Ask Lisa      Relationship & Sex Advice   With hundreds of eMails coming in every day and while I answer many, it is not possible for me to reply to all of them. However, I wanted to provide a section where we take some of our readers questions and post them on our web site so that we can provide answers that everyone can benefit from having the information available on our web site.

Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D., C.E.O. HolisticWisdom.com Founder

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Hi Lisa,

We purchased your tape and my wife is learning the art [of female ejaculation] very well. But each time she has ended with a UTI infection. Each session has lasted 2-4 hours, it has been great but with this infection it is not worth it. Can you give us any advice?

Thanks,

Frank

Hi Frank,

Thank you for your inquiry. What I would first like to let you know is that female ejaculation does not cause a urinary tract infection. However, it is the sexual activity that you are doing to stimulate her.

Ask yourself what you are doing that is introducing bacteria into the urethra. Are you washing hands with antibacterial soap, washing and disinfecting sex toys and other precautions before sex play?

Also, the mouth carries a great deal of bacteria... perhaps avoiding oral sex that has contact with the urethral area would help. In addition, if you are using an old lubricant, perhaps it is time for a new one, as bacteria can get mixed in it if it is in contact with your skin. If you are not showering before sex, perhaps you should... men carry bacteria on their penis which can get introduced into the urethra as well.

There are many things that can cause a UTI, but let me assure you female ejaculation is not one of them, in fact it should help cleanse the urethra. The other thing she can do is try an urinate after sex play as urine is known for killing bacteria that resides in the urethral tract. Again, you are going to want to think carefully about the sexual hygiene you have in place and ways that you can improve it. Hope that helps you in figuring out the problem.

Please let me know if you have any other questions regarding this as I am happy to assist you. I hope that this eMail finds you and your wife well!

Best,

Lisa