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How To Choose A Dildo
What They Are And What Factors To Consider In Choosing One

The question of what exactly constitutes a dildo is pretty common, as there are so many variations of sex toys and accessories these days that seem close. Dildos go back to ancient times, used by men and women for sexual pleasure. Simply put, they are objects that in some way represent the male penis and are used for penetration.

These are basic solid penis shaped items; and no, a hairbrush handle or cucumber is not considered a dildo. Traditional dildos can even go so far as to have balls (or "the step children" as some call them).

Dildos range in size and shape, and can be realistic or unrealistic with artistic and modern styles. They can be smooth, lovingly bumpy, ridged, multicolored, and even made out of glass. They can have suction cups or handles that allow for sexy positioning, as well as various textures that are so realistic you would not know the difference between it and a real cock if you closed your eyes. Certainly made me blush when I felt one such wonder in an adult toy store!

Traditional dildos differ from other dildos as they are solid and do not vibrate, move, dance or wiggle, they just fit well in the hand and in whatever orifice you choose to pleasure with them.

These dildos incorporate technological advances that have allowed us to create such masterpieces that rotate, vibrate, thrust, jiggle, wiggle, squirt, and simply bring out a wilder side to anyone who uses them.

Determining Size

Sometimes it is hard to gage what is the best size. I remember ordering my first dildo online and then getting one that was supposed to be "realistic" and ended up thinking that King Kong himself would be envious when I saw how big it actually was!

May I suggest using a simple test of finger width or vegetable testing before deciding on a width or length. Using your fingers or a vegetable like a carrot or cucumber may help you decide what width and length to get.

You should certainly wash anything you insert in any orifice of your body prior and then take some time to determine what will bring you the most pleasure. You can also have a partner assist in either exercise for a fun sexual adventure!

Length-
Dildos can range in length from 4 inches to more than a foot and a half or more!

Smooth-
Often seamless, these are usually made from silicone, plastic, rubber or jelly. You may be wondering why would anyone want a smooth dildo when they can have a ridged or bumpy shaft. Yet, many enjoy these dildos as they are used primarily for g-spot stimulation and allow for an easy glide that other more heavily textured dildos cannot mimic.

Shape Curved G-spot and Prostate Dildos-
These dildos are a huge success with individuals and couples because they hit the sweet spots! They are perfectly angled to stimulate the g-spot or prostate and are highly effective toys for bringing orgasms quickly.

Anal Dildos-
These may be shaped to stimulate the prostate in males or simply offer various sizes and textures that provide just the right stimulation for its user. Although some are not comfortable with the idea of anal stimulation, many enjoy the sensitive nerve endings being stimulated through anal play.

Whether one chooses a thick and bumpy model or a slim, sleek one always look for one that will not easily be lost inside the rectum if inserted fully. A flared base may be a good style for anal play. In addition, don't forget the lubricant as the anus has sensitive and soft tissue that can easily be damaged.

Double-ended Dildos-
These dildos can be bent in a c-shape for double penetration on one person or shared between partners vaginally and anally. If using a double ended dildo for vagina-to-vagina, strong Kegel muscles will make it easier to maneuver.

Celebrity Molds-
If you have a favorite adult star that you would like to mimic while using a dildo on your lover or experience it yourself through solo or play with a partner than this is a great way to do that.

There are many adult celebs that have had exact molds made of their genitals and dildos made from your favorite male porn star is a nice way to "feel the love."

Dildo Jealousy-
Many people hesitate to mention to their partner that they would like to purchase a dildo for fear that their partner may become jealous or insulted that they want to use one. With the issue of penis size so out of proportion as well as feeling "replaced" by a toy it is easy to understand why a partner may indeed feel jealous or upset.

Yet, the truth is that no matter how skilled we get at creating toys that provide sexual pleasure, nothing can replace the feeling of arousal and intimacy that a partner can. Whether you use a toy with your partner or without, a partner can rest assured that they can never be replaced by a piece or rubber, glass, etc...

There are a lot of vibrators that are made as a novelty and break easily so it is important to choose wisely, selecting from a reputable store with high quality products like ours. The most important thing when buying a vibrator online is knowing the SIZE. Please refer to our measurements outlined by each of the products so that you do not get something that is too big or small.

