Lesbian
& Gay Marriages
Civil Rights For Homosexuals
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
I am among millions
of heterosexual,
married women and
men in support of homosexual marriage.
Read Why It Is
A Civil Right Below
The Arguments Against
Homosexual Marriage
There are
many reasons being offered these days for opposing gay marriage
and they are usually variations on a few well-established themes.
I have outlined these themes throughout this article and will
address each of them.
What
Is Marriage?
Marriage
is a powerful legal and social institution that protects and
supports intimate family relationships by providing a unique
set of rights, privileges, and benefits. Those who can marry
often take these rights for granted, but for gays and lesbians
these benefits have been unfairly denied.
I am not
suggesting through this article that anyone support gay marriage
or be happy about it. I will state that I do not believe anyone
has the right in the United States of American to ban it. If
you don't like sex toys, don't buy them. If you don't like Porn,
don't watch it. If you don't support gay marriage don't go to
a gay wedding ceremony!
Religious
Hypocrisy-
Certain
politicians are working diligently to prevent marriage between
two people of the same sex. However, it seems to me that despite
creating laws based on religion (which is unconstitutional in
the first place), there seems to be deep hypocrisy about what
scriptures of the bible they choose to ask the rest of us to
live by...
If you
take what the scripture of the bible says then you would also
have to abide by the following rules-
1) Marriage
in the United States of America shall consist of a union
between one man and one or more women.
(Gen 29:17-28; II Sam 3:2-5.)
2) Marriage
shall not impede a man's right to take
concubines in addition to his wife or wives.
(II Sam 5:13; I Kings 11:3; II Chron 11:21)
3) A marriage
shall be considered valid only if the wife is a virgin.
If the wife is not
a virgin, she shall be executed. (Deut
22:13-21)
4) Marriage
of a believer and a non-believer shall be forbidden (Gen 24:3;
Num 25:1-9;
Ezra 9:12; Neh 10:30)
5) Since
marriage is for life, neither the US Constitution nor any state
law shall permit
divorce. (Deut 22:19; Mark 10:9-12)
6) If a
married man dies without children, his brother must marry
the widow. If the
brother refuses to marry the widow, or deliberately
does not give her children, he
shall pay a fine of one shoe and be otherwise
punished in a manner to be determined
by law. (Gen. 38:6-10;Deut 25:5-10)
7) In lieu
of marriage (if there are no acceptable men to be found), a
woman shall get her
father drunk and have sex with him.(Gen 19:31-36)
Think about
how many things the bible tells Christians they should do and
then take a moment to question why people think that it is not
only the word of God (not the word of men inspired by God) and
that it should be taken literally.
It seems the dark ages when certain ultraconservative Christian
groups were about political greed and power are not over.
Arguments
Against Gay Marriage-
Marriage
Is An Institution Between One Man And One Woman
This is the
most often heard argument. Yet it is easily the weakest. Who is
marriage to be defined by? Isn't this whole debate like allowing
a a certain ethnic group to be married, but another not to be
because of religious reasons? Isn't our country supposed to protect
our civil rights and not allow any religion to supersede our rights?
This is much like Texas state law wanting to say that Joanne
Webb cannot sell sex toys because apparently ultraconservatives
feel that plastic vibrators are against God's will.
Can you
imagine how the fundamentalist Christians would react if the
government was trying to impose Pagan or Jewish marriage ceremonies
to be required by law in order to be valid?
For some
reason many conservative Christian groups are under the impression
that this country is Christian and that laws should be based
on their beliefs. While I am not saying that Christians, Jews,
Buddhists and other religions should not have their beliefs,
I am saying they should not impose them as law in the United
States. Our country stands for freedom and to have the audacity
to say to the world that our country stands for freedom only
when it adheres to certain religious beliefs is truly a disgrace.
We have
received many eMails from American soldiers that are currently
defending our country including those over in Iraq who thank
us for the articles that we write and that it is our stance
on freedom of speech and sexual rights that is part of why they
are risking their lives. I cannot tell you how meaningful that
is for us to hear. Isn't that what America is supposed to be
about... Freedom?
