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The Holistic Wisdom Journal  

October 21, 2004
Articles In This Issue...

~ See What's On Sale
   
Check Out Our Sale & Clearance Items!

~ Why Use Sex Toys?
   
What Makes Them Worth Having

~ Sex Toy Hygiene
   
Preventing STD's & Infections

~ Finding A Good Sex Toy
   
Quality Vs. Crap

~ New Products
   
Check Out Our Latest Additions

~ Fear of Sex Toys
   
What Many People Worry About

~ Ask Lisa
   
Q&A From Our Readers To Our Founder


~ The Holistic Wisdom Reader's Forum
   
Comments From Our Readers


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The Sexual Wisdom™ Section    
   
Sex In The News

~ Bill O'Reilly Accused of Sexual Harassment
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Jenna Jameson Threatened With Legal Action
~ Sex Toys Sales Not To Be Banned
~ Breast Implants For Men Are The New Rage?
~ Who Is Gettin' Busy More Often?
~ Sleep Sex Disorder Causing Infidelity?
~ Anti-Bush Thong Charges Dropped
~ Man Cuts Off Boy's Penis
~ Firefighters Cruisin' For Chicks
~ Union Leaders Use Funds For Sex Toys & Liquor
~ Britain Bans Trojan Condom Ads
~ World Sex Championship
~ Hardee's Hot Commercial
~ Asexual Adults
~ Native Americans Want "Crazy Horse" Renamed
~ The Exotic Erotic Ball In San Francisco, California
~ The Exotica Erotica Ball In Boulder, Colorado

 

 

Quote of the Week-

I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts,
then there is no hurt, but only more love.

Mother Teresa

 

Sex Joke of the Week-

 

See What's On Sale~


Clearance & Sales!
We want to provide you with low cost incentives to give you the best in quality as well as the best in prices! Make sure to stay updated through our newsletter or rechecking this site as we will be discounting items as well as providing clearance opportunities for you to save!

 

 

 

 

Why Use Sex Toys?
What Makes Them Worth Having

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

 

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO

Member of American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists
( AASECT )

 

Why would anyone want to buy or use a
sex toy
? The answer is simple... they make
sexual efforts easy, while maximizing pleasure & creativity.

Sex toys enhance your sex life with or without a partner. For those times when you are with your partner, sex toys can make foreplay, intercourse, or even post coital moments fantastic. They also make a great substitute partner for periods when one is in between sexual relationships.

There are so many ways that people enjoy using sex toys. Because there are so many available for pleasuring various parts of the body and many creative things one can do with just one of their sex toys.

Couples that use sex toys alone and together in relationships tend to have a strong level of open communication, trust and unconditional love for their partners. Sex toys allow men and women to tap into creative sex and there is such beauty in allowing ourselves and/or partner to enjoy the pleasures they bring.

Some of the Benefits of Sex Toys-

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Sex toys can enhance sexual performance. For example, using a vibrator on a woman's clitoris when a man is performing oral sex can often bring her to heights of ecstasy she has never known. Also, using a vibrator on a man's anus or balls while performing fellatio on him can leave him in a post-coital bliss unlike he's ever known. The variety of the rolses sex toys can have in enhancing sexual play are limitless. Even just using a cock ring during intercourse can make a world of difference. The only way to know... is to try.

 

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Sex toys can allow one to perform sexual acts that may be difficult to sustain for long periods of time. There is of course the obvious issue that many men find a challenge in that they may reach orgasm more quickly than their female partner and then are unable to continue with using their erect penis to pleasure her. Sex toys allow him to stimulate her quickly in the beginning to the point of orgasm so that she is already sated before he climaxes, or after he does. This way she will always feel equally satisfied.

There is also the issue of fatigue and cramping... have you ever been doing something to your partner or yourself, but you found your fingers, hands, neck, back, legs or mouth were getting tired and perhaps even cramping? Sex toys allow you to continue pleasuring your partner and give you less work and effort.

 

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Sex toys are great for those times when one partner “wants to” and the other partner doesn't or can’t. It allows the partner who feels like sexual pleasure the option of having it while adding the aid of a sex toy to the mix.

 

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Sex toys promote good health, as orgasms release stress and tension, and is a great way to start the day or at night to help one sleep.

 

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Sex toys allow sexual release for those with partners who have disabilities that keep them from normal sexual performance.

 

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Sex toys allow partners to have incredible phone sex with one another when they have a long distance relationship or have to be separated from one another for a while.

