIAPHRAGM.

REDUCED CHANCE OF VAGINAL INFECTIONS: By bringing an increased blood supply to the vaginal lining.

SEXUAL RELATIONS: Increased interest, greater participation and more satisfaction as it allows for better control in tightening the vaginal walls as well as have better control during orgasm and female ejaculation (although it is important to note that a woman can female ejaculate without having an orgasm and can do both without doing such exercises).

For more information on this see our book "The Art Of Female Ejaculation."

Tips For Exercises

In order to improve your tone and control begin by urinating with your legs spread apart. Start and stop the stream several times. After you have done this, get into a comfortable position when you are lying in bed. Put one or two fingers inside the vagina and imagine that you are starting and stopping the urinary stream. You will notice that the muscles on the sides of the vagina put pressure on your fingers. Experiment to determine the way of contracting these muscles that puts the maximum pressure on your fingers. Make sure you experience a drawing up or pulling inward rather than a bearing down.

You can incorporate this exercise into your daily schedule so you do it often during the day. Especially in the beginning it is important that you occasionally put one or two fingers inside the vagina to make sure you are doing the exercises correctly.

Exercises that strengthen the pelvic muscles involved in urination vaginal exercises are used to treat stress or urge incontinence.

Kegel exercises are done as follows:

~ The muscles to be exercised are the pelvic muscles. These can be felt by
purposely stopping the flow of urine in midstream and starting again. The muscles
that squeeze the urethra and anus are the ones involved.

~ Remembering what it felt like to control these muscles during urination, a woman
tries to contract them when not urinating. If the stomach or buttocks muscles
tighten, the muscles are not being exercised correctly.

~ A woman tightens these muscles for 3 seconds and then relaxes for 3 seconds.

~ The exercises should be repeated 10 to 15 times per session. A woman should do
these at least three sessions per day for it to be effective.

Kegel exercises can be performed while traveling, at work, or at odd moments during the day. No one will be aware that a woman is doing the exercises.

Kegel exercises are often combined with biofeedback techniques to teach the proper exercise methods and maintain exercise effectiveness. Biofeedback allows a person to see, feel, or hear when an exercise is being performed correctly. For women, this can be done by having her place a finger in her vagina or anus to feel it contract when the pelvic muscles are exercised. More elaborate devices can also be used that measure the pressure of the bladder and abdominal muscles or provide a measurement of the pressure within the vagina.

Another exercise technique involves using a weighted cone that is inserted into the vagina. The woman must contract the pelvic muscles to prevent the cone from dropping out of the vagina. A set of cones identical in size and shape but of increasing weight are provided. As treatment progresses, heavier cones are used that require stronger contractions to keep them in place.

Kegel exercises improve urinary incontinence in nearly 80% of those who use them, and improve sexual health and pleasure! Kegel exercises can build up the muscles in order to counteract any muscle loosening that occurs as a result of menopause.

There are no risks associated with these treatments. Kegel exercises with or without biofeedback techniques require a high level of motivation and frequent repetition to be successful.

Bottom line... toning your vagina is not just good for sexual pleasure, it's good for your health!

Ben Wa & Duotone Balls
What Are They & Do They Work?

Ben WA Balls are made from a variety of substances, including gold plating, silver, steel, plastic, Lucite and any combination thereof. They are slightly larger than a child's marbles. They are sold by the pair and are intended for vaginal insertion.

Duotone Balls are a variation on the Ben WA theme: metal ball bearings are enclosed within hollow plastic or metal balls tied together with a string. (Ben WA Balls are not intended for anal use as they can get easily "lost," while Duotone Balls are less likely to via the string attachment.)

The point of both of these products are that they are supposed to roll around inside causing a degree of sexual arousal. There are vibrating versions of the Duotone balls which certainly makes the stimulation more intense.

Ben WA Balls

Duotone Balls

Because they are made from hard, non-porous substances, Ben WA Balls don't absorb bacteria, unlike some Duotone Balls made from rubber and need to be cleaned.

Some women claim they wear them all day, experiencing fun at the office, the grocery store and even on dates. Other women enjoy using them for partner sex, and say their male partners love encountering the smooth balls during penetration. However, some women say the toys are little more than useless, producing a sensation so slight, they may as well not be using the balls at all.

Ben WA Balls and Duotone Balls: The Difference

Duotone Ball Material Concerns:
Silicone or plastic are generally the best materials both for their hygienic properties and texture. Latex is a good material but it is less than a perfect substance because it is hard to keep clean. It has some porous elements, and some women may have an allergic reaction to latex.

Arguments Against Ben WA Balls & Duotone Balls

Ben WA Balls are sometimes a disappointment to those women that purchase them. Ben WA Balls are placed in the vagina like a tampon and are often marketed to provide women with multiple orgasms while you do daily activities.

