The Holistic Wisdom Journal  

April 1, 2003 ~ Articles In This Issue...

~ Fisting- An Anal & Vaginal Adventure
   Fisting is enjoyed by many who prefer a deeper, fuller penetration.

~ A Swinger Lifestyle

~ Genital Herpes Treatment Cuts Spread
    Daily Valtrex Helps Prevent Spread of Virus to Partner

 

Fisting- An Anal & Vaginal Adventure
Fisting is enjoyed by many who prefer a deeper, fuller penetration.
Some content direct from- fisting-free.com
Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

Fisting is not for everyone. Personally, I have never done it or experienced it, but I had inquires made to us about it and decided to research it and interview those who had. Turns out, there are a lot of people that enjoy it!

On the Internet it is considered a "fetish," so learning about it and getting content on it can be more difficult. That is another reason that I wanted to provide our site visitors with this article. This way you can enjoy learning about it, including how to do it, and get some resources on where to find pictures and video of it as well.

Your First Fisting Experience-

First, let me say that after all of my research and speaking with those whom do this regularly... I can't stress the importance of hygiene, lubrication and patience to you enough.

Before you try any type of fisting for the first time, make sure the vaginal or anal area is well cleaned, preferably within the last hour. Make sure to start with smaller insertions, such as two or three fingers before working up to the entire hand. Move slowly to avoid a sudden tear, which can be very painful. Use proper protection in the way of condoms and latex gloves.

A good technique to start with is some well lubricated fingering of the tip of the opening. Start by tracing circles around the outer rim, then proceed with a leisurely insertion. Move up to two fingers for a bit, then three and the next thing you know,you'll have all four fingers comfortably inside. Use a little finger motion to ease up a little space to work your thumb in. After the thumb, there's only a little more stretch required to get the widest part of your fist in. After that, you may find your hand sucked inwards a bit. Have no fear, but proceed slowly.

Watch the receiver's face and body for signals of pleasure and/or pain. Keep going with what works for you. It may take several sessions of experimentation to find the techniques that work best for you. You may nail it on the first shot. Either way, keep patient and enjoy the excitement.

Fisting Tips

Especially for anal fisting, you'll want to make sure the entire area is cleaned out prior to your session. As the giver, it's a very good idea to wear latex or other protective gloves. For anal fisting, it's mandatory. Proper hygiene is the key to having repeat sessions that are both exciting and enjoyable. As the receiver, you don't want to be walking around funny for the next week (or maybe you do).

Start Slow

Make sure to start each session with a little warm-up before trying to cram your whole arm up there. As you get more experienced with fisting, you'll get to know your partner's preferences and thresholds. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and just ram that fist up there, but you're better off with a slower, probing approach. You'll know when they want you to go full tilt.

Lots of Lubricant

It's almost impossible to use enough lubricant. Also, you'll want to liberally apply additional lubricant as your session wares on. Oil based lubes work wonderfully, but if you're anal fisting, you may wish to consider a water based lube. Make sure to lube the fist, the wrist and the entire opening, including the inner walls.

Relax

If you're the receiver, make sure to relax your opening so the giver can work their entire hand in. You'll be amazed how much you'll stretch and how comfortable it will become once the whole hand is inside. Let your mind and body relax and breath outward as you go through the peak insertion stages. You'll find that the opening will loosen up and allow for the sublime pleasure of being stretched to the limit.

Fisting Techniques ~

Knuckles Only

Part the opening with one or two knuckles, then work the rest of your knuckles in and begin moving them around. The ballistic, rolling motion of the knuckles has the effect of rolling balls inside the opening of the anus and can be extremely satisfying.

Open Palm Fisting

Work your entire hand into the opening with the palm open. Keep your fingers rigid and together as your insert and retract your entire hand into and out of the opening. As you progress, you can add a little motion from the fingers at the apex of each insertion. Watch your partner for signs of things they really like.

Open Fingers Fisting

Similar to the Open Palm technique, where you insert your hand into the opening, but with your fingers spread apart. You may find that you have to stretch around a bit inside the canal to get some space. The individual fingertips provide for different depths, pressures and styles of stimulation simultaneously. Wiggle them a little for added delight.

Finger Wave

During Fisting With your hand completely inserted into the opening and your fingers extended open, begin to do the "Wave" with your fingers. Go back and forth or stay in one direction - both techniques are fabulous.

To the Elbow

Warning: Beginners should not attempt this technique.
Even experts should proceed at a very slow pace when going down past the wrist. Keep a closed fist and slowly delve deeper and deeper into the canal. Make sure to keep any new area you insert well lubricated. Slowly work your way as far down towards the elbow as you can. Watch your partner closely because most people can't make it very far. The idea is not to actually get to the elbow (very few can actually do that), but to go in that direction and enjoy the pleasure of a deep probing.