Marriage
Is For Procreation
If that's
the case, then why are infertile couples allowed to marry? I,
for one, would love to be there when it is to explained to a
post-menopausal mother or impotent father that since they cannot
procreate, they cannot marry! Such an argument fails to persuade
based on the marriages society does allow routinely.
Same-Sex
Couples Should Not Raise Children
That's an interesting
one, in light of who society does allow to get married
and bring children into their marriage: murderers, convicted felons,
and known child molesters are all allowed to freely marry and
procreate, and do so every day. So if children are truly the priority
here, why is this allowed?
The fact
is that many gay couples raise children- adopted, through artificial
fertilization and occasionally their own from failed attempts
at heterosexual marriages. Many scientific studies have shown
that the outcomes of the children raised in the homes of gay
and lesbian couples are just as good as those of straight couples.
Psychologists tell us that what makes the difference is the
love of the parents, not their gender. These
studies are very clear about that and gay and lesbian people
are as capable of loving children as fully as anyone else.
Gay
Relationships Are Immoral
Says who?
The Bible? Somehow, I always thought that freedom of religion
implied the right to freedomfrom
religion as well. The Bible has absolutely no standing in American
law, and because it doesn't, no one has the right to impose
rules on anyone else simply because of something they perceive
to be mandated by the Bible.
Not all
world religions have a problem with homosexuality; many sects
of Buddhism, for example, celebrate gay relationships freely
and would like to have the authority to make them legal marriages.
In that sense, their religious freedom is being infringed.
If one believes in religious freedom, the recognition that opposition
to gay marriage is based on religious arguments is reason enough
to discount this argument.
Marriages
Are For Ensuring The Continuation Of The Species
The proponents
of such an argument are going to have a really hard time persuading
me that the human species is in any real danger of dying out
through lack of procreation. Especially considering that right
now the earth is OVER POPULATED! Not to mention that this would
contradict the argument that Gays should not have children.
If ten percent
of all the human race were to suddenly refrain from procreation,
I think it is safe to say that the world would probably be better
off. One of the world's most serious problems is overpopulation
and the increasing anarchy that is resulting from it.
Same-Sex
Marriage Would Threaten The Institution Of Marriage
Threaten
marriage? By allowing people to marry? That doesn't sound very
logical to me. If you allow gay people to marry each other,
you no longer encourage them to marry people to whom they feel
little attraction, with whom they most often cannot relate sexually,
and thereby reduce the number of supposed heterosexual marriages
that end up in the divorce courts. If it is the institution
of heterosexual marriage that worries you, then consider that
no one would require you or anyone else to participate in a
gay marriage. So you would have freedom of choice, of choosing
what kind of marriage to participate in- something more than
what you have now.
One of the
biggest points made in regard to this controversy is that gay
marriage threatens heterosexual marriages by making a mockery
of them. I wonder how a couple of women or men that get married
is going to affect heterosexual marriages negatively. I am straight
and married, and yet those couples in Hawaii that have gotten
married certainly have not caused any damage to my marriage
or anyone elses for that matter. This argument is absurd!
Marriage
Is Traditionally A Heterosexual Institution
This is
morally the weakest argument. Slavery was also a traditional
institution, based on traditions that went back to the very
beginnings of human history. But by the 19th century, humankind
had realized the evils of that institution, and has since largely
abolished it. Why not recognize the truth, that there is no
moral ground on which to support the tradition of marriage as
a strictly heterosexual institution, and remove the restriction?
Same-Sex
Marriage Is An Untried Social Experiment
The fact
is that gay marriage has been legal in Denmark since 1989 and
the rest of Scandinavia not long after. Full marriage rights
have existed in many Dutch cities for several years, and it
was recently made legal nationwide, including the word "marriage"
to describe it.
So we do
have a long-running "experiment" to examine for its results,
which have uniformly been positive. Opposition to the Danish
law was led by the clergy (much the same as in the States).
A survey conducted at the time revealed that 72 percent of Danish
clergy were opposed to the law. It was passed anyway, and the
change in the attitude of the clergy there has been dramatic.