The truth is that women's vaginas envelop the balls, and you have to leap up and down to get them to move around much. They are not for intense stimulation, in fact they are often quite subtle. Also, one would want to be aware that laughing and sneezing can "pop" them out and make for interesting conversation if you were in public!

Arguments For Ben WA Balls & Duotone Balls

While being a disappointment for women who expect incredible ecstasy when trying them, it should be pointed out that the culture of their origin prizes the subtle and understated, not intense, quick excitement.

"Vaginal neglect" is common in our culture as most women focus on their clitoris for sexual stimulation. Ben WA Balls are designed to teach women to learn more about subtle stimulation in their vagina.

Tantra enthusiasts, Taoist sex practitioners, yoga and meditation advocates and other endorsers of spiritual sex feel that a woman would benefit by learning to enjoy life's subtler pleasures. It's rumored that the orgasms achieved from using Ben WA Balls are worth the wait.

Tips For Using Ben WA Balls & Duotone Balls For Pleasure

Insert Ben WA balls into the vagina one at a time. Use lube and lie down if necessary. Then stand up and move around actively for at least 10 minutes. For example, many women use Ben WA balls while cleaning the house, during their beauty routine in the morning, or during exercise.

Sitting-
Insert the Ben WA Balls into your vagina and while sitting down - squeeze your legs together. After the Ben WA Balls have been inserted and your legs are pressed together, start rocking back and forth.

During Sex-
Use them during sexual vaginal penetration which will allow them to bump into one another like billiard balls and create increased sensation.

Use With A Vibrator-
Use them while inserting a vibrator in your vagina or using on the clitoris for increased pleasure.

Lubricate-
Using plenty of lube gives the balls a better chance of moving independently, rather than as a group, so don't just use a couple of drops, use ample amounts for more movement when laying down or sitting.

Unique Tip For Duotone Balls-
Place one ball in the vagina while letting another ball hang out.

Kegel Exercise

Ben WA Balls can provide one very good benefit: with proper use, they can help to tighten and strengthen your Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle, which not only gives you a more desirable grip during intercourse and also helps to control your bladder and prevent incontinence as you age.

To find your PC muscle, stop the flow next time you urinate. The muscle you tighten to do this is your PC. Hold the Ben Wall Balls or Duotone Balls in place for about 15 minutes a day to strengthen them. Also, pushing and pulling them in through your vagina over and over will give your vagina a good work out.

If You Have A Hard Time Getting Them Out

Because of the weight, they won't get permanently stuck. However, if you are really clenched up they may be a challenge to get out right away so try a couple of deep breaths, then gently bear down as if having a bowel movement. If needed insert some lubricant and they�ll slide right out.

If You Have A Hard Time Keeping Them In

If your PC muscles are not very strong or if you have recently given birth or been playing with very large sex toys than you may find it more challenging to hold Ben WA Balls inside your vagina. Plastic balls may be easier to start out with, as the Ben Was are quite heavy in comparison.

Caution
They will set off metal detectors, and have a nasty habit of sliding out at inopportune moments. We recommend using Ben WA Balls with common sense and at home to avoid public embarrassment.

Ben WA Balls & Duotone Balls To Buy Or Not To Buy

What this really comes down to is your own sexuality and preference for pleasure inducing toys. There's no right or wrong answer here, and no medical, health or scientific reason why you would want to avoid them. They aren't particularly expensive, but if you do purchase them be prepared to spend some time perfecting your technique and understand that they are not meant to be used for that intense, quick orgasm that vibrators provide.

Kegel Exercisers

Find toys for kegel exercise below as well as articles that help you to better understand what are kegels, how strengthening them improves your health and sex life and how to exercise them.

The man quivered at the mere sight of the radiant beauty before him. She was a dark angel, long silky black hair, a wide, sensuous mouth lipsticked to a deep red and emerald green eyes that appeared to look straight into your soul.

She dressed simply, a tight black top, smooth against her braless breasts and a knee length skirt that showed off her perfectly formed curves. She noticed him staring, and returned his stare, with eyes burning straight into his heart. She motioned for him to come over, he obeyed her request.

'You would like to buy me a drink,' she said. It appeared a statement not a request. It was both presumptuous and absolutely correct at the same time. He rambled mindless small talk until she announced 'small talk is for the simpletons who have no story to tell of their life. Are you a simpleton?'

'No, no of course not. Erm... what would you like to talk about?' he stuttered the words, overcome with the power this woman bestowed. He felt himself becoming hard, and tried to think of something else, but her mouth sucking him to ecstasy was all he could think of. ' I do not wish to talk. We are leaving.'

