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How To Put On A Bra: A Lesson In Ableism
Dr. Lisa Lawless, CEO of Holistic Wisdom
Clinical Psychotherapist: Relationship & Sexual Health Expert
A Simple Instructional Video
Recently I saw a video demonstrating the proper way to put on a bra. First, the demonstrator showed how most people put on their bras by flipping it upside down while backward to attach the fasteners and then sliding it around and flipping it up into the proper position. Then they shook their finger as if to say, "No, no, no, you do it this way," and proceeded to put it on as one would wear it by reaching around their back with both hands and fastening it.
The Intentions Were Good, They Often Are
This video was most likely to let those wearing bras know that rotating and twisting a bra around may cause unnecessary wear and tear. A message that was undoubtedly well-intentioned and made for a helpful reason.
Who Was Excluded?
However, as I watched this video, I thought about how challenging that would be for someone plus-sized, a senior or those with mobility issues or a disability. Then I thought about those who struggle with sensory issues, and how that technique may not just be difficult, but impossible for them.
It made me think about all the tutorials, guides, and instructions professionals provide. I began to reflect on how many times I too have written an instructional article that had excluded marginalized groups in this way, without meaning to of course, but nonetheless not acknowledging them.
I was reminded how important it is to avoid excluding people. How leaving someone out can elicit feelings of being unimportant and forgotten. This simple instructional bra video reminded me that it is crucial to be more aware of the negative impacts we all cause when we fail to provide inclusivity.
Let's Do Better Together!
As I continue to grow, learn and evolve personally and professionally, I hope to ensure that I offer more inclusivity in all that I do, so if you see room for improvement through our company, don't hesitate to reach out and let me know. After all, there is no such thing as one size fits all, when it comes to this world, and that very thing is what makes it a more beautiful, diverse place in which to live.
On that note, if you came here for a bra tutorial, I say put on your bra in whatever way feels best!