The Holistic Wisdom Journal  

August 1, 2002 ~ Articles In This Issue...

~ The Truth On Penis Size
    Why Penis Size Does Matter And What You Can Do

~ Erectile Dysfunction
    When You Got The Floppy Penis Blues And What You Can Do

~ Female Sexual Dysfunction
    When You've Got An Uncooperative Vagina And What You Can Do

The Truth On Penis Size
Penis Enlargement
By Lisa S. Lawless, C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

I know writing this article indicating that penis size matters may seem cold or shocking, but why avoid talking about the reality of this? Women and men talk about it all the time in their separate corners, and I think it's time to get this out in the open. How else do we work through our insecurities, and take measures to improve ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically, but to get it all out there? I feel strongly that this ultimately allows us to create a better reality.

It seems that as a society we have slammed men for worrying about their penis size and their ability to become "rock hard," telling them not to be concerned with it. Yet, we have social messages that emphasize penis size all the time. I believe that men have a right to voice their concerns… it is a legitimate issue and I think it deserves more than some pat answer like "it isn't the size… it's the motion of the ocean!"

I am dedicating most of this article to penis size and erections, and why they matter, how they affect women, and techniques and solutions to address these concerns. I will also touch on a woman's need to contribute in keeping her "equipment" in good condition, as well as how all of this relates to female sexual arousal.

Penis Size Matters- What You Can Do If You Want To Improve Yours

People who think that men are insecure or even egocentric to think about the size of their penis are not sensitive to this legitimate concern. In fantasy-land we are all perfect lovers, in reality we can ALL use improvement. My goal in all of my work is to empower people and provide realistic suggestions.

I like being up front with my clients and provide them with empowering solutions to their challenges. Hence, if there are things they can improve in their lives to feel happier, healthier and more at peace... then that path should be explored. If your overweight... let's look at how to work on that, if your marriage is not going well, let's explore techniques to not only save it, but make it something fulfilling and beautiful, and so on and so forth.

Some of the articles that we do are more geared toward one sex or another, while others are more focused on couples, others toward singles. Obviously we can't address everyone in every article, but stay tuned as we will have many to choose from so that your questions, concerns, and interests will be covered.

Men & Penis Size-

Men are not egocentric for being concerned with their penis size. Generally, men who are concerned about it are concerned for two reasons-

1) They want to be thought of as a virile lover who offers their lover something     really pleasureful through their penis. They want to be adored and have     
    their penis appreciated.

2) They want to please their partner sexually with a thick, long, hard member.

What I have found in my interviews for my eBook and video The Art Of Female Ejaculation, is that the opinions expressed publicly are different from opinions held in private. The truth is that penis size, parameters, shape, and angle… do matter to both men and women. I would have to say that in general, men are concerned about size, rigidity and staying power for good reason. Let's face it women simply do not have fantasies about men with small, flaccid, penis.

I am not saying we women need something HUGE to feel sexually satisfied...

Penis Size
&
Making A Woman Orgasm

It is good to know how to give a woman not just a clitoral orgasm, but also the deeper, more fulfilling orgasms- the vaginal/cervix and g-spot orgasms. These are achieved by specific techniques due to the physical layout of the vagina. Again, if you are interested in the details of how this directly affects female ejaculation, you can always order the eBook or video, but let me at least give you some basic understanding of the general principles.

The Vaginal/Cervical Orgasm-

Because the vaginal/cervical orgasms involves the cervix, which is located further up inside the vagina, a long object (or penis) thrusting into the vagina will better reach the cervix and be more successful in aiding a woman to reach this type of orgasm. Hence a longer penis is going to often feel more arousing inside a woman. However, too long for a woman will hurt. Please not that women are different lengths inside and the placement of their cervix also varies... therefore a woman with a cervix that is placed a short distance inside her will not want a longer penis... it really comes down to width when women indicated what is the most pleasureful in general.

The G-spot Orgasm-
(A Great Orgasm In Aiding In Female Ejaculation!)

Like the vaginal orgasm, this orgasm usually takes longer to build. Because the g-spot is not stimulated by friction as much as through pressure, using a rhythmic" pushing" against the g-spot is more pleasureful than a light rubbing. Hence, a wider penis is going to feel more arousing inside a woman.

