Hi Lisa,

I am a healthy, attractive 25 year old woman, with 2 children (youngest 10 mos) and have just recently learned how to successfully pleasure myself. My husband gets frustrated or falls asleep before I get a chance to climax (unless we have anal sex, then it doesn't take me as long), and the disappointment gets me out of the mood, so all hope is gone and I go to bed frustrated once again. So I help myself the next day, but really I want to have easy and long orgasms.

I try to communicate with him and guide him but he gets anxious and misses vital things. I give him mind blowing orgasms and I'm jealous! When he does get me off vaginally, its so fast I have to ask myself if it was real or not! Like the shutter on a camera. It takes me so long to get in the mood and when I get warmed up, he's snoring.

I do my kegels, but is there anyway I can become more aroused faster and have longer lasting orgasms? I need to keep up with him I guess.

Hi,

No, what it sounds like is that your husband is being inconsiderate to you. Maybe if he was an equal partner to you sexually and cared about your needs he could help you. Instead the psychological affects that this is having on you (that you are so stressed out, you will not be able orgasm in a timely manner based on his "hurry up" attitude) you will have a hard time having an orgasm even if I give you all the right techniques under these psychological conditions.

For sexual techniques, read our articles on our web site and tell your hubby he needs to not be so selfish in the bedroom because he won't be able to satisfy any woman in the bedroom with that crappy attitude.

Best,

Lisa