Again a statement not a question. This woman had a surreal power about her, to argue would be unthinkable. He rose from the table and followed, like a puppy following his master, out of the building. She led him to a block of apartments where she opened the door. She motioned for him to enter. 'No, no ladies first.' he said in a gentlemanly manner.

'I,' she said looking straight into his eyes, 'am no lady, this you will find out.' He did as she asked, not sure where he was going, or why he was there. Hypnotized by beauty, he was a servant to this creature of the night. They entered her apartment, a small but atmospheric place of seduction.

He imagined many men before him, cowering to her need, submitting to her every whim, succumbing to the pleasures of the flesh, her flesh. 'Drink?' she demanded, handing him a cup of red liquid.

Erm... what is this?' he stuttered, fearing it may be blood. 'Red wine. What else might it be?' she smiled for the first time that night. a smile of erotic conviction, it seemed there could be no innocence found in this beautiful woman. She elegantly strode across the room toward him, hips swaying to rhythm, though no music played. She leaned into him, her breasts inches from him, her face almost touching hers.

'You want to fuck me don't you?' she whispered into his ear. 'Yyyyes, yes I do.' he said trembling. He felt like a teenage virgin, nervous of the unknown pleasures of the flesh.

'How much do you want to fuck me?' she said louder, her tone demanding. 'Allot, really allot.' 'Then get to your knee's like a good boy and beg me for it.' he did as he was told, surprised at his own willingness to obey a woman he had known mere hours.

'Please, please let me touch you.' He was humiliated, embarrassed and the most turned on he had ever been in his life. ' What would you do to please me? To allow you to touch me?' she smiled a smile satisfaction, she knew had total control over this man, he was purely at her command.

'I would do anything.' 'You would do anything what?' 'I would do anything mistress, sorry mistress.' 'For your insolence you will be punished. Do you think you should be punished?' 'Yes, yes mistress.' ' Strip and make it quick.

'He did so, undressing hurriedly. 'Bend over the bed. Now!' Again, he did as demanded of him. A mirror hung on the wall in front of him, in the reflection he saw her bring out a spider whip. 'Bad boys who cant behave must be punished. Otherwise they would never learn would they?'

'No mistress.' She whipped him. Hard. He yelled out in pain and excitement, the two emotions so close they become one. 'Are you sorry for your insolence?' she demanded, whipping him as she spoke. 'Yes mistress.' his back and buttocks burned with the pain of lashes before and the lashes she bestowed upon him still.

He felt small, mere inches tall, a gown man being beaten by a woman of no great frame. 'Are you grateful, are you grateful that your mistress cares enough to educate you?' 'Yes mistress thank you mistress.' he was so hard, he felt he might explode. She demanded him back to his knees. ' How would you repay me for my gift?' ' Anything mistress, good mistress, anything you desire.' 'Lick me.' She pulled up her skirt to reveal a knickerless, smoothly shaven pussy. He knelt below her as she spread her firm, smooth thighs. He parted her lips to gain better access to her clitoris. He licked her, softly at first then harder, faster. He could feel her juices on his tongue, the sweetest he had tasted.

She grabbed the mans hair, pushing him harder into her. He sucked on her clitoris, feeling her tense as he sucked. 'Harder! harder!' she screamed, and he did as demanded, until he felt her convulsing into orgasm. She screamed in pleasure, soaking his face in her sweet juices. 'You have served your mistress well,' she said in gasping breath, 'For this you shall be rewarded.' she pushed him onto the bed and lowered herself between his legs. 'Such a big cock, you want my lips around it don't you? You want to fill my mouth with you manhood.' 'Yes mistress! yes!'

He felt he would come the moment she touched him. Never in his life had he felt such longing for the touch of a woman. 'On the condition you will not come until I say so, I shall reward your obedience.' 'Yes mistress.'

She fulfilled his need. She sucked and licked his solid cock, taking his full length into her mouth. He gasped out loud in pleasure. She an expert in fellatio; she was knelt between his legs. He felt himself about to come. So did she. She pinched the end of his cock.

'Did I give you permission? Did you hear me say you could come?' 'No mistress, sorry mistress.' 'Get on the bed and lay down.' He laid naked, his rock hard cock craving to be inside her. He felt exposed, weak and at the mercy of this wondrous woman. He was ashamed at how turned on he was feeling.

She tied his wrists to the bed post. 'Is that too tight?' she asked mildly. 'No mistress.' ' then it isn't tight enough!' She tightened the rope so no matter how he tried, he could not escape. She straddled the man, dragging her nails down his chest as she did so. She started off slowly, gently riding him. Then she rode him faster, and harder, forcing his cock deep inside her. She breathed heavily.

