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The
Holistic Wisdom Journal
October
21, 2004
Articles In This Issue...
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See
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Out Our Sale & Clearance Items!
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Why
Use Sex Toys?
What
Makes Them Worth Having
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Sex
Toy Hygiene
Preventing
STD's & Infections
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Finding
A Good Sex Toy
Quality
Vs. Crap
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New
Products
Check
Out Our Latest Additions
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Fear
of Sex Toys
What
Many People Worry About
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Ask
Lisa
Q&A
From Our Readers To Our Founder
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The
Holistic Wisdom Reader's Forum
Comments
From Our Readers
~ The
Sexual Wisdom Section
Sex
In The News
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Bill O'Reilly Accused of Sexual Harassment
~ Jenna Jameson Threatened With Legal Action
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Sex Toys Sales Not To Be Banned
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Breast Implants For Men Are The New Rage?
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Who Is Gettin' Busy More Often?
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Sleep Sex Disorder Causing Infidelity?
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Anti-Bush Thong Charges Dropped
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Man Cuts Off Boy's Penis
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Firefighters Cruisin' For Chicks
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Union Leaders Use Funds For Sex Toys & Liquor
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Britain Bans Trojan Condom Ads
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World Sex Championship
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Hardee's Hot Commercial
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Asexual Adults
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Native Americans Want "Crazy Horse" Renamed
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The Exotic Erotic Ball In San Francisco, California
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The Exotica Erotica Ball In Boulder, Colorado
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Quote
of the Week-
I
have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts,
then there is no hurt, but only more love.
Mother Teresa
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Sex
Joke of the Week-

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Why
Use Sex Toys?
What
Makes Them Worth Having
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Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
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Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
Member
of American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors,
and Therapists
( AASECT )
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Why would
anyone want to buy or use a
sex toy? The answer is simple... they make
sexual efforts easy, while maximizing pleasure & creativity.
Sex toys
enhance your sex life with or without a partner. For those times
when you are with your partner, sex toys can make foreplay,
intercourse, or even post coital moments fantastic. They
also make a great substitute partner for periods when one is
in between sexual relationships.
There are
so many ways that people enjoy using sex toys. Because there
are so many available for pleasuring various parts of the body
and many creative things one can do with just one of their sex
toys.
Couples
that use sex toys alone and together in relationships tend to
have a strong level of open communication, trust and unconditional
love for their partners. Sex toys allow men and women to tap
into creative sex and there is such beauty in allowing ourselves
and/or partner to enjoy the pleasures they bring.
Some
of the Benefits of Sex Toys-
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Sex
toys can enhance sexual performance. For example, using
a vibrator on a woman's clitoris when a man is performing
oral sex can often bring her to heights of ecstasy she
has never known. Also, using a vibrator on a man's anus
or balls while performing fellatio
on him can leave him in a post-coital bliss unlike he's
ever known. The variety of the rolses sex toys can have
in enhancing sexual play are limitless. Even just using
a cock
ring during intercourse can make a world of difference.
The only way to know... is to try.
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Sex
toys can allow one to perform sexual
acts that may be difficult to sustain for long
periods of time. There is of course the obvious issue
that many men find a challenge in that they may reach
orgasm more quickly than their female partner and then
are unable to continue with using their erect
penis to pleasure her. Sex toys allow him to stimulate
her quickly in the beginning to the point of orgasm so
that she is already sated before he climaxes, or after
he does. This way she will always feel equally satisfied.
There
is also the issue of fatigue and cramping... have you
ever been doing something to your partner or yourself,
but you found your fingers, hands, neck, back, legs or
mouth were getting tired and perhaps even cramping? Sex
toys allow you to continue pleasuring your partner and
give you less work and effort.
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Sex
toys are great for those times when one partner “wants
to” and the other partner doesn't or can’t. It allows
the partner who feels like sexual pleasure the option
of having it while adding the aid of a sex toy to the
mix.
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Sex
toys promote good health, as orgasms release stress and
tension, and is a great way to start the day or at night
to help one sleep.
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Sex
toys allow sexual release for those with partners who
have disabilities that keep them from normal sexual performance.
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Sex
toys allow partners to have incredible phone sex with
one another when they have a long distance relationship
or have to be separated from one another for a while.
We
have had many women purchasing Fleshlights
for their boyfriend or husband when they have to go to
another college, travel for work or even do duty in the
military. On the other end, we have many military men
and others that buy the Make
Your Own Dildo Kit to make
a mold of their penis to send to their lover.
