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Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

Loss Of Sexual Desire
When She Has Stopped Wanting Sex

Hi Lisa,

What are the most common reasons a woman stops wanting sex?

- Curious

Hi Curious,

Below are the most common reasons that a woman loses interest in sex.. however my advice if a woman you are with loses interest in it... talk to her about it.

She's Overwhelmed

Help ease her load by cooking her dinner and doing the dishes, let her know you want her to relax, take a hot bath and set the mood for something emotionally intimate... not just sex.

She Feels Unattractive

Tell her she looks beautiful to you. There are always opportunities for compliments. You can even give her a gift certificate to an afternoon at the spa so that she can feel pampered and pretty.

She's Angry Or Upset With You

Communicate with her and calmly ask if you've done anything to upset her lately. If she quickly says "no," and tries to change the subject, ask her again and encourage her to be honest with you. It's possible that after she gets what's bothering her off her chest.

She Has A Low Sex Drive

Find out if she had bad sexual experiences in the past that have made her dislike sex. Explore if she used to have a higher sex drive and look into her seeing a physician for a medical cause if appropriate.

She's Bored With Your Sex Life

Have sex in a different location, buy her a naughty negligee or toy. Learn a new sexual technique...

She's Not Feeling Attracted To You

If she seems distant or annoyed with you, she may be having feelings that she is no longer attracted to you. This usually signifies a deeper issue in the relationship that needs to be addressed. Again, communication is key. Ask her what she feels she is missing from the spark that was once there in your love life.