A survey conducted in 1995 indicated that 89 percent of the
Danish clergy now admit that the law is a good one and has had
many beneficial effects, including a reduction in suicide, a
reduction in the spread of sexually transmitted diseases and
in promiscuity and infidelity among gays.
Far from
leading to the "destruction of Western civilization" as some
critics (including the Mormon and Catholic churches among others)
have warned, the result of the "experiment" has actually been
civilizing and strengthening, not just to the institution of
marriage, but to society as a whole. So perhaps we should accept
the fact that someone else has already done the "experiment"
and accept the results as positive. The fact that many churches
are not willing to accept this evidence says more about the
churches than it does about gay marriage.
Same-sex
Marriage Will Lead To Legalized Incest, Bestial Marriage And
Other Horrible Standards
This argument
is preposterous especially when those have nothing to do with
two consenting adults who love one another it's just down right
insulting to gays and lesbians.
It is no
different than trying to claim that heterosexuals may start
practicing incest or having sex with animals if they don't get
married.
The reality
is that a form of gay marriage has been legal in Scandinavian
countries for over many years, and no such legalization have
happened. It's a classic scare tactic making the end scenario
so scary and horrible that the first step should never be taken.
Such tactics
are signs you are dealing with someone that either is afraid
and lives in fear of their own sexuality weakness or someone
who wants power over you through your fear... either way it
is a ludicrous point. If we listened to our hearts, not our
fears, we would be much better off.
If "concern"
were the real motive behind this argument, the advocate of this
line of reasoning would be equally vocal about the fact that
today, even as you read this, convicted murderers, child molesters,
known pedophiles, drug pushers, pimps, black market gun dealers,
etc., are quite free to marry, and are doing so. Where's the
outrage? Of course there isn't any, and that lack of outrage
betrays their real motives. This is an anti-gay issue
and not a pro marriage issue.
Granting
Gays The Right To Marry Is A "Special" Right
That is
like saying that allowing African Americans to sit at the front
of the bus is a special right! How absurd.
As Justice
Kennedy observed in his opinion overturning Colorado's infamous
Amendment 2 (Roemer vs. Evans), many gay and lesbian
Americans are, under current law, denied civil rights protection
that others either don't need or assume that everyone else along
with themselves, already have.
The problem
with all this "special rights" talk is that it assumes
that everyone is already treated equal, therefore any
rights gay people are being granted must therefore be special.
That is most assuredly not the case, especially regarding marriage
and all the legal protections that go along with it.
Sodomy
Is Illegal
Actually
it's not anymore...
In November
2003 the Supreme Court voted that "The petitioners are entitled
to respect for their private lives," Justice Anthony Kennedy
wrote for the court's majority. "The state cannot demean their
existence or control their destiny by making their private sexual
conduct a crime."
The
REAL Reasons People Oppose Gay Marriage
So far, we've
examined the reasons everyone give for opposing gay marriage.
Let's examine now the real reasons people oppose
and fear it-
Not
Comfortable With The Idea Of It
We all have
the right not to be comfortable with things. However, if you
live in a country where you are comfortable with everything
then you probably aren't living in a free democracy. That is
part of the compromise of freedom. There are going to be things
that make some people uncomfortable with what you believe and
how you live. For example, I am uncomfortable with racists and
fundamentalist religions but I respect that they have the right
to believe what they want to. I certainly would not advocate
for laws to be passed that support my beliefs and infringe on
their rights.
I mean,
I would love to pass a law that made everyone have to own sex
toys so that they would not be so up tight and hateful toward
other people... but out of respect for their freedom to live
their life the way they see fit I refrain from enforcing a vibrator
and pocket pussy
requirement law. (Hope that made you smile... as it was intended
to do so.)
The other
point that I wanted to make about the gay marriage debate was
made by Bill Maher(Real Time Show on HBO)who said homophobics
think that - "The only thing that a man should put in another
man is a bullet." He also made the point that it is not
lesbians that seem to disturb most people, it is gay men. I
have to say that I agree that most people are more disturbed
by gay sex and that is something I will reserve for another
article as there is much to be said about the vast differences
in attitude.
It
Offends Everything Religion Stands For
Whose religion?