We have had many women purchasing Fleshlights for their boyfriend or husband when they have to go to another college, travel for work or even do duty in the military. On the other end, we have many military men and others that buy the Make Your Own Dildo Kit to make a mold of their penis to send to their lover.

 

 

Basic Sexual Pleasure of Sex Toys-

There are many women whom find it difficult to achieve orgasm without clitoral stimulation. It's kind of like asking a man to achieve orgasm without having any stimulation to the head of his penis. While it is possible, it can require more effort. Because most positions for vaginal intercourse do not provide sufficient stimulation to the clitoris, adult toys can provide extra stimulation.

Anyone who has used a vibrator will be able to tell you that they often induce some of the most intense orgasms. Most, if not all, new vibrators and powered toys have intensity adjustments to suit personal preferences and sensitivity. A vibrator will often bring a woman to orgasm in as little as a few minutes and is a great way to start off foreplay.

 

A vaginal orgasm is very different from a clitoral one. Dildos come in may forms, from glass, Cyberskin, vibrating, make your own dildo kits, dildo "fucking" machines to double ended dildos there is a large variety from which to choose.

Imagine having a toy that has the dependability to be able to last long enough to help you achieve all three in one night, or even better, all three at the same time, repeatedly. That is what can be found in toys like the Rabbit Pearl and others like it.

 

Anal stimulation is great for those who like a little vibration around the anus to full penetration from a dildo. Sex toys also make for great Prostate Massage in men and make the job easier and fun! Here are Anal Toys We Recommend

 

Penis & Testicle
Stimulation

Sexual stimulation to the penis, testicles, and chode can be quite an added bonus during oral sex, breast sex, and even just by itself. Also using cock rings, ball holders, and even masturbation sleeves can enhance a man's sexual pleasure with or without a partner.

 

Nipple toys range from anything from clamps, vibrators to suction and/or sucking. They can allow one to enjoy hands free stimulation while engaging in sex with a partner or providing themselves with stimulation through their hand or another sex toy. See the Nipple Toys We Recommend

 

Multiple Orgasms

Most women who use sex toys have quickly learned that they are a great way to achieve multiple orgasms. Depending on the versatility of the toy, there are many different kinds of orgasms that can be achieved and the ability to have a toy tirelessly vibrate, rotate or thrust can allow for intense multiple orgasms!

 

Sex toys allow for couples to not only stimulate one another in otherwise impossible ways, but sex shapes allow couples to get into creative positions that provide deeper thrusting, less muscle strain and fatigue as well as improved performance.

 

For those individuals whom are or have a partner whom is substantially overweight, there can be difficulty in achieving sexual stimulation to one another. When sexual positions that allow for better access to the genitals do not work well, sex toys are an obvious answer to allow overweight couples and individuals to continue having a great sex life.

 

While there are Kegel strengthening products that are not as focused on the pleasure aspect, there is another option for women who want to increase their Kegel strength while pleasuring themselves- Dutone balls may be a great way to achieve this.

 

Sex For Those With Disabilities

We are all at risk for becoming disabled because unfortunately accidents, birth defects and unfortunate side effects from medications and disease do occur. Whether you or your partner are disabled, think about what may be possible by using sex toys.

We are happy to report that a man paralyzed from the waist down was able to achieve ejaculation by using the Hitachi Magic Wand for the first time in 7 years! While he was not able to have the same sensations as someone who had feeling there, he was very pleased psychologically as was his girlfriend! Not to mention the fact that it is healthy to do it and still provides endorphins to the body!

 

 

Types of Sex Toys-

Vibrators
Traditional, dual action, pocket rockets, g-spot & prostate, bullets, anal, waterproof, ben wa & duotone balls, gift sets, wands, attachments and make your own vibrating dildos.

How To Choose A Vibrator

 

Dildos
Vibrating, Cyberskin, Realistic, Double Ended, Harnesses, Make Your Own Dildo Kits, Sybian,
and more!