'Don't you dare come, don't you dare until I say.' he pumped herself up and down, so hard and so fast he couldn't hold it any longer. 'Please mistress Ii need to come.' ' How much do you need to come?' she screamed, possessed by this erotic moment of excitement. 'So much mistress, please please let me come!' ' Now!' she screamed as her own orgasm contracted her muscles, making him come harder and more intense than than he ever had in his entire life.

She threw herself onto the bed, glistening with sweat, her ample chest heaving as she breathed heavily. A few minutes later, she was up and dressed. 'Would you like a coffee before you go?

'Erm..go?' the man said surprised. 'Yes go. My husband will be home in a few hours.' HUSBAND?!' the man exclaimed. He jumped from this marital bed of sin and dressed faster than he ever had in his life. 'Its erm.. been a pleasure meeting you.' the man said.

'Yes I'm sure it is. It is best you don't come here again. My husband is a very jealous man. He has only recently been released prison for manslaughter. A man dared touch me and he rammed a glass into his heart.'

'Yes. Well, ha, of course.' and with that the man fled. . the woman lit a cigarette and watched the man scurry away.

Husband, ha! As if she needed one! She could have any man she desired and did. She had to have a story to get rid of the fools who became obsessed with her. She was dependent only on herself, she did not need the complications of a man. Stubbing out her cigarette, she went to bed and fell into a contented, restful sleep. The man wandered for hours, his only company the memories of this night.

Though he knew he would never forget this experience, he decided to forget the location, lest he risked being murdered by a vengeful husband; but what an experience! Being a board administrator he was used to being the dominant not the dominated. He knew he would never again see the radiant beauty who had unleashed an addiction to be dominated that would last his whole lifetime.

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The Human Rights Campaign has joined forces with legendary performer Cyndi Lauper to launch a national tour in support of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender equality. The True Colors 2007 Tour will feature Cyndi and other incredible artists including Erasure, Debbie Harry, The Dresden Dolls and Margaret Cho as well as a variety of special guests, including Rufus Wainwright in certain cities. In addition, HRC will receive a portion of every ticket sold.

Holistic Wisdom staff will be attending the True Colors Tour at Red Rocks Stadium In Denver, Colorado June 10th, 2007. Hope to see some of you there!
"She Bop, He Bop, We Bop!"

Adult Friend Finder (a social networking site) conducted a porn-acceptance survey to see what its users really think about porn. Only 2 percent of the 2,100 respondents say they don't like porn. Twenty-eight percent of the survey's participants said they "love" to watch porn, while 32 percent revealed they get off on it "most of the time." Eleven percent only like porn with a good plot and/or cuddling, and only 2 percent admitted they don't like porn much at all. Merely 1 percent of respondents said they are actually "turned off" by adult films. Almost two-thirds are "always aroused" by porn and prefer to watch it with a partner. The most revealing result of the survey was that for the question "Would you be in porn?" � 36 percent checked the "Sure! Where do I sign?" box, while 36 percent clicked "Maybe I'd try it once."

�Deep Throat Energy Drinks� is the latest promotion of the classic 1970s adult films. The drink will come with the slogan 'Keep it up all night.' Test marketing of the drink at a strip club shows that it is selling well.

An Italian doctor has reconstructed vaginas in a lab for two women born with a rare congenital deformation. Dr. Cinzia Marchese devised the tissue-building technique after studying techniques at Harvard for providing skin grafts for burn victims.

Due to desperate economic circumstances, thousands of Iraqi women refugeed in Syria have turned to prostitution, according to a United Nations report. In many cases, heads of families help round up clients.

Apple has issued a warning letter to a British retailer marketing an iPod-powered vibrator. Ann Summers has been marketing its "iGasm" -- which plugs into any music device and pulsates to the beat -- with a provocative poster that parodies iPod's familiar silhouette ad campaign.

Swiss men worried about their testicles being zapped by cell phone radiation now have protection. Clothing manufacturer Andreas Sallmann is producing radiation-proof boxer shorts. "If I am right and mobile phone radiation damages fertility, then I won't have any customers left," said Sallmann, who produces the garments to protect his six sons and secure the future of the company.

An Australian hotel catering for homosexuals has won the right to ban heterosexuals from its bars so as to provide a safe and comfortable venue for gay men.

Rising numbers of women are asking the National Health Service to provide cosmetic surgery on their genitals, doctors said on Friday. Writing in the British Medical Journal, they said the number of �labial reductions� carried out in NHS hospitals had doubled to 800 a year over five years. �More and more women are said to be troubled by the shape, size or proportions of their vulvas�, wrote Lih Mei Liao and Sarah Creighton from London�s UCL Elizabeth Garrett Anderson Institute for Women�s Health.

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