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The Holistic Wisdom Journal  


Happy April Fool's Day!


April 1, 2004

Articles In This Issue...


~ Romantic Resorts For Couples Only
   Connection, Adventure, Romance

~ Get Rich Selling Amateur Adult Videos or Pics Online?
  
Maybe, and Maybe Not- Learn What It Really Takes

~ Joanne Webb Update
  
Under Attack Selling Sex Toys & Talking About Sex... Illegal?

~ Breast Cancer
   
Signs, Facts, Treatment & Resources

~ Should Men Still Be Proposing?
   
Tell Us What You Think

~ Viagra Only Works For Two Thirds of Men Who Use It
   
When Men's Sexual Issues Are Oversimplified

~ Lose More Than Weight On High Protein Diets
   
Lose Your Health!

~ When You Worry That Your Penis Is Too Small
   
Three Ways From Tantra & Kama Sutra
   To Create Incredible Ecstasy Regardless Of Penis Size

~ Help Support Sexual Health Educators
   
Donate To Our New Holistic Wisdom Legal Aid Support Fund


~ The Holistic Wisdom Reader's Forum
   
Comments From Our Readers


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The Sexual Wisdom Section    New!
   
Sex In The News
   Penis-Enlargement Company Enzyte™ Sued
   Sexual Dysfunction May Be Indicating Serious Health Problems
  
Condoms Don't Prevent HPV Transmission
   Hooters: Waitress Applicants Videotaped Naked
   Genital Piercing Illegal For Women, But Not Men In Georgia


Romantic Resorts For Couples Only
Connection, Adventure, Romance

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder


With vacation planning beginning you may want to consider a couples only getaway even just for a weekend.

The first thing that you will want to do in choosing your romantic rendezvous is to decide what you are looking for. Below are some questions that may help you in you decision making process-

 

Do you want a getaway with couples only?

This type of resort would allow only other couples, no singles or adult families. The popular Sandals resorts fall into this category.

Do you want a getaway with adults only?

This type of resort would include couples as well as singles and adult families. Some adults-only resorts define adults as age 18 and up; others start at 16. Resorts like SuperClubs' Lido properties fall into this category.

Are you looking for a clothing-optional beach or getaway?

Many beach properties, especially in the Caribbean, have clothing optional beaches, although clothing is required in most areas of the resort. These are not the same as a nudist resort where nudity is the order of the day throughout the entire resort. Properties such as Jamaica's Hedonism II and III offer clothing optional beaches.

So whether you are planning a getaway, wedding, or honeymoon, here are some of the exotic and erotic retreats couples enjoy-

Sex Education Spas
Honeymoon & Romance

Canyon Ranch- Tucson, AZ
Canyon Ranch- Lenox, MA

800-742-9000
CanyonRanch.com

The Oaks at Ojai- CA
800-753-6257
OaksSpa.com

Surf & Sand Resort
Laguna Beach, CA
800-267-4177
SurfAndSandResort.com

Caneel Bay
St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
340-776-6111
CaneelBay.com

 

HoneyMoonLocation.com

TheHoneymoon.com

Sandals.com

Nudist Resorts
Swingers Resorts
CalienteResortAndSpa.com

SuperClubs.com

 

Tantra Weekends & Retreats

TantraAtTahoe.com

4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

Women's Retreat

Men's Retreat

Tantra For Women

Tantra In Wiltshire- United Kingdom

Tantra In Ireland

Tantra In Costa Rica

Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats

SacredMountainRetreat.org

SourceTantra.com

Tantra In Toronto, Canada

Tantra In Atlanta, GA

Tantra In Hawaii

Tantra In Boulder, CO

If you have gone on a romantic vacation or retreat and would like to recommend it to our readers, feel free to eMail us and we will pass on your suggestions and/or story in our next newsletter!

 

 

 

 

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~ Pleasure Balm
~ Honey Dust with a feather applicator.

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Get Rich Selling Amateur Adult Videos or Pics Online?
Maybe, and Maybe Not- Learn What It Really Takes

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

 

We sometimes receive requests from our online visitors to provide advice on how to sell their Amateur videos on the Internet. We also get those who want us to buy their company or adult videos or products.

As I am a collaborative person rather than a competitive one, I am always happy to answer questions and consider offers as there is always the possibility of quality partnering as well as it being flattering that others wish to seek advice or do business with us.

