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Should
I Surprise Her With A Sex Toy?
Dear
Lisa,
I was thinking about buying a sex toy to try with my partner,
and I don't know whether to ask her if she would be interested
or to surprise her. Your opinion would appreciated.
P.S.-
What toy should I start with, she is a smaller women.
Thanks,
B-R,
in NYC
Hello
BR,
Thank
you for your inquiry. You have asked an excellent question and
I would love to include it on our web site. To answer your question,
I think that whether or not to surprise anyone with a sex toy
can be a gamble.
How
much of a gamble can only be discerned by you. Not just because
the recipient may not want a sex toy in general, but you may not
get the one that they would enjoy or feel comfortable with using.
If
you do decide to surprise someone with a sex toy as a gift or
just to introduce some excitement then here are some things I
would think about...
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Ask
yourself if the person you are purchasing it for is open to
sexual exploration. Are they likely to be receptive to new
things in the bedroom? Are they comfortable with receiving
pleasure? Would they ever visit an adult site to look at products?
If the answer is yes to questions such as these, then you
are certainly on the right track in thinking about surprising
them with a sex toy. |
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Sometimes,
a little hinting can be a good thing. Yet, how to bring it
up can be tricky. One way to do this is to mention something
as mainstream such as the Sex in the City episode where Samantha
uses a Rabbit Pearl. You can then see what their reaction
is to such topics and even ask for their opinion on such things
without ruining the surprise that you intend on getting them
one. |
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Sometimes
being bold and outright taking them to our web site is a great
way to see what they may be interested in and what may turn
them on. You can tell them that you heard that our web site
is woman owned and recommended by women and that you would
like to take a look at it with her to see if there is anything
you can do to help you be a better lover to her... including
toys. You can purchase a toy or item then, or you can surprise
her with one and buy it later. Nevertheless, you have a much
better idea of the items she may be more interested in. |
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4)
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If
you are going to completely surprise your partner with a toy,
then the best one to start off with is going to be a body
vibrator. Vibrators are the best sex toy for any woman as
they can stimulate our clitoris to a degree that is HIGHLY
effective at achieving an orgasm. |
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