Many mainstream
Christian denominations, to be sure, and definitely most branches
of Islam and Orthodox Judaism, but outside those, most religions
are unopposed to gay marriage, and many actually favor it. When
the Mormon church arrogantly claimed to represent all religions
in the Baehr vs. Lewin trial in Hawaii, the principal
Buddhist sect in that state made it very clear that the Mormon
church didn't represent them, and made it very clear
that they support the right of gay couples to marry.
That particular
Buddhist sect claims many more members in Hawaii than does the
Mormon church. In a society that claims to offer religious freedom,
the use of the power of the state to enforce private religious
sensibilities is an affront to all who would claim the right
to worship according to the dictates of their own conscience.
Regardless,
religious freedom does not just mean the right to worship with
your choice of religion, but also freedom FROM religion.
Marriage
Is A Sacred Institution
Who says?
This is based on the assumption that the state has the responsibility
to "sanctify" marriages; a fundamentally religious idea. Here
we're dealing with people trying to enforce their religious
doctrines onto everyone, but by doing it through weakening the
separation of church and state, thus undermining the Bill of
Rights.
Gay
Sex Is Unnatural
This argument,
often encoded in the very name of sodomy statutes, betrays a
considerable ignorance of behavior in the animal kingdom. The
fact is that among 1,500 animal species whose behavior has been
extensively studied, homosexual behavior in animals has been
described in at least 450 of those species.
It ranges
from displays of affection to life-long pair bonding including
sex and even adopting and raising orphans. The reality is that
it is so common that it begs for an explanation, and sociobiologists
have proposed a wide variety of explanations to account for
it. The fact that it is so common also means that it has evolutionary
significance, which applies as much to humans as it does to
other animal species.
Sex
With Two Men Is Not Masculine
Just as
there are effeminate gay men there are effeminate straight men.
There are also masculine lesbians and masculine straight women.
The point is that we all possess masculine and feminine attributes.
You might think I am masculine for being the CEO of my company,
for knowing about automobile repair and you might also find
me feminine with my need for too many pillows on the bed to
decorate it or for liking Sex In The City! Personally, I think
that the show Queer Eye For The Straight Guy shows that
many straight males could use some help!
Homosexuals
Might Recruit
This is
based on the fact that most heterosexuals are so repressed,
confused and uneducated about their own sexuality that they
feel scared when presented with something out of the mainstream.
Homosexuals do not recruit straight people to be gay,
in fact I would say that with all the Religious Fundamentalists
out there trying to brainwash homosexuals that they are suffering
from a disease and can be cured that it is the opposite! Heterosexuals
try and recruit homosexuals all the time, isn't that hypocritical!?!
Why This
Is A Civil Rights Issue
Did you
know that homosexuals cannot make medical decisions for their
partners in an emergency. Instead, the hospitals are usually
forced by state laws or to go to the families who may be estranged
from them for decades, who are often hostile to them, and totally
ignore their wishes for the treatment of their partners.
If their
partners are arrested, they can be compelled to testify against
them or provide evidence against them, which legally married
couples are not forced to do. Is this fair?
In many
cases, even carefully drawn wills and durable powers of attorney
have proven to not be enough if a family wishes to challenge
a will, overturn a custody decision, or exclude them from a
funeral or deny them the right to visit a partner's grave. As
survivors, they can even seize a real estate property that they
may have been buying together for years, quickly sell it at
a huge loss and stick them with the remaining debt on a property
they no longer own. Is this fair?
These aren't
just theoretical issues, either; they happen often. Almost any
older gay couple can tell you horror stories of friends who
have been victimized in such ways.
Accidental
death benefit for the surviving spouse of a government
employee.
Appointment
as guardian of a minor.
Award
of child custody in divorce proceedings.
Beneficial
owner status of corporate securities.
Bill
of Rights benefits for victims and witnesses.
Burial
of service member's dependents;
Certificates
of occupation.
Consent
to post-mortem examination;
Continuation
of rights under existing homestead leases.
Control,
division, acquisition, and disposition of community
property
Criminal
injuries compensation.
