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Rising Above Toxicity: Choosing Strength and Positivity in a Negative World

Dr. Lisa Lawless

Dr. Lisa Lawless, CEO of Holistic Wisdom
Clinical Psychotherapist: Relationship & Sexual Health Expert

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What Emotionally Strong People Don't Do

Strong people don't waste their energy on tearing others down. Instead, they focus on positively contributing to the world. Yet, we live in such a toxic and negative culture.

When people are petty, it speaks volumes about their character, not those they pick on. If someone spends their time publically sh*t-talking someone who is not causing harm to anyone, the joke is on them.

How so? They are doing nothing but exposing that they are a small person incapable of emotional intelligence and integrity. Hell, they may not even realize it because they attract like-minded people who enjoy spreading negativity along with them.

They live in a bubble where they think that it is normal to go around talking out of their ass about things they know nothing about and tearing people down. They do it to feel superior because, deep down, they are emotionally weak.

What Makes Someone Emotionally Strong

Think for a moment about what it takes to be a strong person. It involves the embodiment of courage, integrity, and ethics and building up people worthy of their time.

People who are strong do not have time to spend focusing on tearing people down; they are too busy contributing to the world, not sitting on the sidelines contributing nothing. It is laughable when people think that being a malicious critic somehow gives them worth and is a contribution.

It's kind of like they have a nasty smell in their house that you don't notice anymore because they got used to it. Someone of character walks in and is immediately like, "What's that horrible smell?" and they are clueless. People who are emotionally intelligent can spot this kind of mental toxicity a mile away.

This does not mean that we should allow misinformation to be spread or have opinions. Here's the beautiful challenge: we have the power to address misinformation and express our own opinions with a heart full of integrity and emotional strength. We can be emotionally strong while still having an unwavering commitment to our authentic selves.

So, the real punchline? It's on those spreading their grumpy vibes. They're not adding anything cool to the world, just showing off their own issues. And honestly, that's just kinda sad.

Why This Is Important In Romantic Relationships

Here's the deal: emotional intelligence, or EQ, is your ability to identify, assess, and control your emotions. When you are negative toward others, it spills over into your relationships. People who demonstrate emotional intelligence generally tend to have better relationships with their significant others.

That is because it is the secret sauce to a healthy, thriving relationship of any kind. Think of it as your love life's GPS, guiding you through the twists and turns of being with someone.

Negativity of any kind can sneak into a relationship. In fact, consistent negativity can be like a slow leak in a tire. You might not notice it at first, but over time, it deflates the whole thing.

Negativity can show up in many ways – eye rolls, constant criticism, a defeatist attitude about your relationship. It's not just about what you say but how you say it. The tone of voice, body language, the words you choose – they all matter.

The good news? By boosting your emotional intelligence, you can learn to cut down on the negativity in your life in general, as well as in your relationships.

Be Bold

Let's remind ourselves that every day is a new opportunity to choose kindness over criticism and strength over spite. Remember, the energy we put out into the world is a reflection of our inner state.

Do yourself and the world a favor; step boldly into the light of positivity. For in the end, we can all choose to be a beacon of hope and understanding in a world that so desperately needs it.

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