The Holistic Wisdom Journal  

September 17, 2004
Articles In This Issue...

~ Weight Loss & Maintenance
   How I Got My Body Primed To Do It

~ Premature Ejaculation
   A Realistic Understanding

~ An "Overweight" Sex Life
   Ways To Make It Spectacular!

~ New Products
   Check Out Our Latest Additions

~ The Holistic Wisdom Reader's Forum
   Comments From Our Readers

~ The Sexual Wisdom™ Section    
   Sex In The News

Man Admits Guilt In Removing Genitals Women Molested After Giving Birth Hugh Hefner Inducted Into The Erotic Hall Of Fame Man Attempts To Sue Wife For 5 Sexless Days Ahh-nold Bans Sex With Corpses Low Sperm Count With Frequent Ejaculations Divorce Predictions? 16 Year Old Girl Hung For Sex Sexy Offensive Candy Reports A Hoax We Like Our Look In Others

 

 

 

 

 

 

Weight Loss How I Got My Body Primed To Do It

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO

Healthy weight loss is not merely starving your body of calories as that only causes other parts of your body to become stressed, including putting your metabolism on alert that you are "starving," thus slowing it down.

The key to healthy weight loss is providing your body with the optimum nutrients it need to lose weight. Kind of like taking your car in for servicing to make sure that it is going to run at it's optimum levels. When your body is running at it's optimum levels, it can then flush the excess weight out of your system more easily while still allowing you to feel energized.

Being someone who has lost a lot of excess weight after having my son, I can tell you that it took me a long time to figure out how to do it and keep it off. I had tried many diets and lost weight only to gain it back again. I spent a great deal of time studying nutrition to understand what the body actually needs to lose weight, and keep it off while not causing it harm such as overdosing on caffeine, Ephedra (Ma Huang) and other types of stimulants that may cause more harm than good.

Being someone who generally dislikes exercise and has a very full schedule I needed to find things that were quick and easy and not a part of some fad diet that would deplete my energy levels during the day. Because of my busy life, I needed all the energy I could get and when trying diets I found I was easily fatigued and actually felt weak. I also found that they were hard to do since I don't like cooking very much and I don't like having to think about a bunch of details about counting calories, fat, vitamins, points, carbs, etc. Diets that made me write stuff down and spend a lot of time calculating or cooking were not going to work for me because I knew I would not be able to keep it up long term.

Kary Bennett, M.A., C.N. Founder of Essential Wellness

Isn't that what we are really are talking about here... long term, because anyone who had lost weight and kept it off knows that it is a lifestyle change not a diet that will be the winning ticket. So, I struggled for a few years until I found something that I could do everyday with little effort.

I was chatting with my friend (Kary Bennett) who is a nutritionist and was telling her my struggle. I told her that I was really frustrated and did not know what to do. I had tried prescription medication- Phentermine, and even took an Asian Cooking Class, and while those things helped, I still could not figure out how to consistently follow a routine that would ensure my body was getting all the nutrients it needed to optimize weight loss, feel energized and keep it off while making it easy. That's when she introduced me to a company that has a really healthy and easy weight loss system.

Intrigued, I asked her more... I mean, considering that she spent her entire career studying nutrition I wanted to get her inside view into why she thought this company was a good one and had quality products. She told me that this company (Oasis) was a true leader in the field of health because they use the highest quality raw materials from their own farms and forests around the world. They also test the ingredients and formulas at the DNA level - a process called Genomics. Currently, no other natural products company uses Genomics to test its products. I was impressed, after all it seems that there are so many companies that throw things together and never test them, let alone at the DNA level!

When I look at the diet foods out there I have to think that most companies take us for complete idiots. Look at the ingredients in a SlimFast drink or bar... the 1st 4 ingredients are skim milk, sugar, fructose and cocoa, in other words: milk, sugar, sugar and chocolate. Honestly, I can't think of much worse other than eating a bunch of lard on a high protein diet!

When you look for a health drink, health bar or other diet product make sure you look at what they are really serving you. If it's like most out there you might as well just have a snickers bar because it's basically the same ingredients! Certainly these sugar based "diet" products are not going to give you the fuel your body needs to keep going strong during and after weight loss. The high protein/low carb products are not much better.

If you drink or eat something that is high in sugar, you are going to be hungry and that leads to any easy failure on your diet. It is important to find something that tastes good and has no refined sugar, corn syrup or fructose.

