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The
Art of A Great Blow Job, Oral
Sex At It's Finest
Lisa
S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder
Giving head,
a blow job, fellatio, call it what you like, but there are many
wonderful benefits to performing this delicious sex act.
For one,
it can provide the one giving it empowerment with infinite possibilities
to be creative and provide amazing pleasure. Particularly when
performed with enthusiasm it can not only be incredible to the
receiver but to the one providing it as well.
Let's first
discuss the most important ingredient to giving fantastic fellatio...
ATTITUDE.
If you approach
this as something that disgusts you, or even a chore then in
my opinion, you shouldn't bother doing it. No matter how many
cool tips you know, you will never give really good head with
out desire driving it. Sex
should be fun and exciting to each partner no matter what you
are doing.
Several
women I know have told me that they exchange favors with their
husband for fellatio. For example, one friend told me that her
husband will do the dishes for a week just to get a blow job!
I have to say that if that is the kinda of sex life you have...
you are missing out on some serious passion.
Don't ever
underestimate the power of your perceptions. If you perceive
any sex act, including fellatio to be dirty, repulsive, or a
chore then it will be. If you approach it as an opportunity
to be the sexual goddess or god in the bedroom where you have
total (consensual) control over your partner, with the ability
to make them scream out for more until they reach an earth shattering
orgasm where they can't stand up for a half an hour due to the
sheer mind blowing sexual experience they just had... then I'd
say you are going in the best direction for attitude in giving
fellatio.
My husband
and I always say that desire starts in the mind and honestly
I see nothing more important to a good sex life than your attitude
and perception toward it. That is why I always suggest communication
as it provides a way to talk about what really turns you on.
It also gives you the opportunity to work through old belief
systems about sex that no longer serve you and end up holding
you back sexually.
You don't
want to make the mistake of thinking that figuring out what
the best techniques are will make you the best lover. Remembering
that attitude will make up for any lack of technique is probably
the best sex advice you'll ever get!
To those
wanting to give incredible fellatio, let me give you a quick
example of what I mean about attitude.
Negative
Attitude-
Imagine
your man lying on the bed. You pull his pants down as though
you are trying to just get down to business. You open your mouth
and take him in going up and down with no variation, no passion
and secretly, you just can't wait for this to be done. You demand
that he tell you when he is about to cum so you can jerk your
mouth away to prevent from taking any of that nasty semen in
your mouth. Then when he does orgasm, you let it go all over
him and then leave him there because you have things to do.
Positive
Attitude-
Imagine
your man lying on the bed. You come in slowly from his ankles
smiling at him while keeping eye contact. You teasingly strip
the clothes off his entire body looking him over as though you
can hardly contain yourself, while licking and rubbing him everywhere
you touch him. You slide your body against his, then downward
now so your genitals are positioned over his knee while you
toy with his inner thigh and pubic area. You run your fingers
through his pubic hair and over his balls slowly and you lick
the tip of his penis softly while gazing into his eyes showing
your desire. Holding him now in your hand you take some warming,
flavored lubricant and run it up and down his head and shaft
like pouring hot chocolate syrup onto a sundae you are about
to devour. Licking his balls lightly and then sucking softly
on them you move your hand up and down his now slickened cock
and use the other hand to squeeze the base while you grind your
genitals against his leg.
Then
after a variety of tantalizing techniques you eagerly await
his orgasm with an open mouth waiting for him to either shoot
inside your mouth or if you do not care for the taste take it
deep in the back of your throat so you fuck him with your mouth
and let his cum slide down the back of your throat with no aftertaste
or let it cum into your hands, or even better... let it moisten
your lips, face and chest.
Are you
seeing a difference here? Even if you decide to give a "Quickie"
blow job, your attitude will allow you to be the best he's ever
had. Men, just like women, want to feel desired, so to make
him feel like orally pleasuring him is repulsive to you is certainly
a "blow" to his ego. Show him that you desire him
no matter what sexual activity you do and you will really make
it fantastic.
Why
Do Men Love it So Much?
Most
men love oral sex performed on them for a few reasons. It of
course feels really good, especially when it is done well. It
makes them feel desired and of course it lets them know that
you really appreciate their penis and them.
I
think too often men are made to feel ridiculous for focusing
so much attention on their penis whether it be size or it getting
attention. I think what women forget is that we focus on things
that could be perceived as being ridiculous too. Think about
how much most women obsess about how big their butt looks in
a certain dress or if the bra with underwire makes their breasts
look good so that we can get that compliment when we walk out
to go to a party. Underneath it all we all have the same need...
to be appreciated.
What
must men feel when you barter with them to suck their cock for
the dishes to be done? I don't know about you, but it would
be a terrible blow to my self esteem to have someone tell me
that in order for them to be sexual with me, I would have to
do the dishes for the week!
No
wonder men and women often think of fellatio as something a
bit dirty... we tend to make it that way don't we? Cleaning
the dishes is dirty and undesirable and yet it gets compared
to the equivalent of fellatio? We also often think of it as
derogatory to the giver... yet in reality it is an opportunity
to take control! I think when we take negative attitudes toward
our sex life then the true beauty of love and sex is terribly
belittled.
Even
when a person chooses to be with a variety of partners while
dating or through open relationships, we can really enjoy sex
on a deeper level when we let ourselves BE with people. Being
aware of the beauty of sensuality in our partner(s) and ourselves
is what makes any sexual moment an amazing experience. Isn't
that true of anything in life? How often do we drive to work
not even taking a moment to notice the beautiful sun shining
down through the clouds and lighting the world up with it's
brilliance. How about how often we shove food down our throats
without taking the time to really enjoy each morsel of what
we are eating?