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The personal shaver uses a "C" cell battery which is included in the purchase. The battery in the shaver will last about 20-30 days with regular use.

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Female Ejaculation Story

As you may imagine, I get an abundance of eMails from visitors to our sites. From time to time a letter will really move me and encourage me to share it. The letter below was most certainly one that I enjoyed. It was moving to hear how many couples like the one below are working at their relationship and sharing a beautiful connection.

In a world that can be so challenging, it is reassuring that we can still find comfort in love and intimacy. What you will find below is simply a beautiful thank you letter as well as an example of a couple that loves and nurtures each other and whom have tapped into the sensual pleasure and joy of being human.

Thank you Rowan & Simone for sending this to me and for sharing it with others.

Written By Rowan
Holistic Wisdom Customer
Melbourne-Australia

Hi Lisa,

I wanted to give you some feedback on the purchase of the Female Ejaculation E-book that I bought on line last month. Thank you so much.

After many months of talking with my partner about the myths and fallacies of this topic and getting nowhere we finally decided to purchase your eBook. What a great read!! To my surprise, what I found was not a car manual type of instructions, but a comprehensive guide to exploring sexuality and empowering women to embrace their sexuality and unlock the powers that this can bring.

The fact that this has been written by a woman, I found, led to my partner finally dispelling many of the myths that had bound her sexuality (Like many, many individuals in this world we are conditioned to believe), and likewise, this topic. I could quite clearly evidence a change in her whole persona after her hour or so of reading. She reread the whole book again a week or so later and still rereads certain sections!

Oh and the orgasms-

After reading your book comprehensively my partner decided that the best start was for her to try and ejaculate alone. She went upstairs and was gone most of the night, but appeared in the lounge two hours or so later. When she entered the room I could sense that her presence had changed somewhat. She also had a glow on her gorgeous face that extended down her chest and she almost radiated. In a quiet almost astonished voice she exclaimed, "I did it".

We sat and talked about her experience for some time and she explained that after playing with a bullet on her clit (and several orgasms), she proceeded to some G-Spot play. She started first with a dildo and then with a specific G-Spot vibe and finally both at once. She described that although she had a vaginal orgasm that felt fantastic, there was no ejaculation. She was very persistent though, and kept stimulating her G-Spot with her fingers, and after a few minutes she felt an intense desire to pee and then it happened. She exclaimed, "It just kept coming out-I didn't think it was going to stop-It felt so good. It feels as though your whole body is having an orgasm and the pleasure is unbelievable."

Later in the night we both headed upstairs and in the middle of the bed was a wet spot slightly larger than a basketball, that had completely soaked the sheet, comforter, right through to the mattress. What was overwhelming was the sweet smell that lingered in the room! It certainly smelt great-Really different.

A few days later after having several days of hot, hot sex my partner was lying next to me after one particular interlude when she started to masturbate by fingering herself quite rapidly, but at the same time only in a very shallow manner. I held her and we talked as she lay there hot, sweaty and quivering to several small vaginal orgasms. She started to shake quite uncontrollably.

The red hot glow that had been on her face started to extend down her chest, on to her breasts and now hard swollen nipples. She just managed to get out the words-"I am going to squirt" between very short gasping breaths. I looked down to see her thrusting fingers slow down for a second and then increase in intensity again-she just started to squirt out this amazing stream of sweet smelling hot ejaculate.

She kept pumping her fingers in and out and with each outward stroke she would squirt again. It would have been (as per your book), at least two cups, lasted about 20 seconds (I think) and once again left the mattress soaked. It splashed off her hand with such force that it started spraying her shaking legs and beyond. It was totally amazing to witness this and to see her face, her response and the pure pleasure that was behind her eyes.

A few nights later my partner came home from work kissed me passionately and went about her nightly activities. After about an hour or so later she approached me, and once again kissed me passionately and longingly. She looked into my eyes with pure lust in hers, and uttered, "I want you to make me come- Make me squirt". That was all I needed and we spent the next 30 minutes tearing each others clothes off and me giving her oral sex-She had several Clitoral orgasms.

I started to massage her G-Spot like she had several nights before. I was surprised how large her G-Spot had become and how engorged it could be. She started to grind against my wet fingers and would push out every now and then so that her hard swollen G was almost parallel to the entrance of her vagina.

