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A chicken farmer went to a local bar and sat next to a woman and ordered a glass of champagne.

The woman perks up and says, 'How about that? I just ordered a glass of champagne, too!'

'What a coincidence,' the farmer says, 'This is a special day for me, I'm celebrating.

'My husband and I have been trying to have a child, and today my gynecologist told me that I'm pregnant!'

'What a coincidence,' says the man, 'I'm a chicken farmer and for years all my hens were infertile, but today they're finally laying fertilized eggs.'

Fear Of Sex Toys
What Many People Worry About

Since I wrote the article about Men's Fears of Sex Toys: Will She Like It Better Than Me?, I received a great deal of eMail and phone calls from people who had said that it really helped them to explore such fears.

Fear of sex toys certainly applies to both men and women and I thought it would be a positive thing to explore many of the most common fears that people feel about them. Fear often leads to myths and misconceptions and sex toys are no exception. Below are just a few of them-

Sex Toys Are Only For Perverts Or Sluts

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
HolisticWisdom.com Founder

This myth is simply in no way true. Normal, healthy people use sex toys all the time. If it helps break any misconceptions we have sex toy orders from every type of person imaginable. From accountants, doctors, celebrities, professional athletes, to house wives and college students. Using a sex toy doesn't make you "weird," it helps provide pleasure, creativity and adventure to your sex life.

Your Partner Will Feel Inadequate If You Buy A Sex Toy

The bottom line is that toys only enhance variety and pleasure if you and your lover already have a good sexual connection. Even if you separate out physical sensation with emotional and mental sexual turn ons... the physical sensation of another person and you getting off with each other is hotter than anything else.

For example, my vibrator stimulates my clitoris faster than my husband ever could, but the feeling of his finger rubbing it gets me off for a few reasons. Not only does his finger rub me the right way, it is warm and I get off knowing he is touching me. Most women and men do!

Using Sex Toys Can Be Dangerous

Sex toys are not dangerous if used properly. They can have very positive effect on your sexual health. For example, menopausal women can use dildos to maintain vaginal tone, staving off incontinence and other sexual health issues. Many doctors and therapists recommend sex toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm. And finally, a healthy relationship with your body is beneficial to your overall health. Using sex toys heightens your awareness of your body and its functions, making you more alert to abnormalities such as bumps, lumps or abrasions.

If You Have A Partner You Don't Need A Sex Toy

Using a sex toy with your lover can actually strengthen your relationship. You need to have a certain amount of closeness to share this intimate new experience together. Using a sex toy can be a good affirmation of that closeness. If your lover doesn't think you need a sex toy to brighten up your sex life, assure him or her that you don't need a sex toy either, you'd just like to try one as a way to have creativity and a positive sexual adventure that you can share together.

Sex Toys Are For Masturbation Only

While sex toys are great for masturbation, many couples enjoy using sex toys together, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your relationship, in fact it is quite the opposite. Again, the kind of couples who are comfortable trying new things together are open-minded, intimate, comfortable and trusting. Using a sex toy together is a good way to reaffirm the strength of your relationship.

Buying Sex Toys Is Embarrassing

We certainly agree that most people do find it embarrassing. That is why we ensure that our company will not send your order in anything but discreet packaging. We will not contact you in regard to anything but your order, and we will never sell your information. You don't have to worry about racy catalogs coming to your house or any other such potential embarrassment. We really care about your feelings and do all we can to protect them.

Introducing Toys To Your Relationship

Start Slowly

I don't recommend buying a huge strap on with an anal attachment for double penetration as a first purchase. It is key to start a hesitant or cautious partner with something small and not intimidating. Try a nice simple vibrator to get you started. Once your honey is used to the vibe, you can move up to more adventurous toys. Be aware that a traumatic first time experience may be your last so take it easy at first.

Communicate With You Partner

Make sure that you partner is on board when it comes to the idea of using one, and even after an agreement be sensitive to the fact that this is a new experience. As with any new experience there is often a level of anxiety which means that performance anxiety can also come into play. If this should happen, use lubrication, and integrate the toy after you begin to fool around. Also make sure you have enough time to relax and enjoy your time together this is not a good time to be rushed.

Be Flexible

The toy you or your partner have selected might turn out to be totally wrong for your sexual personalities. That's okay, just put it aside, try something different, be patient. Your partner may agree to play with the toy, and then change his or her mind midway through the experience. That's his or her prerogative. Be patient and try again another time, maybe even with a different toy. It might take awhile, but it will be worth the wait.

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Here are some solutions you should consider when suffering from ED and not sure where to start.

The first thing you should do is see your doctor to determine the cause. Have your hormone levels checked. Low testosterone levels can be the cause of your ED. Low levels of DHEA in some men with ED have also been reported. DHEA is essential for the production of testosterone. ED can also be related to conditions such as high blood pressure or diabetes. Some medications for conditions such as these can also effect your ability to achieve or maintain an erection.