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Basic
Sexual Pleasure of Sex Toys-
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There
are many women whom find it difficult to achieve orgasm
without clitoral
stimulation. It's kind of like asking a man to
achieve orgasm without having any stimulation to the head
of his penis. While it is possible, it can require more
effort. Because most positions for vaginal intercourse
do not provide sufficient stimulation to the clitoris,
adult toys can provide extra stimulation.
Anyone
who has used a vibrator will be able to tell you that
they often induce some of the most intense orgasms. Most,
if not all, new vibrators and powered toys have intensity
adjustments to suit personal preferences and sensitivity.
A vibrator will often bring a woman to orgasm in as little
as a few minutes and is a great way to start off foreplay.
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A
vaginal
orgasm is very different
from a clitoral one. Dildos come in may forms, from glass,
Cyberskin,
vibrating,
make
your own dildo kits, dildo
"fucking" machines to
double
ended dildos there is a large variety
from which to choose.
Imagine
having a toy that has the dependability to be able to
last long enough to help you achieve all three in one
night, or even better, all three at the same time, repeatedly.
That is what can be found in toys like the Rabbit
Pearl and others like it.
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Anal
stimulation is great for those who like a little vibration
around the anus to full penetration from a dildo.
Sex toys also make for great Prostate
Massage in men and make the job easier and fun!
Here are Anal
Toys We Recommend
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Penis
& Testicle
Stimulation
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Sexual
stimulation to the penis, testicles, and chode can be
quite an added bonus during oral sex, breast sex, and
even just by itself. Also using cock
rings, ball holders, and even masturbation
sleeves can enhance a man's sexual
pleasure with or without a partner.
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Nipple
toys range from anything from clamps, vibrators to suction
and/or sucking. They can allow one to enjoy hands free
stimulation while engaging in sex with a partner or providing
themselves with stimulation through their hand or another
sex toy. See the Nipple
Toys We Recommend
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Multiple
Orgasms
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Most women who use sex toys have quickly learned that
they are a great way to achieve multiple orgasms. Depending
on the versatility of the toy, there are many different
kinds of orgasms that can be achieved and the ability
to have a toy tirelessly vibrate, rotate or thrust can
allow for intense multiple orgasms!
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Sex
toys allow for couples to not only stimulate one another
in otherwise impossible ways, but sex
shapes allow couples to get into creative positions
that provide deeper thrusting, less muscle strain and
fatigue as well as improved performance.
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For
those individuals whom are or have a partner whom is substantially
overweight, there can be difficulty in achieving sexual
stimulation to one another. When sexual positions that
allow for better access to the genitals do not work well,
sex toys are an obvious answer to allow overweight couples
and individuals to continue having a great sex life.
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While
there are Kegel strengthening products that are not as
focused on the pleasure aspect, there is another option
for women who want to increase their Kegel strength while
pleasuring themselves- Dutone
balls may be a great way to achieve this.
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Sex
For Those With Disabilities
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We
are all at risk for becoming disabled because unfortunately
accidents, birth defects and unfortunate side effects
from medications and disease do occur. Whether you or
your partner are disabled, think about what may be possible
by using sex toys.
We
are happy to report that a man paralyzed from the waist
down was able to achieve ejaculation by using the Hitachi
Magic Wand for the first time in 7 years! While he was
not able to have the same sensations as someone who had
feeling there, he was very pleased psychologically as
was his girlfriend! Not to mention the fact that it is
healthy to do it and still provides endorphins to the
body!
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Types
of Sex Toys-
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Vibrators
Traditional, dual action, pocket rockets, g-spot &
prostate, bullets, anal, waterproof, ben wa & duotone
balls, gift sets, wands, attachments and make your own
vibrating dildos.
How To Choose A Vibrator
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Dildos
Vibrating, Cyberskin, Realistic, Double Ended, Harnesses,
Make Your Own Dildo Kits, Sybian,
and more!
How To Choose A Dildo
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Lubricants
Love
Liquid, ForPlay
Flavored,
Oil of Love, Phallix Glass Lubricant, Warming & Flavored,
Cyberskin Powder, Water Based, Wet Platinum, ForPlay
Flavored, Anal-Eze, Sexual Arousal Cream, Desensitizers,
Condoms, Massage Oils, Massage Creams
How
To Choose Lubricant
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Glass
& Chrome
We
Offer A Lowest
Price Guarantee On Our Pyrex Glass & Chrome
Alloy Sex Toys. These
beautiful pieces of art and functional toys. You can warm
or cool them for a fun effect. They clean very easily
(even in the dishwasher!) Strong and beautiful toys high
quality sex toys that bring a life time of pleasure.
