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Hi Lisa,

Is it ok to use sex toys (vibrator, dildo) during pregnancy. My wife seems to think it isn't. I'm not so sure.

Sincerely,

Bill

Hi Bill,

Sex is generally considered safe for pregnant women, and there are studies that prove that. However, because we still have a long way to go in the study of sexuality there are no studies that deal with vibrators and dildos specifically. On the other hand, there are no studies that that suggest any negative effects of vibrator use during pregnancy either.

There are, however, a few guidelines to follow for safe and healthy sex during pregnancy. Let me put it this way, if my doctor told me that it's safe to exercise and have sexual intercourse during pregnancy, then I would assume that using a vibrator is also safe.

Whether or not it is safe for a woman to have an orgasm during pregnancy is perhaps the most important issue to address. For most normal, healthy pregnant woman orgasm is a good tension reliever and may be easier to achieve because of the increased blood flow to the perineum. There is a slight chance that an orgasm could induce premature labor for woman with a history of premature labor, a history of infections during pregnancy, early cervical changes and/or frequent uterine contractions so to mention this to her treating doctor is a good idea as every pregnancy is unique.