Although this felt very unusual I rubbed this area slowly and with great pressure in a motion that was almost like running my to outstretched fingers from back to front along the entrance of her vagina -I would take my fingers out lick them and gently insert them back in and rub the area again. And then it happened-she squirted a small single stream of sweet smelling and tasting ejaculate that sprayed up my forearm.

I continued my technique-with some guidance-increasing the intensity of my thrusting and varied the pressure. It happened again slightly smaller this time and then again a short time later again with the original intensity. I started to tongue her sweet pussy and clit and she had another orgasm-I tongued her vagina and to her surprise/delight I could actually caress her G-Spot with my tongue-It had swollen so much. With my two fingers I gently made a motion that poked her G-Spot and then with the back of my out stretched fingers lowered to touch the entrance to her vagina at the back-As if you are flipping the bird with your fingers together. I gradually increased the intensity of this motion to the point where she was shaking from the intensity of my motions-not only the pleasure that it was bringing. I would stop and lick my fingers and then stroke her G-Spot slowly and build up the intensity again.

I looked up to see that look on her face. She just screamed, "Oh fuck, I am going to come", and then there was a waterfall. She sprayed my arm, my chest, all over the bed, , and it did not stop for about 30 seconds. Not that I was counting but I think that there must have been about 15 separate squirts, uncontrollably without any further stimulation. It did "keep coming" and now I thought that it wasn't going to stop. She just lay there with a content satisfied smile on her face, her whole body twitching to each squirt.

I continued to rub her g-spot in with a "come here" motion feeling her now golf ball size G and with each outward motion she squirted a little single stream on to me. I was able to feel her G-Spot so well that I could actually make her squirt by the particular slow pressure and technique that I applied-That was amazing! She just kept having more and more orgasms and squirting on me.

After some time she grabbed me in her arms and whispered "Thank you for the biggest squirting orgasm I have ever had-It felt awesome". It certainly did feel awesome!

What I would like to say thank you for is unlocking the sexual being that is (and always was) my partner. After reading the eBook. And having the experiences above my partner-Well, is more aware of her sexuality. She re-counts sexy, hot dreams that recur for her (Where before they did not), and talks about how she would like to fulfill the fantasies that bring her to orgasm-even in her sleep. She is more creative, imaginative and attentive not only to her own needs but also mine.

I guess what happened was that after accepting her own desires and having those affirmed in a book like yours made her accept who she was (As being normal), and has since given the time to attend to her needs (and hence our sexuality).

It is amazing that in a fast, fast world that acceptance of ones inner soul, leads to (making) time for discovery of ones true self. The truism of quality over quantity leads to a more fulfilling, caring, understanding and therefore healthier existence and relationship-

SINCERELY THANK YOU.

My partner believes that all women should know about this and hence as told several of her close friends and colleagues about FE-another example of the amazing awakening that I owe to you Lisa.

Best Regards,
Rowan
Melbourne-Australia

P.S. We would really like you to publish this story. For all you guys out there I know that it may sound unbelievable, but it is very, very real. My partner and I can hardly believe that is real- IT IS SOOOOOOO GOOD!!

All stories in The Art of Female Ejaculation Movie & Book were submitted by real couples about their experiences and fantasies, however the names have been omitted or changed to allow the couples' their anonymity. This is a small taste of what is in the erotic stories in the female ejaculation movie and in the eBook/Book!

My Gushing Female Ejaculation Orgasm

" I worked myself really quickly to the point of no return. Thad was absolutely in awe as I started to cum. I bucked my hips and just started to gush all over the place, it felt like a hot, waterfall rushing out of my cunt. Thad couldn't contain himself as my juice splashed on my thighs, and even splashed his hard cock, now rock hard and in between my legs. He was so aroused that he began to furiously work his cock now wet from being splashed from my squirting."

I had noticed over the last few months that Thad, my husband, had been spending time on the web looking up female ejaculation pics. Normally Thad's interest in adult sites hadn't bothered me, I mean, I look at Mel Gibson movies whenever I get a chance! :-) This got to me though, because it was something he seemed to really find erotic and I thought I was unable to do it. I felt really self conscious about the whole thing.