I got the Oasis weight loss products called Inthinity (it has no sugar, instead it uses Stevia to sweeten) and I am not kidding you when I say that within 10 minutes of drinking my first morning shake I really began to feel good. It was like my body was saying "Geeze, chick it's about time!" It also makes you feel full just like a meal and that to me is also impressive.

If you are like me, your day consists of energy peaks and valleys as you battle with hunger, cravings, and fatigue but this shake- MetaFuel has a time-released energy system that keeps you within your ideal energy zone to help you feel invigorated and satisfied. I felt great all day.

It is a delicious meal replacement beverage that provides an ideal protein to carbohydrate ratio. It's a nutritional powerhouse designed specifically for the metabolic needs of your body, making it a complete "meal in a glass" with zero saturated fat. I love them, they are so delicious too, my hubby drinks them too because they are not only good for weight loss, but just for keeping the body in good shape regardless of weight.

The next week, I got the supplements MetaPower And MetaBurn. They really made a difference as well. MetaPower helps to maintain the ideal balance of essential fats to optimize fat-burning and energy production.

It is now known that a critical balance of essential fats in your diet dramatically influences whether your body burns or stores fat. MetaPower helps to maintain this critical balance to access stored fat to create energy. The result is a leaner, more invigorated body. MetaPower ingredients have been shown to contribute to better brain function, immune support, and healthier looking skin. I can say that I do feel sharper in my ability to concentrate and my skin is not dry even when I skip lotion. Living in arid Colorado, that is saying a lot!

 

MetaBurn contains all-natural ingredients that support fat-burning without harmful side effects. Whether the fat is concentrated on your thighs, hips or abdomen, MetaBurn can assist your body in reducing fat. It is the ultimate fat-loss energizer, without Ma Huang or Ephedra - so you won't experience an increase in heart rate or feel agitated.

 

Exercise-

I also began walking my dog in the morning for 45 minutes and found that it too helped me to feel more energized and provided a good means of exercise for both my dog and myself. I got an exercise bike as well so that on rainy or snowy days there is no reason why I can't have some exercise.

What ended up happening was that I began to feel so good, that I actually looked for ways to exercise from hikes, to swimming and more. I felt wonderful and for the first time in my life really felt fantastic physically.

Why Am I Sharing All This With You Now?

Guilt... as I continued to lose weight and feel so wonderful I began to feel guilty that I was not telling people about this in our newsletter. I always like to share things that really work well and are great products so I began to look into how I could make them easy for people to get because the Oasis products are hard to find in stores.

I called Oasis and found that they had a very rigid retailer program that made me jump several hoops to carry their products and required we pay near retail prices for them to have them on our web sites. I did not care so much about making money on these products, I just wanted you to know about them and make them easy for you to acquire.

I am happy to report, I finally got permission and I added them to our site just this week. There are a lot more products that they carry and I will be adding them all. I did make sure to add all the products that I use to the site this week, because I can personally vouch for them and wanted to make them available.

Oasis Health Products Whether you want healthy shakes or supplements to assist you with weight loss, added energy, or just to help slow down the aging process, look no further we carry the best quality in health products available!

 

 

 

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Premature Ejaculation A Realistic Understanding

Reality Robert W. Birch, Ph.D.,
Sexologist & Adult Sexuality Educator

The Problem

Many men are concerned with their rapid ejaculation. The greatest concern is expressed among younger men, but many of these settle down as they age. Most men have had the experience of losing control in a passionate encounter with a new and exciting woman, but familiarity typically will take care of this. However, there are men of all ages who ejaculate rapidly every time, even as they and their relationship ages.

The Definition

So, what is premature ejaculation? The term implies that it happens early, before it is due, and most men have taken this to mean that their orgasm occurs before they have had time to enjoy intercourse, before the woman has had time to enjoy intercourse, or before the partner has been able to reach her orgasm during intercourse. Let's start with the last... female orgasms during intercourse. The reality is that the majority of women do not and can not reach orgasm during intercourse, no matter how long the man can endure. There just is not enough clitoral stimulation in the majority of intercourse positions.