How To Choose A Dildo

 

Lubricants
Love Liquid, ForPlay Flavored, Oil of Love, Phallix Glass Lubricant, Warming & Flavored, Cyberskin™ Powder, Water Based, Wet Platinum, ForPlay Flavored, Anal-Eze, Sexual Arousal Cream, Desensitizers, Condoms, Massage Oils, Massage Creams
How To Choose Lubricant

Glass & Chrome
We Offer A Lowest Price Guarantee On Our Pyrex Glass & Chrome Alloy Sex Toys. These beautiful pieces of art and functional toys. You can warm or cool them for a fun effect. They clean very easily (even in the dishwasher!) Strong and beautiful toys high quality sex toys that bring a life time of pleasure.
Our Top Picks In Glass & Chrome Products

 

For Women
Nipple Toys, Sexual Arousal Cream,
Clitoral Suction Toy
, Personal Shavers,
Kegal Exercise
, Disguised Vibrators
Sex Machine Reviews
Also Known As "Fucking Machines," Featuring the Sybian & The Jetaime

Special Featured Item-
Female Ejaculation:Adult Gift Baskets

 

For Men
Make Your Own Dildo Kits
Fleshlights- Male Masturbation Toy
Condoms, Sex Dolls, Desensitizers,
Sexual Arousal Cream
, Cock Ring/Clit Stimulator,
Personal Shavers
, Penis Enlargement Resources,
Pocket Pussies
Sex Machine Reviews
Also Known As "Fucking Machines," Featuring the Sybian & The Jetaime

 


Bondage and Fetish
We work hard to demonstrate our respect for our clients as healthy, intelligent, sexually adventurous adults. You will be sure to enjoy our array of constraints, whips and other daring bedroom gear!

 

Make Your Own Vibrating Dildos
Now you can finally make a very personal vibrating or non-vibrating realistic dildo! This one-of-a-kind kit will create an "identical twin" of yours or your lovers penis and scrotum, using the same patented replication technology employed by special effects houses in Hollywood!

 

Bedroom Gear
Liberator Shapes: (Seen In Meet The Fockers)
Wedges, Ramps, Stages, Cube, Woody Goody Bag
Holistic Wisdom:
Lawless Linens- Waterproof Sex Throws
Passion Pillows- Storage For Sex Toys & Valuables

 

Fleshlights: Ultimate Male Masturbation
Our revolutionary "Real Feel Super Skin" gel inserts elevate sexual pleasure and freedom to new and exciting peaks. You won't believe how real and life-like these feel when they are lubed up and warmed to body temperature! Cleverly disguised, the Fleshlight™ can be stored and concealed in variety of settings and is the perfect travel mate.

 

Massage
Massage Oils, Massage Creams, Article On Massage

 


Enhancers & Desensitizers
Anal-Eze, Sexual Arousal Creams, Desensitizers for both men and women. Men Should Note- We recommend you use a condom if you are using a desensitizer to prolong sex as the cream will rub off on your partner numbing them as well. Also, you should note that if your partner is using an enhancer cream it may make you more prone to orgasm more quickly than you may like.

 

Toys By Type

Pyrex Glass
I Cyberskin I Realistic I Anal Sex Toys

Fellatio Sex Toys I Sex Toy Materials I Bedroom Gear

 


Jetaime & Sybian
Reviews On The Top Sex Machines

Men & Women can experience intense and multiple orgasms easily. Whether your partner likes to watch, is out of town, is tired, or you simply do not have one at the moment, these dildo & vibrator machines go from gentle to intense, as they allow one to determine their orgasmic potential. Multiple orgasms are easily experienced as they allow for controlled levels of stimulation using realistic attachments that match their partner while providing endurance and vibration that a partner cannot provide.

 

 

 

 

 

Advanced Fellatio Instruction

 

Read and see much more through The Art of Fellatio Manual available online or in a soft cover binder with
8 minutes of video available as a download or on CDROM.

See what is covered in the
manual and video below-

 

Positions
Techniques
Instruction
Media
Basic & Best
68 1/2
69
Face Fucking
On Your Knees
On The Side

Visual Importance
Stage Fright
The Exhibitionist

Deep Throat
Gagging Remedy

Using Teeth
Kisses & Tongue
Do The Twist
Shirley Temple Licks
Head, Shaft & Scrotum
Grabbing His Behind
Making Him Tight
Hand Job Combo
Vacuum
Double Penetration
Teeth Guards
Thigh Highs
Hummers
The Harmonica
The Drum
Hot & Cold
Women's Lubricant
Hands On Your Head
Adore The Cock


Penis Anatomy
Messes
Orgasms
Perineum Love
Anal Love
Nipple Love
Mouth Love
Fatigue Warning
Health Concerns
STD Prevention
Hygiene
Tips For Receiver
Clean Up
Post Etiquette
Toys & Products
Fellatio In Water

FREE Pictures-
A variety of close ups from Lisa Lawless' home library.