I decided to do a little research of my own, and looked it up on the Internet. I found your wonderful Female Ejaculation movie after hours of looking at other sites that did not answer my questions! I ordered your movie right away, and found so much incredible information, that I watched it three times! I wanted to be able to do this for Thad, and now I felt that I could. The following is the story of the first time I ejaculated, not to mention had the best orgasm of my life with Thad. Needless to say, since then we have had many wet and wild times and your female ejaculation movie is to credit!

The house was quiet as the kids were spending the weekend with their friends, and Thad and I had the house to ourselves. It had been a hard week for both of us and this time alone was something we really needed. I was eager to show Thad the wonderful tricks I had learned from the eBook. After a quiet dinner, and a glass of wine, we sat on the couch and cuddled. Something that's hard to do with kids running around and demanding attention.

Thad started kissing me slowly and deeply, I love the way his lips feel against mine. I stood up from the couch and took his hand. I led him into the bedroom, and slowly undressed him. He was getting quite aroused by this and his cock was now standing at attention. We both like the use of toys. I especially have always loved my g-spot vibrator, but my toy was about to help make something very amazing happen for me tonight, something neither Thad or the vibrator had ever done before.

Tonight was going to be very different, VERY EXCITING! I pushed Thad down on the bed and slowly undressed myself. Thad watched with a smile, and I could tell he really enjoyed the sight of my body by the way he was staring at me. When I was fully nude, I reached into the night stand and pulled out my vibrator. Thad had a questioning look on his face, after all this was a little early to be reaching for the big guns! I pushed him back on the bed and straddled him. I moved up to his face and let him take in the scent of my pussy... I was already dripping.

I had spent the last few days while he was at work practicing the female ejaculation techniques, and tonight I was going to give Thad the surprise of his life. The thought of this had me wet since he had come home from work. I asked Thad to go down on me; I loved the feeling of his tongue on my pussy. He slid his tongue back and forth along my wet slit and I shivered with excitement.

I told Thad I wanted to change positions. I lay on the bed with my legs hanging off the side as Thad moved onto the floor and in-between my legs. His warm, strong mouth went right to my cunt, I was in heaven! He was really making me squirm. His mouth sucked on my clit and I shook as sexual electrical surges shot from my clit through the rest of my body.

I instructed him on some of the techniques I had just learned, and felt the tell tale signs as described in the eBook! I was so excited, because I knew what was coming next! I knew this was going to rock my husband's world, and that made me even more excited!

Thad worked me with until I was about to explode. I pushed him back and continued to masturbate in front of him showing him all the new things I had just learned. He was surprised, but soon he was watching me work my pussy with complete sexual surrender.

I worked myself really quickly to the point of no return. Thad was absolutely in awe as I started to cum. I bucked my hips and just started to gush all over the place, it felt like a hot, waterfall rushing out of my squirting cunt. Thad couldn't contain himself as my juice splashed on my thighs, and even splashed his hard cock, now rock hard and in between my legs. He was so aroused that he began to furiously work his cock now wet from being splashed from my gushing, spraying and squirting. His body glistened in the light, as my cum had soaked him! He came so hard, and said it was the most intense orgasm he had ever had too!

You Are Welcome!
Thank you for the great story!
- Lisa

Needless to say my husband does not look at female ejaculation on the Internet anymore, because he has more than he can handle at home thanks to your incredibly informative and erotic female ejaculation movie! I cannot begin to tell you how exciting it is to have your husband watch in awe as you have one of these gushing orgasms.

Thank You Lisa!

- C.K., Denver, Colorado

More Erotic Sex Stories

If you think it is urine you're mistaken!