We don't want anyone to miss the point! Intercourse is not necessarily the most effective way to bring a woman to orgasm! This is perhaps why men seem more concerned with the problem than do many of their partners. Many women enjoy the manual and ora

The Label

I prefer the term rapid ejaculation over premature ejaculation, for I believe it better defines the behavior and carries less stigma. Some men are fast... they ejaculate rapidly. But how fast is fast? The average young healthy male with ejaculate in about 3 to 4 minutes with nonstop trusting, and some say that average is even faster... 2 to 3 minutes. So, let's say that a young man who ejaculates after three minutes of steady thrusting is within the average range. I have seen men who could last 5 minutes, but believed they were premature ejaculators because they thought they should be able to last as long as they like and ejaculate at will. Are there men who naturally last 15 minutes or more? Of course there are, but there are also men who cannot ejaculate at all. Like I have said, it's on a continuum, from one extreme where men who ejaculate prior to penetration to those who do not get there at all.

What's The Cure?

That answer is easy. There is none, because rapid ejaculation is not an illness! One highly respected sex therapist claims a "cure" can be achieved in fourteen weeks, while another says eight to twelve. The problem with the concept of "cure" is the implication that once fixed, you can forget all about the illness. A follow-up study, however, demonstrates the error in this thinking, for this research found that three years after being "cured," the majority of the men were ejaculating just as rapidly as they were before entering therapy. What happens when men expect a cure and professionals offer it is that once improvement is gained, everyone quits working on the ejaculatory control and nothing has really been changed!

What Is The Answer?

That is like asking, "How do you get to Carnegie Hall." The answer, "Practice, practice, practice." I believe men can learn effective strategies for the management of their ejaculatory response. It is possible to learn what is needed to do to stay in control, but once learned, a man can never stop managing his response. I believe it is a long process, but can be a joyful one. Quite honestly, men who are not in loving relationships with understand and cooperative women are at a disadvantage. What needs to be learned and practiced is done best within the context of a healthy and playful relationship. However, it will help a single male if he understands the process needed for control and there are ways the can begin practicing on his own.

Look For The Easy Answers

I think we all wish there were easy answers for life's toughest problems. Unfortunately, sex therapists have promised a quick behavioral cure, hypnotists have claimed success through post-hypnotic suggestion, and doctors have prescribed pills that are hyped as the "magic bullet". The reality is, some men do well with sex therapy, others really do not learn what they should have learned. Hypnosis might certainly help a man relax, which is important in learning control, but there is more to mastering the reflex than just relaxation. Some men respond to the medications being prescribe, but the effect wears off for some, others experience no change, and some temporarily lose their ability to ejaculate at all. Some men have even reported that the medication interferes with their ability to obtain an erection.

Unfortunately, the men who have been ejaculating within seconds for the past thirty years are probably reaching orgasm too quickly to have time to begin practicing what needs to be practiced. For these men, the medication might be one of the first things to tried. The good news is that any negative side effects only last as long as the man is taking the drug. The bad new is that any positive side effects also only last as long as the man is taking the drug! Unless a man is willing to take a medication for as long as he wishes to sexual, he should not look at the drug as a "cure." For some it will allow a man time to relax, worry less, and work on the things he must work on to learn effective control.

From the site- The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) you can request the names of qualified sex therapists practicing in your geographic area. If you are uncertain about what sex therapy is, go to my page which offers an Introduction to Sex Therapy. Many men will want to try on their own before investing time and money in seeing a therapist.

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An "Overweight" Sex Life Frank Discussion On Ways To Make It Spectacular!

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., CEO Member of American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists ( AASECT )

The following article reviews aspects of sexual play and intercourse for those who are overweight, have partners who are overweight or are in a partnership where both partners are overweight.

First, I will review some of the emotional aspects that may present as challenges and then I will address sexual positions that have been successful for obese couples and pregnant women.

Self Esteem Aspects

There are many overweight people who have a wonderful sense of self esteem and enjoy a fruitful, creative and pleasureful sex life. There are also those who struggle with being overweight physically as well as emotionally.

There are many reasons why people put on excess weight, from physical to emotional aspects. Regardless, I want to share with you my own experience of having been overweight in my life. I struggled with excess weight (especially after my pregnancy with my son) and during that time, I really struggled with low self esteem.

From feeling self conscious of my weight during sex, feeling afraid to be nude in front of my husband, and even having intense disgust with my body, I have had to deal with all the possible negative feelings one can have when it comes to being overweight. Even with an accepting and loving partner, there is nothing worse sexually than feeling repulsive during sex as your level of vulnerability is so high. I can certainly relate to those that have similar experiences and wanted to let those of you have feel this way... you are not alone.

