How Do I Tell My Partner What I Want Sexually?
The first step is checking to see if your partner is psychic or a mind reader. If they are not, then you really should let them know! The best way to do it is to word everything in a proactive manner. Being positive will make all the difference in the world.
"Honey, I love that you give me oral sex, it is something I really enjoy. I was looking at this article the other day about sex techniques and I would really like us to try something when we do it again."
"You know sweetie, I love hearing your voice, it just turns me on so much. I think if you talked dirty to me during sex, it would make me go even more wild."
A low sex drive can be caused from a variety of things from health issues, prescription medicine, stress levels.
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One of the best times to share fantasies is when the two of you can just talk such as just before bed. Don't wait until you are having sex to share... rather, when the two of you take a walk or have dinner. This will give you time to plan and will even motivate you to get back in the bedroom.
When you share your fantasies, be sure to tell your partner how they can be a part of it. For example, if you had a fantasy of Star Wars when you were younger, you could suggest that perhaps you could dress of as Leah and they could dress up a Han Solo or vice versa. You can also make it vague such as the Boss & the Secretary or the House Wife & the Repair Guy. Having time where you both get creative can make for a youthful fervor on the bedroom.
The truth is we all know how to make time for sex, the real question is how do I make sex a priority to me again? We tend to forget that when we neglect ourselves through our health, including our sexual health other things start to do poorly. Our emotional state, health, relationship, etc. We must see sex as a priority to see it as something worth taking time for in order to truly answer this question. The bottom line is that if you are really busy, but there is something that you value and feel is very important in your life then you will find a way to make time for it and sex is no different. Simply make it a priority.
As hard a question as this may seem, the answer is simple. Start flirting with one another again. When you find yourself not excited for one another, the best way out is to start courting one another without sex. Say something sexy to your partner without trying to get them to have sex with you. For example, if you are at the grocery store and walking down an aisle with your partner, slide your hand down their ass and whisper to them how much you love it. Little things like that go a long way. It comes down to priorities as do all things. If you want to get some excitement back in your sex life, make the effort to do creative things, even if it is to be playful with one another. Have a tickle fight, play with their hair, hold their hand... it is truly the little things that count. Build emotional playfulness and passion and the sex will come.
Yes, it is pleasurable, it reduces the chance of prostate cancer and it does not in anyway signify homosexual tendencies. Rather, all men are designed to enjoy it as the prostate is simply the male version of the gspot. Read more about prostate massage.
If you have never used a sex toy with your partner, it can feel quite intimidating and strange. For those who are beginners, we highly recommend getting a wand massager as they can be used for general massage and also as a sex toy. Start off with a relaxing massage and move into sex play as a way to make it less intimidating.
Make sure to communicate with one another about what you like and don't like and try using the sex toy in different positions. For example, a woman can just as easily have the vibrator stimulating her clitoris while her partner penetrates her vaginally to stimulate her gspot. This can be achieved easily through the missionary position, doggie style and other sex positions.
The second type of sex toy that we recommend are vibrating rings, which can be used on a dildo or penis. These can provide double and even triple stimulation opportunities during sexual intercourse and can be used by themselves for penis, clitoral and nipple stimulation. They are another great and inexpensive way to try out a sex toy in the bedroom.