Does this all mean that a woman can not be satisfied with a man who is not well endowed or is able to get a raging hard-on?

No, a woman can be satisfied without her lover having a large penis by them using some specific sexual techniques (as outlined in my eBook and video). A perfect sized dildo, g-spot stimulator, penis extension toy or method can be used effectively when her partner is or is not well endowed.

Women Have A Role Too-

Let's not forget that women are part of the picture and can aid in solutions as well. Doing Kegel exercises to keep her vaginal muscles toned can be one of her contributions as well as using other toys and products I will discuss in upcoming articles.

Open communication is the key, and women should discuss what will most pleasure them in detail with their lovers as that will provide their lover with a guide, rather than leaving them in the dark as to what will make them sexually pleased. All women are different, and while there are certain techniques that will pleasure a woman more... to what extent one prefers one technique over another will vary from woman to woman.

Penis Enlargement Techniques-

The size of your penis doesn't have a relationship with anything else on a man's body. For example a man with big feet does NOT necessarily have a 9 inch penis. Whether you have above or below the average penis size, ask yourself does it really matter to you.

While Viagra works well at allowing increased erectile rigidity (a better hard-on), size is a different matter. There are a lot of gimmicky programs out there that are a waste of time and money and that is why we list only the best.

The skin of a penis is very flexible, and can be enlarged to triple its size in less than 30 seconds when an erection occurs. The cells within the penis also consist of flexible tissue. They are what fill with blood to create an erection.

An effective penis enlargement exercise program will provide stretching techniques that are similar to the stretching that occurs during an erection; however they create a larger sized penis and are long lasting. Please note that the stretching (often referred to as "Jelqing") can cause damage if done incorrectly and have to be done repetitively in order to last over the long term.

The Arabic Jelq?

Those who promote jelqing claim that it's an "ancient Arab" technique, which lends it an exotic air but the Kinsey Institute and professors of Middle Eastern studies at several universities shed no more light on the matter.

Those that hold fast to the Arabic background have said that the Arabic cultures of the Middle East and the Sudan supposedly developed the penis-enlargement technique known as the 'jelq.' This technique involves a milking action applied to a semi-erect penis, which stretches and engorges the penis. Over time, the continued jelq sessions would result in greater penis length, thickness, and strength.

There are many variations on the technique, but the basic routine involves stroking the penis with a milking motion: Starting from the base, you slide your hand up the shaft, pulling and squeezing. Then you repeat the motion. You don't slide your hand over the head and back down the shaft as you would if you were masturbating. Instead, you stop when you reach the head, and start again from the base of the penis.

Jelqing is a bit like the way that weight gain occurs. When a person eats a lot they extend the stomach lining. If they continue to do it the stomach actually gets bigger and can hold more food. It is kind of like you are shooting for penis "weight gain," except you are stretching the cells so that more blood can fill them. When this happens it actually makes the cells bigger thus, making the penis larger.

Because the cells in the penis are alive, and have a regenerative capability, they respond to more blood being filling them by enlarging themselves, hence, making your penis larger (whether you are soft or hard). Smooth muscle of the penis can not be exercised like the biceps and doesn't respond the same way. One must be careful not to cause damage as it may weaken tissue within the penis by pulling too hard of pushing blood up into an erect penis with force.

Penis enlargement information is available in books, however due to the sensitive (and sometimes embarrassing nature) of this topic, I have found male clients to be relieved when I suggest they try an online site that offers such information and products. The cool thing that sites offer in addition to information is videos with instruction.

Proper penis enlargement exercises have statistically shown up to 20% increase in size in as little as two weeks. Of course if you want to add up to 30-50% in size, you are going to need to do these exercises for a few months. The programs out there are not free, but I can say that they are much cheaper than the prescriptions out there. They are also safer, and have no side effects. Typically these programs range from $30.00 - $50.00.

How to Jelq and make wet jelqing techniques give you results-

As with anything checking with your physician is always a good idea before doing any type of bodily change-

Wet lubricant is important for success with penis enlargement exercises. A good quality wet lubricant will aid in avoiding any nasty friction burns or skin irritations. Do NOT use soap or shampoo!!! If you are looking for an alternative substance to use in your jelqing other than normal wet sexual lubricant, then you can use Vaseline Intensive care or something similar.