Our
Top Picks In Glass & Chrome Products
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For
Women
Nipple
Toys, Sexual Arousal
Cream,
Clitoral Suction Toy,
Personal Shavers,
Kegal Exercise
, Disguised Vibrators
Sex
Machine Reviews
Also Known As "Fucking Machines," Featuring
the Sybian & The Jetaime
Special
Featured Item-
Female Ejaculation:Adult
Gift Baskets
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For
Men
Make
Your Own Dildo Kits
Fleshlights-
Male
Masturbation Toy
Condoms,
Sex
Dolls,
Desensitizers,
Sexual Arousal Cream,
Cock
Ring/Clit Stimulator,
Personal Shavers,
Penis
Enlargement Resources,
Pocket
Pussies
Sex
Machine Reviews
Also Known As "Fucking Machines," Featuring
the Sybian & The Jetaime
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Bondage
and Fetish
We
work hard to demonstrate our respect for our clients as
healthy, intelligent, sexually adventurous adults. You
will be sure to enjoy our array of constraints, whips
and other daring bedroom gear!
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Make
Your Own Vibrating Dildos
Now you can finally make a very personal vibrating or
non-vibrating realistic dildo! This one-of-a-kind kit
will create an "identical twin" of yours or your lovers
penis and scrotum, using the same patented replication
technology employed by special effects houses in Hollywood!
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Bedroom
Gear
Liberator Shapes: (Seen In Meet
The Fockers)
Wedges, Ramps, Stages, Cube, Woody Goody Bag
Holistic Wisdom:
Lawless Linens- Waterproof Sex Throws
Passion Pillows- Storage For Sex Toys & Valuables
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Fleshlights:
Ultimate Male Masturbation
Our revolutionary "Real Feel Super Skin" gel inserts elevate
sexual pleasure and freedom to new and exciting peaks.
You won't believe how real and life-like these feel when
they are lubed up and warmed to body temperature! Cleverly
disguised, the Fleshlight™ can be stored and concealed
in variety of settings and is the perfect travel mate.
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Massage
Massage
Oils, Massage
Creams, Article
On Massage
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Enhancers
& Desensitizers
Anal-Eze,
Sexual Arousal Creams, Desensitizers for both men and
women. Men Should Note- We recommend you use a
condom if you are using a desensitizer to prolong sex
as the cream will rub off on your partner numbing them
as well. Also, you should note that if your partner is
using an enhancer cream it may make you more prone to
orgasm more quickly than you may like.
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Toys
By Type
Pyrex Glass I Cyberskin
I Realistic
I Anal Sex Toys
Fellatio Sex Toys I Sex
Toy Materials I Bedroom
Gear
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Jetaime
& Sybian
Reviews
On The Top Sex Machines
Men
& Women can experience intense and multiple orgasms
easily. Whether
your partner likes to watch, is out of town, is tired,
or you simply do not have one at the moment, these dildo
& vibrator machines go from gentle to intense, as
they allow one to determine their orgasmic potential.
Multiple orgasms are easily experienced as they allow
for controlled levels of stimulation using realistic attachments
that match their partner while providing endurance and
vibration that a partner cannot provide.
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Advanced
Fellatio Instruction
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Read
and see much more through The Art of Fellatio Manual available
online or in a soft cover binder with
8 minutes of video available as a download or on CDROM.
See
what is covered in the
manual and video below-

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Positions
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Techniques
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Instruction
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Media
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Basic
& Best
68 1/2
69
Face Fucking
On Your Knees
On The Side
Visual Importance
Stage Fright
The Exhibitionist |
Deep
Throat
Gagging Remedy
Using
Teeth
Kisses & Tongue
Do The Twist
Shirley Temple Licks
Head, Shaft & Scrotum
Grabbing His Behind
Making Him Tight
Hand Job Combo
Vacuum
Double Penetration
Teeth Guards
Thigh Highs
Hummers
The Harmonica
The Drum
Hot & Cold
Women's Lubricant
Hands On Your Head
Adore The Cock
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Penis Anatomy
Messes
Orgasms
Perineum Love
Anal Love
Nipple Love
Mouth Love
Fatigue Warning
Health Concerns
STD Prevention
Hygiene
Tips For Receiver
Clean Up
Post Etiquette
Toys & Products
Fellatio In Water |
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Sex
Toy Hygiene
Preventing
STDs & Infections
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Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
For
those who wonder if they can get STDs or infections from sex
toys, the answer is yes. You can get an STD if you share your
sex toys and you can get an infection from sharing your sex
toys or even using them without properly cleaning them just
by yourself.