The
same applies to sex... when we are mindful of our partner(s)
and our own needs, sensations, and emotions then you will be
better able to truly enjoy what life has to offer when it comes
to oral sex or any kind of sexual activity!
Basic
Information On Fellatio-
~
You can get STDs
(including HIV-AIDS) from giving oral sex.
~
You do not have to swallow or "deep throat" a man
to give good oral sex.
What
Is Cum (Semen)?
A
man's semen is about the amount of a teaspoon. Semen is not
unhealthy, fattening (the average ejaculation is approximately
15 calories), and it will not get you pregnant. The average
ejaculate contains ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium,
chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic
acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol,
lactic acid, nitrogen, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, purine,
pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine,
urea, uric acid, protein, enzymes, sodium, vitamin B12, and
zinc.
Deep
Throat Or Not To Deep Throat-
Often people
think that someone highly skilled in the art of fellatio will
not only deep throat, but will do it for the entire length of
the blow job. Nothing could be further from the truth. Of course
if you are comfortable with it then by all means deep throat
him during the course of oral sex, but if you are not using
other techniques with your tongue, lips, hands and fingers then
you are probably giving a rather boring blow job.
The pleasure
created through deep throating is created by the uvula pressing
the frenulum and gulping reactions perfectly massaging the corona.
Translation- it is a snug, warm, wet environment... a
most pleasureful place for a penis. The average depth of our
mouth cavity is 3 - 4 inches and the average penis size is 5
– 6 inches, thus you can see the difficulty in getting a full
penis in your mouth and down your throat.
This leads
us to the breathing issue. If you are deep throating your partner,
then you are most likely cutting off your air supply for certain
amounts of time. Learning to breathe through your nose or taking
breaks by using your hands is a good way to maintain the pleasureful
flow of stimulation to his penis.
Gagging
Remedies-
Some people
have a hard time with controlling their gag reflex when giving
head. It happens to even the skilled fellatio giver from time
to time, so there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Some people
use Chloraseptic Throat Spray or children's teething gel to
numb the back of their throat and allow for easier deep throating
and swallowing. Although psychologically letting go of the fear
of gagging is really the best approach. Think about how sword
swallowers get that blade down their throat... it certainly
isn't by tensing their throat muscles!
Remember,
a blow job should not just be up and down motions or about deep
throating, it can have many facets to it, including licking,
kissing, using your hands, and rubbing that delicious cock all
over your face, neck, chest and elsewhere. This provides amazing
visual stimulation as well as the pleasure of feeling his hard,
pulsating cock all over you!
Communicate-
If
he thrusts or pushes you down a bit onto him and you find yourself
gagging, pull back up and pause to let him know that it is uncomfortable.
If he does not clue in on this you can come up and begin using
your hand to recuperate or let him know that you were beginning
to hit the gag reflex a bit and you want to rest a minute while
playing with his cock. He most likely will be happy you do this
because the last thing a man wants is for you to throw up on
him because you were too worried that he would not understand
that his penis is going to hit the back of your throat from
time to time and cause a gag reflex.
If you really
have an issue with gagging, let him cum elsewhere whether in
a condom, in your hands, on himself, inside you (vaginally or
anally), on your chest or neck as you revel in it. The best
thing to do to make your intentions known is to make a comment
before or during oral sex to let him know where you want him
to cum. You can make this sound really sexy if you say it with
passion. For example- "I can't wait to feel you
cum in between my breasts, I want to rub it all over me!"
Body
Strategies-
Having
him on his back allows you to better control his thrusting by
using your forearms to push him down if he begins to thrust
to a point that it is uncomfortable for you. You can also gently
tug on his testicles as though you were pulling on the reins
while riding a horse to let him know he needs to slow it down.
Remember not to do this too hard, as you don't want to cause
him pain... just enough to cause him to come back and allow
you to avoid gagging.
Hand
& Mouth-
One
of the best ways to give oral sex is to also include your hands.
Any porn actress will tell you that the following technique
is a must when your mouth is tired, your gag reflex is getting
triggered or he is well endowed and deep throating is a challenge.
Taking
your hand, make a fist around the shaft of your lover's penis
with your little finger resting on his pubic bone. Then at the
same time take your mouth and go up and down the head and upper
shaft of his penis while you go up and down with your hand at
the same time. This gives the same sensation of you "deep
throating" him (taking him deep into your throat). Adding
different combinations with both hands, or your mouth make for
creativity and fun!
Advanced
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Face Fucking
On Your Knees
On The Side
Visual Importance
Stage Fright
The Exhibitionist
Deep
Throat
Gagging Remedy
Using
Teeth
Kisses & Tongue
Do The Twist
Shirley Temple Licks
Head, Shaft & Scrotum
Grabbing His Behind
Making Him Tight
Hand Job Combo
Vacuum
Double Penetration
Teeth Guards
Thigh Highs
Hummers
The Harmonica
The Drum
Hot & Cold
Women's Lubricant
Hands On Your Head
Adore The Cock
Penis Anatomy
Messes
Orgasms
Perineum Love
Anal Love
Nipple Love
Mouth Love
Fatigue Warning
Health Concerns
STD Prevention
Hygiene
Tips For Receiver
Clean Up
Post Etiquette
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