Again, this is not to say that all people that are overweight feel self conscious about it during sex; but those with self esteem issues that tie into their weight most certainly do and I did not want to neglect this aspect as it can be a terribly painful challenge to work through.

What I have known for a long time and had to work hard to actually embrace as a reality is to know that our worth is not dictated by our appearance. What I mean, is that while I have always felt accepting of other people and have deep empathy and compassion, I have struggled in providing that to myself. I felt that when I was overweight, that I was not as worthy of love and respect from myself or others as when I was thin. I knew this was irrational, yet emotionally it was difficult to escape feeling that way.

Stereotypes of overweight people are often bullshit. Sorry for being so blunt, but it's true! Overweight people are NOT lazy, they are NOT less intelligent, they are NOT always jolly. They ARE the same inside as those who are thin and ARE just as sexual as anyone else. They are beautiful human beings no matter what society tries to dictate.

I feel strongly that no matter your weight, sex can be beautiful, sensual and even healing. What the numbers say on the scale is not measurement of self worth and whether you want to lose weight, or stay the way your are, great sex always comes down to embracing the beauty in ourselves and with our partner(s). Loving ourselves for who we are, as we are in each moment.

Sounds great right? Yes, I think so, but sometimes not so easy to feel inside. For a long time I struggled to get my body back in shape and to lose weight. I tried many diets, learned a great deal about nutrition, exercise and even went to group therapy for people who struggle with eating disorders (as I have struggled with eating as a means to nurture myself through overeating and then starving myself from guilt).

After a few years of struggling with my emotional connection with food I finally figured out the perfect diet, lost weight and was able to feed my need for nurturing without excess food. The diet? Love... self love. I realized that until I was able to accept myself no matter what, whether I was overweight, had a terrible accident was disfigured or had the privilege to grow old and watch my body deteriorate over time... I would never know what it was to be happy.

Since that time, I have have steadily provided myself with more acceptance, and compassion. I have forgiven myself for not being perfect and allowed myself to experience life as the messy, challenging, exhilarating, beautiful roller coaster that it is. True, some days I still stumble over self esteem and even find myself thinking that eating an entire bag of cookies would be nice. We all have those days. It is how we handle things on a long term basis. It is a daily commitment to a lifestyle of loving ourselves to do what will ultimately make us happy, healthy and able to achieve our dreams.

No matter what we struggle with, it is our perception of ourselves that creates our reality, and when we perceive ourselves as unworthy of love, ugly, or even inadequate than we create a life where we never fully live. That is why we must first begin with loving ourselves no matter our shape, size, or appearance. We are all beautiful human beings, we all deserve love.

 

Taking Care of Yourself Regardless of Weight

Certainly being overweight can increase one's risk of disease and being extremely overweight can make the risks even higher. Whether one wishes to stay overweight, lose weight or even gain weight it is important to provide your body with the nutrients it needs through a diet rich in vitamins, minerals via water consumption, vegetables, fruits, protein and whole grains. In addition, getting adequate physical activity, stress reduction activities (such as meditation) and sleep are not only ways to maintain health no matter your weight, but also keep your sex life robust and pleasureful.

Everything is interconnected and thus you really cannot ignore the importance of taking care of yourself on all levels. That is why I focus on providing information and resources for your body, mind and spirit. For when one aspect of your life is out of whack, it will affect other aspects of your life, and often this includes your sex life.

 

Sex In The Real World: Anxiety

In the real world, sex is often accompanied by anxiety. Even if it only occurs infrequently everyone at one time or another has experienced fear of rejection, fear of not meeting their partner's expectations, and fear of not being able to perform as these are among the most common emotional barriers to sex. Anxiety can impede or disable sexual performance and many overweight people suffer all these problems amplified by their excess weight.

Again, I am not saying that all overweight people are uncomfortable with their excess pounds, I am merely presenting some of the obstacles for those whom ARE uncomfortable with being overweight may experience.

 

Weight Gain & Dieting

When one gains weight they may find that due to the chemical changes in the body their sex drive or functioning is reduced. This may occur to lowered self esteem and poor body image due to the weight gain as well which in turn can lower sex drive and performance. However, keep in mind that most overweight people do just fine when it comes to their sex drive and ability.

