Keep Expectations Realistic
A wedding can be exhausting, so it is important to understand that a romantic evening afterward may take some planning and consideration. Often times couples build up their wedding night in their mind to be the end-all sex experience in their minds. While it can be amazing, don't build wedding night sex up in your mind to be perfect because it is more about just having a relaxing, good, romantic time together.
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Things To Do Before & During The Wedding
Flirt with each other during the wedding, remember to make time for one another in-between talking to everyone else by sharing sexy looks, laughter, kisses and even whisper naughty things into their ear. This will help build the excitement for later.
Plan ahead and get romantic items for the wedding night in advance as discussed later in this article.
Take It Easy
Most brides and grooms are exhausted from the emotional aspects of a wedding not to mention the stress, activities, dancing and drinking. While you both may be a little too tired to have the best sex of your lives you can make this night about simply connecting emotionally with one another. Even if you decide to save sex for the next day and sleep, there is no reason why you can't hold one another and enjoy being together on this special night.
Make sure to compliment your new spouse, you may both be feeling vulnerable and a bit out of sorts. Marriage is a big commitment and you both just took a leap of faith. Make sure to remind your sweetie just how wonderful they looked today and how much you love them in addition to thinking about the wedding night sex.
Because you will be tired, make sure you do things that relax you both. This is a great time to have a romantic time together, sensual massage, talking, bathing, snuggling and having a more intimate sexual experience.
Items To Have On Hand
Soy Scented Candles- These can create romantic lighting as well a an aromatic scent to delight your senses. Why soy? Because paraffin is toxic.
Romantic Music- Make sure to remember favorite CDs or MP3's that you can plug in for play to make things feel familiar. Many couples feel strange in a hotel for their wedding night and bringing items that will make you feel at home such as favorite songs you both love is a perfect way to set a relaxing mood.
Massage Oils & Lubricants- Bringing massage scented massage oils is a great way to give one another a relaxing massage as well as keep your bodies slickened and easily able to slide against one another. Bringing stimulating and flavored lubricants is another way to make sexual activities not only nice and wet, but also feeling and even tasting wonderful!
Sex Toys - Now is a great time to bring out your favorite sex toys. One of the favorites like the Hitachi Magic Wand doubles as a body massager in addition to a sex toy. You can also give your bride or groom a romantic gift basket as your way of inviting them into a whole new life with you full of sexual adventure!
Traveling With Sex Toy Tips- If you travel with them, make sure not to leave batteries in your sex toys, you don't want your suitcase buzzing!
Sexy Underwear- Make sure that you have some sexy undergarments to dazzle your new spouse with. This is a special day and deserving of special dressing underneath your clothes.
Rose petals and Exotic flowers- Most florists will have small bags of fresh roses petals for purchase that will last several days. Spread them along the floor leading from the door to the bed. Lay them out on the bed as well. Consider a few bouquets of roses or some more exotic flowers such as orchids, violets or lilies.
Chocolate- Most couples love chocolate, having some to enjoy whether it be in a box or even body chocolates is always a fun idea.
Champagne- Heres a short list of our personal favorites: Dom Perignon, Perrier-Jouet, Veuve Clicquot or for the budget conscious- Andre.
De-stressing The Wedding Night
Planning a wedding can cause so much stress you lose sight of one another. Often times couples are so focused on wedding details, friends and family that they tend to feel disconnected from one another.
When the wedding night finally arrives, many couples feel a bit awkward in trying to reconnect after so much focus on everything else. Taking time to prevent some of the disconnect from one another and a little preparation is always a good idea for good wedding night sex.
Spent Before The Wedding
Most likely you and your fiancée are saving money for the wedding and going out together has been significantly reduced. However, it might be wise to spend a little on treating yourselves to alone time, where you do not discuss the wedding, rather you spend your time talking about other, non-stressful things. Use this time to flirt, have a glass of wine if it suits you and relax for a candle lit, romantic dinner. Doing this before the wedding will help you to stay connected and prevent feeling out of sorts on your wedding night.
If you can't go to a nice restaurant, take a stroll through a park and have a picnic. The key here is not how much you spend on your dates, but making sure you have them. This will also set the tone for the marriage that your relationship is the priority, and that even under stress, you can come together and enjoy each other's company.
Declare Wedding Free Times
Have times that you set aside where the wedding is not the focus. Take a weekend where you do nothing but focus on fun with one another.
Plan Fun Activities Just For The Two Of You
Like A Kid
A Movie Night
Don't Forget To Do Nice Things For One Another
Things To Avoid At The Wedding
Smash Cake On Their Face
Drink Too Much
A Dance Lesson
Your Own Vows
Making A Honeymoon At Home
If you are looking to have your wedding night, or even wanting to make a romantic evening at home, here are some tips to make it special.
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