Twisting

While Fisting With a closed fist inserted well into the opening, slowly twist your entire arm back and forth. The receiver will absorb stimulation from the entire region in contact. This technique can quickly overpower the receiver, so watch them closely.

Clean the Bird

Reach your open hand into the opening as though it were Thanksgiving day and you were probing into the bird to clean out the innards. Once you're inside, feel around and though you were looking for the little bag of gimlets. Make the receiver cluck like a turkey for fun.

Brass Knuckles

Roll the tips of your knuckles across the top of the opening. Your raised knuckles provide bumps of pure pleasure and are a great way to get that opening loosened up for some further exploration.

 

Fisting Hygiene

Proper hygiene is essential before, during and after any fisting activity. Make sure the giver has cut or filed their fingernails down smooth. Long nails don't mix well with the anal or vaginal canals. Latex gloves are a great way to provide protection during this form of stimulation.

For Anal Fisting
The receiver should use an enema done 30-60 minutes before the session to clean out all fecal matter. Use a water based enema - in fact, water alone should do the trick. Allow at least 15 minutes for all of the water to completely drain.

For Vaginal Fisting
Though a thorough cleansing of the vaginal area is a good idea prior to fisting, it's not mandatory. Proper lubrication will be essential, so a little foreplay won't hurt. Vaginal fisting is not advisable during menstruation.

 

Trauma

The anal canal is a very sensitive area, especially the deeper you go. Sharp objects, friction and certain materials may cause cuts, pain and or allergic reaction to the entire region. Believe us when we tell you that this is not pleasant. Be very careful about staying within your limits.

If you're into fisting as part of a little sado-masochistic action, make sure not to inflict actual pain in this area. There's nothing wrong with having a fist up there, but you need to be careful.

Infection

The anal area is rife with bacteria and other microorganisms that can cause terrible damage when introduced to other parts of the body. HIV/AIDS is a major one. That alone should get you serious. Latex exam or surgical gloves are mandatory! Lubricants should never be shared or reused. Never allow open sores or cuts near this area. Any surfaces involved (hands, toys, sheets, etc.) should be thoroughly cleansed before AND after each session.

Cleansing

When cleaning this area, you should always begin with warm water only. Don't add anything until you've become comfortable with the warm water. Adding other substances, including herbs, soaps and oils can cause cramps and nausea. Expect to spend up to 2 hours for the entire process.

You're best off experimenting with techniques to get the water in and out of yourself, but for the most part, the more relaxed you are, the easier it will be. Many people enjoy the sensations of a good anal cleansing.

It's possible that you'll get an attack of gas during your cleansing. This is perfectly normal and should be looked upon as part of the healing process. You'll want to refill after passing gas, as the bubbles will displace open areas which can be washed out with water.

Cleanup

Depending on the nature of your session, you'll probably want to allow an hour or so for the various fluids and lubricants to drain out of you.

You can speed this process with a douche or enema, but take care not to overscrub the area, as this can cause scraping, which leads to infection.

Diet and Nutrition

Again, diet plays a more important role in anal fisting than it does in vaginal fisting. With a proper diet, you can clear out the anal canal prior to fisting. Starting 2 or 3 days prior to your fisting session, begin eating more high fiber foods than normal. Stay away from dairy products and fatty meats. Also avoid foods high in simple carbohydrates (sugars, potatoes, french fries, chocolate). Eat lots of fruits and vegetables and drink lots of water (up to 2 liters/day).

 

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A Swinger Lifestyle

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

Swinging began in the 1950’s.  At that time the only way to meet other swingers was through personal ads.  Now individuals and couples interested in the swinging lifestyle can go to clubs specializing in this type of sexual expression.  There is even a national organization that has been developed to promote correct swinging education and information called the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA). 

There are many benefits to being a swinger.  It provides many members to explore their sexuality and sensuality in new ways that they find are not easily accepted in the more “vanilla” traditional communities.  It is a good way for BI-curious women to explore their potential bisexuality without becoming involved in the lesbian community where they may not feel comfortable or be welcome. 

Swinging allows both women and men the opportunity to reject monogamy without being cast as sluts, whores, or gigolos.  Individuals can also learn a lot more about their sexual interests when not confined restrictively.  Once they let go of the taboo of polyamory, swingers can often allow themselves to relax and find out what they really like sexually and not just what society expects them to like.  This type of freedom is rare. 

Swinging can enhance a relationship and the commitment involved in the couple’s relationship.  By requiring honesty and communication it emphasizes some of the most important qualities of a healthy relationship.  Swinging requires a strong level of trust and security.  For some people watching their partner be sexual with others and obviously aroused is very hot and arousing in and of itself.  Many people make new friends through the lifestyle.  It is a close nit community based on strongly shared beliefs and practices. 

Beware that while it may seem like a good idea... a lot of times the fantasy makes for a very emotionally upsetting reality. Bottom line is that swinging is not for everyone. You may have a perfectly healthy monogamous relationship and simply enjoy keeping it just the two of you like my hubby John and I do.