Death
benefit for surviving spouse for government employee.
Disclosure
of vital statistics records;
Division
of property after dissolution of marriage.
Eligibility
for housing opportunity allowance program of the Housing,
Finance and Development Corporation.
Exemption
from claims of Department of Human Services for social
services payments, financial assistance, or burial payments.
Exemption
from conveyance tax.
Exemption
from regulation of condominium sales to owner-occupants.
Funeral
leave for government employees.
Homes
of totally disable veterans exempt from property taxes.
Income
tax deductions, credits, rates exemption, and estimates.
Inheritance
of land patents;
Insurance
licenses, coverage, eligibility, and benefits organization
of mutual benefits society.
Legal
status with partner’s children;
Making,
revoking, and objecting to anatomical gifts.
Making
partner medical decisions;
Nonresident
tuition deferential waiver;
Notice
of guardian ad litem proceedings.
Notice
of probate proceedings.
Payment
of wages to a relative of deceased employee.
Payment
of worker's compensation benefits after death.
Permission
to make arrangements for burial or cremation.
Proof
of business partnership.
Public
assistance from the Department of Human Services.
Qualification
at a facility for the elderly;
Real
property exemption from attachment or execution.
Right
of survivorship to custodial trust;
Right
to be notified of parole or escape of inmate.
Right
to change names.
Right
to enter into pre-marital agreement.
Right
to file action for nonsupport;
Right
to inherit property.
Right
to purchase leases and cash freehold agreements concerning
the management and disposition of public land.
Right
to sue for tort and death by wrongful act.
Right
to support after divorce.
Right
to support from spouse.
Rights
and proceedings for involuntary hospitalization and
treatment.
Rights
by way of dour or courtesy.
Rights
to notice, protection, benefits, and inheritance under
the uniform probate code.
Sole
interest in property.
Spousal
privilege and confidential marriage communications.
Spousal
immigration benefits.
Status
of children.
Support
payments in divorce action.
Tax
relief for natural disaster losses.
Vacation
allowance on termination of public employment by death.
Veterans'
preference to spouse in public employment.
In
vitro fertilization coverage.
Waiver
of fees for certified copies and searches of vital statistics.
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
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How
To Perform A Lap Dance
When You Want To Seduce
Fawnia
Mondey
Holistic Wisdom Affiliate
How
to Perform a Lap dance For Your Woman
Fawnia Mondey
Think
about the times you enjoyed a lap dance during a guy's night
on the town. Seeing a man shake their body, grind their hips
every which way, and grant the odd caress; o.k. maybe lots of
caresses, is always a way to make any girl smile. If you want
more then a smile, you can have that too…lets get started.
Making Your Selections
You
see girls wearing next to nothing at strip clubs, but what do
men wear? At times, they start in a full blown theme, dressed
as a cop, fireman, mail man, army guy, cowboy, or Zorro.
Often
the best shows are very realistic and the dancer wears a suit.
If you haven't picked up your lasso, start with your handy suit.
If you wear a suit to work, then this could be perfect; she'd
remember this dance each time you left for work, possibly with
a return of a dance for you when you return home! For most grinding
those hips requires music that will guide you through your show.
Nerves
may be on high, so with the help of sweet tunes, the thought
of 'what to do next will' be within the song you hear. A new
CD created just for stripping is at www.StripToIt.com
or you can play anything that makes your body groove on auto
pilot. Having a glass of wine also helps; which I am sure she
would enjoy too.
For
props, if you need them, you can use a blindfold at the start,
and handcuffs or a simple tie, to keep her in place. I can honestly
tell you that many women love been restrained. Feeling overpowered
is a popular fantasy, and when combined with a sexy dance, which
is must witness, will get her mind racing for more.
If
you decide to strip your partner down, have ice handy and run
a hard cube along her body. Place a cube in your mouth, chill
out and cool her off.
Performing
a lap dance means enjoying your body with your partner. When
you think of a lap dance, you think of women; through that thought
out the window and realize now that you could be minutes away
from making this day one to remember. Get close anyway you like,
let her hear your breath and moans, and create some body friction.