Learn The Facts

If you have seen web sites or videos with female ejaculation that looks like watery or thick milk in large amounts (1 cup), they are faking it. Female ejaculation comes from the Paraurethral Glands (that make up the g-spot) and bladder. The fluid is CLEAR and similar to prostate fluid in males in it's chemical make up. Find out about real female ejaculation-

	ALL Women Can Female Ejaculate, This Is Real. Once You Learn How It Works You Will Be Amazed At How Simple It Is To Do!		It Is Not Urine. Female Ejaculate Is Similar To Prostate Fluid In Men. Learn Exactly What It Is Through Our Site & Resources.
	Learn Step-by-step Techniques How To Do It And Control It And The Psychological Inhibitors That Can Also Influence It Through Our Movie & Book The Art of Female Ejaculation.		It Does Not Just Come From The Bladder, It Also Comes From The Paraurethral/Skenes Glands Also Known As The Glands That Create The G-spot.
	As Much As Two Cups Can Spray Or Gush Out!		This Information Is Clinically Accurate And Scientifically Proven.
	Female Ejaculation Intensifies Orgasms In Women. Women Can Ejaculate Multiple Times Within A Short Period, Which We Teach In Our Our Site & Resources.		It Is Not Urinary Incontinence Because It Is Not Urine. It Is Clear In Color, And Usually Smells Like Nothing Or Has A Slight Sweet Scent.
	There Are Porn Actresses That Fake It Via Douches Or Urinating; Learn How To Identify The Real Thing!		Female Ejaculation Is Not Contingent Upon G-Spot Orgasms; It Can Be Achieved Through Clitoral And Other Stimulation. Learn How Through Our Site & Resources.
	Women Often Do Not Realize That They Can Ejaculate Because They Are Not Aware Of The Simple Cues Of When They Can Do It, Which We Teach Through Our Movie & Book.		The General Public Often Does Not Fully Understand Female Ejaculation As Women's Sexuality Is Often Neglected In Our Society.

Is Female Ejaculation Real?

I can't tell you how many times web site visitors call and ask the same question... "Is this for real?" Yes, it is!

Having been a psychotherapist for years I decided to teach what I knew of female ejaculation to the public as I was shocked to find that most people are not educated about it, including physicians. It was incredible to me that in this day and age people still think it is urine or fake!

It was during my research for my book and video The Art of Female Ejaculation, that I developed unique theories as to how ALL women could easily achieve it through specific techniques alone or with a partner.

My book and video are the ONLY places you will find everything about it- from what it is, how it works, as well as techniques to achieve it. The reason is that not only do we provide the physical aspects of this beautiful sexual experience, but we also review the psychological aspects of inhibitors that can keep a women from fully exploring her sexuality as well as experiencing female ejaculation.

Too often those who make Better Sex Videos forget to look at the "whole" person when teaching sexual techniques and neglect that things like performance anxiety, perceptions and attitudes toward one's body and sexuality can impact sexual functioning.

We address it all and thus is why we call our company... Holistic Wisdom as we see that you are more than your genitals... you are a whole person that needs to have ALL of your sexuality addressed, not just the physical part.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Author & Sexologist
Psychotherapist
Founder Of Holistic Wisdom

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Female Ejaculation Expert
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What Is Female Ejaculation? ~ Is Female Ejaculation Real Urine? ~ How Much Comes Out? ~ What Does Female Ejaculation Look, Smell & Taste Like? ~ Learn How To Female Ejaculate.	Customer Stories ~ Why Some Women Cry When They Read This Female Ejaculation Movie Or Book. ~ How One Man Gave His Wife The Best Sexual Pleasure Using Female Ejaculation Techniques From The Art of Female Ejaculation. ~ How A Couple Divorced Over It!
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We believe that all people have the right to experience a loving relationship, good sex and passionate experiences. We also believe that if you and your significant other have an agreement that your relationship is an open one that is your choice.

Personally, we have a monogamous relationship that includes only one another and are perfectly happy with that. We are also accepting that others are happier with open relationships. In fact many of our friends have open relationships and we embrace their decisions for them.

Yet, we believe that there is NEVER a time when cheating on your spouse or significant other is healthy, noble, good for your integrity, or the right thing to do. Sorry, we know we may offend some people here, but we believe there is never a reasonable excuse for it under any circumstance.

What prompted this article was when we were watching a show that discussed web sites that market to those looking for extramarital affairs. The man running one was in silhouette as he did not want his wife to learn of the long term affair he had or his secret web site business promoting others to do the same. We were appalled that anyone could justify a web site promoting extramarital affairs.

We believe that if a person is unhappy in their marriage that they should try to work it out (via: communication, counseling, etc.) or leave the marriage by having the courage to say to their spouse their reasons for doing so.