FREE Video-
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Sex Toy Hygiene
Preventing STDs & Infections


Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

 

For those who wonder if they can get STDs or infections from sex toys, the answer is yes. You can get an STD if you share your sex toys and you can get an infection from sharing your sex toys or even using them without properly cleaning them just by yourself.

The basic rule of thumb is that you do not want to do anything with a sex toy that you would not do with part of your body. Using a sex toy with a separate condom for each partner will help avoid spreading unwanted bacteria or viruses - just as wearing a condom will during sex.

Be careful to follow the guidelines for proper condom use. If you want to avoid contacting your partner’s bodily fluids to prevent STDs, it might also be a good idea to wash your hands each time you open a new condom as well.

STDs-
If neither partner is concerned about transferring or catching any diseases, then it is probably safe to use an adult toy without a condom. Obviously, the same rules apply to using adult toys as it does to having intercourse - avoid contact with semen if you are concerned about pregnancy.

Allergies-
Although rare, some people have an allergic reaction to latex. If you or your partner has an allergic reaction to your toy, we recommend discontinuing use of that toy. If you cover it with a condom that is not made out of latex, it might prevent such a reaction.

Bacterial Infections-
Avoid using your sex toys (or anything else for that matter) anally, and then inserting it directly from the anus into the vagina. It's very important to avoid exposing you, or someone else's urethra or vaginal opening to the E. coli bacteria that resides in the anus. While not harmful to the anus, E. coli can cause urinary tract infections if it is allowed to grow in the vagina. If you want to use your sex toys in other areas after anal play, either use a condom or wash it thoroughly. In this case, it might be best to have a variety of toys, so that you don’t have to continually interrupt play to carry out cleaning.

 

General Cleaning Tips

~ Keep your toys clean with a little soap and warm water.
~ If you want, break out the hydrogen peroxide.
~ Don't submerge the part of a toy that holds the batteries.
~ Do not submerge electric non-waterproof vibes at all.
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Nylon webbing harnesses can go in the wash with the rest of your laundry.
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Silicone & Glass can be boiled up to 3 minutes, cleaned with a bleach solution,
    or run through your dishwasher.
~ Delicate polymers stick to warm water and soap, and replace them every so often,
    as they are impossible to keep perfectly clean.
~ Oil products destroy latex! That means oil-based lubricants, massage oils, butter,
    olive oil...anything containing oil. Use only water-based lubricant with latex.

 

Sex Toy Materials

Silicone

This is often considered to be the ideal material for just about every kind of sex toy. Lifelike with a soft, smooth texture, silicone quickly reaches and retains body temperature.  There are no hard edges, no snags or imperfections.  Silicone is also easy to clean with soap and water.  Because you can boil silicone, sex toys made from this material can be fully sterilized and are safe to share. Just make sure you clean them thoroughly between uses. In addition to being durable, silicone toys are nearly hypo allergenic.  The only drawback to silicone is the price - because silicone toys are hand-cast, they can cost significantly more than  rubber or jelly. If you're looking for a high-quality, realistic toy that will last a long time, silicone is a good choice.

Cleaning:
Run it through the dishwasher or boil it on the stove (3-5 minutes) and your toy is sterilized.

 

Realistics-

Cyberskin™, Futurotic™, NeoSkin®, Soft Touch™, UltraSkin™, and Fauxskin™ are also known as thermal plastic. Toys made from this material become warm with use and are the closest thing to skin-to-skin sensation you'll find in a sex toy.  Cyberskin™ products work best when used with the included powder and lubricant which has been specially formulated to work with them.

Cleaning:
I
f you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service. This type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find).

Jelly

Jelly toys are nearly half the price of silicone.  While not as smooth or silky as sex toys made from silicone, jelly toys can still bring you a tremendous amount of pleasure.  The secret is using a generous amount of lubrication.  Usually available in bright colors, jelly toys are crafted from a thick, translucent, flexible rubber.  You don't want to use soap or boiling water to clean your jelly toys, just warm water and a gentle touch.  Unfortunately, that means these toys aren't safe to share unless you want to use a condom on them, but they're so inexpensive, your partner can just go out and buy his or her own!  If you want a smooth, good-quality toy at a reasonable price, try jelly sex toys.

Cleaning:
This material is a non-porous form of rubber that can be cleaned with mild soap and hot water.