I wanted to write this article to provide those of you who are thinking about selling adult content on the Internet some tools and insights that you may not have had before.

 

What Do I Need To Start An
Adult Business On The Internet?

That is a very big question and has a complex answer. I would say there are a few major areas that you should examine-


Do You Have An Entrepreneur's Personality?

Those who want to have a successful web site and dream of being their own boss need one main attribute... an entrepreneurial mind set. Are you the type of person that enjoys creating structure when there is none? Are you someone who is often a leader in the work place? Are you willing to work long hours and take risks?

You see, I have often had people come up to me and say "Wow, it must be great to be your own boss, work from home and do what you love!" My reply is always "Yes, it is!" Then I smile knowing that they also most likely don't understand the tradeoffs of what I do- 15 hour days of work, work, work and all of the company success or failure is my responsibility. No one tells me what to do, which may sound nice, but that means that I have to not only tell myself what to do but take the extra effort of determining what needs to be done.

That adds up to some stressful days and sleepless nights, especially when you first start your own business. Once your company is more successful it can be easier in some regard but harder in other ways. It is like your baby, and for those of you who have children, you know that even when you are not with your child you are always concerned and thinking about them even when they are not with you. The same applies to your own business.

I began my first web site CounselingSource.com after I had my son in 1999. Mind you, I was the one in my Masters Degree program telling everyone that I liked using a typewriter, because as a therapist... when was I really ever going to use a computer? Hee, hee... that still makes me laugh. So, flash-forward a few years later and there I am trying to figure out how to offer therapy sessions by phone via the Internet so that I could work from home. I did what most people do and hired a company that seemed really professional to build a web site for me.

They were a holistic health web design company especially geared toward health practitioners and I thought it was a perfect match! I paid $2,500 for a little site and agreed to wait three months for it to be built. Six months passed and still I did not have a completed web site. I could write a book about all the stress that company put me through from constantly making promises they did not keep to having them suddenly disappear because they were going bankrupt and failed to mention it to their customers. Nice, huh?

Not getting what you paid for happens to people every day through unethical web site designers, eCommerce companies, web hosts, and merchant account providers and is something that you will need to keep in mind when selecting companies to work with.

After I tracked down the owner of the company that left me with an unfinished web site, I was able to get my money back with some legal intimidation and the backing of my credit card company. From that day onward I swore that I would learn it all myself and never be put in a situation like that again. I spent over a year teaching myself web design, eCommerce marketing and search engine optimization to create the sites much like this one.

I know I sound highly driven... in fact, I joke that sometimes I feel like my "intense drive" runs me over! I am not suggesting you become a web designer like I did, but you will need to become educated on what it really takes to run an Internet business in order to make good choices.

If you look at any successful entrepreneur... you will find that they have a high level of determination and willingness to learn what it takes to be successful. Also they have a willingness to work hard for no guarantee of pay, no benefits, risk of losing money and no days off. I know this does not sound like the kind of job most people look for when they search the want ads... but that is what an entrepreneur starts off with at least at the beginning when you are building your eBusiness.

That is why if you see anyone telling you that you can make lots of money from working at home via the Internet with no effort... you should question their true motives because it sounds just as truthful as "No new taxes."

 

Search Engine Optimization & Promotion-

 

Even if you have the best looking site with incredible content, if you are not ranked well on the search engines then it won't matter because no one will ever see it! Often people make the mistake of thinking all they need is a web site and they will be taking in money hand over fist. Then there are those who think that all they need to do is submit their sites to a search engine and presto they are millionaires. Finally, there are those that understand that search engines are very complex and pay a company to submit their web site to the search engines and get ready to buy that 2.5 million home they've been dreaming about.

If you think that any of the above mentioned is an instant ticket to your salad days then you really will want to think again... because these things are the flea on the tip of the ice burg in the world of eCommerce.

One thing to keep in mind is that in eCommerce if you have a 1% conversion rate in sales (meaning 1 out of 100 web site visitors will buy your products) then you are doing well. The adult industry typically has less than a 1% conversion rate because there are a lot of what I call "Looky Lou's," meaning people like to look at the pics, etc. and not purchase anything. This is why targeted web site traffic is soooooooooooo important!