The
basic rule of thumb is that you do not want to do anything with
a sex toy that you would not do with part of your body. Using
a sex toy with a separate condom for each partner will help
avoid spreading unwanted bacteria or viruses - just as wearing
a condom will during sex.
Be
careful to follow the guidelines
for proper condom use. If you want to avoid contacting
your partner’s bodily fluids to prevent STDs, it might also
be a good idea to wash your hands each time you open a new condom
as well.
STDs-
If neither partner is concerned about transferring or catching
any diseases, then it is probably safe to use an adult toy without
a condom. Obviously, the same rules apply to using adult toys
as it does to having intercourse - avoid contact with semen
if you are concerned about pregnancy.
Allergies-
Although rare, some people have an allergic reaction to latex.
If you or your partner has an allergic reaction to your toy,
we recommend discontinuing use of that toy. If you cover it
with a condom that is not made out of latex, it might prevent
such a reaction.
Bacterial
Infections-
Avoid using your sex toys (or anything else for that matter)
anally, and then inserting it directly from the anus into the
vagina. It's very important to avoid exposing you, or someone
else's urethra or vaginal opening to the E. coli bacteria that
resides in the anus. While not harmful to the anus, E. coli
can cause urinary tract infections if it is allowed to grow
in the vagina. If you want to use your sex toys in other areas
after anal play, either use a condom or wash it thoroughly.
In this case, it might be best to have a variety of toys, so
that you don’t have to continually interrupt play to carry out
cleaning.
General
Cleaning Tips
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Keep your toys clean with a little soap and warm
water.
~ If you want, break out the hydrogen
peroxide.
~ Don't submerge the part of a
toy that holds the batteries.
~ Do not submerge electric non-waterproof
vibes at all.
~ Nylon
webbing harnesses can go in the wash with the rest of your laundry.
~ Silicone
& Glass can be boiled up to 3 minutes, cleaned with a bleach
solution,
or run through your dishwasher.
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Delicate
polymers stick to warm water and soap, and replace them every
so often,
as they are impossible to keep perfectly
clean.
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Oil products destroy latex! That means oil-based
lubricants, massage oils, butter,
olive oil...anything containing oil. Use
only water-based lubricant with latex.
Sex
Toy Materials
Silicone
This is often considered to be the ideal material for just about
every kind of sex toy. Lifelike with a soft, smooth texture,
silicone quickly reaches and retains body temperature.
There are no hard edges, no snags or imperfections. Silicone
is also easy to clean with soap and water. Because you
can boil silicone, sex toys made from this material can be fully
sterilized and are safe to share. Just make sure you clean them
thoroughly between uses. In addition to being durable, silicone
toys are nearly hypo allergenic. The only drawback to
silicone is the price - because silicone toys are hand-cast,
they can cost significantly more than rubber or jelly.
If you're looking for a high-quality, realistic toy that will
last a long time, silicone is a good choice.
Cleaning:
Run it through the dishwasher or boil it on the stove (3-5
minutes) and your toy is sterilized. |
Realistics-
Cyberskin,
Futurotic, NeoSkin®,
Soft Touch, UltraSkin, and Fauxskin are also
known as thermal plastic. Toys made from this material become
warm with use and are the closest thing to skin-to-skin sensation
you'll find in a sex toy. Cyberskin products work
best when used with the included powder and lubricant which
has been specially formulated to work with them.
Cleaning:
If
you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging
or product page, or contact Customer Service. This type
of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation
sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash
with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap,
then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the
included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum
powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and
sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but
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Jelly
Jelly
toys are nearly half the price of silicone. While not
as smooth or silky as sex toys made from silicone, jelly toys
can still bring you a tremendous amount of pleasure. The
secret is using a generous amount of lubrication. Usually
available in bright colors, jelly toys are crafted from a thick,
translucent, flexible rubber. You don't want to use soap
or boiling water to clean your jelly toys, just warm water and
a gentle touch. Unfortunately, that means these toys aren't
safe to share unless you want to use a condom on them, but they're
so inexpensive, your partner can just go out and buy his or
her own! If you want a smooth, good-quality toy at a reasonable
price, try jelly sex toys.
Cleaning:
This material is a non-porous form of rubber that can be
cleaned with mild soap and hot water. |
Rubber
Most sex toys are made out of simple latex rubber. Quite
a bit firmer than silicone or jelly toys, rubber toys are still
soft and somewhat flexible - but nothing like the real thing.
Regardless, latex rubber is very popular because of its low
cost, versatility and resilience: it's cheap and it does the
job just fine if you aren't too picky. Latex toys wear
out much faster than silicone or jelly toys, and because
they are very porous, rubber toys can be very hard to clean
properly, so no sharing without a condom. Finally, some
people are allergic to latex and can't use it at all.