 

Rubber

Most sex toys are made out of simple latex rubber.  Quite a bit firmer than silicone or jelly toys, rubber toys are still soft and somewhat flexible - but nothing like the real thing.  Regardless, latex rubber is very popular because of its low cost, versatility and resilience: it's cheap and it does the job just fine if you aren't too picky.  Latex toys wear out much faster than silicone or jelly toys,  and because they are very porous, rubber toys can be very hard to clean properly, so no sharing without a condom.  Finally, some people are allergic to latex and can't use it at all.  Also, rubber latex toys come in a wide range of colors, although "flesh-colored" and black seem to be the most popular.  If you're looking for an inexpensive toy, rubber latex might be your best choice.

Cleaning:
Rubber dildos should always be used with condoms, but can be cleaned with mild soap and water. Rubber dildos are porous and it isn't really practical to completely sterilize them, so you should either put condoms on them if you're going to use them with multiple people or switch to silicone dildos (which can be boiled to disinfect them).

NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storage.

Plastic

Plastic is hard, cold and completely inflexible.  However, some people really like plastic as there's something about the cool, sleek casing and the strong internal vibrators that often come inside.  Plastic vibes aren't a top pick for internal use or in-out thrusting, but they make wonderful clitoral teasers. To clean it, soak a cotton ball in rubbing alcohol and wipe down your toy.  If you're nervous about bringing alcohol in contact with your sensitive genitalia, you can follow the alcohol wipe with a gentle water wipe-down.  Try a plastic sex toy if you like the sensation of cool metal and a hard, pulsing vibration.

Cleaning:
Rubber dildos should always be used with condoms, but can be cleaned with mild soap and water.

 

Metal 

Metal can be great. Introduced from the S&M lovers, metal is know making it's way more into main stream. Be careful whom you purchase metal toys from as some metal toys are potentially harmful.

 

Cleaning:
Metal is non-porous, making cleanup a snap. It is easily disinfected with a weak bleach solution (10% or less) or rubbing alcohol, though gentle washing with soap and water are best for everyday cleaning. Some people are fond of washing their sex toys in the dishwasher. However, if you choose to use this method, please don't use dish washing detergent or rinsing agents, as they are bad for some metals. You should also select the air dry cycle, as it will dry your toys enough to keep them from rusting. If your metal toy takes batteries, do not put it in the dishwasher. We also do not recommend putting Jeweled metal toys in the dishwasher, as the adhesive that holds the jewel in place may not hold up well. Dry thoroughly to avoid rusting and spotting. It is especially important to make sure that liquids are not allowed to sit any joints of toys because they may rust.

 

Vinyl 

Similar to rubber, this inexpensive and non-porous material is a favorite with fetish lovers. Vinyl toys are light in weight, easy to clean, and come in many different forms and colors.

 

Cleaning:
Vinyl products are non-porous, and can be washed with mild soap and hot water.

 

Pyrex Glass

Pyrex is a special laboratory grade glass that is several magnitudes stronger than regular glass.  It makes a great material, as it is hard and solid, yet has silky smooth caressing texture. 

Cleaning:
This is the easiest to clean. You can use nonabrasive antibacterial hand or dish soap, rubbing alcohol (Isopropyl), bleach, or even boiling water. Make sure the water is at room temperature before adding or removing Pyrex glass as sudden, drastic temperature changes may, on rare occasions, crack the glass. The easiest is just to put it in the dishwasher although if you have kids or company remember you put it in there or you could have some fast "'splanin' to do!" Rinse well with warm water after any kind of cleaning.

Due to the non-porous, chemical and odor resistant properties of Pyrex glass, almost any cleaner may be used. Remember to stay away from abrasives so as not to scratch it.

 

 

Acrylic 

Its firm texture makes acrylic perfect for PC muscle-strengthening toys.

 

Cleaning:
This can be washed with warm water and antibacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward).

 

 

Lucite 

This hard material provides firm pressure, making it a favorite for prostate and g-spot stimulating toys.

 

Cleaning:
This can be washed with warm water and antibacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward).

 

Leather 

Used for harnesses and restraints, many people find leather tough and sexy.

 

Cleaning:
Leather can be cleaned with a damp rag.



Latex


Use only water-based lubes on latex, as oil-based substances will break it down. These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and antibacterial hand soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.

 

Cleaning:
Latex is non-porous and easy to clean.

 

 

When to Replace Your Sex Toys

No sex toy lasts forever, so how do you know when it's time to say good-bye?

~ Mechanical features slow or stop working, even after battery replacement

~ Cracks are visible in plastic, acrylic, or glass toys, or on the plastic pieces of other toys

~ Mold or mildew has formed on the material, or the material is deteriorating

~ Battery corrosion is seen inside the battery pack