I am not suggesting that you can't become successful, but I will tell you that you need to get educated about the search engines even if you want to hire a company to help you get ranked well, because there are a lot of companies out there that will just take your money and submit your site (which you can do for free in most cases in about 5 minutes) and nothing will happen.

Simply submitting your site to the search engines is not going to get you ranked well. You need to know about key word density, link popularity, and other important factors in getting ranked well on the net. If you don't know about at least the concepts, how in the world are you going to know if the company you are hiring can help you make a difference in getting your site seen on the web? How will you know if they are going to do what it takes?

Trust me when I say that even the really good web site optimization companies that submit sites to the Internet and optimize sites can fail at promoting your site well. It's just that complicated and nobody except those lucky bastards at the Search Engine companies know everything you need to be ranked well because they guard their secret criteria and change it often. Again, it is about staying informed on the latest trends of the search engines and knowing what will get your site ranked highly.

 

 

The Google "Scroogle"

Let me share a quick example of what I mean. As you may know Google is the leader in search engines right now (although considering the recent split with Yahoo! and with Microsoft announcing they are going to compete; Google is going to have to really work to stay competitive).

Google, like all search engines, are always changing and updating their algorithms and search criteria to attempt to better their service to the consumer who wants to find quality listings when they do a search. In November 2003 Google launched what many in the Internet industry refer to as "Florida" because the changes Google made felt like a hurricane to web site owners (including us). The changes they made were to try and get rid of search engine spammers; those companies that submit hundreds of web sites to flood the listings for the same company or affiliates who were only linking to others sites and had no real products that they were selling.

They ended up making some listings worse and the quality sites that they were hoping their changes would make list higher on their search engine ended up getting deleted under various key search terms. We were temporarily one of them. For months you would not be able to find us under one of our major terms "Female Ejaculation." When you consider that the night that Google made these changes we were on page one and then we disappeared... you can imagine our sales dropped dramatically. Bottom line in eCommerce. is: No traffic to your site = no sales.

Everybody in eCommerce were struggling to come up with theories as to what happened and how to regain their listings... but many to no avail have not made it back and some are now out of business. This is the risk game you play in eCommerce. and some days it makes the idea of working for someone with a paycheck, vacation time, etc. actually seem appealing!

Google realized that it had made some mistakes and is trying to correct them, but we along with many web site owners are still suffering... if you go to the web and look us up on Google we are only on page six... and when you look at the companies that are listed before us... well, some of them are only one web page compared to our massive amount of pages dedicated to female ejaculation! You would think that when a consumers put in the term female ejaculation they would want to see sites that have information about it, offer pictures or products like female ejaculation toys or movies as we do up front.

I know I may sound like I am complaining right now more than educating... but I am saying all of this to make a point. Getting ranked well on specific key terms on a major search engines can be very hard to do.

Do we still get a lot of traffic to our site despite the key term "Female Ejaculation" not at our best right now? Absolutely! There are a lot of things that you can do to ensure that you have many key terms that you rank well on many search engines.

To get you started on resources that I have used or found helpful check out my adult webmaster resources that I provide for our affiliates-

 

 

What Do I Need To Know To Sell
Adult Video or Pics On The Internet?

 

Selling Adult Content-

If you are already exhausted, bored or overwhelmed with the idea of learning eCommerce then you may want to take your sexy adult content (videos, pics, etc.) and sell them to adult sites (primarily content providers: companies that buy content and whom then resell it to many adult sites). Female ejaculation content tends to sell well in addition to other niche content.

Many people are naïve about how much competition there is and providing content that is unique is the best way to go. Most content providers do not produce their own material. They either have photographers they subcontract or they find one of many freelance photographers or videographers wanting to sell their images.

Components of Good Content

Many content providers going into the business without any experience make a mistake by not going niche specific. That means they start by filming anything. Things like BBW (Big Beautiful Women), fetishes and others sell well. Having niche content allows you to have an edge over the thousands of other people trying to sell their content.

Make sure to have samples available via a web site download, CDROM or DVD to send to interested parties. You don't have to send them everything, but you will want to be able to provide them a sample of what you have.

Adult Content Laws

Remember to abide by adult content laws or you could get into big trouble! A lot of people have heard about the enormous profits that adult webmasters can make and say "I want to get on that bandwagon". So they go out and put up a site and have no clue of the peril they are putting themselves in. Most new webmasters and existing webmasters have underestimated the risk of this business.

