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Sex Positions With Sex Toys
Dr. Lisa Lawless, CEO of Holistic Wisdom
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If you've ever wondered what most people are doing in their bedroom (or outside of it) for sexual positions, we have some of the most common listed here with ways to spice up these positions with sex toys.
Missionary Position / Partner On-Top
This, of course, is one of the most popular positions for heterosexual couples to achieve vaginal and anal sex. However, LGBT+ couples can enjoy vaginal sex and anal sex in this position as well. In cases where a penis is absent, a strap-on dildo or strapless-strapon dildo can be used.
In the missionary position, the bottom partner lies on their back with their legs spread to allow better access to the vagina and/or anus. If you decide to penetrate both vaginally and anally during the same sexual session, keep in mind that you should not go from anal penetration to vaginal penetration until you have disinfected what you used for penetration in order to prevent spreading harmful bacteria found in the rectum to the urethra and vagina.
Another creative sex position is to have the top partner insert a dildo anally while penetrating with a penis or another dildo. This can be performed with a double hole harness, penis ring with an added anal stimulator, or a strapless strap-on dildo.
The partner on top can lie flat on the partner on the bottom, so their weight is not uncomfortable for the partner underneath. They can also support some or all of their weight on their elbows, hands, or knees. Remember, the less weight one has on the bottom partner in this position, the better the top partner can thrust.
The bottom partner can also wrap their legs around the top partner's hips or back as well as put them up over their shoulders. The further up the bottom partner's legs on the top partner, the deeper the penetration. An excellent tool for lifting the legs higher is a sex pillow.
Using a clitoral vibrator in the missionary position can be an easy way for a woman to orgasm. By having the female on the bottom, she can put her legs up higher to allow for easier access to her clitoris and use various clitoral vibrators to stimulate, including a vibrating penis ring, c-shaped couple vibrators, remote-controlled, and handheld vibrators.
Why Do People Love This Position?
This position is excellent for many reasons. It often allows for deeper penetration, which aids in conceiving children if that is a goal. It also allows you to feel close to your partner as your bodies press against one another, and you can kiss or gaze lovingly into one another's eyes.
Partner On Top
There are many names for this position, such as Woman Astride, Riding The Horse, etc. Call it what you like, but one partner is on top riding a dildo or penis inside vaginally, anally, or both (when sex toys are added).
This requires the partner to use some leg strength and tiring to one's leg muscles. If one does this in the sitting position with your feet on the bed, floor, etc., you can alternate to your knees or wiggle your pelvis in a grinding motion to provide relief. Another way to help relieve some of that strain on your legs is to use a sex stool or sex pillows on each side of your partner.
Clitoral Stimulation Without Vibrator
For a woman to achieve a clitoral orgasm without a sex toy, lean your torso forward, arch your back, and keep your crotch close to the base of your partner's penis or dildo. Try using a rocking motion to maneuver the shaft instead of up and down. You should feel the firmness of their pubic bone pressing right against your clit to stimulate it. Also, for added intimacy, pull your partner upright into your arms.
Gspot & Prostate Stimulation
For women, you can stimulate your G-spot by leaning backward and resting on your hands while riding up and down on your partner's penis or dildo. For men, you can stimulate your prostate by doing the same.
Another maneuver for a female partner on top is to grip your lover's penis, do a pelvic bump, and grind by swiveling your hips with their penis deep inside you. Once you establish a rhythm, start squeezing your Kegel muscles.
Why do People Love this Position?
This position is excellent for giving the top partner control; it also allows for the bottom partner to watch as their lover grinds and encompasses their penis or dildo. It also allows for easy use of a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. If the bottom partner wanted to, they could also hold a vibrator to the top partner's anus for added fun. The bottom partner can also be restrained with handcuffs or other restraints of a more BDSM feel.
You can also do a Reverse Cowgirl position straddling or from a sitting position as well as having the bottom partner in a kneeling position instead of laying flat as shown below.
This position can be easily done on a countertop in the kitchen or bathroom as well as on a washing machine on the spin cycle. This position allows a woman to lean back and come forward as she is vaginally penetrated. It is not easy for anal penetration due to angle, but it can be done.
Wrapping Legs Around Partner
This allows for less interference between the couple. You can also enjoy penetration with a strap-on dildo. A variation of this position has the standing lover on their knees, sitting or squatting, as shown below.
This position is often great for G-spot and prostate stimulation. The kneeling partner can insert their penis or dildo inside their partner's anus or vagina and switch. Again, remember it is okay to switch from vaginal penetration to anal, but not vice versa without cleaning off to prevent a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). This is a superb position for feeling wild, as there's something very primal about getting penetrated from behind.
This is an incredible position to bring out some fun sex toys. You can do all sorts of things in this position. If you want clitoral stimulation, many vibrators will do the trick because you can straddle it, and it will not come between you and your lover unless you want to share the buzz by pushing the vibrator back so you both get stimulated. Feel free to bring out a more powerful vibrator like a Wand Vibrator for this position.
The female partner in doggie position can use a dual-action vibrator for clitoral stimulation while being penetrated vaginally and allowing a partner to penetrate her anally with a dildo or penis.
The partner from behind can also use a strapless strap-on anally while penetrating their partner in doggie position. In cases of female to female, this can be done either vaginally or anally on either partner.
Side By Side
This position makes sex last a bit longer while increasing intimacy. There's not a whole lot of motion; that's why it delays climax. It's perfect for erotic embraces and intimate eye contact.
To up the intensity, get into a gentle pelvic rhythm and look into each other's eyes while taking natural, deep breaths. Throw in some massage oil on your bodies to slip and slide off one another.
Another variation can be semi-side in a kneeling position as shown below:
Find a place such as a bed with a sex pillow, a high bed, desk, counter, or even the outside on a hood of a car, where your pelvis is about one foot lower than your standing partner. Lie back while they stand in front of you, and then lift your legs and rest your feet on their shoulders. You can then tilt your pelvis upward so that your back forms a straight line and you angle upward with your hips. Put their hands under you so they can hold you behind at the perfect angle while they thrust. It helps to have pillows underneath if this position is done for an extended period.
Why is this position hot? The pelvic tilt gives their penis/dildo better access to your G-spot and builds more friction for both of you. A vibrator can also be used in this position for added clitoral stimulation. An anal toy can be added as well.
There are many other sexual positions, but one of the most essential factors is making sure you are comfortable, avoiding injury, and getting creative no matter which one you choose. Using sex toys, massage oils, sex pillows, and other sensual items can make sexual stimulation not just more pleasurable but easier, especially if you have mobility issues or are disabled.
Also, make sure to see our Tantra & Kama Sutra Guide for more sexual position tips.