Gently with your arm, hand, foot, knee, or prop, tease your
sole audience member and watch her response. Often the lightest
of touches equals the greatest of urges. Take your time, and
move anyway that feels right for you.
How
to Perform a Lap dance For Your Man
You know he wants it, I mean he does visit the clubs more then
he cares to let on, and most likely enjoys it more then he reveals.
I'm not talking about your average night out to a club, but
a heated visit to the hot showroom club. Whether he even talks
one on one with a dancer she is making some sweet moves on him,
in his mind. Here's how to shake your partners world with a
lap dance at home!
Making
your selections
Let's
start with what to wear. No matter what time of day it is, choose
something that makes you feel sexy. Keep in mind that you'll
want him to like it too. Try little hot pants, bikini, sheer
robe, cut off shorts, or even his clothes. If you wear a suit
to work, then maybe that would be perfect; he'd remember this
dance each time you left for work.
Getting
into the groove requires music that will guide you through your
show. Nerves may be on high, so with the help of sweet tunes,
the thought of 'what to do next will' be within the song you
hear. A new CD created just for stripping is at www.StripToIt.com
Or you can play anything that makes your body groove on auto
pilot.
Having
a glass of wine also helps; offer him a glass too. For props,
if you need them, you can use a blindfold at the start, and
handcuffs or a simple tie, to keep him in place. If you decide
to strip him down too, try using ice and running it along his
body. Place a cube in your mouth, chill out and cool him off.
Performing
a lap dance means enjoying your body with your partner. Get
close anyway you like, let him hear your breath and moans, and
create some good friction. Don't sand him down to paper though.
Often the lightest of touches equals the greatest of urges.
Take your time, and move anyway that feels right for you. When
your partner sees you enjoying yourself in the "driver seat",
he'll let you drive more often!
When
your partner sees that you made the effort to treat her with
a strip show and lap dance, your relationship will change. Dances
could be coming your way soon! To see actual show examples,
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About
Fawnia~
Hi, my name is Fawnia. Formerly known as Sky, I worked as an
exotic dancer performing throughout Canada and in Europe. Today
I am an exotic dance instructor, fitness model, writer, actress
and producer. As an exotic dancer, having theater as the soul
of my shows, I've entered contests of all Caleb's and gathered
a wide range of knowledge and information which I would love
to pass on to you... the dancer of the millennium, and the man
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Awards-
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Joanne
Webb Update- Gag Order Continues
Under Attack Selling Sex Toys &
Talking About Sex... Illegal?
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Joanne
Webb
If
you haven't been following our story, Joanne Webb, a former
fifth-grade teacher, is a Burleson, TX, suburban mother and
part-time saleswoman for a company called Passion Parties, Inc.
She is also in the middle of one of the most ridiculous criminal
cases. Joanne provides adult novelties that are sold at Tupperware-type
house parties. These parties are educational and great for people
who feel more comfortable buying marital aids in a private home
than at an adult bookstore.
Acting
on a tip in November 2003, two undercover officers got a warrant
for her arrest on charges that she had sold obscene devices,
a violation of state law.
Update-
Gag order
continues.
Joanne still
awaits her court date under a gag order. She has been under
tremendous stress and appreciates your support
via eMails.
As far I've
heard, Joanne's trial date is not set yet, but they are anticipating
a
summer trial. It may (hopefully) not even
come to that, since her lawyer is currently
challenging the constitutionality of the
law in the Federal courts.
Minister's
Three Conditions For Her To Return To Church
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO
For
those of you following this story through our web site, you
know that the whole "sting operation" on Joanne was
started by Ministers of her church who were against her wearing
miniskirts. When she would not abide by their shaming demands
they went after her legally through her new part-time job of
selling sexual aids through women only Tupperware style parties.
Those
of you following this also know that one of her former ministers
(Dr. Charles Stewart) eMailed me as he had seen my article and
wanted to try and convince me that they did all of this out
of love. Two weeks ago Joanne's former minister wrote her telling
her that she could come back to their church on three conditions
that he eMailed her.
1)
Joanne must refrain from wearing miniskirts that may distract
him and other members of the congregation.