Laws that you absolutely have to know and comply with:

~ 18 U.S.C. 2257:
     The Federal Adult Disclosure & Labeling law

~ Obscenity Laws
    (Both State and Federal)

~ The D.M.C.A.
     Digital Millennium Copyright Act
     If you intend to have pictures and video's
     on your site

~ General Copyright Laws

~ Licensing Laws

~ Federal Cyber-squatting Act

~ Trademark Laws

~ Publicity & Entertainment Law

~ State Regulations & Laws

The site that I really love to stay informed with is called AdultSiteLaw.com. When you are ready to pursue this business you should make sure to check out their site.

 

Good Luck!


Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO

One thing to keep in mind is that while many adult web masters make a lot of money the majority of them don't make as much as you think. It is important to make realistic goals, study what the competition is doing and learn from them.

No matter what you choose to do, there are always opportunities for hard working, creative people to succeed and I am sure if you put your mind to it, you can achieve the level of success you desire.

 

 

 

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Joanne Webb Update- Gag Order Continues
Under Attack Selling Sex Toys & Talking About Sex... Illegal?

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder




Joanne Webb

If you haven't been following our story, Joanne Webb, a former fifth-grade teacher, is a Burleson, TX, suburban mother and part-time saleswoman for a company called Passion Parties, Inc. She is also in the middle of one of the most ridiculous criminal cases. Joanne provides adult novelties that are sold at Tupperware-type house parties. These parties are educational and great for people who feel more comfortable buying marital aids in a private home than at an adult bookstore.

Acting on a tip in November 2003, two undercover officers got a warrant for her arrest on charges that she had sold obscene devices, a violation of state law.

Update-

Gag order continues.

Joanne still awaits her court date under a gag order. She has been under
    tremendous stress and appreciates your support via eMails.

As far I've heard, Joanne's trial date is not set yet, but they are anticipating a
    summer trial. It may (hopefully) not even come to that, since her lawyer is currently
    challenging the constitutionality of the law in the Federal courts.

Read the full story CLICK HERE to read all about it.

See comments made by Joanne and our readers since our last update in our readers forum below.

 

 

 

 

Breast Cancer
Signs, Facts, Treatment & Resources

 

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder


I write this article in honor of those with breast cancer, those whom have survived it and those whom have not. I write it in honor of my Mother and Aunt who have survived it and whom have shown courage in the face of this horrible disease that ails so many women as well as men.

 

Birth - Age 39 1 Woman in 231 Will Get Breast Cancer
Age 40 - Age 59 1 Woman in 25 Will Get Breast Cancer
Age 60 - Age 79 1 Woman in 15 Will Get Breast Cancer

 

What are the Signs of Breast Cancer?



Breast Cancer Awareness Raised Via Shows Such As Sex In The City
( When Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones Struggled Through Chemotherapy To Treat It ) Is Always Good To Remind Us How Common It Is And The Importance Of Breast Exams.

One of the best things that you can do to prevent the seriousness of breast cancer is to be aware of the signs. However, there are often no outward signs of breast cancer that you can see or feel.

If there are outward signs, the more common ones include a lump, an area of thickening, or a dimple in the breast. Less common signs include breast swelling and redness or an enlarged underarm lymph node. But even if you have one or more of these signs, it still doesn't mean you have breast cancer.

Remember that most breast lumps turn out to be benign (not cancerous). Eight out of 10 lumps that women may feel in their breasts are benign (not cancerous). A benign lump can be a collection of normal or hyperactive breast gland cells, or it may be a water-filled sac (cyst).

Still, it's extremely important that you SEE YOUR DOCTOR RIGHT AWAY if you're worried that you might have breast cancer. Having your doctor take a look will ease your worry, and if anything is found, you'll be able to take care of it quickly.


Physical examination of the breast is one way to find breast cancer. Physicians can also do mammograms, ultrasound, MRI, and PET scans to determine if cancer is present.

 

Is Breast Cancer Hereditary?

Just because your mother or another relative had breast cancer DOES NOT mean you will get breast cancer. Most women who get breast cancer don't have breast cancer in the family. There are many risk factors for breast cancer, and having it in the family is only one of them. If you're worried about getting breast cancer, talk to your doctor about your own risk factors.