Lifestyle changes can make a significant difference in erectile dysfunction. Alcohol exacerbates ED so reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption is a good step to take. Quitting smoking is also an important change to take towards healthy erectile function. Smoking decreases blood flow, which as you know, is an integral aspect of the ability to maintain a strong erection. Exercise is key to maintaining and improving health, even ED benefits from a daily exercise routine. A Harvard Health Professionals study states that men who exercise 3-5 hrs. Per week have a 30% less risk of having erectile dysfunction.

Erectile dysfunction can be a sign that there is something not quite right with your vascular system. Many men with ED also have heart disease. Heart disease can be drastically improved with a change in your diet. Recommended changes are to eat a plant based diet, fish, whole grains, omega-3 fatty acids and eliminating saturated and trans fats. Talk to your doctor or naturopath about the amino acid L-arginine. L-arginine is an amino acid that is used to produce nitric oxide, a substance that signals smooth muscle surrounding blood vessels to relax, which dilates the blood vessels and increases blood flow. Relaxation of smooth muscle in the penis allows for enhanced blood flow, leading to an erection.

Psychological and emotional issues can be just as much of a factor in causing ED as medical ones. Acupuncture is proven to reduce stress and can help with achieving better sleep and relaxation. Relieving stress and getting restful sleep can greatly reduce erectile dysfunction and possibly eliminate it all together. Stress levels should be reduced within 3-5 sessions of acupuncture.

Several years ago when I was in my first marriage I went through a very unique experience that a few friends and my present wife Sue have suggested to me that I should share. Ann and I married young and we lived in a townhouse development. We both thought that we were in love (I know that we were) but somehow after about three years things became distant and stale between us. We never fought or anything like that, it's just that for some reason we grew apart.

When Ann finished college she entered the work force immediately. Her career became her passion and quite honestly she just totally lost her sex drive. I've heard of that happening sometimes to people. On the other hand at that time at the age of 24 I was experiencing totally the opposite. I was not getting anything in the bedroom and it was something that was always on my mind.

Next door lived a couple who were older than us and kept pretty much to themselves but were very nice. Fred and Sharon were living temporarily in their townhouse (18 months) while their new gigantic house was being built across town in the new 'upper crust' development. Fred was some high up big shot with a major hotel chain. He had almost all of the hotels in the eastern half of the country under him. He was gone a lot.

Every now and then Ann would next door and have coffee with Sharon. It looked like they created a little bit of a friendship. What brings me into the story is what I found out happened every afternoon over at Fred and Sharon's apartment.

The townhouses had very small backyards enclosed with privacy fence. Upstairs I could see down into their backyard. By accident or maybe by luck, I found out that every afternoon Sharon would spend about two hours lying in the sun topless. Her bottoms were nothing more than a couple strings. She looked incredible. I don't know if she realized she was being spied on or if she just didn't care. My wife Ann worked during the day and I worked evenings. I had our apartment to myself and every afternoon I would be upstairs just worshipping Sharon's gorgeous body. I found out later that she was 36. 12 years older than me. She had a body that women dream to about having.

I was so sex deprived I couldn't help stroking myself as I looked at her many of the times. It was so easy to fantasize making love to her, but in all reality I knew that I wasn't in her class, so fantasy would have to do. This fantasy thing went on several weeks. Several weeks of fucking her in my mind and shooting my love juice by hand.

One day around late morning I was just finishing shaving when the phone rang. The voice said, 'Hello, Tom, this is Sharon next door'. Wow, you talk about instant hard on! She went on to explain to me that they had just bought a new DVD player and could I hook it up to the TV for her. I put on my shoes and went over.

While I was hooking up the DVD player Sharon carried on conversation with me until I was finished. When I had finished she insisted on me sitting down and having a glass of iced tea. When she handed it to me she said that Ann had told her that I liked mint flavored tea and that's how she made this especially for me.

As we talked I became more and more comfortable with Sharon and was really occupied with imagining whether or not she had anything on under the silky button up house coat that she was wearing. Her nipples were pressing against it and were very noticeable. The bottom two or three buttons were not buttoned and it was becoming more and more difficult to control my eyes as she sat across from me.

Then she broke the ice by saying, 'Ann told me that the two of you hardly have anything in common'. At first I was speechless but then admitted to her that it was true. Sharon went on to tell me about Ann's lack of sex drive and my craving for sex all of the time. I admitted that it was true. The whole conversation suddenly went very deep.

'Do you like watching me out of your window?' she asked looking right into my face. I gazed back at her for what seemed like an eternity before answering, 'Yes, I do like watching you.' Then Sharon said to me, 'There are a lot of things that Fred and I don't have in common but there is one thing that we both have very much in common'. 'What is that?' I asked becoming increasingly interested. 'We both love cock', she answered. 'That's right, Fred is gay. He's not even BI He's totally gay'.

