Long Distance Relationships

Dr. Lisa Lawless, CEO of Holistic Wisdom
Clinical Psychotherapist: Relationship & Sexual Health Expert

Map with hearts, Long Distance Relationships

Tips For Keeping It Amazing

Keeping a long-distance relationship going can sometimes be challenging when you cannot be physically intimate with one another. However, there are a variety of things that you can do to keep things going.

One of the keys is creating intimacy, whether in a sexual manner or not, so keep in mind that building your relationship will need to be just as much a priority as it is when you are together if you want it to work. Below are long-distance relationship tips that will help you grow, protect and make your connection hot for a long time.

Establish a Goal & Guidelines

Making sure that you are on the same page about expectations is a good place to start. You will want to understand the goal of the relationship, if it is exclusive and what is acceptable to both of you concerning an interaction with others even though you are apart.

Share In Similar Activities

Despite being apart, you can still do things like go to the same movie, eat at similar restaurants with others and share your mutual experiences. You can also read the same books, watch the same TV shows, listen to the same music, etc.

Communicate Regularly

Simple things like a text or call in the morning to start your day off knowing you are thinking of one another, and a call or text to say goodnight is a wonderful way to stay connected to one another.

Know Each Other's Schedules

Keep tabs on one another's schedules to help you to know when it will not be a good time to talk or communicate and vice versa.

Do Activities Together

Taking a walk together on the phone or even watching a show together allows you to feel like you have shared the experience despite the distance between you.

Send Personal Items

Send something like a shirt of yours that has your perfume or cologne on it, as it allows your long-distance lover to feel a physical connection to you. Some couples even get wilder by sharing worn panties and other sexually charged items.

In addition to sending personal items, sending a physical card or gift is something that will surprise and delight one another. Body-safe sex toys are also a wonderful gift for one another so that you can enjoy pleasuring them from afar.

Long-Distance Sex Toys

Check out our Adult Gift Ideas as well as sensual items such as massage oil candles and bath & body items that can be used solo. See our Sex Toy Gift Guide for more ideas. If it is getting close to February also check out our Valentines Sex Toy Gift Ideas.

A very popular sexual item for long-distance relationships is the Make Your Dildo and Vagina kits which allow you to make a replica of your genitals and send it to your partner to use it on themselves sexually. Learn how they work through our guide: Clone A Willy Kits Instructions.

Using sex toys that allow you to interact with one another, such as app-controlled vibrators, can be quite fun. You can use them from across the world with one another, and they come in styles that stimulate the clitoris, G-spot, and penis. See our App-Controlled Vibrators for some fun ideas!

Make Special Trips

If you can make arrangements to see one another physically, that is always a good idea as physical chemistry can be very different and exciting in real life rather than a virtual relationship.

Communication Levels

Each couple is different, so contacting one another multiple times a day may be complete bliss for some, while it may be too much for others. Communicate about your desired amount of communication and establish a norm about what feels right. Don't be afraid to ask if something is too little or too much to establish what your partner prefers.

Avoid Jealousy

If you are going to do something that may make your lover jealous such as go out to drink with friends, make sure that you tell your partner ahead of time, avoid social situations that would lead you to be unfaithful if you have an exclusive relationship, and even call your partner when you return to let them know you missed them to reassure them and that they are your priority.

Talk Dirty

Write sexy stories for one another; talk on the phone, and even video one another sexually. Share erotic stories based on scenarios of things you want to happen, as well as let your imaginations run wild with stories that include time travel.

Feel free to check out some free erotic stories for ideas; after all, desire starts in mind. Keeping things arousing through verbal expression is a great way to play sexually.