 

Can Men Get "Breast" Cancer?

This year 1,600 men will be diagnosed with breast cancer and 400 will die. While the percentage of men who are diagnosed with breast cancer is small, men should also give themselves monthly exams and note changes to their physicians.

 


Stop Unnecessary Mastectomies
Sign the petition and make a difference!

On September 25, 2003, Lifetime Television delivered more than 5 million petition signatures to Capitol Hill, urging Congress to ban "drive-through" mastectomies — the practice in which women are forced out of the hospital sometimes only hours after breast cancer surgery. Sign their petition now to help end drive-through mastectomies once and for all.


CLICK HERE

To electronically sign Lifetime Television's Pledge Form

 

Will Taking Hormones Increase Breast Cancer Risks?

This is a controversial issue. If you've had breast cancer, most doctors will automatically say you cannot take HRT (also called MHT, or menopausal hormone therapy, and sometimes ERT, or estrogen replacement therapy). Many doctors consider HRT risky because estrogen can stimulate the growth of breast cells—both normal cells and cancerous ones. So doctors feel HRT may increase a woman's risk of breast cancer recurring or of her developing a new breast cancer.

If you have severe menopausal symptoms that are not relieved by other means, try to find a doctor who will look closely at your individual case. There are choices in type of estrogen, dose, and how it's given.

 

What If I Am Diagnosed With Breast Cancer?

This diagnosis is one of the most upsetting things that can happen in a woman's life and whether it is you or someone you know feelings of fear, being overwhelmed, angry, or depressed are all normal reactions. Yet you can get through this armed with clear information that respects who you are and puts you back in control through treatment, support groups, and education.

 

Breast Cancer Resources-

National Breast Cancer Foundation American Cancer Society
National Cancer Institute's
Cancer Information Service

1-800-4-CANCER (1-800-422-6237)
Susan G. Komen Breast
Cancer Foundation
National Alliance of
Breast Cancer Organizations
(NABCO)
1-888-80-NABCO (1-888-806-2226)
Cancer Treatment Centers of America
Breast Cancer Care The Breast Site
Healing Well-
Breast Cancer Resource Center
Breast Cancer Directory

 

 

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Should Men Still Be Proposing?
Tell Us What You Think

 

Maybe I am an overly practical and an independent female, but the idea of a man proposing marriage in this day and age seems outdated to me. When I was in college, I remember the hype that girlfriends of mine played into about getting married after graduation. It was a big focus.

Okay, I admit, I was thinking it would be romantic and wonderful too, for a short time in my life, but then my boyfriend in college proposed. I remember him getting on his knee and presenting me with this large diamond ring. I was touched, but at the same time I really felt like this should have been a mutual moment... when in actuality it felt like because he was ready to get married, I was getting put on the spot in this grand moment. Would it be horrible to say no after this romantic and courageous gesture? I thought so... I really did not want to hurt him or make him feel like I did not appreciate such a beautiful gesture as my naïve 22 year old mind focused on at the time. "Yes," I said, although uncertain, only to tell him my real feelings months later leading to our break up.

At my job on the following Monday after this proposal the women went on and on about my ring and how he must really love me to get a diamond that big. Okay, let me pause here and say that is nauseating to me. What does it matter how big the diamond a man buys for his love interest is in comparison to how much he loves her?

The woman in your office with nothing but a sliver of 10 k gold on her finger may have a husband that loves her more than any husband your co-workers have and to say differently based on a material possession means this society's values are a bit messed up in my opinion.

Also, since I had the eye opening discovery that many diamonds are actually trafficked by Rebel groups that brutally murder, rape, and mutilate civilians in Africa; I don't know about you, but it makes a cubic zirconia or gold band more appealing to me for such matters!

Okay, I feel better now that I vented on that for a moment... back to the point-

After three marriage proposals in my life from men on their knees, I decided that I had enough of this craziness and told John (my husband-to-be at the time we were dating) that he could forget about that tradition with me, as I believe that a marriage should be something that occurs after many discussions and a mutual decision to take that path.

I cannot tell you how many women I knew that were driving themselves crazy wondering when their love interest was going to pop the question. Could it be on this birthday, Christmas... surely this Valentines day... and often it made their holidays horrible because it was as though they went through a "rejection" for every special occasion that came and went with no proposal.