Step 1

Make the "OK" sign with your fingers by touching your forefinger and thumb tips together. Lubricate both your hands and penis shaft with your wet lubricant. Note- you should always do the jelqing exercise WITHOUT an erection. A semi-erection is fine, but be careful because research has shown that if you Jelq hard with a full erection; it can cause vascular damage and all sorts of other unwanted side effects. If you start to get an erection then slightly squeeze your penis head (glans) with your hand and this will discourage it, or simply wait for it to subside.

Step 2

Squeeze your penis shaft as close to your scrotum as possible and pull downward with your "OK" sign hand.

Step 3

Stop when you reach the glans (head), and repeat with the other hand. Make each stroke last about three or four seconds

Step 4

Repeat step 2 and 3 alternating between hands and keep going for as many repetitions as you wish (start with only a few and work up to more as you get more experienced).

Does Jelqing work?

Yes, it does work, but it is an issue of discerning if it is right for you.

Do we recommend Jelqing?

I would say that it is not something we recommend men do, rather we simply provide the information about it to you so that you may decide if it something that you wish to look into further. Because there are such mixed reviews about benefits vs. potential damage we advise that anyone considering it consult their physician (a good choice might be a urologist) and adhere to the warnings of Jelq methods in not pulling to hard or pushing the limits of health!

Big-Penis.com This program is a thorough and professional program, and they have been around for the longest amount of time. They have the most extensive information, and include many photos as well as videos on the several enlargement techniques they teach.

Penile Secrets.com. They don't have as much teaching material, and their e-mail support could use some help, but their program is effective.

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Erectile Dysfunction~

When You Got The Floppy Penis Blues And What You Can Do

By Lisa S. Lawless, C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

It is a common mistake to think that struggling to get or maintain an erection is for older guys. It happens to men of all age's… teens and up. Causes can range from performance anxiety to physical problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, elevated cholesterol levels, and diabetes. Also many medications, especially blood pressure medications and anti-psychotic drugs, can cause erectile dysfunction or impotence as a side effect.

Impotence (or better known as "Erectile Dysfunction" these days) can feel frustrating and humiliating, but let's keep it in perspective. How many times has a woman had sex and not had an orgasm, or not been "wet" enough. We all need a little help sometimes when our bodies are not cooperating with us, and this is simply nothing to be ashamed of.

Try to use impotence as a means to have better sex, rather than have it be worse. Use it as an opportunity to try new techniques, connect emotionally with your lover, and even get in touch with your masculinity in a new way. Remember that a man having an erection is not what makes a man.

Examples Of Potential Reasons-

1) Medical Causes: high blood pressure, heart disease, elevated cholesterol levels,
    and diabetes.

2) Psychological Causes: Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, and others.

3) Prescription Interaction: A list of over-the-counter and prescription medications as
    long as the Wall of China could be made to cover everything that can cause a "floppy"     penis. The best thing to do is make a list of all medications (including herbs &     supplements) that you are using and review them with a pharmacist and/or your     physician.

4) Biking: Yep, it's true, temporary numbness can occur from riding bikes
    (especially where a lot of hard-core road shock is going on).

5) Condoms: Condoms that are too tight may cause a numbing sensation that decreases     feeling, thus make staying aroused or cumming more difficult. True, it can prolong sex,     but if you are struggling with E.D., then you should get a loose condom. We     recommend trying one like these-

Now, this is not to say that you should ignore ongoing impotence, in fact we highly recommend you do not, and will cover important suggestions later in this article. What we are saying however, that this is an opportunity not a disaster. Solutions depend on the situation.

To Women-

Remember that giving pleasure to a man does not require him to have a hard-on. A nice blow job or hand massage feels just as nice to a man when his penis is soft as it does hard. It really depends on how comfortable you feel with one another. However, you don't want a woman trying to "squeeze" an erection out of a man when he simply isn't going to get one. The object is pleasure not performance if this suggestion is used. It may pleasure a man, or it can make him feel insecure and inadequate… again it really depends on comfort levels of the couple.

To Men-

You can make lemonade from lemons until you have figured out a more long-term solution for yourself- This can be a a good time for a man to use fingers, mouth and play toys to pleasure his partner. Female Ejaculation in particular is more easily achieved when full attention can be given to a woman's pleasure and this is a great time to do it!