You may ask yourself why write an article in support of swingers if we ourselves are not. Personally, I thought that the perfect reason... why not listen to the research and objectivity of someone who does not live the lifestyle, but can still see the beauty of it for those who do! We have heard through our web site visitors and our research, that there are couples that have opened their relationship up to a "swinging" lifestyle and have maintained and even enhanced their relationship successfully. In honor of them we have provided you with this article and perhaps some food for thought.

This is not accomplished by many couples, but it can be done. Swinging is definitely not for those who are in a relationship that is unhealthy or unstable as swinging is likely to tear the couple apart even more.  If there is a lack of trust in the relationship, a feeling of insecurity, jealousy, or a lack of honest communication, then swinging is is definitely not appropriate. 

It is not ok for a swinger to cheat on their partner just like it is not OK for an individual involved in a monogamous relationship to cheat.  Therefore it is only OK to have illicit affairs as a swinger if all parties agree that the relationship is completely open and that honest and frequent communication is not required in the relationship; this is exceedingly rare in the lifestyle.  Traditionally swinging is not about dishonesty, lying, or closed communication. 

Swinging is not ever meant to promote unsafe, indiscriminate sex.  Most swingers are looking for quality sexual and/or sensual experiences and not just frequent sexual encounters with anonymous partners. 

 

 

Genital Herpes Treatment Cuts Spread
    Daily Valtrex Helps Prevent Spread of Virus to Partner
By
Peggy Peck

March 24, 2003 (San Francisco) -- In the 1970s, herpes was forever. In the 1980s, it was the "gift that kept on giving." But while herpes is still forever, new research suggests that in the 21st century genital herpes treatments can help prevent spread of this sexually transmitted disease.

"This is the first time that antiviral therapy has demonstrated the ability to prevent or reduce transmission of a virus," researcher Gisela Torres, MD, of the University of Texas Medical Branch Center for Clinical Studies.

Torres studied close to 1,500 monogamous couples in their 30s in which one partner was infected with genital herpes. In half of the couples the infected partner took 500 mg of the genital herpes drug Valtrex, while the infected partners in the remaining couples were given placebos. The study was funded by GlaxoSmithKline.

In the group that took the genital herpes treatment, spread of symptomatic herpes to the partner was 77% less than in the group that took placebo, says Torres. The researchers also looked at silent spread of genital herpes since the virus is often transmitted without the partner developing any symptoms. Treatment with Valtrex reduced the rate of silent transmission by 50%.

Overall, the transmission rate was 3.8% in the placebo group and 1.9% in the Valtrex group, she says.

Torres, who presented the research at the 61st annual meeting of the American Academy of Dermatology, says several factors contribute to transmission.

"The risk for transmission increases as sexual activity increases. In this study, transmission was significantly higher among couples who had sex more than 10 times a month compared to those who limited intercourse to no more than five times a month," she says. "But even in this case, [Valtrex] was protective so that the transmission rate among highly sexually active couples was less if the infected partner was taking antiviral therapy."

The rate of herpes infection has been steadily increasing for the last 20 years and research suggests that 1 in 5 adults has genital herpes. Herpes can be spread even when the infected person has no sores or irritations from the disease. With silent transmission a real risk, Torres says the need for genital herpes treatments to suppress the virus and prevent spread is especially urgent.

Of particular concern are women of childbearing age who can pass along the infection during pregnancy. If a child is born with herpes, "there is a risk for serious complications and even death," says Torres.

"If the woman is the positive partner, she should be on antiviral therapy for the last trimester of her pregnancy so that she reduces the risk for viral shedding during delivery. If the woman is the uninfected partner, we would advise the couple to begin suppressive therapy before considering pregnancy," said Torres.

Herpes is a disease of recurrent outbreaks and some people have flare-ups 10 or more times a year. In this study, patients averaged five recurrences a year before genital herpes treatment. After eight months of treatment, 60% of Valtrex patients had no outbreaks compared with 20% of placebo patients.

Peter Heald, MD, professor of dermatology at Yale-New Haven Hospital in New Haven, Conn., says the results are impressive, but he questioned the safety of "a lifetime of [Valtrex] treatment." Torres says that other studies demonstrate that antiviral therapy is "safe up to 10 years."

Warren Heymann, MD, dermatologist at Cooper Hospital/University Medical Center in Camden, N.J., says, "This treatment should be considered for all affected couples of child-bearing age."

But the genital herpes treatment is not cheap," says Torres' CO-researcher Mathijis Bretjens, MD, also of the University of Texas Medical Branch. "But our experience is that insurers are willing to pay for the treatment, and even if coverage is denied, patients will pay for this protection."

Torres says that other genital herpes drugs may also be effective at reducing the risk for transmission.

 

 

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