For men, good grief.. the pressure you guys must feel! No wonder the stereotype is for you to avoid it... it's all on your shoulders! Prove you love her by financing you life away on an expensive engagement ring so all of her friends can gage how much you love her! Have the proposal be just right and figure out if you are expected to treat her like chattel and ask her father's permission. As if that were not enough, make sure you do it on your knee on a special day you planned for her because apparently this wedding thing is really about the bride!

I honestly question many of the traditions we have in regard to weddings and all the events that lead up to them. From bachelor & bachelotte parties that encourage everything but the focus on celebrating the union of the couple to bridal showers and wedding planning where the focus is all about the bride and appearances.

I had a wedding that was grand, expensive and had many guests and truly found myself emotionally worn out and stressed from the whole thing. It felt like it was more for the guests. My husband John and I decided that for our "real" wedding we were doing it alone. Just he and I in a beautiful Colorado mountain resort and our vows. It was the most wonderful experience and I only wish that more couples whether they get married alone or with many people have the emotional connectedness that John and I shared that day.

Getting married is a choice that we must all come to on our own terms... I think it is time to expect couples to determine that mutually... but then again that may be my own preference and not for everyone. Let me know what you think and I will post your replies in our next newsletter.

Love & Light,

Lisa

 

       

 

 

 

 

Viagra Only Works For Two Thirds of Men Who Use It
When Men's Sexual Issues Are Oversimplified

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder


Men are more than their penises! Okay, now that I have that off my chest... let me say that men are wonderfully sensual with emotional needs in the bedroom. Just as women deal with stereotypes so do men. I am often frustrated that men are summed up by their genitals when addressing their sexual issues. Because we have such a focus in this society on pigeon holing men as simpletons with nothing more than an erect penis that want to have sex; many men themselves actually buy into the myth that they are not complex, sexually, emotional beings.

Men's sexual experiences are very much affected by their emotions; however many do not even realize it due to the heavy social conditioning of men learning to minimize their emotions in and out of the bedroom.

Pfizer™ recently abandoned their efforts to use Viagra on women because it only provided pelvic engorgement (the equivalent to an erection in men) and it was not "enough" for many women to merely have the physical engorgement to feel sexually aroused. With mental and emotional blockages still present, women did not feel that Viagra was successful.

So let me repeat that... women, although having the same result that men have with Viagra; meaning they had the equivalent of an erect penis, did not consider themselves sexually aroused! It really goes to show that seduction is more about the mind than the body and that the overly simplified treatment of men's sexual dysfunction with a pill neglects this issue for men.

Viagra gets a lot less refill orders and reports that only 2/3 of men who use it achieve what they consider success... an erection. Because many men are preoccupied with the performance issue they often associate the erection with success... when in reality many men are still not sexually aroused mentally and emotionally even when Viagra is successful.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO

 

 

Like women, men are objectified in our culture to perform sexually through a rock hard erection, they are not however usually appreciated for their sadness, insecurities, anger and stress when it comes to sex. Let me tell all who will listen right now that the secret to true sexual satisfaction for a man is not as simple as an erection and ejaculation!

Foreplay starts in daily activities, not just for women but for men as well. Men need to be emotionally nurtured, flirted with and appreciated too!

Our society needs to stop thinking that we can treat our emotional, mental and spiritual issues with a pill. We are not born onto this earth to simply take the easy road of numbing out on television while we pop our Prozac and Viagra to make our lives better. We must seek out the quality of life that we desire through our behavior and experiences. Honest communication is a great place to start, the second step is looking for what really matters to you and doing what it takes to authentically, not synthetically, achieve it.

 

 


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The Valiant Head G-Spot is a combination piece featuring a navy blue spiral wrapping similar to what you see on the Moon and Stars Dichroic G-Spot and a beautiful head featuring our signature Prince Valiant style artwork. It’s a 7" curved G-Spot shaft with the wrapping adding approx. 1/4" to the shaft diameter. The head is approx. 1/4" larger in diameter as well with the some of the most beautiful artwork you will ever see in a sex toy. It's an inside out multi-colored Dichroic and solid colored pinstripe that is truly dazzling. With the artwork on the inside it produces a magnified sort of appearance and has a real depth to it. The base is flared and designed to stand up.