When we lower our integrity, lie and cheat to avoid dealing with emotional challenges then there are more serious issues at hand then having an affair. A person who cheats on their significant other is really cheating themselves as well.

This is because the "cheater" is not standing up for themselves. They are not expressing their true feelings, they are hiding who they are, they are unable to live their life in a manner that shows respect not only for themselves but to others by being upfront about their feelings and needs.

Oh, many will say well... my significant other will leave me if I said this... or did this... Yes, that may be true, but then why are you with them? Why would you deceive someone so that you can "get away" with lowering your integrity? Is integrity that easy to compromise? At what point do we just say "to hell" with trying to be a decent and respectable person? At what point do we think it is not damaging us emotionally and mentally to do that?

If a cheater thinks they will have no repercussions if they do not get caught, they are wrong. The simple fact remains that they have resigned themselves into believing the lies that come from having low self esteem. Such lies include that they must be dishonest to get their needs met, that they can not be loved for who they really are, that they can not be respectful to others or themselves to be happy, that they can not stand up for themselves, that they must sacrifice their integrity to get what they want. How can we honestly have a chance at loving and respecting ourselves completely when we violate our integrity like that?

We are not saying that in order to have self love or respect for ourselves that we must be perfect saints. But we are saying it is worth striving to be a good person every day, even when some days we feel like we did a miserable job, we get up the next and try again having learned from our past mistakes.

It is when we hide from consequences behind lies, manipulation and cheating that we are acting as a coward. Whether you believe in karma or not, it seems very interesting the way that issues in people's lives are cyclical and will come back to haunt you if you have not dealt with them.

It is somewhat like an analogy to a wall. A person's issue can be seen as an obstacle, one that they must overcome to grow emotionally and mentally much like a wall that must be scaled to get over it. However, most issues don't start off being a large wall, usually they are a small little "flower-bed" wall that can easily be overcome with some integrity and courage.

For example, a woman who feels she is not getting her needs met in her marriage begins to find herself attracted to a coworker and begins flirting with him at work. It seems harmless at first, but then she begins to find herself constantly thinking of this coworker.

Here she can step over her "flower bed" sized wall if she acknowledges her feelings and tries to communicate them to her husband by letting him know that she is not feeling her needs are being met in the marriage and it is making it more difficult for her to put her energy into the marriage. She can explain that she is finding herself attracted to other men and she does not want this to go any further. She can suggest that they communicate about ways that she can feel more satisfied in her marriage or even go to counseling to see if that helps.

So, our hypothetical woman ignores the opportunity to face this issue with honesty and integrity and continues on her current path. She continues to flirt, and fantasize about how much more fulfilled she would be if she were with her handsome coworker (usually a huge let down in reality over the long-term because unlike her fantasy he is human with warts and all). She even begins to think of how she might ask him out for drinks.

A couple of weeks later, she does just that and during their evening out she finds herself giving her male coworker the typical "poor me" talk about how terrible her marriage is and how here husband does not meet her needs. Yet she has done nothing to try and correct this and still she takes no responsibility for her own contribution to the problem. Also, drinking alcohol is a common way many people allow themselves to lower their inhibitions and numb themselves to all the warning signs that they need to address an emotional issue.

Soon an affair begins and she finds herself torn as she still loves her husband, but now she is having feelings for her coworker and feels like she is trapped. Could she end the affair, until she figures out what she should do for her highest good? Yes, she has opportunities every step of the way to deal with this in a honest and courageous manner, but she does not and the wall has now grown to be 20 feet high.

What is remarkable is that people actually think that they don't have to deal with their issues... that if they numb themselves enough through denial or a coping skill like drinking, drugs, compulsive eating, etc. that their problems will just go away.

We all know they don't, yet like an ostrich we often want to stick our head in the sand and hope that maybe this time we will get to be excused from our life lessons. Yet, isn't that why we are here? Isn't that the whole point of our existence... to evolve? Not just in a physical or mental sense, but in an emotional one too?

In order to evolve we must live by a code of ethics, and when we stray from that we must ask ourselves how we can learn from our mistakes. We believe there in one very simple rule in life that must always be held up and strived for.

After all, if you treat others with disrespect, dishonesty, and infidelity what does that mean you believe yourself to be worthy of?