Also, rubber latex toys come in a wide range of colors, although
"flesh-colored" and black seem to be the most popular.
If you're looking for an inexpensive toy, rubber latex might
be your best choice.
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Cleaning:
Rubber dildos should always be used with condoms, but
can be cleaned with mild soap and water. Rubber dildos
are porous and it isn't really practical to completely
sterilize them, so you should either put condoms on them
if you're going to use them with multiple people or switch
to silicone dildos (which can be boiled to disinfect them).
NEVER
boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let
them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth
before storage.
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Plastic
Plastic is hard, cold and completely inflexible. However,
some people really like plastic as there's something about the
cool, sleek casing and the strong internal vibrators that often
come inside. Plastic vibes aren't a top pick for internal
use or in-out thrusting, but they make wonderful clitoral teasers.
To clean it, soak a cotton ball in rubbing alcohol and wipe
down your toy. If you're nervous about bringing alcohol
in contact with your sensitive genitalia, you can follow the
alcohol wipe with a gentle water wipe-down. Try a plastic
sex toy if you like the sensation of cool metal and a hard,
pulsing vibration.
Cleaning:
Rubber dildos should always be used with condoms, but can
be cleaned with mild soap and water. |
Metal
Metal
can be great. Introduced from the S&M lovers, metal is know
making it's way more into main stream. Be careful whom you purchase
metal toys from as some metal toys are potentially harmful.
Cleaning:
Metal is non-porous, making cleanup a snap. It is easily
disinfected with a weak bleach solution (10% or less) or
rubbing alcohol, though gentle washing with soap and water
are best for everyday cleaning. Some people are fond of
washing their sex toys in the dishwasher. However, if you
choose to use this method, please don't use dish washing
detergent or rinsing agents, as they are bad for some metals.
You should also select the air dry cycle, as it will dry
your toys enough to keep them from rusting. If your metal
toy takes batteries, do not put it in the dishwasher. We
also do not recommend putting Jeweled metal toys in the
dishwasher, as the adhesive that holds the jewel in place
may not hold up well. Dry thoroughly to avoid rusting and
spotting. It is especially important to make sure that liquids
are not allowed to sit any joints of toys because they may
rust. |
Vinyl
Similar
to rubber, this inexpensive and non-porous material is a favorite
with fetish lovers. Vinyl toys are light in weight, easy to clean,
and come in many different forms and colors.
Cleaning:
Vinyl
products are non-porous, and can be washed with mild soap
and hot water. |
Pyrex
Glass
Pyrex
is a special laboratory grade glass that is several magnitudes
stronger than regular glass. It makes a great material,
as it is hard and solid, yet has silky smooth caressing texture.
Cleaning:
This
is the easiest to clean. You
can use nonabrasive antibacterial hand or dish soap, rubbing
alcohol (Isopropyl), bleach, or even boiling water. Make
sure the water is at room temperature before adding or removing
Pyrex glass as sudden, drastic temperature changes may,
on rare occasions, crack the glass. The easiest is just
to put it in the dishwasher although if you have kids or
company remember you put it in there or you could have some
fast "'splanin' to do!" Rinse well with warm water
after any kind of cleaning.
Due
to the non-porous, chemical and odor resistant properties
of Pyrex glass, almost any cleaner may be used. Remember
to stay away from abrasives so as not to scratch it.
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Acrylic
Its
firm texture makes acrylic perfect for PC muscle-strengthening
toys.
Cleaning:
This
can be washed with warm water and antibacterial hand soap
and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse
thoroughly afterward). |
Lucite
This
hard material provides firm pressure, making it a favorite for
prostate and g-spot stimulating toys.
Cleaning:
This
can be washed with warm water and antibacterial hand soap
and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse
thoroughly afterward). |
Leather
Used
for harnesses and restraints, many people find leather tough
and sexy.
Cleaning:
Leather can be cleaned with a damp rag. |
Latex
Use
only water-based lubes on latex, as oil-based substances will
break it down. These products are extremely porous, so be sure
to wash them thoroughly with warm water and antibacterial hand
soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade
the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a
good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially
good idea with these materials.
Cleaning:
Latex
is non-porous and easy to clean. |
When
to Replace Your Sex Toys
No sex toy
lasts forever, so how do you know when it's time to say good-bye?
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Mechanical features slow or stop working,
even after battery replacement
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Cracks are visible in plastic, acrylic, or glass toys, or on
the plastic pieces of other toys
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Mold or mildew has formed on the material,
or the material is deteriorating
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Battery corrosion is seen inside the battery pack | |