If there are challenges-

Women may find that they will skip periods on their menstrual cycle and find that sex is more stressful than pleasurable the more weight they gain. Men may find that they have difficulty maintaining an erection and have difficulty getting full penetration due to a larger waist line. Weight loss certainly aids these issues, but be warned with fad diets as "yo-yo" dieting (loosing and regaining weight repetitively) may also cause physical problems that affect sexual drive and functioning as well.

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Hiding

Many obese persons attempt to hide their bodies under cover of darkness, or keep their clothes on during sexual intimacy. The concept of being sexually undesirable is a strong influence in many cultures and may create a strong feeling of wanting to hide.

Apart from agonizing experiences of rejection, some overweight people experience a lowering of expectations. Women in particular often have strong feelings in this area as if they feel they are risking too much rejection by even contemplating a relationship with the sort of person they want for a partner.

Men may also experience these concerns, however it is often seen more commonly in women as statistically obese men typically have less opportunity for sexual interaction and their excess weight may keep them out of the sexual arena for many years.

These self deprecating situations can be broken by acquiring self-esteem and confidence in life and specifically in sexuality regardless of weight loss.

 

Physical Challenges

Obstacles from size issues such as a large belly or lack of flexibility and cardiovascular endurance can be aided by finding comfortable sexual positions as well as creative and proactive approaches to sex.

If two obese people are coupled, intercourse may prove to be challenging, but nonetheless it is not only possible, but can be wonderfully satisfying. Obesity is rarely, if ever, a barrier to intercourse. Fat is never stored in the penis, nor does it choke off access to the ovaries (as Hippocrates taught, and generations of physicians believed).

In fact, the human body is remarkably well-designed for storing fat in large quantities. Mother Nature keeps fat away from the vital and sensory organs, away from the joints, and away from the genitals.

 

Sexual Positions For Obese Couples

MALE ON TOP/UPRIGHT-

The "missionary position" can be challenging but certainly not impossible. To make it easier, I recommend using pillows to help lift an overweight woman to tilt her pelvis upward and make it easier to access. Also, she may find it helpful to lie on her back, her legs bent at the hips, her thighs open as wide as possible, and her knees fully bent, thus completely exposing her vulva and vagina.

If she has a big tummy, she can lift it away from her pubic region with both hands, at least until the man gets himself positioned between her thighs. If penetration is still difficult, it can help to put one or more pillows under her bottom.

If you use a pillow or Liberator Shape™, your vagina becomes elevated and entry is easier. If you use two pillows, entry will not only be easy, it will be different. If you raise your legs to a certain height, the angle of penetration and the points of friction will be different than if you raise your legs to another height, or if you do not raise them at all. You would be amazed at the variations three inches up or down can create.

When a woman is overweight it makes more sense for the man to kneel rather than lay on top during intercourse.

When the man is overweight it may be preferable to raise your body high enough - or lift your abdomen with your hands, if necessary - so that your partner can guide the penis to its destination. This will be a little easier if the woman places a pillow beneath her buttocks. Also, try not to initially drop your full weight on your partner. Rather, prop yourself up with your hands rather than your elbows, and lower yourself gradually.

At the first indication that your weight is uncomfortable for her, raise yourself again. Most women, even the smallest and most fragile-looking, can support a good deal more weight than you would suppose.

Drawbacks to this position are usually pulmonary. An obese woman may find it difficult to breathe while lying flat on her back, and an obese man my find it difficult to catch his breath while doing the work of lovemaking for an extended period of time. In such cases, a couple can follow the same "stop-and-start" method advised for men with premature ejaculation problems.

The "stop-and-start" method is when a man first stimulates the woman to orgasm without intercourse. The couple then has intercourse in the female-dominant position, and finally in the male-dominant position. As this last is usually the most stimulating position for the male, he is likely to finish before either partner runs out of air.

FEMALE-DOMINANT POSITION-

This position comes highly recommended for obese men, or where both partners are obese. Among its many benefits is the ease with which it permits touching, stroking, and caressing of almost the entire body. The man lies on his back, with his legs straight, or knees slightly bent. If he has a large abdominal area, he can lift it up with both hands, as the woman straddles over him with her knees bent, facing him. She can thus easily slide his erect penis into her vagina and start her pelvic thrusts either alone or in conjunction with his.

FEMALE DOMINANT, BACK TO FRONT-