2)
Joanne must stop selling sexual toys and educating women about
sex.
3)
Joanne must admit that she was wrong for doing these things
in front of the
congregation and apologize.
Upon
fulfilling these three conditions her minister assured her that
he and the congregation would accept her back into their church
and all would be forgiven. Joanne politely declined and explained
to her former minister that she did not want to be a part of
their church any further and found his remarks to be condescending
and judgmental.
Joanne's
former minister also eMailed me and tried to explain that he
only wanted to teach Joanne the way of God. All I could read
in his eMails was "Hey, I don't like to be the "bad guy"
because the members of the church are probably embarrassed by
the negative press.
I still can't find that part in the Bible that talks about how
vibrators and short skirts are bad, really, really bad. Oh,
that's right... there isn't one! Not
to mention that anyone who takes the Bible literally needs a
serious reality check. Her former minister sounded like the
Pastors back in the witch burning days who is burning a woman
at the stake and saying "Gee, it's such a shame WE HAD TO BURN
HER, I only wish she had submitted to MY will and beliefs.
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The
Dangerous PIMP Mentality
Can Making Prostitution Legal Help?
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Watching
HBO's Documentary series the other day I saw a re-run I had
seen back in the late 90's called Pimps Up, Ho's Down (1999)
by Brent Owens. This
is a documentary on the world of pimps and prostitutes. Some
of the pimps featured are Mr. Whitefolks, Don "Magic" Juan (former
pimp) and "Snooky"(1998 Pimp of the Year... yes, they actually
have an award ceremony for pimps by pimps).
Mr. Whitefolks
is so unbelievable in some of the things he does and says that
you almost feel you are watching a character like Archie Bunker
from the sitcom "All In The Family." He is one of
very few white pimps and has ebonics
down to an art form. He speaks about how it is important to
keep ho's in line by beating them up for just looking at their
pimp when on the street. He said that this has to happen when
they don't overt their eyes to show respect.
Now, I admit
that like many Americans I enjoy some of the music and style
that comes from this culture but I draw the line at reality.
It's one thing to dress flamboyantly it's quite another to beat
someone and take their money!
I am not
advocating banning any of the multimedia that I have shown in
this article as I believe we all have the right to express ourselves.
To be honest I listen to some of the catchy tunes of "Pimp
icons" like 50 cent and P. Diddy (Sean Combs), and I thought
that Snoop Doggy Dog was great in the Starsky & Hutch movie
with Ben Stiller and Owen Wilson. I also like the MTV show "Pimp
My Ride," where they take old, beat up cars and "pimp
them out."
I am not
suggesting that prostitution is necessarily morally right, but
I do think we need to take a different approach. We need a solution
to address not only the health concerns, millions of tax dollars
spent on police enforcing the law against prostitution as well
as cut out the need for prostitutes to have pimps!
The most
high-profile prostitution prosecution in recent years was the
Heidi Fleiss case out of Los Angeles. Heidi organized call girls
for wealthy customers. Her "employees" made up to
$10,000 a day and none complained about how she treated them.
Heidi's
lawyer Thomas Tanana detailed the Los Angeles police campaign
against her in 1995 in the Orange County Register: "While people
were getting murdered, mugged, and raped in other parts of Los
Angeles, 20 to 30 members of the LA metro vice squad safely
perched themselves high atop the spacious penthouse of a Beverly
Hills hotel for weeks conducting endless preparatory strategic
meetings, installing and testing hidden video cameras
behind special see-through mirrors in adjoining suites, bugging
rooms with recording devices, chatting with young call girls
about sex, and watching racy movies all at taxpayers' expense.
In 1993, one Los Angeles government official estimated that
prostitution enforcement was costing Los Angeles alone over
$100 million a year!
HIV infection
rates tend to be stratospheric among the nation's streetwalkers.
In Newark, New Jersey, 57 percent of prostitutes were found
to be HIV-positive; in New York City, 35 percent of prostitutes
were HIV-positive; and in Washington, D.C., almost half of all
streetwalkers were found to be HIV-positive.
In contrast,
brothels are legal in ten rural Nevada counties and the legal
brothels ten
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