Sharon stood up in front of me and somehow her house coat fell to the floor revealing her tanned naked body. She reached out with her hand and pulled me up from my chair. Her face was only inches in front of mine when she began unhooking my belt as she made this incredible declaration.

'You and I have something that each of us want. I'm living in an open marriage. Fred doesn't mind what I do to satisfy my cravings. Ann gave me the green light to inquire with you for the services of your cock. If you like what you see then all four of us are in agreement. I will never leave Fred because of the security that I have with him. But you and I can be very valuable to each other in satisfying each other's needs. 'Are you interested? ' she asked with a smile on her face.

The age difference did not seem to mean a thing. We became so sexually compatible that we met together three and four times a week for the next several months. Sharon loved sucking my cock every time for a half hour or so before she begged me to fuck her. One time my cock was in her for about two hours without pulling it out. Sometimes she wanted slow fucked and other times wanted pounded. However she wanted it, she got it.

Fred and Sharon eventually moved into their new house. Ann and I divorced on good terms and went our separate ways and I moved into a smaller apartment. About five months went by since the last time I was with Sharon when as I was entering a store she was just coming out. We both stopped and gazed at each other.

I said, 'How do you like your new house?' She answered, 'I love it!' and after a pause added, 'but there sure are some things about that townhouse that I miss!' 'Yea, me too', I said. 'Hey, how about I take you over and show you the house?' she asked. 'I'll bring you back to your car later'.

I got in the car with her and went over to her beautiful new house. It was huge. When we got into the front door while still in the foyer we immediately began kissing and taking off each other's clothes. She sucked my cock until I almost blew and then I put her down on the floor and got between her beautiful opened thighs and slid into her hungry pussy. We picked up where we had left off and began seeing each other up until Sue entered the picture. That's when Sharon backed off and we have remained great friends.

Sue often joked about us having a threesome with Sharon but I never did try to arrange it. Sue has since satisfied all my sex cravings. But I must admit that a threesome does sound really good.

This section is for sexual current events and news; allowing our web site visitors to hear sex news around the world.

The MPAA has put the smackdown on a naughty movie poster for Zack and Miri Make a Porno. The one-sheet for the new Kevin Smith flick shows stars Seth Rogen and Elizabeth Banks� well, take a look to the left. �While you can see why the MPAA got its puritanical knickers in a twist, you have to laugh at the �raciness� of an image in which two people are not only fully clothed but practically dressed for a Minnesota toboggan ride,� AdFreak.com reports.

Ejaculating may help ease your nasal congestion, a new Iranian study suggests. A doctor at Tabriz Medical University noted that �its emission phase provides a sympathetic stimulation and subsequent vasoconstriction and nasal decongestion,� the Guardian reports. Other advantages include not having to endure drug-related side effects, as well as being able to adjust �the number of intercourses or masturbations depending on the severity of the symptoms.�

Men tend to be attracted to women who look like their mothers, new research claims. Investigating the age-old theory of sexual imprinting, biologists at the University of Pecs, Hungary studied 67 long-term couples and their parents, noting that men not only picked partners who resembled their moms but seemed to focus specifically on the lower half of their faces. �The ratios between jaw and face width and lip fullness (height) and width of their mothers and girlfriends tended to match,� New Scientist reports.

Japanese police called off a murder investigation after discovering the victim�s body was actually a life-size sex doll. Fifteen officers were dispatched to the scene, where they found a �human form wrapped in plastic and tightly bound around the neck, midriff and ankles, with hair protruding from one end.� Apparently no one doubted a human body was inside until a pathologist unwrapped it and found a doll which �showed signs of repeated use.�

A campaign official for the Virginia lieutenant governor canceled an order for 150 Twin Cities guidebooks after finding out they included a section on GLBT nightlife. �We simply can�t hand them out,� the aide said after reviewing the section, which included spots to find �queer speed dating� and �dildo bingo.� Lt. Gov Bill Bolling later apologized for the incident, ABC News reports.

A dentist in Florida has invented a �fellatio aid� for people with dentures, the Miami New Times reports. A soft night guard dubbed the �Blowguard� can be slipped over false teeth to hold them in place, and also offers a vibrating function. �The swinger crowd, especially the geriatric subset, has embraced the product,� said the Palm Beach-based dentist, whose patent is pending.

A new study found that the �roaring engine� of a luxury sports car aroused 100 percent of female subjects, England�s Telegraph reports. Participants had the testosterone levels in their saliva measured before and after listening to the revving cars, and all of the women showed a significant increase in the hormone. The doctor supervising the study also noted that �the sound of an average car engine actually led to a decreased level of testosterone.�

Heated car seats could lower a man's sperm count, according to a new study. German scientists measured the scrotal temperature of test subjects who sat in a heated car seat for 90 minutes at 99.1 degrees, compared to about 98 degrees for men on unheated seats. �Studies in recent years have warned of other heat-related hazards to one�s sperm count, like actually using a laptop computer on your lap,� Discover reports.

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