Also remember that your female lover may be feeling rejected. Women often worry that it is because of them (i.e.: that they are not attractive enough.) That is why if both partners are willing it is an excellent time to play with your lovely lady as it will make her feel truly appreciated and she will thank you for the selfless attention!

Warning- GET A PHYSICAL EXAM IF THIS PROBLEM IS ONGOING-

Continued episodes of Erectile Dysfunction in men (especially over forty) can be one of the first signs of an impending stroke or heart attack. The arteries in the penis start to "clog" up before the rest of the body, so getting an exam is a good idea!

Treatment-

If you or a man in your life has issues with a "floppy" penis and it is an ongoing issue it is time to take that sleeping one eyed snake into see the Doc. It is estimated that well over 50% of all Erectile Dysfunction is due to a physical cause anything from diabetes to god only knows. The Doctor may just do a little test after asking some questions as to whether the "pokey pecker" ever gets hard-ons these days. The test allows a man to see if he is catching wood in his sleep. If he is, then most M.D.'s say the problem is psychological. However medications can be an influence so any medications being taken should be examined for their side effects.

There is evidence that depression can actually keep a guy from getting a stiff one even in his sleep.

Solutions~

Female Sexual Dysfunction

By Lisa S. Lawless, C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

It seems that until recently, women's sexual arousal issues have not been adequately addressed. There are different areas of female sexual dysfunction, so lets break it down into some of the major categories-

1) Unable To Have An Orgasm-

Female Orgasmic Disorder is defined as the delay or absence of orgasm after "normal" arousal.

2) Unable To Become Sexually Aroused-

Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder is characterized by an absence of libido. There is no interest in initiating sex and little desire to seek stimulation.

Sexual Aversion Disorder is characterized by an aversion to or avoidance or dismissal of sexual prompts or sexual contact. It may be acquired following sexual or physical abuse or trauma and may be lifelong. The main feature of female sexual arousal disorder is an inability to achieve and progress through the stages of "normal" female arousal.

Female Sexual Arousal Disorder (FSAD) is a persistent or recurrent inability to attain, or to maintain until completion of the sexual activity, an adequate lubrication-swelling response of sexual excitement.

3) Unable To Have Sex Without Pain-

Dyspareunia is marked by genital pain before, during, or after intercourse.

Vaginismus is the involuntary contraction of the perineal muscles around the vagina as a response to attempted penetration. Contraction makes vaginal penetration difficult or impossible.

Painful Sex: Potential Causes-

4) Unable To Have An Orgasm With A Partner-

A) Mental Causes-

    1) Fear- May stem from a fear from past trauma, and/or fear of being perceived badly                 (i.e.: promiscuous, inadequate, submissive, pregnancy, insecurity,
                 poor body image)

    2) Anger- May also stem from previous trauma(s) and/or anger of feeling objectified,                    submissive, or physical intimidation.

B) Physical Causes-

   1) Physical Compatibility
       a) Poor Sexual Anatomy Match
       b) Chemistry
    2) Technique
    3) Vaginismus
    4) Vulcodynia (Vaginal Pain Disorder)

Important To Note:     Not Having An Orgasm During Sexual Intercourse For
                                         A Woman Is Very Common, And Is Not Considered
                                         Sexual Dysfunction. If you would like to learn techniques
                                         that can help, you can find them in my eBook "The Art Of                                          Female Ejaculation."

These disorders cause personal distress in addition to physical complications that may be the cause or the symptom of the sexual challenges. It is just as important for a woman to see her health care provider should she experience ongoing sexual problems.

Some Helpful Solutions~

Vibrafem is a Female sexual enhancement lubricant and heightens the arousal phase of sexual pleasure when applied to the sensitive tissues of a woman.

Arousal is encouraged by the gentle warmth and tingling sensation of soothing menthol. As the experience continues, the pulsating and soft heat intensifies, which further enhances blood flow into the area. While the menthol stimulates, the essential amino acid L-Arginine initiates the nitric oxide pathway of sexual stimulation.

Please Note- literature suggests that oral L-Arginine should not be taken by a person with herpes, as it might trigger an outbreak. For the same reason, these topically enhancing cremes are not recommended for a woman with the herpes virus.

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